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By *rBigDaddy OP   Man
over a year ago

east lothian

Loads of guys on here will play with other guys.

Does this make us bi? I don't feel bi but like some play with a guy sometimes.

What do you think?

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By *hatsmynameagainCouple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

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By *hatsmynameagainCouple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Bi playful or fab straight ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People will say that names and labels don't matter. But they do. They help us identify like minded folk who will be into the same sort of things.

If you like doing anything sexual with a man, then in my book you're bisexual. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Embrace it OP and do what makes you happy.

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By *rBigDaddy OP   Man
over a year ago

east lothian

I'm comfortable with the label- just so choosy men, and what I'll do with them.

Maybe highly selectively bi

Some cocks are just beautiful though. I just want to look rather than touch though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best description I read is this..

Some men will say they are as strait as uncooked spaghetti but put them somewhere hot, wet and steamy and they may bend a bit.

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By *ub-seekerMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

If you like playing with other guys, then you’re not straight

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By *ornyone30Man
over a year ago

ABERDEEN

For me id say I'm bi-curious as I'm curious to see what sucking cock feels like and watching other men wank/cum. I suppose the question there is, at what point does it become bi-sexual and not bi-curious? To me bi-sexual means you fancy women and men, i don't believe I will ever fancy men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You ain't straight if you like men in any sexual way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me id say I'm bi-curious as I'm curious to see what sucking cock feels like and watching other men wank/cum. I suppose the question there is, at what point does it become bi-sexual and not bi-curious? To me bi-sexual means you fancy women and men, i don't believe I will ever fancy men. "

I look at men and women completely differently. I find women more physically attractive I think, but, overall, men turn me on more. You'll know for certain once you've chowed down on your first boabie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My tuppence is that if you've played with a guy more than once then you are probably bisexual

It doesn't mean that you want guys and girls equally, just that you like sexual experiences with both sexes

I'm bi sexual, but don't want to date or have an intimate relationship with a guy, only with girls.

However, I do like sexual experiences with both guys and girls (and trans), so I'm bisexual. No sweat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My tuppence is that if you've played with a guy more than once then you are probably bisexual

It doesn't mean that you want guys and girls equally, just that you like sexual experiences with both sexes

I'm bi sexual, but don't want to date or have an intimate relationship with a guy, only with girls.

However, I do like sexual experiences with both guys and girls (and trans), so I'm bisexual. No sweat! "
Totally agree, I don't want a relationship with a guy , but enjoy sex with a guy and so recently I decided to come off the fence and change my profile from straight , first to bi curious , but now very definitely BI

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By *irth VaderMan
over a year ago

Busby

I cannot see how a guy who likes dabbling with guys can see he is straight. Your kidding yourself and the women looking for a straight bloke.

It doesn’t matter how hot the pot is my spaghetti is pointing due north at all times.

Enjoy your choices but be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cannot see how a guy who likes dabbling with guys can see he is straight. Your kidding yourself and the women looking for a straight bloke.

It doesn’t matter how hot the pot is my spaghetti is pointing due north at all times.

Enjoy your choices but be honest. "

Have you had a wee bump on the nut? You're talking far too much sense lately

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By *irth VaderMan
over a year ago

Busby


"I cannot see how a guy who likes dabbling with guys can see he is straight. Your kidding yourself and the women looking for a straight bloke.

It doesn’t matter how hot the pot is my spaghetti is pointing due north at all times.

Enjoy your choices but be honest.

Have you had a wee bump on the nut? You're talking far too much sense lately "

Sorry. Normal service will return very very soon. Can you still put your foot in it for us both until then? Cheers petal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads of guys on here will play with other guys.

Does this make us bi? I don't feel bi but like some play with a guy sometimes.

What do you think?"

Sorry buddy, you’re bi but you’re in denial for some reason. Put it this way, im a bit of an arsehole at times, I don’t ‘feel’ like an arsehole but I know that I can be.

For what it is worth, there’s nothing wrong with being bi (other sexual orientations are available)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cannot see how a guy who likes dabbling with guys can see he is straight. Your kidding yourself and the women looking for a straight bloke.

It doesn’t matter how hot the pot is my spaghetti is pointing due north at all times.

Enjoy your choices but be honest.

