FabSwingers.com forum: Ghosted

By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

How many times would someone need to be stood up to consider giving up swinging.

I know it should be water off a ducks back but only human afterall.

Not asking for a friend unfortunately lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's happening often maybe you need to reconsider how you go about things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many times would someone need to be stood up to consider giving up swinging.

I know it should be water off a ducks back but only human afterall.

Not asking for a friend unfortunately lol

Silly buggers to ghost you

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By *weetpineapplesWoman
over a year ago

Fife

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By *weetpineapplesWoman
over a year ago

Fife

Surely it should be as simple as you arrange to meet and if you can't make it then you message to cancel or rearrange

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"If it's happening often maybe you need to reconsider how you go about things "

I have wondered but there's nothing I can really do different when the meet has already been arranged

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"How many times would someone need to be stood up to consider giving up swinging.

I know it should be water off a ducks back but only human afterall.

Not asking for a friend unfortunately lol

Silly buggers to ghost you"

Well thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The people only get one chance with me.

Not all people are the same so don’t leave because of someone ghosting you.

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"The people only get one chance with me.

Not all people are the same so don’t leave because of someone ghosting you.

Iv lost count how many times its happend. When iv arranged to meet and nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The people only get one chance with me.

Not all people are the same so don’t leave because of someone ghosting you.

Iv lost count how many times its happend. When iv arranged to meet and nothing.

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common on here.. bullet dodged..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it's happening often maybe you need to reconsider how you go about things

I have wondered but there's nothing I can really do different when the meet has already been arranged

Perhaps you could change something before that point

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"The people only get one chance with me.

Not all people are the same so don’t leave because of someone ghosting you.

Iv lost count how many times its happend. When iv arranged to meet and nothing.

common on here.. bullet dodged..

Who me or them? Lol

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"If it's happening often maybe you need to reconsider how you go about things

I have wondered but there's nothing I can really do different when the meet has already been arranged

Perhaps you could change something before that point "

Like agreeing to meet in the 1st place?

If they were put off by something then they shouldn't agree to meet

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Spend a larger portion of time on your vetting process unfortunately its you choosing these folk

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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago

South Fife

I have never been ghosted so not sure I can comment.... But I think I have a good nose for a fake which helps. My main criteria is must be verified... Hopefully at least twice and photo verified as well. Anyone who is on here weeks or more and hasn't even been photo verified I avoid. I do have other red flags but that's the main one.

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"Spend a larger portion of time on your vetting process unfortunately its you choosing these folk"

If I spent even longer then there's some I wouldn't be meeting for months, I don't get all that much spare time

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"I have never been ghosted so not sure I can comment.... But I think I have a good nose for a fake which helps. My main criteria is must be verified... Hopefully at least twice and photo verified as well. Anyone who is on here weeks or more and hasn't even been photo verified I avoid. I do have other red flags but that's the main one. "

Yep check. I'm not a newbie and have met some lovely people but for months now it's just constantly being let down no matter how decent I have found them

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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago

South Fife

Op I know you are really sexy as I had you on my hotlist so not sure why any one would ghost you. I do now have you on my block list which usuallye means I have messaged you and had no reply or a no thanks so I block so that I don't accidentally message you again... Or I really fancy you but am out of your age range so blocked to resist temptation to message you and pee you off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The people only get one chance with me.

Not all people are the same so don’t leave because of someone ghosting you.

Iv lost count how many times its happend. When iv arranged to meet and nothing.

common on here.. bullet dodged..

Who me or them? Lol

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lol you dodged the bullet their loss

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"The people only get one chance with me.

Not all people are the same so don’t leave because of someone ghosting you.

Iv lost count how many times its happend. When iv arranged to meet and nothing.

common on here.. bullet dodged..

