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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just curious how couples actually approached the subject to start swinging or how did you and partner decide you wanted to try it.

I definitely think it would have taken a lot to say to partner.

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By *idKnightMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

In a lot of cases (certainly mine) it comes out of discussing sexual fantasies with a partner. When you see that the same sort of thing turns them on too, it's a lot easier to have the conversation about whether or not it should remain a fantasy or to take it to the next level.

I'd have to say, if you don't feel able to have a discussion about fantasies, you're definitely not in a place where discussing swinging is a good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a cheating rat, after my confession and many many talks about sex not equaling love , we dabbled with many other things then found Fab.

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

M had already been involved in the lifestyle for years, from memory I think the subject came up on our first date.

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In a lot of cases (certainly mine) it comes out of discussing sexual fantasies with a partner. When you see that the same sort of thing turns them on too, it's a lot easier to have the conversation about whether or not it should remain a fantasy or to take it to the next level.

I'd have to say, if you don't feel able to have a discussion about fantasies, you're definitely not in a place where discussing swinging is a good idea "

This. We would dirty chat in bed about involving other people for months before we finally tried it. Best decision we ever made x

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By *irvana 212Couple
over a year ago

Renfrewshire


"In a lot of cases (certainly mine) it comes out of discussing sexual fantasies with a partner. When you see that the same sort of thing turns them on too, it's a lot easier to have the conversation about whether or not it should remain a fantasy or to take it to the next level.

I'd have to say, if you don't feel able to have a discussion about fantasies, you're definitely not in a place where discussing swinging is a good idea

This. We would dirty chat in bed about involving other people for months before we finally tried it. Best decision we ever made x"

pretty much how we approached it- i told mrs G i want to watch her with someone! i wasn’t even bothered about playing myself! i’d quite a

happily watch Mrs G and be happy but the deal was if i get to watch her she gets to watch me

who am i to say no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He knew I'd kissed women and found them attractive when we first got together. We'd watch porn and I'd always talk about how turned on the thought of exploring my sexuality made me (and he of course felt the same). We would discuss fantasies but never discussed going further.

A school mum friend mentioned being on Fab and we looked at the site, which got us thinking and talking about swinging. It probably took nearer a year of talking, exploring boundaries and preferences and reading about it before we actually looked for a meet of our own. After the initial mfmf meet we talked openly about what we liked and disliked, and so the next meet was amazing, ticked both our boxes.

Since then we've continued exploring our desires, both as singles and as a couple. We talk openly, and feel secure enough to say if we're uncomfortable with a situation.

It was never about trying to reignite anything, we were/are a very stable trusting couple, and communication is key!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With us it is all about being open with each other and being able to talk.

Talking between us was such a turn on saying what we would an would not do.

Like others have said it took some time after that but we went to a club where there was no pressure to join in.

It felt natural and naughty at the same time and we still get those feelings...

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