FabSwingers.com forum: Does your own figure matter to you?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you ever browse others who look very attractive but you do not go further as you feel YOU are not attractive enough or out of shape?

On the other hand do you always try and think they can only say no?

I just wondered how much credence do you give to the way you look or feel about yourself and how much it holds you back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see others pic and can admire how they look.. but it doesnt bother me what others think of my body shape, personality etc.. We can't be everyone's cuppa.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I see others pic and can admire how they look.. but it doesnt bother me what others think of my body shape, personality etc.. We can't be everyone's cuppa.

It's not so much what they think of you, it is more of what you think of yourself and does what you think put you off contacting others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally like to look after myself but I'm not sure being fit on here puts some women off.

I personally like women a bit older and with some body weight or curvy nothing worse than nothing to hold on too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see others pic and can admire how they look.. but it doesnt bother me what others think of my body shape, personality etc.. We can't be everyone's cuppa.

It's not so much what they think of you, it is more of what you think of yourself and does what you think put you off contacting others.

oops sorry.. No, it wouldn't put me off messaging others, if they say "not my type" . im ok with that..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve passed on sending a message to people as I felt they were better looking than me. However, I’m usually more influenced by looking at their verifications. If they have a bunch of people that are very different from me - eg, 6ft, 6 packs Then I’ll assume I wouldn’t be their type, they are looking for a particular look or ‘attractiveness’ that I don’t fit.

But I still think if you’re not sure, but you think it would be a good connection, then go for it. Like everyone I’m self critical of my own looks but you don’t know if you don’t ask.

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I’m quite confident, regardless of my fat arse and my mum tum. I wouldnt worry about approaching someone I liked the look of. If they say no, I’m okay with it. As SC said, can’t be everyone’s cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a Dad Bod these days however I still have my rugby muscular thighs.

I used to hate the way I look and quite often thought that people on here may not like what that see and that would put them off.

Now I just embrace the way I am. I’m happy with what I have and I fully understand that I’m not going to be everyone’s type, just like I understand that they may not be my type.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Do you ever browse others who look very attractive but you do not go further as you feel YOU are not attractive enough or out of shape?

On the other hand do you always try and think they can only say no?

I just wondered how much credence do you give to the way you look or feel about yourself and how much it holds you back? "

I would judge it more on people they have already met and what their profile says they are looking for

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"I have a Dad Bod these days however I still have my rugby muscular thighs.

I used to hate the way I look and quite often thought that people on here may not like what that see and that would put them off.

Now I just embrace the way I am. I’m happy with what I have and I fully understand that I’m not going to be everyone’s type, just like I understand that they may not be my type.

So are we going to see these thighs then?

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By *weetpineapplesWoman
over a year ago

Fife

It holds me back ye. I'm pretty confident but if I think someone is out of my league _ased on how they look( for example a fit body) then I'm unlikely to try, just as I wouldn't if I was in the pub so here is no different to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I would say it definitely holds me back, I often think I can't message them they won't get back to me

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

I'm here predominantly for the craic, so it likely wouldn't stop me messaging someone. If, however, the connection was particularly good and it progressed onto a potential meet, I'd start to worry that I couldn't hold my wee pot belly in and stand at beneficial angles for as long as I do to take a photae. In this scenario I'd be tempted to point out my interests listed on my profile.

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By *he_Wite_NiteMan
over a year ago

Usually Dundee and around

"I’m quite confident, regardless of my fat arse and my mum tum. I wouldnt worry about approaching someone I liked the look of. If they say no, I’m okay with it. As SC said, can’t be everyone’s cup of tea.

It's funny isn't it, because first time I saw your sexy pics I thought "She's well out of my league!"

It was only through some banter and flirting on the forums that I dared to message you.

I think many of us often assume we won't be of interest, when we might...

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

It's funny isn't it, because first time I saw your sexy pics I thought "She's well out of my league!"

It was only through some banter and flirting on the forums that I dared to message you.

I think many of us often assume we won't be of interest, when we might..."

Personality goes a long way. Being able to click with someone and feel at ease chatting to them is essential.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm confident in my body but wouldn't give it another thought if someone said no to me or vice versa. Opposites attract but not everyone on here are going to be attracted to each other so I don't worry about it x

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By *he_Wite_NiteMan
over a year ago

Usually Dundee and around

Personality goes a long way. Being able to click with someone and feel at ease chatting to them is essential.