Who me or them? Lol

lol you dodged the bullet their loss "

Ye I believe so too and thanks

Just difficult when I really don't have much free time so it's really frustrating that my time gets wasted so often

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"Spend a larger portion of time on your vetting process unfortunately its you choosing these folk

If I spent even longer then there's some I wouldn't be meeting for months, I don't get all that much spare time "
it's a balance I've spoken with folk for yrs before meeting or a few days. It's dependant on what your looking for if it's a quick fix unfortunately your going to be bombarded with wank bankers and fantisists those types don't do well with real conversation and giving verifiable info been here years and I've never arranged to meet someone and it hasn't happened but quick fix is not something I'd look for on fab there's nightclubs for that

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By *ane DTV/TS
over a year ago

Glasgow ish

"Spend a larger portion of time on your vetting process unfortunately its you choosing these folk

If I spent even longer then there's some I wouldn't be meeting for months, I don't get all that much spare time "

Know that all too well. Hence why I only meet at clubs or socials these days.

So many wank bankers and fanny tists

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"Op I know you are really sexy as I had you on my hotlist so not sure why any one would ghost you. I do now have you on my block list which usually means I have messaged you and had no reply or a no thanks so I block so that I don't accidentally message you again... Or I really fancy you but am out of your age range so blocked to resist temptation to message you and pee you off

Could be any number of things. If girls had to message everyone with a no thanks then we could be at it all day so I'm sorry about that if that's the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The people only get one chance with me.

Not all people are the same so don’t leave because of someone ghosting you.

Iv lost count how many times its happend. When iv arranged to meet and nothing.

common on here.. bullet dodged..

Who me or them? Lol

lol you dodged the bullet their loss

Ye I believe so too and thanks

Just difficult when I really don't have much free time so it's really frustrating that my time gets wasted so often "

Sounds like something has gotta give...if you keep doing what you've been doing, you'll get what you've been getting

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"Spend a larger portion of time on your vetting process unfortunately its you choosing these folk

If I spent even longer then there's some I wouldn't be meeting for months, I don't get all that much spare time

Know that all too well. Hence why I only meet at clubs or socials these days.

So many wank bankers and fanny tists"

Fanny tists... I like that

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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago

South Fife

Could be any number of things. If girls had to message everyone with a no thanks then we could be at it all day so I'm sorry about that if that's the case. "

No apologies needed. I have been here long enough to know how busy single ladies and couples are with messages. Totally understand... It is probably that I found you extremely attractive but was out of your age limit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm thinking it could be their kink, ghosting people is how they get their kicks.

Maybe it should be included on the interest options

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many times would someone need to be stood up to consider giving up swinging.

I know it should be water off a ducks back but only human afterall.

Not asking for a friend unfortunately lol

Sadly it’s the nature of this site lots of time wasters and keyboard fantasists. I’m sure there is little you can do to prevent this from happening. If you are short on time maybe a club or organised event would be a better option that way you know there will be people attending although not necessarily anybody you want to play with

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"I'm thinking it could be their kink, ghosting people is how they get their kicks.

Maybe it should be included on the interest options "

Oooooh interesting.... Getting their kicks knowing someone is wanting them and sitting waiting all scantily clad

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"How many times would someone need to be stood up to consider giving up swinging.

I know it should be water off a ducks back but only human afterall.

Not asking for a friend unfortunately lol

Ye iv tried a club but logistics mean I can't go every time I'm free

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It's just rude to stand up a lady without a legitimate reason, and any reason should be days in advance, not hours/minutes or nothing at all.

Don't give up, you'll find someone eventually, just do as I do, and always have backup plans, so your day isn't totally ruined.

Mandy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many times would someone need to be stood up to consider giving up swinging.

I know it should be water off a ducks back but only human afterall.

Not asking for a friend unfortunately lol

Silly buggers to ghost you"

This lol

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

"How many times would someone need to be stood up to consider giving up swinging.

I know it should be water off a ducks back but only human afterall.

Not asking for a friend unfortunately lol

Who are you arranging meetings with

I’m daft but not that daft

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"How many times would someone need to be stood up to consider giving up swinging.

I know it should be water off a ducks back but only human afterall.

Not asking for a friend unfortunately lol

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only you can decide when enough is enough I'm afraid.

Being ghosted is never nice but id rather be ghosted by a stranger I'd never met as its easier to get over than being ghosted by someone you've met several times then they just stop all contact.

