FabSwingers.com forum: Time to.....??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In light of recent events, I am having a mental battle (actually a talk out loud!) with myself as to whether I should stay or go. After having put up with nutters, arseholes, and quite a few unpleasant folk in the 6 years that I have been on fab, it seems that we are all risking ourselves just by being active on site.

I'm quite open about things with friends and family, but have to consider now that my kids are getting to that age.

Sickens me completely, especially when you can go on to other sites and openly admit that you are just looking for one night stands.

But consensual adults are made out to be sleazy and depraved because they choose this lifestyle.

It's just not fair. And there's not much we can do about it. Maybe we should all go underground the way homosexuals were treated for years, in days long before.

WE HAVE NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED ABOUT!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In light of recent events, I am having a mental battle (actually a talk out loud!) with myself as to whether I should stay or go. After having put up with nutters, arseholes, and quite a few unpleasant folk in the 6 years that I have been on fab, it seems that we are all risking ourselves just by being active on site.

I'm quite open about things with friends and family, but have to consider now that my kids are getting to that age.

Sickens me completely, especially when you can go on to other sites and openly admit that you are just looking for one night stands.

But consensual adults are made out to be sleazy and depraved because they choose this lifestyle.

It's just not fair. And there's not much we can do about it. Maybe we should all go underground the way homosexuals were treated for years, in days long before.

WE HAVE NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED ABOUT!!!"

Totally agree with you xx lots of dating sites with options looking for intimate encounter only and nothing is done about it but its the social stigma of 'swinging' that makes us a target

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite open about things with friends and family, but have to consider now that my kids are getting to that age.

Sickens me completely, especially when you can go on to other sites and openly admit that you are just looking for one night stands.

But consensual adults are made out to be sleazy and depraved because they choose this lifestyle.

It's just not fair. And there's not much we can do about it. Maybe we should all go underground the way homosexuals were treated for years, in days long before.

WE HAVE NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED ABOUT!!!"

You're a grown adult, you can do what you like (within the confines of the law). Don't let people tell you what's "right" or "wrong" x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking the same myself..... Thinking its time to leave fabs......

And sorry to say I think anyone attending any socials is the coming weeks should really think about it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're a grown adult, you can do what you like (within the confines of the law). Don't let people tell you what's "right" or "wrong" x"

We can do what we like. But unfortunately, family and employers arnt very open to this lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thinking the same myself..... Thinking its time to leave fabs......

And sorry to say I think anyone attending any socials is the coming weeks should really think about it..."

Don't even have to attend a social to be tarred with the same brush.

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By *lasgowDudeMan
over a year ago

Paisley

Tabloid rag, I wouldn't wipe my arse with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tabloid rag, I wouldn't wipe my arse with it "

Unfortunately the general public read the skid marks they call columns and would rather believe a mass orgy was planned, instead of a charity fundraising masked ball.

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By *lasgowDudeMan
over a year ago

Paisley

"Tabloid rag, I wouldn't wipe my arse with it

Unfortunately the general public read the skid marks they call columns and would rather believe a mass orgy was planned, instead of a charity fundraising masked ball. "

True, but the general public will only remain outraged until they come out with more salacious gossip.

Looking at it, the online article has probably had more traffic from people on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we have decided our time had come to an end on fabs after everything that has happened...

Sad as its not the way we wanted to end our journey but feel its in our best interest.....we will be leaving in the near future....

Anyone who wants to keep in touch mail us....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to see you both go B&B but understandable. xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah Busty, I'm thinking the same. I have never ever been ashamed of what I am, or what I do. BUT, I have a child to think about and I will never ever have someone point a finger at him and say..."Your mum's.....insert appropriate description here!" If I didn't have to consider this factor, I would be up there shouting from the rooftops what we Fabbers are all about. And that's why the press win....because the majority of us keep it like a dirty secret because Britain is still so up it's own arse on prudish matters.