Have you had a wee bump on the nut? You're talking far too much sense lately

Sorry. Normal service will return very very soon. Can you still put your foot in it for us both until then? Cheers petal. "

I'll try my hardest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (female) have had many conversations with fab friends regarding this over the years. I can play with a woman cause I know it turns my bloke on but wouldn't play with a woman one on one so I'm not comfortable with the term bi sexual ( although physically will lol ) this term to me suggests I could play one on one with either sex which isn't the case, bi curious I think I'm way past now but I believe there should be an option for people who only play with the same sex in group or 3sum play scenarios or just like to watch the same sex play ? Lol maybe bi-playful?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being truthful you will have more fun

When I question people about it I normally get the old woman don’t meet bi guys like

But the funny thing is I have never had a problem in that department even though my sexually is set to bi

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

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By *heron212Man
over a year ago

London


"My tuppence is that if you've played with a guy more than once then you are probably bisexual

It doesn't mean that you want guys and girls equally, just that you like sexual experiences with both sexes

I'm bi sexual, but don't want to date or have an intimate relationship with a guy, only with girls.

However, I do like sexual experiences with both guys and girls (and trans), so I'm bisexual. No sweat! "

That's it in a nutshell.

And if labels didn't matter, there would be none here.

I really don't respect or will even meet with men that claim to be straight yet are contacting me. Also, since I am not looking to 'train' the bi-curious, they need to be out and confident in their sexuality before I will even engage.

There are far too many here clinging to a heteronormative lie for privilege, yet want those that are open about being bi or even curious to overlook their falsehoods.

Computer says NO.

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By *ralPerfectionistMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

If a girl has a mff 3sum it doesn't make her bi. If a guy loves and dates girls but has casual BJ from a guy just to get off that doesn't make him less straight. Be what you want to be and enjoy it. It's nobody else's business but your own, even though it clearly twists some people's knickers on here. Too many guys expect girls to experiment or think it's hot but are afraid to themselves due to society telling them it is something to be ashamed of and the label police.

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By *altySeadog72Man
over a year ago

Saltcoats

A really interesting topic. We are all bunched into one group description here. There are so many levels of swinging here and through that how we define our sexual preferences or definitions. There aren't enough labels to describe all the people on here and just as well because it would be far too confusing. I am slightly amused at the number of profile views I get from "straight men" but understand the fear or stigma of admitting who you truly are. I don't see labels as a problem for the more established members. I believe there comes an age of fab swinger maturity when people are able to talk openly and honestly and not be intimidated or scared about their or others preferences.

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By *rgoodnbadMan
over a year ago

greenock

"If a guy loves and dates girls but has casual BJ from a guy just to get off that doesn't make him less straight"

Lol, it kinda does. No straight guy would even contemplate putting his dick into another man's mouth. Why is that hard to understand?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Lol, it kinda does. No straight guy would even contemplate putting his dick into another man's mouth. Why is that hard to understand? "

Few weeks ago I would've agreed but I came in a guys mouth for the first time this weekend. Was only possible because his hot as fuck mrs was sat on my face at the time. Was a bit mentally difficult to get over the line but knew I'd have to do it to get a chance to fuck her. She was worth it tbh and I'd do it again!

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By *rgoodnbadMan
over a year ago

greenock


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Lol, it kinda does. No straight guy would even contemplate putting his dick into another man's mouth. Why is that hard to understand?

Few weeks ago I would've agreed but I came in a guys mouth for the first time this weekend. Was only possible because his hot as fuck mrs was sat on my face at the time. Was a bit mentally difficult to get over the line but knew I'd have to do it to get a chance to fuck her. She was worth it tbh and I'd do it again!"

Sounds like they tricked you into it, not good at all if that's right. But if you're contemplating re-enacting the same scenario then maybe you should consider changing your status.

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By *iveshowcouple2Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

We were just talking to someone else earler about how the word "straight" is the most abused word on fab.

Mostly when men are using it.

There really is no universally accepted definition on fab for what it covers. Or doesn't.

So in reality there is no sex act between 2 blokes which "straight" guys can enjoy without any concerns about possibly being bi or gay.

Of course in the real world....

