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By *ain99 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Falkirk

Why don't folk turn up as they say they will. Sin x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because their sad individuals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're flaky and ambition exceeds ability?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some like the thrill of a conversation..then bottle it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly last minute nerves? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People say always look at urself/s first

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By *ain99 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Falkirk

?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why don't folk turn up as they say they will. Sin x"

You need to pick the right guys - If I had a meet arranged, it would need something really important to stop me turning up. Especially as getting meet is so darned difficult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why don't folk turn up as they say they will. Sin x

You need to pick the right guys - If I had a meet arranged, it would need something really important to stop me turning up. Especially as getting meet is so darned difficult"

Problem is we don't know who the right people are until they've turned up (or not)! Only way to try and avoid it is to only meet well verified profiles, but that doesn't help genuine newbies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why don't folk turn up as they say they will. Sin x

You need to pick the right guys - If I had a meet arranged, it would need something really important to stop me turning up. Especially as getting meet is so darned difficult

Problem is we don't know who the right people are until they've turned up (or not)! Only way to try and avoid it is to only meet well verified profiles, but that doesn't help genuine newbies! "

I agree. Its difficult to know - but I guess thats the same in all walks of life, you only know when you know.

Anyway. Im a genuine newbie Im even happy to meet up at Costa or Starbucks for a coffee and chat. On me if you promise to give a glowing verification

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By *4Fun11Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Loads of differing reasons.

Some are even quite believable at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i have a meet arranged and for some reason i can make it, i always let the person know and try to rearrange.

Saves everyones time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the ladies should inform each other of the no show guys, also the crazy ones...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i have a meet arranged and for some reason i can make it, i always let the person know and try to rearrange.

Saves everyones time. "

Agreed! I've had to cancel once or twice, I've had poorly kids, dying dog, kept late at work, babysitter cancel etc, life can get in the way over the years. But I always message, explain and apologise,and I'd fully understand if they chose not to reschedule.

But I've never stood someone up, ghosted at the last minute etc, there's no good excuse for that (as opposed to cancelling before hand) xx

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By *4Fun11Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I think the ladies should inform each other of the no show guys, also the crazy ones... "

I usually let my girlies know if I’ve had a timewaster or if someone’s been rude or obnoxious.

I don’t think guys on here realise it’s a small world and girls talk to each other

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"I think the ladies should inform each other of the no show guys, also the crazy ones...

I usually let my girlies know if I’ve had a timewaster or if someone’s been rude or obnoxious.

I don’t think guys on here realise it’s a small world and girls talk to each other "

Yep. Word spreads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just had to deal with a time waster already this morning. He changed his mind simply because I'm going to a group social. From what he said, he's feeling a wee bit put out! Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the ladies should inform each other of the no show guys, also the crazy ones...

I usually let my girlies know if I’ve had a timewaster or if someone’s been rude or obnoxious.

I don’t think guys on here realise it’s a small world and girls talk to each other "

Well said. I think a lot of men assume we're all in competition, we're all bitchy jealous hags who'd throw the next woman under a bus. When in fact there's a fantastic support network between women, and we look after our own!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the ladies should inform each other of the no show guys, also the crazy ones...

I usually let my girlies know if I’ve had a timewaster or if someone’s been rude or obnoxious.

I don’t think guys on here realise it’s a small world and girls talk to each other "
feel free to let me know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just had to deal with a time waster already this morning. He changed his mind simply because I'm going to a group social. From what he said, he's feeling a wee bit put out! Lol x"
fgs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes guys talk themselves up on here too much and can't deliver so maybe bottle it.

Shame though because ruins it for rest of guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeezo I don't know why people fo this seem madness I had a girl cancel on me twice even though we had a good social the week before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jeezo I don't know why people fo this seem madness I had a girl cancel on me twice even though we had a good social the week before "
at least she cancelled though lol its the ones that ghost or no show

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

Because they are fantasists?

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

To be fair, i had one woman cancel on me two days in a row.

it was due to nerves, the third day, she came along as we had spoken more.

She is now one of my verifications and me meet regularly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just had to deal with a time waster already this morning. He changed his mind simply because I'm going to a group social. From what he said, he's feeling a wee bit put out! Lol x fgs lol "

That's what I thought too lol x

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Always attend my meets. Poor form if you don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always turned up to socials or chat on the phone, but some girls have actually gave me a fake address

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By *ruetothisMan
over a year ago

UK

Had a few cancellations and it’s just annoying.

