FabSwingers.com forum: Fake photos

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We exchanged a few messages with someone, then exchanged face photos. Jess liked what she saw, so we arranged a social meet in a pub.

The guy arrived at the bar, came over to say hello and then went up to get himself a drink. We immediately turned to each other and said that's not him! By the time he came back to the table we both had his profile on our phones and asked him about the photo. He admitted that it wasn't him, but we now had the opportunity to get to know the real person!

He could see no wrong in what he'd done. He claimed that the person in the photo was a friend who knew that he was using his photo on fab and that therefore that made it alright.

He got a month full from both of us about honesty and people like him ruining fab. He left still insisting that he'd done nothing wrong.

Why are the liars on this site allowed to get off with it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quick pre-meet video calls seem like the order of the day. Unless they would also get their friend to substitute for that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We exchanged a few messages with someone, then exchanged face photos. Jess liked what she saw, so we arranged a social meet in a pub.

He could see no wrong in what he'd done. He claimed that the person in the photo was a friend who knew that he was using his photo on fab and that therefore that made it alright.

He got a month full from both of us about honesty and people like him ruining fab. He left still insisting that he'd done nothing wrong.

Why are the liars on this site allowed to get off with it!"

Wow, it's quite scary he couldn't see anything wrong in that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Quick pre-meet video calls seem like the order of the day. Unless they would also get their friend to substitute for that! "

Yep you may be right.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We exchanged a few messages with someone, then exchanged face photos. Jess liked what she saw, so we arranged a social meet in a pub.

He could see no wrong in what he'd done. He claimed that the person in the photo was a friend who knew that he was using his photo on fab and that therefore that made it alright.

He got a month full from both of us about honesty and people like him ruining fab. He left still insisting that he'd done nothing wrong.

Why are the liars on this site allowed to get off with it!

Wow, it's quite scary he couldn't see anything wrong in that. "

That was the most disappointing thing about it, he had been found out but refused to accept that it was wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would anyone even think about meeting up with someone after using a fake photo on profile or sending them one.. you would think they would tell you before meeting ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeez! He's probably hoping that you'll just think "well we're all here now with a drink, let's get to know the liar, he might tell us something true in person".

Tit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think fab or indeed any online platform has issues like this. I know everyone can be slightly guilty of filtering pics or using a good angle but to fully use a fake picture and expect not to be pulled up for it, is creepy.

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I find the heavily edited/filtered photos worse than fake ones.

One in particular keeps coming up on my local feed, and you can see how obvious it is that the photos have some form of filter on them.

Mandy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You met a fab dumplin

Better luck next time

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By *anny77Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Everyone I have met on here has always been saddened to discover that it is, in fact, me in my pictures…

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By *ungislanderMan
over a year ago

North west

I like Snapchat for this helps with the proses and you can tell if it’s a live pic that they have just taken.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why would anyone even think about meeting up with someone after using a fake photo on profile or sending them one.. you would think they would tell you before meeting .. "

Desperation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone I have met on here has always been saddened to discover that it is, in fact, me in my pictures…"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Jeez! He's probably hoping that you'll just think "well we're all here now with a drink, let's get to know the liar, he might tell us something true in person".

Tit

I think this was his take on it, using a fake photo to get a foot in the door sort of thing.

I do wonder if this has worked for him in the past?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv actually had this happen also.

Was the guy in the picture but was way shorter than the 6ft1 more like 5ft5 lol

Said exactly the same as the OP said wanted me to meet him in real life

Nah mate.dosnt work like that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Iv actually had this happen also.

Was the guy in the picture but was way shorter than the 6ft1 more like 5ft5 lol

Said exactly the same as the OP said wanted me to meet him in real life

Nah mate.dosnt work like that

Funnily enough we asked if he was actually six feet also! He said he was but that was debatable.

We have men lying about their age and height before but the fake face photo was a first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is totally outrageous behaviour, I’m actually shocked anyone would do that. How would they possibly think it would be okay!?!?

Did they not realise that even by the foot in the door logic, which is creepy as it is, misrepresenting yourself like that isn’t going to help the person you’re meeting think you’re a good/sane/respectful person. Surely you can be removed from the site for that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Iv actually had this happen also.

Was the guy in the picture but was way shorter than the 6ft1 more like 5ft5 lol

Said exactly the same as the OP said wanted me to meet him in real life

Nah mate.dosnt work like that

Funnily enough we asked if he was actually six feet also! He said he was but that was debatable.