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By *rallvalCouple
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"You're a grown adult, you can do what you like (within the confines of the law). Don't let people tell you what's "right" or "wrong" x"

Very true however there still quite a number of employers who will sack people for being swingers. I know of one primary school teacher sacked for being a swinger. Nurses and police also can get sacked for it.

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By *l coupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Well we have decided our time had come to an end on fabs after everything that has happened...

Sad as its not the way we wanted to end our journey but feel its in our best interest.....we will be leaving in the near future....

Anyone who wants to keep in touch mail us...."

Sorry to hear about you guys leaving, do you think this whole publicity thing won't just blow over in a few days?

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

A tiny percentage of fab users actually use the forums and chat. We don't hear or see unrest from the majority because they don't bring attention upon themselves they log in find a fuck and log out till the next time.

To those that are thinking or promising to leave, just leave, hit the delete account and be rid of the burden once and for all.

Some will return "reinvented" for the lifestyle fix some won't, good luck in whichever decision is best for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The whole lifestyle I have been part of for 9 years, was never, just about "finding a fuck". That's why Fab has lost it's appeal to me, because of that mentality!

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

"The whole lifestyle I have been part of for 9 years, was never, just about "finding a fuck". That's why Fab has lost it's appeal to me, because of that mentality!"

What exactly were you expecting from a shagging site ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's not just a "shagging" site. If that was the case why would any socials, whether in fancy hotels, local pubs or someone's house be organised?? I think you might be confusing Fab with any of the other "get fucked here" sites. If you are not a swinger, why are you on Fab in first place?

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

"It's not just a "shagging" site. If that was the case why would any socials, whether in fancy hotels, local pubs or someone's house be organised?? I think you might be confusing Fab with any of the other "get fucked here" sites. If you are not a swinger, why are you on Fab in first place?"

I hate to state the obvious but the sites called fab swingers, the socials you refer to are a way for people to meet up eye candy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I refuse to get drawn into a debate. Try reading a dictionary definition of the meaning of "swingers". I doubt it would refer to panda sex (stolen from another post but very apt). But not to worry, it's never going to be an option that I would ever grace your company as you are everything that I avoid from this site. Goodbye Panda.

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

"I refuse to get drawn into a debate. Try reading a dictionary definition of the meaning of "swingers". I doubt it would refer to panda sex (stolen from another post but very apt). But not to worry, it's never going to be an option that I would ever grace your company as you are everything that I avoid from this site. Goodbye Panda."

Look up attention seeking, you posted a look at me thread threatening to leave, then hid your profile in the last 10 mins and your still here ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My profile has been hidden since this morning. Please desist from calling me names or I will report you. Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being fairly new to the site and the swinging scene i see the conflicting opinions on what swinging is.. for me the social side of swinging is about meeting new ppl of a like mind not just for "meeting eye candy" or "just for a shag" and the ones thinking this including the papers need to open up their eyes properly to the majority and not the minority who treat it as such.

And i for one will not be chased off a site that has brought me new friends who are a joy to hang out with

If you dont like it leave is what i say xx

Happy Swinging all my fellow Fabsters

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

"My profile has been hidden since this morning. Please desist from calling me names or I will report you. Thank you."

Report if you wish, i'm merely stating facts based upon what is posted and seen.

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

"Please desist from calling me names or I will report you. Thank you."

Pray tell us where i called you names ?

What i do see is you calling me "panda" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A think its terrible the way its publicised after the story was in papers about cj,s we stopped going because we were there when photographs were taken of her doorman and it nearly ruined his wedding his partner knew but her family didn't a mean we are not doing anything wrong or illegal so they should just fuk off x

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By *issyForDommeTV/TS
over a year ago

glasgow

I'm quite open about things with friends and family, but have to consider now that my kids are getting to that age.

Sickens me completely, especially when you can go on to other sites and openly admit that you are just looking for one night stands.

