FabSwingers.com forum: Fakes and time wasters

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This place is just getting worse with fake profiles and men acting as single females isn't it about time this was addressed and site owners doing something to make this place more for people who actually want to meet and have fun and I get that people have there preferences and there attractions but come on folks my god at the end of the day are we not all here for bit if sexy fun and frolics not like your actually gonna have a relationship with the people you meet unless that's what your after but my idea of this place is about meeting new people who you want to meet and have fun with my god trying to find a single female or a female like myself with same interest as me on here is bloody hard work and the amount times I have got to arranging a meet then had my time waisted is unreal so to who ever owns and runs this site action needs to be taken folks let's see who agrees or disagree with this topic today

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Not being funny right .. but if your messages to them are like this post you could just be exhausting them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a read at your update, sadly even the most verified still aren't guaranteed to not waste time..

It's rife but sadly won't change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a read at your update, sadly even the most verified still aren't guaranteed to not waste time..

It's rife but sadly won't change "

This, scrupulous vetting helps

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By *scobar67Man
over a year ago

glasgow

People that run the site can't really stop people from making fake profiles.

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

"This place is just getting worse with fake profiles and men acting as single females isn't it about time this was addressed and site owners doing something to make this place more for people who actually want to meet and have fun and I get that people have there preferences and there attractions but come on folks my god at the end of the day are we not all here for bit if sexy fun and frolics not like your actually gonna have a relationship with the people you meet unless that's what your after but my idea of this place is about meeting new people who you want to meet and have fun with my god trying to find a single female or a female like myself with same interest as me on here is bloody hard work and the amount times I have got to arranging a meet then had my time waisted is unreal so to who ever owns and runs this site action needs to be taken folks let's see who agrees or disagree with this topic today

And breath

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By *lba The ScotMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

Not one full-stop.

"Waisters"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not one full-stop.

"Waisters"

Are those like hipsters but worn higher up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You seem a bit jaded. I’d consider taking a little break from the site if I were you! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you want the site admin to run the site how you want it because you're struggling to find meets?

Whilst we can't ignore there are fakes on the site they're easy enough to find and avoid.

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results...maybe try a new approach and see if you have more interest there.

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By *ald EagleMan
over a year ago

Alloa

You get chatting and all seems to be going well then they block you without any indication something was wrong.

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By *reativeBurnsWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Had a read at your update, sadly even the most verified still aren't guaranteed to not waste time..

It's rife but sadly won't change "

This is true. Even someone with like 30 veris and after talking for months completely ghosted me the day we were meant to meet.

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By *irtycumboCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We have only ever encountered this once so far! The thing is...it was very very obvious! We simply blocked said person. Its a shame really. We work hard all week, we have kids, our time is limited, we always try to be very upfront and honest about what we are looking for to try and save everyone's time including our own. We all have a life outside of fab, but when we have free "fab time' we are genuinely looking to meet...we don't have time for fakes or time wasters and it is very frustrating. Best thing to do is try not to let it get to you...block and move on...but yes it is frustrating

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By *edGlasgowMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Fundamentally true, but how do you propose it's stopped? Given sites such as Facebook are rife with them also, and they are farrrr more sophisticated than this, it seems like a nigh on impossible task, no?

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

The good ones are like buses ! None for ages then three come along at once

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By *irigramCouple
over a year ago

glenrothes

We have had many meets cancelled last minute and even worse meeting them and the woman running to the toilet crying because she wasn’t up for it . Sorry no one should take one for the team . Now we are very choosy who we meet now xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best thing to do, meet in the clubs then there's no let down or time wasting. Even better, it's your rules x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never a waste of time but lately just not getting any meets genuine or not ...maybe they are all smelling my despiration

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Best thing to do, meet in the clubs then there's no let down or time wasting. Even better, it's your rules x"

That is generally good advice but it's not always possible for people to visit clubs, not everyone likes them either.

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

This yarn is the epitome of ripped knitting. Definitely time for a breather.

Ps. It gets on my wee pert tits, too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never a waste of time but lately just not getting any meets genuine or not ...maybe they are all smelling my despiration"
**sniff**

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love the clubs but cant really get to them as often as id like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm a fake and time waster

the guys pictures i use is too handsome to be real

must be computer generated or something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Best thing to do, meet in the clubs then there's no let down or time wasting. Even better, it's your rules x

That is generally good advice but it's not always possible for people to visit clubs, not everyone likes them either. "

I know, everyone has their preferences x

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

There are undoubtedly lots of profiles that aren't what they claim to be, often they are easy to spot, but not always. I'm not sure what more admin can realistically do to ensure profiles are genuine.

If you come across an account that you think is fake then report it so admin can investigate.

As far as time wasters go, that is even more difficult because different people have different expectations from, and ways of using, the site. Some are just here for the fantasy of it all and have no intention of ever meeting, unfortunately they arent always up front about it.

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By *eatheryMan
over a year ago

Cupar

From experience, I think you can tell a great deal from email exchanges and photos. I've corresponded with a great deal of very pleasant and authentic people who have never given me cause for concern.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not one full-stop.

"Waisters"

Are those like hipsters but worn higher up?"

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Op you already have a very similar thread running.

Maybe you need to change your vetting process or breathe and have patience.

As single guys are told endlessly on these types of threads - if someone really wants to meet you, they will!!