Perhaps take some timeout for a few weeks then come back and see how things go.

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By *um4meMan
over a year ago

Scotland

"The people only get one chance with me.

Not all people are the same so don’t leave because of someone ghosting you.

Iv lost count how many times its happend. When iv arranged to meet and nothing.

common on here.. bullet dodged..

Who me or them? Lol

lol you dodged the bullet their loss "

Thank you for using the correct ‘their’ and not there or they’re. It made me happy to see the correct grammar.

OP - have you tried attending social events?

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"The people only get one chance with me.

Not all people are the same so don’t leave because of someone ghosting you.

Iv lost count how many times its happend. When iv arranged to meet and nothing.

common on here.. bullet dodged..

Who me or them? Lol

lol you dodged the bullet their loss

Thank you for using the correct ‘their’ and not there or they’re. It made me happy to see the correct grammar.

OP - have you tried attending social events?"

No as no socials near me

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By *um4meMan
over a year ago

Scotland

"The people only get one chance with me.

Not all people are the same so don’t leave because of someone ghosting you.

Iv lost count how many times its happend. When iv arranged to meet and nothing.

common on here.. bullet dodged..

Who me or them? Lol

lol you dodged the bullet their loss

Thank you for using the correct ‘their’ and not there or they’re. It made me happy to see the correct grammar.

OP - have you tried attending social events?

No as no socials near me "

I know @RonandVeronica tried to organise a Fife Social recently but sadly it didn’t quite take off. Perhaps Edinburgh would gain more commitment.

If all fails, give me a shout and we’ll organise a coffee

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"The people only get one chance with me.

Not all people are the same so don’t leave because of someone ghosting you.

Iv lost count how many times its happend. When iv arranged to meet and nothing.

common on here.. bullet dodged..

Who me or them? Lol

lol you dodged the bullet their loss

Thank you for using the correct ‘their’ and not there or they’re. It made me happy to see the correct grammar.

OP - have you tried attending social events?

No as no socials near me

I know @RonandVeronica tried to organise a Fife Social recently but sadly it didn’t quite take off. Perhaps Edinburgh would gain more commitment.

If all fails, give me a shout and we’ll organise a coffee

Ye I know, I talked with them. Fife Isent great for swinging compared to Glasgow and such like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was going to be attending the Fife social also, I stupidly thought it was going to go ahead and booked a hotel with no refund lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of these ghosters sit behind there curtains ,blinds laughing at you ,when you arrive at a meeting point,generally chat for a while over a week or so and then ask to chat on then phone ,if they won't chat ,it's probable they won't meet ,but even that is no guarantee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm thinking it could be their kink, ghosting people is how they get their kicks.

Maybe it should be included on the interest options

Oooooh interesting.... Getting their kicks knowing someone is wanting them and sitting waiting all scantily clad

I'd much rather be in the same room with a scantily clad woman

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

It’s happened to us a couple of times and it hasn’t put us off, just made us a little more wary when arranging a meet now

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"Some of these ghosters sit behind there curtains ,blinds laughing at you ,when you arrive at a meeting point,generally chat for a while over a week or so and then ask to chat on then phone ,if they won't chat ,it's probable they won't meet ,but even that is no guarantee"

I usually always meet but have never spoke to anyone on the phone and don't intend to either, doesn't mean I'm a time waster

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"It’s happened to us a couple of times and it hasn’t put us off, just made us a little more wary when arranging a meet now "

If it had only happened a couple of times that would be great, would be no issues but it's way more than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the time wasted that really that is really annoying ,and usually when you look back for them they have left the site , probably rejoin and continue with there silly behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had that a few times. Arrive and send a message, and no reply or knock on door and then get a blank look when I say the name I've been given. Don't know what people enjoy about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As real newbies not sure we can comment with any real conviction here.

However this has semi happened to us already on here.

Has taken a lot of Jeni and I to take this step and first few days on here spoke to a nice couple, sounded exactly what we might be looking for, Jeni was up for chatting to F half to see how it went then................nothing!!! I can see they are online etc but no responses nothing!

Just puts you off really, a simple not interested would be so much easier!!