We have men lying about their age and height before but the fake face photo was a first."

So even although he wasn't the guy you were expecting, you also challenged him about his height?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Iv actually had this happen also.

Was the guy in the picture but was way shorter than the 6ft1 more like 5ft5 lol

Said exactly the same as the OP said wanted me to meet him in real life

Nah mate.dosnt work like that

Funnily enough we asked if he was actually six feet also! He said he was but that was debatable.

We have men lying about their age and height before but the fake face photo was a first.

So even although he wasn't the guy you were expecting, you also challenged him about his height?"

Yip and why not? He had lied and wasted our time so he was now fair game due to his own behaviour!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Iv actually had this happen also.

Was the guy in the picture but was way shorter than the 6ft1 more like 5ft5 lol

Said exactly the same as the OP said wanted me to meet him in real life

Nah mate.dosnt work like that

Funnily enough we asked if he was actually six feet also! He said he was but that was debatable.

We have men lying about their age and height before but the fake face photo was a first.

So even although he wasn't the guy you were expecting, you also challenged him about his height?

Yip and why not? He had lied and wasted our time so he was now fair game due to his own behaviour!"

I guess I just find it unnecessarily confrontational

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By *astlincscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Tinsel Town

That's some brass neck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Iv actually had this happen also.

Was the guy in the picture but was way shorter than the 6ft1 more like 5ft5 lol

Said exactly the same as the OP said wanted me to meet him in real life

Nah mate.dosnt work like that

Funnily enough we asked if he was actually six feet also! He said he was but that was debatable.

We have men lying about their age and height before but the fake face photo was a first.

So even although he wasn't the guy you were expecting, you also challenged him about his height?

Yip and why not? He had lied and wasted our time so he was now fair game due to his own behaviour!

I guess I just find it unnecessarily confrontational "

We both work for the nhs, working shifts including nights and weekends, and therefore don't often get opportunities to meet.

There was the usual nervous and exciting build up to the meet, only to be abruptly let down.

But you are correct, we were too confrontational, instead we should have apologized for the misunderstanding and taken him back to our hotel and shagged him regardless!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think fab or indeed any online platform has issues like this. I know everyone can be slightly guilty of filtering pics or using a good angle but to fully use a fake picture and expect not to be pulled up for it, is creepy. "

By angle are you talking about the thin 45 degree angle to make face look thinner lol guilty of that but yet to find anyone on here that likes the bigger guy broad shouldered 6ft3 n cuddly not to overweight but got a bit a beer belly n love handles just a big teddy bear really lol

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By *irth VaderMan
over a year ago

Busby

A while back I swapped face pic pictures with a woman I was interested in meeting and I asked for a smiling face pic she refused. I asked a few times but left it and eventually she said she had terrible teeth from smoking. Her profile said she was a non smoker as well. There is a lot of trust as far as meets go but there are many ways you can get assurances. Asking them to send a camera pic on kik is also good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Iv actually had this happen also.

Was the guy in the picture but was way shorter than the 6ft1 more like 5ft5 lol

Said exactly the same as the OP said wanted me to meet him in real life

Nah mate.dosnt work like that

Funnily enough we asked if he was actually six feet also! He said he was but that was debatable.

We have men lying about their age and height before but the fake face photo was a first.

So even although he wasn't the guy you were expecting, you also challenged him about his height?

Yip and why not? He had lied and wasted our time so he was now fair game due to his own behaviour!

I guess I just find it unnecessarily confrontational

We both work for the nhs, working shifts including nights and weekends, and therefore don't often get opportunities to meet.

There was the usual nervous and exciting build up to the meet, only to be abruptly let down.

But you are correct, we were too confrontational, instead we should have apologized for the misunderstanding and taken him back to our hotel and shagged him regardless!"

What's working for the NHS got to do with the price of fish?

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By *oanne_MacTV/TS
over a year ago

Perth

I guess I just find it unnecessarily confrontational "

A bit like most of your forum posts then.

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By *oanne_MacTV/TS
over a year ago

Perth

And to the OP, i would have been fuming as well, ive had similiar where i met up with someone who upon meeting in the flesh it became obvious they had photoshop installed and also used pics from at least 10yrs ago. They were told to do one...

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By *oldswarriorMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

"Iv actually had this happen also.