So what you are saying is looks wise I'm "meh", but a have a "nice" personality....

Thanks!

lol

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Personality goes a long way. Being able to click with someone and feel at ease chatting to them is essential.

So what you are saying is looks wise I'm "meh", but a have a "nice" personality....

Thanks!

lol"

No, if you looked like Swen from Frozen I wouldn’t still be talking to you

What I’m saying is having a good rapport with someone is important, if they are aesthetically pleasing then one would be more likely to jump their bones. Less so if you looked like a moose!

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By *ecret_pleasure4UMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Yeah I most certainly do. I never used to feel that way when I joined the site many many moons ago but I feel insecurity has slowly crept into my mind.

Dont get me wrong, I think I have good chat but an incredible body is something I am definitely lacking.

Ive got good calves though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope as there is no league in fab

Only sexual compatibility

It’s one off the meny wonders off fab life

People from all walks off life and shapes and sizes and beauty

Can be with each other

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Just to say - Sven is reindeer, no a moose, and reindeer's are better than people. Both are pretty horny, though.

Knight - she likes you, predominantly, because of your big white lance.

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Just to say - Sven is reindeer, no a moose, and reindeer's are better than people. Both are pretty horny, though.

Knight - she likes you, predominantly, because of your big white lance. "

you are better at the Disney stuff, I don’t watch it as much now! I believe you.

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

"I see others pic and can admire how they look.. but it doesnt bother me what others think of my body shape, personality etc.. We can't be everyone's cuppa.

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I agree with you sweet cheeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see others pic and can admire how they look.. but it doesnt bother me what others think of my body shape, personality etc.. We can't be everyone's cuppa.

I agree with you sweet cheeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a Dad Bod these days however I still have my rugby muscular thighs.

I used to hate the way I look and quite often thought that people on here may not like what that see and that would put them off.

Now I just embrace the way I am. I’m happy with what I have and I fully understand that I’m not going to be everyone’s type, just like I understand that they may not be my type.

So are we going to see these thighs then?

I’ll private message you a pic or three

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I read a profile that says only interested in meeting athletic body slim good looking, il no message them for sure, for me beauty is within someone no out il no meet ppl who act as shallow as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I’m generally happy with my body.

I’d like to lose my dad belly, but I chocolate too much! …… so long as I can still see my toes when looking down

I would hope everyone loves their bodies. They each have story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could do with toning up a bit but I can’t complain at all really

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

I'm fat, I always have been, I don't intend to be fat forever, but I am.

Fab and fet are the only two places where I'm conscious of my body, I find because these are more community _ased you openly see a lot more opinions about what people value.

Let me say however, I've never not messaged someone because of how I look. My self worth shouldn't be _ased on how much I weigh, and most of the time it isn't. But because of the nature of fab, I do get hate comments directed at the way I look and that isn't fun.

I can see why many other people would think twice before sending a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *haifuarMan
over a year ago

Dumbarton

"If I read a profile that says only interested in meeting athletic body slim good looking, il no message them for sure, for me beauty is within someone no out il no meet ppl who act as shallow as that "

Nothing shallow about having preferences. I'm turned on by athleticism and particular characteristics that might not be a turn on for someone else. You could equally call someone shallow if all they care about are the personality traits that constitute "beauty within".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever browse others who look very attractive but you do not go further as you feel YOU are not attractive enough or out of shape?

On the other hand do you always try and think they can only say no?

I just wondered how much credence do you give to the way you look or feel about yourself and how much it holds you back? "
No not really,I think you get to a certain age were you realise you are who you are, take me or leave me , But preferably take me off course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always thought I was confident in myself. That's diminished significantly in the past few months.

I would never message anyone with the body of an Adonis or if they're verified by women with the body of a goddess!!!

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By *haifuarMan
over a year ago

Dumbarton

"I always thought I was confident in myself. That's diminished significantly in the past few months.

I would never message anyone with the body of an Adonis or if they're verified by women with the body of a goddess!!!

I wouldn't be put off. Its surprising the multitude of sins that are covered up by filters, effective camera angles and a bit of arty black and white x

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

"I always thought I was confident in myself. That's diminished significantly in the past few months.

I would never message anyone with the body of an Adonis or if they're verified by women with the body of a goddess!!!

Oh yeah that is very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Psml someone shallow cos they are attracted to nice kind respectful honest people...really

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By *eachcplCouple
over a year ago

blackpool/preston/normandy france

In the words of the song

"I am what I am"

If you don't like what you see then move on. It doesn't bother me.