Guess this happens a lot though with what you guys are saying?

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Not so much a ghosting but definitely a patching. Meant to meet for coffee this morning and he’s not returning my messages. I think he’s a fantasist and shit bag. Some men can’t cope with sexually confident women. Sounds ok in their head but when it comes to reality they panic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our or nay I say Mrs fav guy on here came from another guy ghosting us … so we were lucky x

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"Not so much a ghosting but definitely a patching. Meant to meet for coffee this morning and he’s not returning my messages. I think he’s a fantasist and shit bag. Some men can’t cope with sexually confident women. Sounds ok in their head but when it comes to reality they panic!"

Ye definitely this!

I get the vibe that they are intimadated by a confident woman or that better term, shitebag

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Ye definitely this!

I get the vibe that they are intimadated by a confident woman or that better term, shitebag

You are ing out the weak ones. They are doing you a favour by not turning up. Stay positive, remain confident and don’t let them get you down.xx

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Ye definitely this!

I get the vibe that they are intimadated by a confident woman or that better term, shitebag

You are ing out the weak ones. They are doing you a favour by not turning up. Stay positive, remain confident and don’t let them get you down.xx

W e e d ing…. Ffs fab!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many times would someone need to be stood up to consider giving up swinging.

I know it should be water off a ducks back but only human afterall.

Not asking for a friend unfortunately lol

It’s hard for us couples to meet a single woman and yet people are standing people up wow

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Fife is quiet. They'd be stupid to let you down.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Confident, know what they want women, I find very attractive. I always make my meets.....it would have to an issue with one of my children to make me cancel.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"How many times would someone need to be stood up to consider giving up swinging.

I know it should be water off a ducks back but only human afterall.

Not asking for a friend unfortunately lol

Unfortunately it happens to most of us at some point. We've been ghosted a couple times in the past fortnight, and will no doubt have the same happen again. C'est la vie.

That doesn't make it right or condone it, but I say that merely to tell you that you are not alone.

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By *innettMan
over a year ago

scotland

Generally I have to take the ones who ghost you arnt seriouse about ever actually meeting up anyway and just want a thrill of messaging and pretending..

I just wish people were honest at the start about what they wanted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who in their right mind would ghost you? Thats crazy.. your bloody amazing

I agree fife is awful compared to Edinburgh, Glasgow & Perth etc for swinging x

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"Who in their right mind would ghost you? Thats crazy.. your bloody amazing

I agree fife is awful compared to Edinburgh, Glasgow & Perth etc for swinging x"

Wow, fab really does confuse me.

We have chatted a couple times, even added to friends once and kik twice... Then nothing lol

And then you keep having the cheek to comment on your status about no one meeting lol

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Who in their right mind would ghost you? Thats crazy.. your bloody amazing

I agree fife is awful compared to Edinburgh, Glasgow & Perth etc for swinging x

Wow, fab really does confuse me.

We have chatted a couple times, even added to friends once and kik twice... Then nothing lol

And then you keep having the cheek to comment on your status about no one meeting lol "

Wow if this were a guy commenting the very same. There would have been a barrage of folk telling him...women have preferences...we don't owe anyone a meet...we can change our minds at any time...men are so entitled...single men are desperate...men after any holes a goal.

Well there we have it if you are a guy and a woman wants you then you don't have a choice

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"Who in their right mind would ghost you? Thats crazy.. your bloody amazing

I agree fife is awful compared to Edinburgh, Glasgow & Perth etc for swinging x

Wow, fab really does confuse me.

We have chatted a couple times, even added to friends once and kik twice... Then nothing lol

And then you keep having the cheek to comment on your status about no one meeting lol

Well there we have it if you are a guy and a woman wants you then you don't have a choice

I'm confused by this?

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"Who in their right mind would ghost you? Thats crazy.. your bloody amazing

I agree fife is awful compared to Edinburgh, Glasgow & Perth etc for swinging x

Wow, fab really does confuse me.

