FabSwingers.com forum: Pictures

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just looking to see what's the norm with any pics taken during meets.

In previous meets pics were always encouraged to be taken on my phone, then it was up to me as girl to share what I was comfortable with.

A recent situation this was not the case and I now find myself 'chasing' pics and I'm annoyed at myself for getting into such a situation

Any advice or tips welcome - thanks!

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

No advice really, but this type of scenario pretty much sums up why I refuse to allow any pics or videos to be taken of me during meets.

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By *o and peepCouple
over a year ago

falkirk

We have only ever took pics on our own phone and sent what we were comfortable with

Wouldn't be comfortable someone else taking pics or videos unless we trusted them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No advice really, but this type of scenario pretty much sums up why I refuse to allow any pics or videos to be taken of me during meets."

First time it's happened to me, others have been more respectful - definitely a lesson learned

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have only ever took pics on our own phone and sent what we were comfortable with

Wouldn't be comfortable someone else taking pics or videos unless we trusted them "

Wish I'd spoken up at the time now, won't happen again and definitely made me think more about 'trust' aspect. I've * touch wood * had no previous issues

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Hey OP, just wondering if it's you chasing them to send pics on to you or if the other person has publicly shared them (I.e. on here)?

Im sure i have this right but, if someone has taken intimate pictures of you (even with your consent at the time) and is now sharing them without you consenting to them being used in that way, they are breaking the law?

Might be worth running that by them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens a lot more than you think I've been told by several meetings about this extrem misuse of trust. Some people just shouldn't be allowed to have a camera

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

If people are sharing intimate pictures without your permission then this could be breaching the revenge porn law. This law stops the distribution of private intimate photos without the permission of the person in the photo. Not experts but think it’s a two year jail sentence for anyone found guilty of this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hey OP, just wondering if it's you chasing them to send pics on to you or if the other person has publicly shared them (I.e. on here)?

Might be worth running that by them..."

He has publicly shared one on here which I agreed to at the time expecting him to share all pics with me

Thanks for info

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Happens a lot more than you think I've been told by several meetings about this extrem misuse of trust. Some people just shouldn't be allowed to have a camera"

I know, I've definitely learned a lesson. Wish I'd spoken up at the time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If people are sharing intimate pictures without your permission then this could be breaching the revenge porn law. This law stops the distribution of private intimate photos without the permission of the person in the photo. Not experts but think it’s a two year jail sentence for anyone found guilty of this.

Thank you for info.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you also to those who have responded privately to this, some awful people out there who thrive on this behaviour.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I’d also say keep your face pics private and only share with those you are comfortable sharing with .

I’ve had in the past where those I though were friends show others my friends only pics & at that time I had face pics in friends only hence they are now all in private

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’d also say keep your face pics private and only share with those you are comfortable sharing with .

I’ve had in the past where those I though were friends show others my friends only pics & at that time I had face pics in friends only hence they are now all in private

Thanks, that's my only conciliation no face pics were taken! X

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By *orders CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Kelso

We're always too busy focussing on other things to stop and take photos!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems pretty damm poor to me that he would do that to you. He won't get a second chance to do it I'm sure! It's certainly something that should be discussed prior to the fun beginning if there's even a chance of a photo being taken. If you both agree upfront about what can be taken and what your comfortable sharing then it should be OK, but obviously not every person is as good to their word as you would hope or think. The last thing you want is your pics turning up without your consent. On here is bad enough, but if they're being posted elsewhere that's another level of wrong all together!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We're always too busy focussing on other things to stop and take photos! "

I know, it's not a favourite activity of mine either! Felt like a 'trophy' for him though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It seems pretty damm poor to me that he would do that to you. He won't get a second chance to do it I'm sure! It's certainly something that should be discussed prior to the fun beginning if there's even a chance of a photo being taken. If you both agree upfront about what can be taken and what your comfortable sharing then it should be OK, but obviously not every person is as good to their word as you would hope or think. The last thing you want is your pics turning up without your consent. On here is bad enough, but if they're being posted elsewhere that's another level of wrong all together! "

Completely agree, thanks for your comment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have now received pics and videos today. But they should have been sent when I asked initially to save unnecessary stress.

Definitely a lesson learned!

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By *lasgowpair76Couple
over a year ago

Renfrewshire

During meets if my wife is with a guy then we take pics and vids on my phone. That way we can edit out faces or voices then share with the guy.

Poor from the guy that he panicked you a bit by not sending them when you first asked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"During meets if my wife is with a guy then we take pics and vids on my phone. That way we can edit byout faces or voices then share with the guy.