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By *est lothian ladMan
over a year ago

glasgow

As i see it im not everyone's cup of tea some people prefer coffee so why worry lol some people like to try diff things and when they do they enjoy it so just take it as it cums variety is the spice of life!buts sorry ladies its cock all the way for me! That's one thing im defo not trying! Lol happy fabbing! Id like to try pipeworks if anyones want to show me the ropes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I see someone who is ripped to bits and straight out of a magazine I'll assume (sometimes incorrectly) that they're looking for similar and I may not be their type.

Me not being their type isn't a way of putting myself or anyone else down. Just different folk like different things and we should respect that.

I've had younger guys from couples message me who were interested and then saw pics of their OH and thought "ffs. Why the fuck do they want an old bint when they have a 25yr gorgeous lassie on their arm?"

I'm too old to particularly care what anyone thinks of my appearance though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is a brilliant topic to discuss and see where we all land.

I’m critical of myself however I’ve made huge changes over the last year that I’m more happy with where I am.

Body image is so much harder for women but we are all different shapes and sizes. I am seeing more guys being shy and often making slight excuses for having a ‘dad bod’ which I wish they would stop as women do quite like that. Love yo’selves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always thought I was confident in myself. That's diminished significantly in the past few months.

I would never message anyone with the body of an Adonis or if they're verified by women with the body of a goddess!!!

You've got a cracking wee bod. You should be confident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always thought I was confident in myself. That's diminished significantly in the past few months.

I would never message anyone with the body of an Adonis or if they're verified by women with the body of a goddess!!!

I think I’m gonna break a forum rule but it is for a reason, when we spoke briefly mind I said you’re just far to harsh on yourself…well you are.

I think you have an amazing figure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always thought I was confident in myself. That's diminished significantly in the past few months.

I would never message anyone with the body of an Adonis or if they're verified by women with the body of a goddess!!!

You've got a cracking wee bod. You should be confident

Awww, thanks! I genuinely appreciate it!

You have a gorgeous bod too!!

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

"I always thought I was confident in myself. That's diminished significantly in the past few months.

I would never message anyone with the body of an Adonis or if they're verified by women with the body of a goddess!!!

You've got a cracking wee bod. You should be confident

Awww, thanks! I genuinely appreciate it!

You have a gorgeous bod too!!

Gosh you two, get a room

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By *est lothian ladMan
over a year ago

glasgow

I love dad bods i love nice hairy cuddly chunky guys to muscles and 6 packs

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By *anderMan
over a year ago

Perth

Absolutely, I think that all the time, but I don’t know that I’m not their type, so it doesn’t stop me, I’ll still say hiya.

If you only look for gems you’ll miss the diamonds

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By *inasparklesWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

In my eyes no one is better than anyone. I'm fat and proud of it. I'd meet and talk to anyone regardless of how they look as I have respect for them and myself. If someone wouldn't meet me due to my size to me that's more about there insecurities than mine. Beauty is about the full package not the wrapper! If people want to train and go to the gym. So be it but doesn't make them better than me. Just as I'm no better sitting my fat arse in front of the tele eating a Chinese. Each to there own. Amen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've come to learn a lot about what I think of myself over the last 2 years and since coming on here. I used to believe in the premise of a guy being out of my league but now I say anyone's fair game.

I used to have zero confidence but now I can say I love myself enough to go for it with any guy. If a guy isn't interested it's no longer the 'I'm ugly, I'm this, I'm that' it's purely I'm not his type and that's absolutely 100% okay

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By *haifuarMan
over a year ago

Dumbarton

"Psml someone shallow cos they are attracted to nice kind respectful honest people...really "

Like I said, it's preferences. Some people like people who treat them like shit. Some people like kind people. To imply that attraction _ased on emotional attachment is more authentic than physical attraction is missing the point. Nobody has the moral high ground to call anyone else shallow - we all have our tastes and preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Psml someone shallow cos they are attracted to nice kind respectful honest people...really

Jeez wonder how many official complaints to ofcom you've made....

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I'm confident in my body but wouldn't give it another thought if someone said no to me or vice versa. Opposites attract but not everyone on here are going to be attracted to each other so I don't worry about it x"

Saved me typing. Ta x

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By *haifuarMan
over a year ago

Dumbarton

"Jeez wonder how many official complaints to ofcom you've made...."

Is this an example of the kind and respectful behaviour you've mentioned?