We have chatted a couple times, even added to friends once and kik twice... Then nothing lol

And then you keep having the cheek to comment on your status about no one meeting lol

Well there we have it if you are a guy and a woman wants you then you don't have a choice

If it's aimed at me then my point is of course anyone can change their mind and no I'm not owed anything. Just think it's quite rude not to tell the person who has taking time out their day to meet that specific person that they have changed their mind.

And I'm merely asking how many times would you put up with it before you called it a day

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"Who in their right mind would ghost you? Thats crazy.. your bloody amazing

I agree fife is awful compared to Edinburgh, Glasgow & Perth etc for swinging x

Wow, fab really does confuse me.

We have chatted a couple times, even added to friends once and kik twice... Then nothing lol

And then you keep having the cheek to comment on your status about no one meeting lol

Well there we have it if you are a guy and a woman wants you then you don't have a choice

And I didn't once say about having no choice or being entitled. Just a shame there's not enough people with common decency to atleast let them know, it's not difficult to not be an arsehole and let the person know so they can go about their day.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I went through a period of meets being cancelled. It became a bit of a joke. Cancelled due to the snow, then flooding and then the same guy had an accident playing with his kids. I know that’s not the same as being ghosted but I was having meets cancelled all the time.

Why not organise a social meet for a mix of people at a local coffee shop or pub. That way you’re bound to have someone turn up. I have a regular social at a pub quiz and it’s a great way to meet people.

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"I went through a period of meets being cancelled. It became a bit of a joke. Cancelled due to the snow, then flooding and then the same guy had an accident playing with his kids. I know that’s not the same as being ghosted but I was having meets cancelled all the time.

If people can't show for sex I doubt they would for a social but who knows lol

But I get very limited free time so usually like to get the best out of my time.

Just wished they would cancel instead of a no show.

Iv met alot of nice people aswell and had a social with a couple the other day which we have now made plans but sometimes I'm after more

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Oooh confusing looks like the resurrector died themselves.

I wouldn’t want to count my meet rate as an indicator of my personality anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me once on a proper date. Really is incredibly rude. I think anyone with a shred of decency would let you know they couldn’t make a meet

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"Happened to me once on a proper date. Really is incredibly rude. I think anyone with a shred of decency would let you know they couldn’t make a meet "

Absolutely agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was absolutely livid as I was pretty busy at the time and took time out to meet someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess you need to have heard from the other person at all before it technically counts as ghosting.

That being the case, we can’t really comment at this stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had the opportunity to be ghosted yet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, happened to me recently too. Messages, kik, lots chat & arrange to meet. I spend tine getting ready, picking outfit etc then....nothing.

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"I guess you need to have heard from the other person at all before it technically counts as ghosting.

That being the case, we can’t really comment at this stage."

Well hopefully doesn't happen as its not nice but atleast couples have each other to play with if it does I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are weird....finding alot love the chat ...dont actually want to meet...

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"I guess you need to have heard from the other person at all before it technically counts as ghosting.

That being the case, we can’t really comment at this stage."

That would be cancelling. Or if you hear from them after the set date it's (usually lame) excuses. Ghosting really is what it says on the tin, they do a disappearing trick and you hear nothing.

Looks like OP turned things around though and met some decent folk recently! Good for you

I stick to swingers clubs, parties and clubs. One on one meets do tend to fall through and I'm not wasting my time on them anymore x

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"People are weird....finding alot love the chat ...dont actually want to meet..."

Yes definitely. Not sure why they would arrange the meet in the first place though or not bother cancelling

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

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"I guess you need to have heard from the other person at all before it technically counts as ghosting.

That being the case, we can’t really comment at this stage.

That would be cancelling. Or if you hear from them after the set date it's (usually lame) excuses. Ghosting really is what it says on the tin, they do a disappearing trick and you hear nothing.

Looks like OP turned things around though and met some decent folk recently! Good for you

I stick to swingers clubs, parties and clubs. One on one meets do tend to fall through and I'm not wasting my time on them anymore x"

Thankyou

Yes fortunately there are some lovely people and found going to clubs certainly helped meet some genuine people

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

fife

"Yep, happened to me recently too. Messages, kik, lots chat & arrange to meet. I spend tine getting ready, picking outfit etc then....nothing.