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

I’m defo everything they think I am lol pretentious, full of shit, a pure cow, bitchy happy to be called all of the above it means that someone’s got too much time on their hands that what I say and do warrants a response lol personally I just move on and don’t give them the time of day

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

"Op you already have a very similar thread running.

Maybe you need to change your vetting process or breathe and have patience.

As single guys are told endlessly on these types of threads - if someone really wants to meet you, they will!!"

I’ve had two guys recently say they were keen to meet up and both ghosted me. Now one has a verification up. Common decency and he would’ve messaged to say why he wasn’t meeting for a coffee but I guess people don’t have manners on here at times. I’ve always given notice if I can’t meet and the reason. Real life does get in the way but people should still be respectful. Some people don’t deserve a second chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading between the lines here- (that was hard due to the lack of punctuation)

You're hacked off because people don't want to meet people they aren't attracted to. So you've been knocked back or someone has changed their mind.

You feel their preferences shouldn't matter because it's not like it's a relationship. I'd be pretty annoyed if someone who didn't really fancy me had sex with me anyway..

You've had your ego dented and when you've been told to get over it and now you've had a hissy fit.

You've come to the conclusion everyone is a fake or a time waster, rather than evaluating your own expectations or approach.

Like so many others on here you seem to think anyone on here should be up for meeting at all times regardless. It smacks of entitlement.

Did I miss anything out?

By the way I'm very happy to be a fussy fake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a read at your update, sadly even the most verified still aren't guaranteed to not waste time..

It's rife but sadly won't change

This, scrupulous vetting helps

Vetting! Does that consist of you taking any possible partners to the vets for a check up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading between the lines here- (that was hard due to the lack of punctuation)

You're hacked off because people don't want to meet people they aren't attracted to. So you've been knocked back or someone has changed their mind.

You feel their preferences shouldn't matter because it's not like it's a relationship. I'd be pretty annoyed if someone who didn't really fancy me had sex with me anyway..

You've had your ego dented and when you've been told to get over it and now you've had a hissy fit.

You've come to the conclusion everyone is a fake or a time waster, rather than evaluating your own expectations or approach.

Like so many others on here you seem to think anyone on here should be up for meeting at all times regardless. It smacks of entitlement.

Did I miss anything out?

By the way I'm very happy to be a fussy fake

There endeth the lesson.....perfectly said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading between the lines here- (that was hard due to the lack of punctuation)

You're hacked off because people don't want to meet people they aren't attracted to. So you've been knocked back or someone has changed their mind.

You feel their preferences shouldn't matter because it's not like it's a relationship. I'd be pretty annoyed if someone who didn't really fancy me had sex with me anyway..

You've had your ego dented and when you've been told to get over it and now you've had a hissy fit.

You've come to the conclusion everyone is a fake or a time waster, rather than evaluating your own expectations or approach.

Like so many others on here you seem to think anyone on here should be up for meeting at all times regardless. It smacks of entitlement.

Did I miss anything out?

By the way I'm very happy to be a fussy fake

It reads like that to me as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading between the lines here- (that was hard due to the lack of punctuation)

You're hacked off because people don't want to meet people they aren't attracted to. So you've been knocked back or someone has changed their mind.

You feel their preferences shouldn't matter because it's not like it's a relationship. I'd be pretty annoyed if someone who didn't really fancy me had sex with me anyway..

You've had your ego dented and when you've been told to get over it and now you've had a hissy fit.

You've come to the conclusion everyone is a fake or a time waster, rather than evaluating your own expectations or approach.

Like so many others on here you seem to think anyone on here should be up for meeting at all times regardless. It smacks of entitlement.

Did I miss anything out?

By the way I'm very happy to be a fussy fake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op you already have a very similar thread running.

Maybe you need to change your vetting process or breathe and have patience.

As single guys are told endlessly on these types of threads - if someone really wants to meet you, they will!!

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Reading between the lines here- (that was hard due to the lack of punctuation)

You're hacked off because people don't want to meet people they aren't attracted to. So you've been knocked back or someone has changed their mind.

You feel their preferences shouldn't matter because it's not like it's a relationship. I'd be pretty annoyed if someone who didn't really fancy me had sex with me anyway..

You've had your ego dented and when you've been told to get over it and now you've had a hissy fit.

You've come to the conclusion everyone is a fake or a time waster, rather than evaluating your own expectations or approach.

Like so many others on here you seem to think anyone on here should be up for meeting at all times regardless. It smacks of entitlement.

Did I miss anything out?

By the way I'm very happy to be a fussy fake

^^^what sinderella said^^^

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

Try the decafe mate

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

"Not one full-stop.

"Waisters"

Are those like hipsters but worn higher up?"

You are in fact refering to HIGH Waisters, a standard popular style of trouser garmet fashionable in the 70's. These fashionable garmets also merited a "cool" persona based on how many buttons were displayed at the waist.

How many up was the question of the day. I myself sported a light blue 3 up, seductivley additioned with a 2 inch turn up and 10 inch flare.

You may also wish to reference Wedges from this time period.

For more interesting facts around 70s fashion please reference my website.

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By *ellothere321Man
over a year ago

Lanlivery

"Best thing to do, meet in the clubs then there's no let down or time wasting. Even better, it's your rules x

That is generally good advice but it's not always possible for people to visit clubs, not everyone likes them either.

Especially if you're a single guy as a lot of clubs won't let us in on our own.

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