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I didn’t appreciate my figure when I was younger (usual teenage insecurities) however I love my body shape these days it’s just the insulation wrapped all around me thats not exactly required now

Although to be fair it does make me more huggable I’ve been told

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you get older your body gives you more things to think about other than what it looks like. You start to wonder which bit will go wonky next. Having said that age also gives you the confidence you maybe didn't have when you were younger. You appreciate yourself more and see what a waste of precious time it is to be hung up on perceived imperfections. I wish I'd had this mind set when I was younger and paid no attention to the people who judged and criticised. I prefer to concentrate my thoughts on the bits that are good and would urge others to do the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely holds me back sometimes but if they show attraction to me then I normally work that out and get more confident. My approaching game needs work for sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very insecure about my body! I do feel "inadequate" when M fabs women's pics who have nice slim figures. I know I shouldn't, as he loves me for me, bumps and all, sometimes you can't help it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm very insecure about my body! I do feel "inadequate" when M fabs women's pics who have nice slim figures. I know I shouldn't, as he loves me for me, bumps and all, sometimes you can't help it though.

J you look fantastic and have nothing to worry about although I guess it’s in our human nature to worry a little

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

J you look fantastic and have nothing to worry about although I guess it’s in our human nature to worry a little

Awww thank you, I'm sure M feels like that too at times I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

J you look fantastic and have nothing to worry about although I guess it’s in our human nature to worry a little

Awww thank you, I'm sure M feels like that too at times I suppose "

I'd sell my first born for your boobs. Wee bee stings here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

J you look fantastic and have nothing to worry about although I guess it’s in our human nature to worry a little

Awww thank you, I'm sure M feels like that too at times I suppose

I'd sell my first born for your boobs. Wee bee stings here

That's a bit extreme! Hahaha but thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

J you look fantastic and have nothing to worry about although I guess it’s in our human nature to worry a little

Awww thank you, I'm sure M feels like that too at times I suppose

I'd sell my first born for your boobs. Wee bee stings here

That's a bit extreme! Hahaha but thank you "

I wouldn’t say no to being between Miss Muff and J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

J you look fantastic and have nothing to worry about although I guess it’s in our human nature to worry a little

Awww thank you, I'm sure M feels like that too at times I suppose

I'd sell my first born for your boobs. Wee bee stings here

That's a bit extreme! Hahaha but thank you

I wouldn’t say no to being between Miss Muff and J

Who said we needed a filling in our sandwich?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

J you look fantastic and have nothing to worry about although I guess it’s in our human nature to worry a little

Awww thank you, I'm sure M feels like that too at times I suppose

I'd sell my first born for your boobs. Wee bee stings here

That's a bit extreme! Hahaha but thank you

I wouldn’t say no to being between Miss Muff and J

Who said we needed a filling in our sandwich?

well damn there goes that dream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

J you look fantastic and have nothing to worry about although I guess it’s in our human nature to worry a little

Awww thank you, I'm sure M feels like that too at times I suppose

I'd sell my first born for your boobs. Wee bee stings here

That's a bit extreme! Hahaha but thank you

I wouldn’t say no to being between Miss Muff and J

Who said we needed a filling in our sandwich?

Okay then where do I fit into this sandwich?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

J you look fantastic and have nothing to worry about although I guess it’s in our human nature to worry a little

Awww thank you, I'm sure M feels like that too at times I suppose

I'd sell my first born for your boobs. Wee bee stings here

That's a bit extreme! Hahaha but thank you

I wouldn’t say no to being between Miss Muff and J

Who said we needed a filling in our sandwich?

Okay then where do I fit into this sandwich?

We’ll just grab a box of beer and watch the tv or something M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

J you look fantastic and have nothing to worry about although I guess it’s in our human nature to worry a little

Awww thank you, I'm sure M feels like that too at times I suppose

I'd sell my first born for your boobs. Wee bee stings here

That's a bit extreme! Hahaha but thank you

I wouldn’t say no to being between Miss Muff and J

Who said we needed a filling in our sandwich?

Okay then where do I fit into this sandwich?

You might get a crust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saved me typing. Ta x"

Lol just what are you implying? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

J you look fantastic and have nothing to worry about although I guess it’s in our human nature to worry a little

Awww thank you, I'm sure M feels like that too at times I suppose

I'd sell my first born for your boobs. Wee bee stings here

That's a bit extreme! Hahaha but thank you

I wouldn’t say no to being between Miss Muff and J

Who said we needed a filling in our sandwich?