Was the guy in the picture but was way shorter than the 6ft1 more like 5ft5 lol

Said exactly the same as the OP said wanted me to meet him in real life

Nah mate.dosnt work like that

Funnily enough we asked if he was actually six feet also! He said he was but that was debatable.

We have men lying about their age and height before but the fake face photo was a first.

So even although he wasn't the guy you were expecting, you also challenged him about his height?"

Of course you would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Iv actually had this happen also.

Was the guy in the picture but was way shorter than the 6ft1 more like 5ft5 lol

Said exactly the same as the OP said wanted me to meet him in real life

Nah mate.dosnt work like that

Funnily enough we asked if he was actually six feet also! He said he was but that was debatable.

We have men lying about their age and height before but the fake face photo was a first.

So even although he wasn't the guy you were expecting, you also challenged him about his height?

Yip and why not? He had lied and wasted our time so he was now fair game due to his own behaviour!

I guess I just find it unnecessarily confrontational "

Sorry, but I think if you pretend to be someone else you automatically give up your right not to be confronted on anything the victim of your deception damn well pleases. That's an astonishing point of view and I've seen some crackers on here.

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By *riti PearWoman
over a year ago

Paisley

I’ve seen guys using pictures from porn sites and from other guys profiles. A guy messaged me last week and sent a face pic, and he had messaged me a few days before, with the same face pic, but from a different profile with different age, height and build. When I asked him about it, he said his friend set up the other profile as a joke!

I think they get away with it because we aren’t allowed to name and shame, but I understand why, as idiots would just misuse that too.

Just a shame that we can’t all be adults and genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We exchanged a few messages with someone, then exchanged face photos. Jess liked what she saw, so we arranged a social meet in a pub.

He could see no wrong in what he'd done. He claimed that the person in the photo was a friend who knew that he was using his photo on fab and that therefore that made it alright.

He got a month full from both of us about honesty and people like him ruining fab. He left still insisting that he'd done nothing wrong.

Why are the liars on this site allowed to get off with it!"

That's pretty scary if I'm honest! Especially since he thought it was cool.

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By *ot - CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Did you report him to Fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Iv actually had this happen also.

Was the guy in the picture but was way shorter than the 6ft1 more like 5ft5 lol

Said exactly the same as the OP said wanted me to meet him in real life

Nah mate.dosnt work like that

Funnily enough we asked if he was actually six feet also! He said he was but that was debatable.

We have men lying about their age and height before but the fake face photo was a first.

So even although he wasn't the guy you were expecting, you also challenged him about his height?

Of course you would.

I wouldn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Iv actually had this happen also.

Was the guy in the picture but was way shorter than the 6ft1 more like 5ft5 lol

Said exactly the same as the OP said wanted me to meet him in real life

Nah mate.dosnt work like that

Funnily enough we asked if he was actually six feet also! He said he was but that was debatable.

We have men lying about their age and height before but the fake face photo was a first."
If he said he was 6ft and turned up like a midget.. I'd be tearin him a new one.. that and using others pics.. not on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Iv actually had this happen also.

Was the guy in the picture but was way shorter than the 6ft1 more like 5ft5 lol

Said exactly the same as the OP said wanted me to meet him in real life

Nah mate.dosnt work like that

Funnily enough we asked if he was actually six feet also! He said he was but that was debatable.

We have men lying about their age and height before but the fake face photo was a first. If he said he was 6ft and turned up like a midget.. I'd be tearin him a new one.. that and using others pics.. not on...

Don't do that. It sounds as though an intact arsehole is all this guy had going for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a bloody pain as gives us genuine locals a bad name.. is some genuine locals out here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a bloody pain as gives us genuine locals a bad name.. is some genuine locals out here "

Don't think this is just an Inverness phenomenon Steve....there are ugly cunts the length and breadth of the country pretending to be other folk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Iv actually had this happen also.

Was the guy in the picture but was way shorter than the 6ft1 more like 5ft5 lol

Said exactly the same as the OP said wanted me to meet him in real life

Nah mate.dosnt work like that

Funnily enough we asked if he was actually six feet also! He said he was but that was debatable.

Don't do that. It sounds as though an intact arsehole is all this guy had going for him."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a bloody pain as gives us genuine locals a bad name.. is some genuine locals out here

Don't think this is just an Inverness phenomenon Steve....there are ugly cunts the length and breadth of the country pretending to be other folk."

greetin

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Its a bloody pain as gives us genuine locals a bad name.. is some genuine locals out here

Don't think this is just an Inverness phenomenon Steve....there are ugly cunts the length and breadth of the country pretending to be other folk."