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By *ermandrMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I have never had an mm meeting, but during threesomes or moresomes, I just find it more sensual and more relaxing not to worry about who is touching what. I am definitely bi in a group situation, but wouldn’t dream of forcing myself on the male with a straight couple not would I ever meet a solo male. I’ve kept my ‘designation’ as bi-curious as it seems to work as code for ‘orally bi only’ - which I am. Male on male oral (either way) is so good in a threesome. The female watching or helping does seem to heighten the pleasure for all. Not keen on labels - do what makes you (and others) happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Sounds like they tricked you into it, not good at all if that's right. But if you're contemplating re-enacting the same scenario then maybe you should consider changing your status."

I got "tricked" into DVP in a MMF a few years ago that I wasn't expecting. It was pretty sore and I didn't really like it but I didn't suddenly change my sexuality because my hard cock was rubbing up against another in the same hole for a little while. The couple this weekend explicitly stated on their profile they'd only meet guys willing to get sucked off the guy a bit. I told them what I thought I'd be up for and they invited me round, nobody was tricked. 95% of the time was spent riding and spitroasting the mrs so I was willing to blur my boundaries to make that happen. I'm not attracted to or want to have sex with anyone born male so don't see why I'd change my status.

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By *he_Wite_NiteMan
over a year ago

Usually Dundee and around

It amazes and amuses me that some

straight couples will meet a bi-fem but agree to and expect no ff play, but won't meet a bi-guy under the same understanding in fear that the man will not be able to restrain himself in the presence of another man.

Go figure...

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Sounds a lot like 50 shades of bisexuality from some definitions.

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By *iveshowcouple2Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Sounds a lot like 50 shades of bisexuality from some definitions. "

I think you might be right about the 50 shades of bisexuality.

Straight is straight. Gay is gay.

However it makes clear sense that bisexuality is on a spectrum.

Which doesn't really explain adequately why so many "straight" guys on fab suck cock

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Okay. Question. Guy has no interest in playing with a cock in anyway but is happy to play beside said cock and even enjoys watching other cocks performing in real life or porn.

What is he?

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By *iveshowcouple2Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Okay. Question. Guy has no interest in playing with a cock in anyway but is happy to play beside said cock and even enjoys watching other cocks performing in real life or porn.

What is he?

"

Straight.

I have been known to look at Brussels sprouts. Doesn't mean I ever intend eating one.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Okay. Question. Guy has no interest in playing with a cock in anyway but is happy to play beside said cock and even enjoys watching other cocks performing in real life or porn.

What is he?

Straight.

I have been known to look at Brussels sprouts. Doesn't mean I ever intend eating one."

I’m with you on the Brussel sprouts as well.

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By *ubBiPantyBoyMan
over a year ago

Greenock


"My tuppence is that if you've played with a guy more than once then you are probably bisexual

It doesn't mean that you want guys and girls equally, just that you like sexual experiences with both sexes

I'm bi sexual, but don't want to date or have an intimate relationship with a guy, only with girls.

However, I do like sexual experiences with both guys and girls (and trans), so I'm bisexual. No sweat! "

Same for me… I’m not typically attracted to guys but I like some cock play so I’d say I’m bi-sexual

I take a bit of a dislike to guys that message where they are listed as straight and only looking for women and couples and then claim to want to meet a man for bi fun. If you like it say it lol can be anonymous anyway.

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By *altySeadog72Man
over a year ago

Saltcoats

I like brussel sprouts. Now I'm confused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads of guys on here will play with other guys.

Does this make us bi? I don't feel bi but like some play with a guy sometimes.

What do you think?

Sorry buddy, you’re bi but you’re in denial for some reason. Put it this way, im a bit of an arsehole at times, I don’t ‘feel’ like an arsehole but I know that I can be.

For what it is worth, there’s nothing wrong with being bi (other sexual orientations are available)"

For what it's worth, there's nothing wrong with being an arsehole either, you should just embrace it.

Op your bi, no big deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads of guys on here will play with other guys.

Does this make us bi? I don't feel bi but like some play with a guy sometimes.

What do you think?

Sorry buddy, you’re bi but you’re in denial for some reason. Put it this way, im a bit of an arsehole at times, I don’t ‘feel’ like an arsehole but I know that I can be.

For what it is worth, there’s nothing wrong with being bi (other sexual orientations are available)

For what it's worth, there's nothing wrong with being an arsehole either, you should just embrace it.

Op your bi, no big deal. "

Just as you've done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads of guys on here will play with other guys.

