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Winks: what do you think?

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By *istake Not... OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Hello,

I prefer to throw a wink the way of people I'm interested in, rather than message (without much success, I should add).

I figure people get lots of messages from men, and rather than add to the pile of unread mail I think it's better to just send a wink and let them respond in which ever way they see fit.

When I do feel brave enough to message I'm always worried I get the tone/content wrong; winking just seems easier (or lazier, let's be honest).

What is the general feeling on winks? Do you prefer direct contact?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I dont mind winks they are a start .

If I get a wink il look and read the profile if I'm interested il either message or wink back ??

I dont see any harm in winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wink from a well written profile with a selection of photos is welcome, if I like I wink back and would then assume they would send a message.

It's the winks from blank profiles that I find lazy and get ignored. If you have nothing to attract me on your profile then use a message. If you can't even do that I'm not interested!

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By *bostCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Nothing wrong with winks. It’s an easy ice breaker and allows the winker (no sniggering at the back) to make initial contact. Think of it is the initial eye contact in a real life meeting. The person winked at can then either wink back or ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont usually bother with winks unless someone catches my eye i might wink them back

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By *SCouple81Couple
over a year ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

We are using winks to let other know that we like the profile. If someone winks us back we follow with a message. Whe we we receive a wink and we like the profile we would wink back and then the message would be nice.

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By *vanabeusedTV/TS
over a year ago

somewhere

No harm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite partial to a little wink now and again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

rarely look at them, but I've had some lovely conversations when I've noticed them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with winks but I rarely respond to them.

With regards to being scared to message and being worried about your tone, etc, they'll either reply or not. You shouldn't over think it.

Whilst there are some gorgeous folk on here, I would never put them on a pedestal worry over what they thought of my message. This place is supposed to be a distraction from the serious stuff mind!

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

I usually forget all about winks until I see posts about them on the forums.

K

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By *ing_of_the_swingers400Man
over a year ago

edinbugh

Send a few when I like someone as an ice breaker but never really get many in return but I will keep sending to people I like

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By *allerthanaverage79Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Thumbs are sore from all my winking! Xxx

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By *orthseatiger69Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire /North lanarshire

I like to send winks as an indication I am interested unless they state they don’t respond to winks . I understand some will respond others won’t . I do enjoy receiving winks and if I like I will reciprocate the wink followed by a message . Shy winkers never won fair maiden or couple

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By *astlincscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Tinsel Town

I prefer the direct message approach.

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By *4Fun11Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Can’t beat a good wink

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By *ac_ShelbyMan
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I don't normally bother with winks, if I'm interested I'll usually message directly. I don't mind receiving them, only thing I don't get is if a profile winks me, I wink back and they don't follow up with a message. If I'm not busy I'll occasionally send a thanks for the wink type thing, but most of the time for me nothing comes of them. Although I'm not the most social on here at the moment so maybe others like the feature.

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By *ormladMan
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

I think it is an ice breaker

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By *eaderMan
over a year ago

Shropshire

Shows that you like their profile and you are interested in them....

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By *unseekers87Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow ish

We like to use winks , some people seem to be dead against them but we feel it's a good way of showing interest.

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By *scobar67Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I only Send winks when I don't have time to msg.. And hopefully get one back then I would msg the lady / couple.. And see how things go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like winks.

If I'm interested il wink back.

If I don't I won't.

Easy peasy everyone knows where we stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to bulk delete my winks. I rarely wink back. I much prefer a well worded message with a face picture attached. Far better chance of a reply.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

I would probably wink at someone if they winked back I’d message. Seems more relaxed intro than a cringey possibly misdirected first message.

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By *illnatMan
over a year ago

wherever i need to be

Some of the best conversations have come from winks over the years. Just a pity they sometimes go unnoticed.

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