FabSwingers.com forum: KISS "n"TELL

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

HERE IS ONE FOR ALL U LADIES AND GENTS TO SEE UR OPINIONS!!!,I myself am at a total loss why some NOT all, members from this site feel they have to discuss their conquests (ie whom they have shagged,sucked,plucked etc) in the chatroom, surly this is a private matter between the consenting adults taking part in the meet and not for all and their granny to know about. I feel that the verification a member chooses to leave is enough, and airing the laundry in the room is uncalled for.,Whats your Thoughts peeps

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

yeah i totally agree with u sassy if im arranging a meet i wont discuss it in the main chat room...

neither will i discuss what went on openly in a room althoug i have met many who thinks it like broadcasting a conquest to let ppl in the room know u have met just makes me laugh sometimes lol

luv jacs

xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yip sassy im with you babe..

verifications shld be enuf,not that we have had anyone discuss any of our doings in the chatroom as we dont get any!!!!! lol

auds&jas xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

SASSY HUN I AGREE WAY U..PPL WHO BLAB MISS OUT CAUSE I JUST DONT DO BLABBERS HUN..AN I CANT STAND WHEN PPL BLAB IN CHAT NO MY THING..SO AT END OF THE DAY ITS THERE LOSS xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Sassy

W agree as well.

We would hate to think people we had met were talking about us in the chatroom.

In fact I would be shining ma boots too and gettin tips off mags for doing some baw booting.

Kazz xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im with you on this one sassy, what you do, or how you done it, an where yoou done, isw a private matter, and not the members of the chat room i habe to say i would be weel pissed off, i thought someone we had met was tell all bout our meet in chat,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

KAZZ HUN MY BOOTS R WELL POLISHED AN WAITING 4 YA HUN LOL xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agree agree agree......i would hate to think anyone was discussing us in chat, it is very disrespectful and utterly uncalled for!!!!!! what happens behind closed doors should stay there. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes we totally agree its nothing to do with anyone else who you have met or played with that is between the 2 parties concerned and should not be talked about in chat rooms at all.and ashort message in the verification is enough but even that dont need to go into details thats rivae

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By *entscotscplCouple
over a year ago

falkirk ish

well we never mention in chat or to any one if we have met others, as in who done who or who done what.

what happens between consenting adults at a meet behind closed curtains and a locked door stays there same if we take pics they are for personal and private use we never post pics of others any place .

just our pennies worth lol

bestest wishes to you all r n l xx

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By *acreadCouple
over a year ago

central scotland

Thats one reason we will not meet fuckbuddies as we feel the single guy of the cpl has nothing to lose by telling who he has been with whereas a married cpl or long term cpl in general dont want anyone knowing any more than we do (apologies to the discreet single guys) M and R

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By *egs4uWoman
over a year ago

somewhere around

Totally agree sassy

If i'm arranging a meet or had a meet i don't discuss it in the room and expect the other person to do the same.

If i find out someone has been talking about me in the room that's when my steel toe capped boots and good right hook would come into it lol

Totally agree verifications should be enough

foxi

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By *dinburgh_duoCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

"HERE IS ONE FOR ALL U LADIES AND GENTS TO SEE UR OPINIONS!!!,I myself am at a total loss why some NOT all, members from this site feel they have to discuss their conquests (ie whom they have shagged,sucked,plucked etc) in the chatroom, surly this is a private matter between the consenting adults taking part in the meet and not for all and their granny to know about. I feel that the verification a member chooses to leave is enough, and airing the laundry in the room is uncalled for.,Whats your Thoughts peeps"

Sassy we completely agree, nothing worse than a blatent lack of respect and discretion. It would put us off meeting someone if we knew they did that sort of thing in chat or in fact anywhere on a public forum. We value our privacy very much. Same goes for people bragging about who they have met etc etc.

This is also the main reason why we don't publish all of our verifications to be honest. On some people's profiles there are HUGE lists of meets, not only of who they have met (which we have no problem with!) but also graphic detail on what they 'did' with that person in all verifications..... not for us I'm afraid and quite off putting (personally speaking!) to be quite frank - in some respects some of them read like a brag list of conquests.

A great topic sassy and if people really can't get past first base of respecting others then I really don't think swinging is for them and they should look elsewhere!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally agree sassy

If i'm arranging a meet or had a meet i don't discuss it in the room and expect the other person to do the same.

If i find out someone has been talking about me in the room that's when my steel toe capped boots and good right hook would come into it lol

Totally agree verifications should be enough

foxi

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FOXI HUN THAT IS 1 OF MY PUT OFF'S IS DISCUSSING THE DETAILS IN THE ROOM ABOUT THERE MEET..I DONT CARE EVEN ITS JUST A COFFEE THEY WANT 2 MEET 4 SOZ I DONT MEET..HOPE NO OFFENEDED ANYONE BUT ITS NO MY THING xxx

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By *inesawineWoman
over a year ago

fife

Agree totally. Verifications can be bad enough, god the detail some people go into!!!

Mines xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sassy..I agree with you hun...No need to blab in the chatroom about who you're meeting or what has gone on between you....I think Verifications are ok because it does in some ways let people know you do meet & play and so you are Genuine here...although does not need to be too graphic... Kiss'n'Tell hun I have even had too many kisses lately never mind tell..lol Phil xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if I WAS GOOD , tell everyone ..

if I had brewers droop... and was crap.... then TELL NO ONE ..