Its really not nice when you make the effort, good opportunity to take some nice pics though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was chatting away to someone and they just stopped replying, I found it very annoying and a bit rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens not everyone is decent enough to either go through with a meet or cancle, then there's the idiots that get off on making you wait and don't show. So why stop having fun because of a few idiots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Travelled 40miles for a forum user only to be totally blanked when I got to the venue.. total wankpiece

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Travelled 40miles for a forum user only to be totally blanked when I got to the venue.. total wankpiece "

That's bad!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met someone on here in 2019, stayed in touch right up to about 4 months ago and he came off Fab. Never told me, never got in touch on Kik either and no email. I sent a couple of messages and sweet fuck all. I have my suspicions as to why he did it but I'll never know for sure. Don't care anymore though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Travelled 40miles for a forum user only to be totally blanked when I got to the venue.. total wankpiece "

Omg what a rude f#cker

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By *cotlosthiskiltMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Yep, happened to me recently too. Messages, kik, lots chat & arrange to meet. I spend tine getting ready, picking outfit etc then....nothing.

Think that's the worst part for women, spending the time getting ready and wasting make up etc. Fortunately most guys only waste 20mins or less showering and getting ready.

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By *4Fun11Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Nowt as queer as folk, especially the folk on here

Seems to be happening more and more or maybe just that ppl it’s happened to are more vocal about it.

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Met someone on here in 2019, stayed in touch right up to about 4 months ago and he came off Fab. Never told me, never got in touch on Kik either and no email. I sent a couple of messages and sweet fuck all. I have my suspicions as to why he did it but I'll never know for sure. Don't care anymore though x"

That's bloody rediculous!

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Nowt as queer as folk, especially the folk on here

Seems to be happening more and more or maybe just that ppl it’s happened to are more vocal about it.

I never had any issues like that before covid

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By *unandfrolics25Couple
over a year ago

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It screws it up for the genuine people.

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By *ruetothisMan
over a year ago

Agreed. It’s getting to a point where I’m thinking of finding alternatives as a lot of time wasting and not just from new chat. All for if not interested but the weeks of chat to be ghosted gets tedious. An explanation of ‘changed my mind’ wouldn’t even bother me

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Agreed. It’s getting to a point where I’m thinking of finding alternatives as a lot of time wasting and not just from new chat. All for if not interested but the weeks of chat to be ghosted gets tedious. An explanation of ‘changed my mind’ wouldn’t even bother me

I'm finding it's the same on other platforms aswell

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By *ruetothisMan
over a year ago

Ah really. Certainly noticed even over the last few months that it’s more wastes of time or random profiles than genuine people these days.

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By *ueen Cat OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Ah really. Certainly noticed even over the last few months that it’s more wastes of time or random profiles than genuine people these days. "

Ye it's pretty bad. Best thing Iv done is start going to a club, met some really lovely people. Hopefully start being more social aswell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Folk say not bothered but it does bother some. It’s not nice, Iv had it a few times, good convo’s even the odd social and then poffttt gone into thin air.

Ach well

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By *otwifedundeeWoman
over a year ago

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"How many times would someone need to be stood up to consider giving up swinging.

I know it should be water off a ducks back but only human afterall.

Not asking for a friend unfortunately lol

I’ve had exactly the same trouble. They seem to like the flirty chat etc then vanish before anything else

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By *otwifedundeeWoman
over a year ago

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Very well said, exactly what I think too

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over a year ago

"How many times would someone need to be stood up to consider giving up swinging.

I know it should be water off a ducks back but only human afterall.

Not asking for a friend unfortunately lol

I’ve had exactly the same trouble. They seem to like the flirty chat etc then vanish before anything else "

There’s an element of truth in “the chase is better than the catch” it does feel good but why not go through with it to the end and then feel good about the catch. I don’t get it, I used to just think ahh there (couples & females) bottle has gone but it happens so often now I’m starting to think otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It screws it up for the genuine people."

I don't think so, takes a bit longer but if what's for you won't go by you. I've noþ met a lot of folk bur the ones I have met have been worth it.

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