Does this make us bi? I don't feel bi but like some play with a guy sometimes.

What do you think?

Sorry buddy, you’re bi but you’re in denial for some reason. Put it this way, im a bit of an arsehole at times, I don’t ‘feel’ like an arsehole but I know that I can be.

For what it is worth, there’s nothing wrong with being bi (other sexual orientations are available)

For what it's worth, there's nothing wrong with being an arsehole either, you should just embrace it.

Op your bi, no big deal.

Just as you've done "

Hey as miss muff so eloquently put it, if I ever get the urge to sook boabbie I won't hesitate to change my profile to Bi, until then it will stay as it is . Straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Labels for sexuality are pretty crap! Straight/bi/gay? There is often a lot more to it! But for the sake of being open I’d say you’re more bi curious anyway. The fab “straight” guys who like to play with other guys seem to just be ashamed to admit they like it. Or they think it will limit their chances of meeting other people. I prefer people are comfortable with themselves and their sexual preferences. G x

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By *ide em cowgirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I would say bi-sexual more once you have performed sexual acts with both sexes and you liked it with both. It's hard because as soon as you put a label on yourself then sometimes people feel it's a free for all. You still have the right to be as picky as you choose. I would say I'm a very picky bi-sexual lmao. You never know till you explore. Enjoy exploring

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By *4Fun11Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Loads of guys on here will play with other guys.

Does this make us bi? I don't feel bi but like some play with a guy sometimes.

What do you think?"

I can’t believe a 43 yr old man needs to ask this.

If you like to play with guys sexually then you’re Bi. If you think you aren’t then you’re just kidding yourself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

too many labels put on people, just enjoy what you're doing without giving anyone else's opinion a second thought..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can label yourself however you want, as long as you're happy and enjoying it then work away.

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By *rBigDaddy OP   Man
over a year ago

east lothian

I actually think of myself as mostly straight.

I chatted to a guy once who had a gf, but he loved sucking cock with his gf's undies on. I think he's almost straight with a specific kink

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By *rBigDaddy OP   Man
over a year ago

east lothian

What if you had it sucked a few times?

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By *nvernessguy24Man
over a year ago

inverness

You go from bi-curious to bi-sexual as soon as you... well, try anything? Then you are no longer curious, cos you know for sure if you like it or not. Curious is more you want to try it but have not. If you like anything with a guy, from handjobs, blowjobs to full on fucking (give or take for any of these) then I would call you Bi. You don't have to fancy them and want to date them to enjoy a good blowjob etc. It is more about who you are willing to do sexual things with

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By *adaddyMan
over a year ago

Airdrie

This is a suuuper complex topic as others have said - but to add another view, personally I use the label 'flexible hedonist' - essentially I'm just all about folx having a good time. I have specific scenarios (including some involving men) that I want to partake in, but it's folx getting off that attract me to those scenarios, not the boabby in them

In reality I'm probably somewhere between straight and Pan (I'm mainly attracted to women, but also I _kindof_ dgaf)

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

IDGAF is probably more accurate

Women yes, guys I don’t really care. If there’s a guy involved fine but I’ve no motivation to do anything with them.

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By *mcm91Man
over a year ago

stirling

Sexuality for me is a massive spectrum and I'd say the minority are those that identify 100% as heterosexual. Most, are somewhere in between. Doesn't mean they will ever act on it but it's a complete spectrum. Labels are helpful to find folk with similar interests but on here I go by what folk are interested in sexually rather than their sexuality. More accurate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexuality for me is a massive spectrum and I'd say the minority are those that identify 100% as heterosexual. Most, are somewhere in between. Doesn't mean they will ever act on it but it's a complete spectrum. Labels are helpful to find folk with similar interests but on here I go by what folk are interested in sexually rather than their sexuality. More accurate."

Great post

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

If you like playing with men ,Your Bi simple...

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock


"For me id say I'm bi-curious as I'm curious to see what sucking cock feels like and watching other men wank/cum. I suppose the question there is, at what point does it become bi-sexual and not bi-curious? To me bi-sexual means you fancy women and men, i don't believe I will ever fancy men.

I look at men and women completely differently. I find women more physically attractive I think, but, overall, men turn me on more. You'll know for certain once you've chowed down on your first boabie "
Pmsl...

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