JOKING.........

agree verifications are the way .. the content of the verification is agreed by both parties before publication...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agree totally. Verifications can be bad enough, god the detail some people go into!!!

Mines xx"

we`d agree with that as some can be pretty graphic detailing the events of the meet.

we much prefer to see the likes of genuine,funny,reliable,sexy,friendly etc,etc mentioned in a verification.

hedocpl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totaly agree verivication should be enough and graphic details are not needed, I just never kiss and tell,It is more exciting knowing who you have and havent had fun with when chatting in room.The same should really apply to what goes on at socials and parties chat amoust the people who were there is fine and dandy,

Pmsl (Hedo I will Never Tell Honest) pmsl

Debbsxxx

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By *dinburgh_duoCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Totaly agree verivication should be enough and graphic details are not needed, I just never kiss and tell,It is more exciting knowing who you have and havent had fun with when chatting in room.The same should really apply to what goes on at socials and parties chat amoust the people who were there is fine and dandy,

Pmsl (Hedo I will Never Tell Honest) pmsl

Debbsxxx"

We agree - discretion is paramount! Your points on socials and parties are very relevant as well (IMO) as bringing 'off site' issues into chat such as what may or may not have happened at a social has led to all hell breaking loose on fab at times - this seems to be happening more and more.

Several people have left over recent months who were regulars and some of them we miss dearly. It is sad (for want of a better word!) that some people have let a virtual chatroom and website become the rule of law within their lives. It also seems to affect how people interact with others in the chatroom based on what other people may or may not have done!

It's a virtual thing - it's meant to be fun! There is so much more out there than what 'does or doesn't go on' and 'what is said, not said and to whom' in a chat room!

Lighten up!

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By *dinburgh_duoCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

"if I WAS GOOD , tell everyone ..

if I had brewers droop... and was crap.... then TELL NO ONE ..

JOKING.........

agree verifications are the way .. the content of the verification is agreed by both parties before publication...

hahahahaha your funny! Agree with your comments on verifications as well, people 'publish' verifications because they want too, it's cool! Everyone has different views on this and preferences!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi Peeps thanks for all ur comments and views i really appreciate them knowing that im not the only one feeling this.Can i also add, that in my case only,( cant speak for anyone else), i feel if members gossip about their conquests it can lead to idle and dangerous and personal gossip which then in turn creates issues and serious reprocusions, which i dont want to see or hear happening.I really think sometimes members have to step back and really understand its a swingers site and unless it sataes in an individual`s profile that their looking for love, relationship etc we need to NOT cross the boundries or respect of a fellow member and keep the personal side of others out of discussions and gossip.ffs aint i laying it on heavy? lol getting aff my soap box now!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iam guilty of it!-some broadcasting about good times roomwise, if it involves both parties or groups not minding!, sex is always discussed in a fun manner with whoever I have been with and Im sorry If im the only one who feels like this, I wouldnt dare tell peoples info that invades on their privacy such as telephone numbers or addresses or go mailing others to say whos "easy".

we have to start realising some of us want to be regulars ( regulars who want to be known as fun people who ACTUALLY meet)on the scene, aand not just some willynilly coming in for easy pickoffs...i consider a good few ppl as friends here BUT surely we can keep up the spirit of what we like by chatting about it. I just feel we are heading down the road where we cant say "cock" or "pussy" without it causing offence and I suppose not challenging the diversity of the users here.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have to start realising some of us want to be regulars ( regulars who want to be known as fun people who ACTUALLY meet)on the scene"

PADDY U CAN BE A REGULAR WITHOUT SPILLING YA GUTS ABOUT MEETS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol..paddy babe,,you cldnt go 2sentences without mentioning the words"cock" or "pussy" ???? lol

agree if its between the 2 parties but if not then things shldnt be said.all i know is puts us off when folk are mentioning who they played with or what they done in the chatroom.

just our opinion xxjandaxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True believers in "what happens in a meet, stays in the meet".

Yes we have had some tongue in cheek banter with couples we have played with, but thats exactly what it is , tongue in cheek not sordid details.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with all the above, a well written verification is enough, there's no need to go into ny detail on chat rooms or else where.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kind of have mixed feelings on this.

I most certainly do NOT want what we did together discussed with anyone and certainly not in the chat rooom.

However on the flip of that, I see no issue in chatting openly in chat about if you met and had a giggle...if you are BOTH comfortable with that..(details NOT included).

In real life i laugh with friends about all sorts, we chat about when we last went out etc...and as I am a real person, as long as boundaries are not crossed I wont freak out if someone says 'oo what a laugh saturady was' etc

Whilst confidentiality MUST be preserved there are times when its nice to be normal and chat in a normal fashion about normal things and in normal conversation laugh over normal fun things including when you met.

I sometimes feel there can be too great a veil of secrecy and im sick feckin fed up of men whispering as they dont want to offend someone else by them finding out who they are looking to meet. They do this as they are pandering to the 'ownership' that some people seem to feel. I dont feel that way and i dont like to feel awkward because someone else considers my potential date 'hers/theirs'

For me i take more offence if people detail or list what we did in a verification. I will not post one that gives any graphic details.

Just my thoughts

Vol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Discretion is always the better part of valour;)

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