Poor from the guy that he panicked you a bit by not sending them when you first asked. "

That's a good idea to edit before you share, I'll definitely need to figure out how to do this!

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I’d also say keep your face pics private and only share with those you are comfortable sharing with .

I’ve had in the past where those I though were friends show others my friends only pics & at that time I had face pics in friends only hence they are now all in private

We’ve had single guys on here also show us face pics of their FWB. They’re usually saying “if you won’t meet me as a single guy then will you meet me with my Fuckbuddy ? Here’s a picture of her in lingerie/naked with face shown”. We are unsure whether those women know their FWBs are sharing those photos as bait .

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"I’d also say keep your face pics private and only share with those you are comfortable sharing with .

I’ve had in the past where those I though were friends show others my friends only pics & at that time I had face pics in friends only hence they are now all in private

Mine was a single female who showed a single guy my friends only pics she got a piece of my mind then blocked .

People need to remember they could be outting you to others if it just happens to be someone who knows you out-with fab which isn’t on and they wouldn’t like it done to them

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By *bzboy66Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

We all like a bit of erotic titillation to stimulate the mind/body. Thats the purpose of a pic, but holding out on you like that is totally wrong. Naturally you would feel anxious. Goes without saying they should have been shared at the time or at least as soon you voiced your concern, not forcing you to beg. Caring sharing lover not I think....

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By *lair101TV/TS
over a year ago

Aberdeen, westhill

Just make sure any pics taken are on your phone, so you have full control over editing and posting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a touchy one isn’t it.

I have taken photos on meets before but always on the fems phone and always on their suggestion. That being said I’ve made sure to not get much in of myself that identifies me.

That being said, I was recently meeting the fem half of a cuck couple who’s other half always wanted photos. I never did click but 2nd meet onwards she got me to take them on my phone, send them over to her and then delete which was fair enough….it turned out her phone couldn’t be used as her phone was too busy voice recording us having sex every time..

I found that out after being sent one on WhatsApp with the threat of it being sent to family members on Facebook when I had to say no to a last minute meet demand

Please just be careful chum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s a touchy one isn’t it.

I have taken photos on meets before but always on the fems phone and always on their suggestion. That being said I’ve made sure to not get much in of myself that identifies me.

I found that out after being sent one on WhatsApp with the threat of it being sent to family members on Facebook when I had to say no to a last minute meet demand

Please just be careful chum

Jesus! That's shocking behaviour. Did you get everything sorted? I mean, for me, if someone said that, it's not much of a threat, oh know, my family and friends know I have sex, shock horror.

I guess it would spook alot of folk tho who are nervous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus! That's shocking behaviour. Did you get everything sorted? I mean, for me, if someone said that, it's not much of a threat, oh know, my family and friends know I have sex, shock horror.

I guess it would spook alot of folk tho who are nervous. "

Tbh buddy, those that know me will know Im pretty chill so once I chuckled and shook my head, I screenshotted the messages and said I’d go to the police. They have since deleted their profile and I’ve not heard a peep.

You are spot on with the last sentence, exactly why I put it up as it could really scare folk.

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"It’s a touchy one isn’t it.

I have taken photos on meets before but always on the fems phone and always on their suggestion. That being said I’ve made sure to not get much in of myself that identifies me.

I found that out after being sent one on WhatsApp with the threat of it being sent to family members on Facebook when I had to say no to a last minute meet demand

Please just be careful chum

Not just guys who are worth the watching!

Glad you got it sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worth thinking for all those saying "let the fem or couple take the pics then decide what to share" that then gives the same problem, just potentially different victim/ person on the back foot. If you are not 100% sure you can all trust each other, put the cameras away.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

Iv often wondered how many ladies iv seen with men on here know they are being filmed and shown on fab. Especially when there are numerous pics and vids on a profile with no veries. It's a bit worrying.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Iv often wondered how many ladies iv seen with men on here know they are being filmed and shown on fab. Especially when there are numerous pics and vids on a profile with no veries. It's a bit worrying."

I wonder about this too. I recently saw videos on a guys profile that only had a woman in them, no sign of the male at all.

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I wonder about this too. I recently saw videos on a guys profile that only had a woman in them, no sign of the male at all. "

With the hidden camera technology available you also have to be careful you’re not being secretly filmed. The revenge porn law really is a great deterrent and lever to use if someone causes problems over pics.