Spot on as usual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a bloody pain as gives us genuine locals a bad name.. is some genuine locals out here

Don't think this is just an Inverness phenomenon Steve....there are ugly cunts the length and breadth of the country pretending to be other folk.

Spot on as usual

Haha suppose that’s true.

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By *oldswarriorMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

"Iv actually had this happen also.

Was the guy in the picture but was way shorter than the 6ft1 more like 5ft5 lol

Said exactly the same as the OP said wanted me to meet him in real life

Nah mate.dosnt work like that

Funnily enough we asked if he was actually six feet also! He said he was but that was debatable.

We have men lying about their age and height before but the fake face photo was a first.

So even although he wasn't the guy you were expecting, you also challenged him about his height?

Of course you would.

I wouldn't "

Shite

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By *othianGuy41Man
over a year ago

Livingston

Happened to me off a dating site. The person I went to meet Looked nothing like the person in the pictures. But I was polite & pretened I didn't notice. But don't understand why folk feel the need to lie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happened to me off a dating site. The person I went to meet Looked nothing like the person in the pictures. But I was polite & pretened I didn't notice. But don't understand why folk feel the need to lie! "

Because folk can't handle rejection. You're a bigger person than me. If someone looked like an entirely different person then that's a massive deception. What else are they lying about?

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Lessons learned.

Reverse image search and Pre meet video or chat room chat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did you report him to Fab?"

Yes, we did report him.

One week later him and his fake photo is still here and active.

Cue close or delete thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had someone come over and it wasn’t until after I realised the photo they had sent was fake. I’ll be honest, I didn’t notice at the time, it was very much a fuck and go but it was afterwards when I looked at their profile and messages again I clocked it. He turned out to be a total creep and not even for anything to do with the pics lol. Needless to say he got blocked and he gets blocked on the new profiles he makes every so often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shocking you have to wonder about the verifications when that’s happening ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had someone come over and it wasn’t until after I realised the photo they had sent was fake. I’ll be honest, I didn’t notice at the time, it was very much a fuck and go but it was afterwards when I looked at their profile and messages again I clocked it. He turned out to be a total creep and not even for anything to do with the pics lol. Needless to say he got blocked and he gets blocked on the new profiles he makes every so often."

How could you not notice it was a different guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How could you not notice it was a different guy

Because they only sent exchanged one face pic once we agreed to meet. I didn’t look at the pic again before meeting him a few days later at my home. They didn’t look that drastically different, it was just odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on here as an ugly fella and use my own pics - what change have I got?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm on here as an ugly fella and use my own pics - what change have I got?

But you're honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm on here as an ugly fella and use my own pics - what change have I got?

But you're honest

Counts for nothing lol

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By *randmrsG123Couple
over a year ago

Port Glasgow

hard enough for guys to keep their rep without idiots doing things like this!

what a let down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm on here as an ugly fella and use my own pics - what change have I got?

But you're honest

Counts for nothing lol "

Better than being ugly AND a liar

....glass half full my friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm on here as an ugly fella and use my own pics - what change have I got?

But you're honest

Counts for nothing lol

Better than being ugly AND a liar

....glass half full my friend.

Suppose so, my glass is definitely empty on this place

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By *uffolkJohnMan
over a year ago

Newmarket

"Iv actually had this happen also.

Was the guy in the picture but was way shorter than the 6ft1 more like 5ft5 lol

Said exactly the same as the OP said wanted me to meet him in real life

Nah mate.dosnt work like that

Funnily enough we asked if he was actually six feet also! He said he was but that was debatable.

We have men lying about their age and height before but the fake face photo was a first."

It won't be the last. I like the sound of the guy. He got you there and you seem to have him on your mind. Shag him and be done with it.

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By *avdunsMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

"I'm on here as an ugly fella and use my own pics - what change have I got?

But you're honest

Counts for nothing lol

Better than being ugly AND a liar

....glass half full my friend.

The glass half full quip is always good, I would consider myself on that side and your comment reminded me of the wonderful late Sean Locke.... when asked if he was a half full half empty type of guy he replied....I don't care cos I know I am havin' another drink ,

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