Okay then where do I fit into this sandwich?

You might get a crust

I'm definitely up for a club sandwich

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps he'll be a bit more sensitive to your feelings if he sees this comment

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Saved me typing. Ta x

That I agree with your outlook.

Lol just what are you implying? x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It definitely holds me back from messaging people as I’m not that confident about my body but that’s my problem not theirs

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Zero credance to my appearance that's not to say I don't enjoy clothing and taking care of myself for me.

Nobody is out my league as there is no such thing there are folk I'm incompatible with

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By *haifuarMan
over a year ago

Dumbarton

"Nobody is out my league as there is no such thing there are folk I'm incompatible with "

Are you saying there's no such thing as someone you're incompatible with?

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"Nobody is out my league as there is no such thing there are folk I'm incompatible with

Are you saying there's no such thing as someone you're incompatible with? "
there is no such thing as leagues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at a few men sometimes and might be tempted, until I see that; the women they have met before means that I'm definitely not their type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps he'll be a bit more sensitive to your feelings if he sees this comment "

He has read it and has said that he sometimes feels that way too, so it just shows it's not just is women...

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By *dglasgow30TV/TS
over a year ago

glasgow

I used to be confident with my figure up until lockdown . Now hate my body as struggling to get rid of the lockdown pounds

When I see a fit person I normally check meets to see what their previous meets look like and to see if I have a chance . Normally I just sulk away in self pity lol x

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By *riti PearWoman
over a year ago

Paisley

I’m usually a very confident person, but since putting on weight, I do find myself being more self conscious when messaging people and much prefer winking them to see if they respond. But if I’m not for someone, that’s fine. Not everyone is my cup of tea either.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Finances are important

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Do you ever browse others who look very attractive but you do not go further as you feel YOU are not attractive enough or out of shape?

On the other hand do you always try and think they can only say no?

I just wondered how much credence do you give to the way you look or feel about yourself and how much it holds you back? "
No !

After being on here many years I've learnt that many people like many things .

Leagues only exist in people's minds .

If two people click then why the hell not!?

Life is to short for standing still

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By *haifuarMan
over a year ago

Dumbarton

"Finances are important "

What the actual?

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By *ill-Ian KissesCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere over there

Yes my figure matters to me as despite being chatty, friendly (occasionally flirty

) and some of my outfits, I have self-confidence issues.

Weight has changed over the years and my aim this whole summer was to be happy with pics of myself, should we get our holiday (which we did!)… I’m going to look back and decide if I reached that goal or not but think I still have a way to go.

Like others who’ve mentioned they have a partner, mine does say the right things and is honest about what looks good on me, which helps as I’d rather the truth.

I think sometimes I see some folk at the club or online and think they are good looking (whether M/F/TV/Other) but wouldn’t approach them as I think I’m not what they’re after.

I value personality first as I’d need to get on with that person (and vice versa) before entering the thought of playing

but I am mindful of how my body shape is should/when we get to that stage

and I’m sure some ppl will say I’m jumping the gun which is possible, but that’s the way I think.

Millie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally have body confidence issues but being on here has made me feel better about myself, still don't like it but just need to deal with it

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By *plofsinnersCouple
over a year ago

Haddington

I know i have a great body. However pics of my face depend on what angle

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By *eterjamesmcMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Aw youre stunning millie x

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By *oloris obsequiumWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm generally quite confident but yes I would say being a bit body conscious naked probably does hold me back with the super fit folk.

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By *oxyFemme72Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I kinda wish I was more in shape but I kinda live to enjoy myself.

However, I'm a total hypocrite because I like a guy who hasn't let himself go. Bit of a dad bod is ok but no more.

So in answer to your question, no. I'm happy to directly message guys I'm drawn to. I think people here are more open minded and know that sexual is a strange thing.... Even if a guy looks buff or trim I know there's a good chance he wouldn't resist me - ha!

