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I got help and found a new me

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By *illers71 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I was married for 16 years and suffered years of emotional neglect, starved of sex and thought it was normal. That ended in 2011 and I have gone long periods on my own as well as a 3 year relationship where she dumped me twice.

Over the last 2 years I have dated 3 lovely females who I could not have changed anything about, they were perfect. After a while I ended it for no real reason. I went for counselling over the last 3 months to see why I did that, it turned out I was still traumatised by my marriage and had never felt good enough.

I feel absolutely amazing now and totally free of everything. Many men who do what I did get the name of players for such things. I never was but I can totally recommend getting help for anything wrong in your head, some people can’t be helped.

Now I am ready to move on to the next stage of my life, hopefully with a girl open for some adventure.

I just wanted to share this in case it can help 1 person.

Have a brilliant weekend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awra best. Here's to the new you being baw deep!

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By *talians do it betterCouple
over a year ago

Bothwell

All the best for you

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By *illers71 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So it wasn't other folk that had issues, it was you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“Adventure is out there” (Charles Muntz, 2009)

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By *illers71 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"So it wasn't other folk that had issues, it was you "
Yes but thankfully over them. In a better place now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Awra best. Here's to the new you being baw deep! "
absolutely class pmsl x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it wasn't other folk that had issues, it was you "

Brutal!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a lovely outcome and positive reaction/response to your previous chapter OP many happy times ahead x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad you asked for help, too many guys don't. Good luck for the future.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

I would say that's your take on things and it does not fit for everyone.

I was in a marriage an open one of sorts because we felt that would work. it didn't we were simply incompatible I've also been in long term relationships and I've even told them at the outset it wouldn't work as I am me and I'm unwilling to change. They don't last.

Talking with a therapist may be good for you defiantly not good for all psycobabblers just infuriate me.

For me it's this simple your either compatible and willing to sacrifice traits and things or your not if your not you gotta be happy in your own skin

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I don’t think people realise how traumatic a break up can be. Many of us have trust issues and find it difficult to form relationships.

Self esteem and confidence take a while to build up again if you’ve been treated badly by a partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think people realise how traumatic a break up can be. Many of us have trust issues and find it difficult to form relationships.

Self esteem and confidence take a while to build up again if you’ve been treated badly by a partner. "

I find it's good friends are hard to find. Maybe it's from moving away from some close ones and not having ability to really bond with people my age because we all have our own lives now. Thank heavens for the Tuesday quiz you little diamond x

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