But consensual adults are made out to be sleazy and depraved because they choose this lifestyle.

It's just not fair. And there's not much we can do about it. Maybe we should all go underground the way homosexuals were treated for years, in days long before.

WE HAVE NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED ABOUT!!!

You're a grown adult, you can do what you like (within the confines of the law). Don't let people tell you what's "right" or "wrong" x"

If only it was that simple, the confines of law are not so easy to gauge for some-as simple swingers (and that's in no way meant to be derogotory before anybody jumps down my throat lol) most of you have nothing to worry about as you're just having sex...me and many other kinksters even though our play is consensual some of us (the dominants) could still be charged as the law stands as far as i'm aware...and there's three people that i had fun with last night in the fetish club that in my opinion definately dont deserve criminal charges even if i am still a bit tender in places pmsl.

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By *anictechCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow - ish ;-)

"A think its terrible the way its publicised after the story was in papers about cj,s we stopped going because we were there when photographs were taken of her doorman and it nearly ruined his wedding his partner knew but her family didn't a mean we are not doing anything wrong or illegal so they should just fuk off x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The whole lifestyle I have been part of for 9 years, was never, just about "finding a fuck". That's why Fab has lost it's appeal to me, because of that mentality!

What exactly were you expecting from a shagging site ? "
if only it was a shagging site...Yip some folk on here forget this

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By *anictechCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow - ish ;-)

Am actualy debating to come out to my family and friends.. We do nothing wrong, if anything what we do " I think may have saved our marriage" We have no need for affairs or the suchlike... Our kids have grown now, yes they would be embaressed but.......... is it any worse than a parent who has an affair?

Couldnt care less about the press, we are no one... XxX MT

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Dont give a toss...

Why are people so worried about what others think???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Am actualy debating to come out to my family and friends.. We do nothing wrong, if anything what we do " I think may have saved our marriage" We have no need for affairs or the suchlike... Our kids have grown now, yes they would be embaressed but.......... is it any worse than a parent who has an affair?

Couldnt care less about the press, we are no one... XxX MT"

agree with you there manics. if my kids were older i wouldn't bother either. but they still have a lot of growing up to do. i don't want to leave the site really, so have just hidden everything for time being. no more face pics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

and as further fuel, has anyone read post in swingers chat about cam chats being lifted and posted onto another site.

and here's me just got a nice new cam, but that will be no more either. damn right unless i'm making a mint from it, and that's highly unlikely

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By *anictechCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow - ish ;-)

Okay understand, we dont do face pics except for friends.. These days that is Definately dodgy. It s sad, but a reality of life... XxX

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By *anictechCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow - ish ;-)

Och behave, cam recording has been around for eons XxX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is, whether mainstream or not, swinging is always going to be a lifestyle thats provokes curiosity, outrage, jealously and a whole ton of other emotions and whether he OP thinks we have nothing to be ashamed of is irrelevant, those feelings exist and frustration that they do isn't going to change anything so either get on with it the way it is or leave the lifestyle. Its that simple.

Theres no point moaning about how much better it would be if everyone just accepted swinging but the fact is they won't...ever. Same as many other sections of society outside what the majority call 'the norm', if they don't understand it and think its wrong, it'll be ripped to pieces.

As for the media, its just sensationalist journalism. If they really knew the extent of the swinging community, it MIGHT change their mind a bit. Hell, loads of them are probably part of it. The funniest part is when newsrags like the Sun use phrases like 'disgusting' 'deplorable' 'sordid' given their past history!

Its pretty simple, attitudes aren't going to change so if swinging and swingers are viewed in a bad light light and this worries you, then maybe its time to move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you saying the sun tell lies ffs am no phoning there wank lines again am of to buy the star lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing to be ashamed of. We are all human beings and we are all on FAB for the same reason - That we are open minded people with a thirst for life.

Some people will never understand that, but it's their loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we wish everyone all the best x

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