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By *oxyFemme72Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Ps great post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im very conscious and i wouldnt meet anyone ripped as they obviously take care of themselves and i wouldnt feel comfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I've had a total crisis and absolutely can't stand the sight of myself at the moment. People say things and struggling to just let it go and laugh it off right now. It's tough

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian

All the time. I'm not choosy over others' body type, but I'm heavily critical of my own. I don't feel good enough for a huge chunk of this site. My issue though, people mostly don't make me feel that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, I do this a lot. Totally backed out of a chat with someone I really fancied because of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very interesting thread, we are both very self critical and would prefer to meet with people with similar body types to ourselves. Ripped people would just make us both feel really self conscious! We realise that this is our problem rather than other people but it does hold us back a bit. That is why we like to post pics on fab and gauge the reactions xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To all the folk being hard on themselves, just remember, no amount of muscles or pert tits can make up for a completely shite personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To all the folk being hard on themselves, just remember, no amount of muscles or pert tits can make up for a completely shite personality. "

Pmsl

ain’t that the truth

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By *ill-Ian KissesCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere over there

"Aw youre stunning millie x"

Aww shucks

Millie x

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By *4Fun11Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"To all the folk being hard on themselves, just remember, no amount of muscles or pert tits can make up for a completely shite personality. "

You tell em!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"To all the folk being hard on themselves, just remember, no amount of muscles or pert tits can make up for a completely shite personality. "
100% agree

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By *riti PearWoman
over a year ago

Paisley

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By *riti PearWoman
over a year ago

Paisley

"To all the folk being hard on themselves, just remember, no amount of muscles or pert tits can make up for a completely shite personality. "

True x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take me as I am , my ugly bits and lovely bits , we all have both .

x penny

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"To all the folk being hard on themselves, just remember, no amount of muscles or pert tits can make up for a completely shite personality. "

Poetry.....we weren't all given hero bods, but we were all given the ability to be genuine, caring and fun. Size and shape doesn't matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh definitely, I hate my body and slowly working on it but it totally puts me off meeting a lot of people.

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By *ry me and seeMan
over a year ago

tyrone

Exactly if its meant to be itll happen. Self esteem issues come from thinking what others think and we've NO idea what they think.enjoy it and move on.

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By *scobar67Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I would never be put off messaging a girl because she has a nice figure... But yes I try to keep myself in shape.. Purely because I enjoy going to the gym and swimming.

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By *auraGlasgow123Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Do you ever browse others who look very attractive but you do not go further as you feel YOU are not attractive enough or out of shape?

On the other hand do you always try and think they can only say no?

I just wondered how much credence do you give to the way you look or feel about yourself and how much it holds you back? "

All the time! I’m a plus size woman with a slightly hippie look - not a typical sex goddess - and I’m always put off contacting people because I think I won’t be their cup of tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m unapologetically me. I’m really small in height so when my weight changes so does the size of my arse

I wouldn’t be bothered about mailing anyone if I thought we’d get on. If he/she doesn’t like the look of me then that’s cool. I am most definitely not for everyone!

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By *igGs19Woman
over a year ago

Castle Douglas

I don't overly fit into a category. I'm "plus size" but carry my weight in a way that I don't tick the BBW box. But I am undeniably fat, so it doesn't work for those who want the slim/toned body. There's also a lot of profiles on here who are very, full of their own importance shall we say? When some state "don't message unless you're young, slim, attractive" etc. Impossible to know where you fit in. So yeah, given I don't have my more interesting pictures set publicly, I'll tend to not respond (/delete) messages from people that I think are too attractive for me / unlikely to be attracted to me once they see the other pics. I feel deleting and not responding saves myself the embarrassment. Probably not a healthy mental status I admit! But it is what it is.

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By *obertELeeMan
over a year ago

Montrose

My figure matters to me.If I did nae have it my breaks would fa doon

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By *otterabzMan
over a year ago

Ellon

Am having serious self confidence issues due to my lock down weight that I’ve put on, which has really got me down lately. But ironically, the cuddly dad bod body which I currently have is what I look for in a man

I know we all like different things, and it really doesn’t bother me if someone doesn’t like the way I look. I just need to learn to like how I look myself lol. Am working on it

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I don't overly fit into a category. I'm "plus size" but carry my weight in a way that I don't tick the BBW box. But I am undeniably fat, so it doesn't work for those who want the slim/toned body. There's also a lot of profiles on here who are very, full of their own importance shall we say? When some state "don't message unless you're young, slim, attractive" etc. Impossible to know where you fit in. So yeah, given I don't have my more interesting pictures set publicly, I'll tend to not respond (/delete) messages from people that I think are too attractive for me / unlikely to be attracted to me once they see the other pics. I feel deleting and not responding saves myself the embarrassment. Probably not a healthy mental status I admit! But it is what it is."

Know what you mean about some profiles....how do you know if you fit. Looking at your one photo, you have no issues at all

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