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By *avinaXTV/TS
over a year ago

Glasgow

Very few on here are seriously looking to meet anyone!

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By *immm4uMan
over a year ago

falkirk

If someone has been verified they will almost certainly turn up .

Well that’s my experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just had to deal with a time waster already this morning. He changed his mind simply because I'm going to a group social. From what he said, he's feeling a wee bit put out! Lol x fgs lol

That's what I thought too lol x"

Tut tut didn't you know he staked his claim when you agreed to meet, now you have no need, nor should you have any desire to meet anyone else, for any reason

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By *hoswhoCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Very few on here are genuinely looking to engage and meet up. We have had our fair share of timewasters, without naming and shaming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have been ghosted a couple of times ,it's annoying if you have travelled for meet but admin do nothing and thats more frustrating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have been ghosted a couple of times ,it's annoying if you have travelled for meet but admin do nothing and thats more frustrating"
what could they actually do though?

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By *hoswhoCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Have been ghosted a couple of times ,it's annoying if you have travelled for meet but admin do nothing and thats more frustrating"

Yep us too! Very frustrating, especially when having taken yhe time to get ready for meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just had to deal with a time waster already this morning. He changed his mind simply because I'm going to a group social. From what he said, he's feeling a wee bit put out! Lol x fgs lol

That's what I thought too lol x

Tut tut didn't you know he staked his claim when you agreed to meet, now you have no need, nor should you have any desire to meet anyone else, for any reason "

I never agreed to meet him though. Men shouldn't assume, even if they do, that just because I'm chatting to him, that I'm going to meet him. We never had that conversation, the question of meeting never came up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me personally I don't get what the other sex gets out with it all

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By *otyouraverageguy...Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"Me personally I don't get what the other sex gets out with it all"

Other sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Me personally I don't get what the other sex gets out with it all

Other sex? "

Aye....non-men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just had to deal with a time waster already this morning. He changed his mind simply because I'm going to a group social. From what he said, he's feeling a wee bit put out! Lol x fgs lol

That's what I thought too lol x

Tut tut didn't you know he staked his claim when you agreed to meet, now you have no need, nor should you have any desire to meet anyone else, for any reason

I never agreed to meet him though. Men shouldn't assume, even if they do, that just because I'm chatting to him, that I'm going to meet him. We never had that conversation, the question of meeting never came up "

Bloody hell that makes it all the worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just had to deal with a time waster already this morning. He changed his mind simply because I'm going to a group social. From what he said, he's feeling a wee bit put out! Lol x fgs lol

That's what I thought too lol x

Tut tut didn't you know he staked his claim when you agreed to meet, now you have no need, nor should you have any desire to meet anyone else, for any reason

I never agreed to meet him though. Men shouldn't assume, even if they do, that just because I'm chatting to him, that I'm going to meet him. We never had that conversation, the question of meeting never came up

Bloody hell that makes it all the worse "

Lol I know x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would never intentionally not turn up.

It’s extremely hard for single guys to

A) get a reply

B) earn the trust to get as far as a meet.

C) it’s bloody rude not too

I’ve been stood up/ghosted and lied to about meeting up. Is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The worst are ghosters , people who say will meet ,you arrive and then they don't answer your texts ,only had it a couple if times ,but so annoying

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By *otyouraverageguy...Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"Me personally I don't get what the other sex gets out with it all

Other sex?

Aye....non-men "
Like it's only lassies who are time wasters haha idiot... No you miss muff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get what time wasters get out of it xx

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By *lbie6Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I've had wanting to meet chat then don't contact you until last minute with not even telling you where to meet then go silent and say you are the timewaster

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By *lbie6Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"The worst are ghosters , people who say will meet ,you arrive and then they don't answer your texts ,only had it a couple if times ,but so annoying"
I've had that

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By *oanne_MacTV/TS
over a year ago

Perth


"I think the ladies should inform each other of the no show guys, also the crazy ones... "

The ones i know do. So do the trans community, sometimes the Cis girls and the Tgirls share too

Theres no escape for the serial fakes and timewasters

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By *oanne_MacTV/TS
over a year ago

Perth

Ive had fingers burnt before.

Lessons learnt, if people dont pass certain criteria or convince me they're genuine i dont agree a meet.

Sadly newbies have ZERO chance no matter how good their pics and chat are, not verified by meeting or from a social?... its a big fat no. And cam veris mean fuck all, in fact if a profile has numerous cam veris but no meet veris, its an even bigger red flag that someone will be a noshow

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