We take the view, rightly or wrongly, that women would rarely want themselves identifies in a sex video. Especially if part of a couple or they have kids. Single guys on the other hand we have seen examples of them showing pics with identifiable women . Guys are more likely to show pics to their mates of naked conquests too. Just our experience so that’s why we always control any pics from a meeting. Ultimately someone has to tryst the integrity of the people taking the pics.

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By *ane DTV/TS
over a year ago

London - till 25th

I used to do the odd shoot for folks but not done it for years.

I wouldn't participate I was just there as a photographer.

One thing I would do was hand the subject(s) the data card so they had full image control.

However with the advent of bluetooth and wifi on DSLR cameras and cloud connectivity on the phones, that option is now less secure.

In the end it is down to who ultimately controls the image and the easiest way to do that, is not to have any taken.

Stick the phone in a drawer or soft black bag.

Let conversation commence and see where it takes you.

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By *4Fun11Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I never ever ever let guys take pics of me on a meet for that very reason.

Can’t be too careful. Especially on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was( probably still is) a woman who has Kik groups and befriends folks and used to share their pics into it... absolutely shocking behaviour.

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

If your not comfortable with pictures then tell them no.

If you are why dont you purchase a second phone that you give the other party to take pictures with, then you own the pictures. This phone would only be for pictures?

Just a thought.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"There was( probably still is) a woman who has Kik groups and befriends folks and used to share their pics into it... absolutely shocking behaviour."

Can't abide kik. I have seen the post you mention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was( probably still is) a woman who has Kik groups and befriends folks and used to share their pics into it... absolutely shocking behaviour.

Can't abide kik. I have seen the post you mention."
it's why I don't do face pics now or friends until I've met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was( probably still is) a woman who has Kik groups and befriends folks and used to share their pics into it... absolutely shocking behaviour.

Can't abide kik. I have seen the post you mention. it's why I don't do face pics now or friends until I've met "
or know them fairly well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your not comfortable with pictures then tell them no.

If you are why dont you purchase a second phone that you give the other party to take pictures with, then you own the pictures. This phone would only be for pictures?

Just a thought."

Geezer who takes a lot of dodgy photies right there.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"There was( probably still is) a woman who has Kik groups and befriends folks and used to share their pics into it... absolutely shocking behaviour.

Can't abide kik. I have seen the post you mention. it's why I don't do face pics now or friends until I've met "

I send a face pic with a message, but have it set to auto delete. Mind you, I had a meet, where she said she'd screenshotted my face and used some software to check my social media. Chilling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was( probably still is) a woman who has Kik groups and befriends folks and used to share their pics into it... absolutely shocking behaviour.

Can't abide kik. I have seen the post you mention. it's why I don't do face pics now or friends until I've met

I send a face pic with a message, but have it set to auto delete. Mind you, I had a meet, where she said she'd screenshotted my face and used some software to check my social media. Chilling. "

That's perfectly normal behaviour, eh.

You'll need to share the store with us sometime of how you managed to escape from her cellar.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"There was( probably still is) a woman who has Kik groups and befriends folks and used to share their pics into it... absolutely shocking behaviour.

Can't abide kik. I have seen the post you mention. it's why I don't do face pics now or friends until I've met

I send a face pic with a message, but have it set to auto delete. Mind you, I had a meet, where she said she'd screenshotted my face and used some software to check my social media. Chilling.

That's perfectly normal behaviour, eh.

You'll need to share the store with us sometime of how you managed to escape from her cellar.

I'm still in the cellar. Send help x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was( probably still is) a woman who has Kik groups and befriends folks and used to share their pics into it... absolutely shocking behaviour.

Can't abide kik. I have seen the post you mention. it's why I don't do face pics now or friends until I've met

I send a face pic with a message, but have it set to auto delete. Mind you, I had a meet, where she said she'd screenshotted my face and used some software to check my social media. Chilling.

That's perfectly normal behaviour, eh.

You'll need to share the store with us sometime of how you managed to escape from her cellar.

I'm still in the cellar. Send help x"

You've got some marzipan to keep you going

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"There was( probably still is) a woman who has Kik groups and befriends folks and used to share their pics into it... absolutely shocking behaviour.

Can't abide kik. I have seen the post you mention. it's why I don't do face pics now or friends until I've met

I send a face pic with a message, but have it set to auto delete. Mind you, I had a meet, where she said she'd screenshotted my face and used some software to check my social media. Chilling.

That's perfectly normal behaviour, eh.

You'll need to share the store with us sometime of how you managed to escape from her cellar.

I'm still in the cellar. Send help x

You've got some marzipan to keep you going

This is true x

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