FabSwingers.com forum: Sex and mental health

By *RStuart OP Man
over a year ago

West Lothian

Do you think a reduction in sex and physical contact with others has a negative impact on your mental health? Feeling wanted, the one to one communication, overall intimacy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not if your life is fulfilling in other ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think a reduction in sex and physical contact with others has a negative impact on your mental health? Feeling wanted, the one to one communication, overall intimacy?"

According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs than yes!

Mental wellbeing is completely subjective, there will be some who live an isolated lifestyle and feel quite content that way. But for many, a lack of companionship, intimacy, affection and warmth can have a detrimental effect on their well being. And of course physiologically we know sex and cuddling release endorphins which can improve mood.

I work in mental health and a good 60-70% of my referrals for 18-80 year olds list isolation and loneliness as a factor in their poor mental health.

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By *atKat-xoxWoman
over a year ago

Neath,united kingdom

Truthfully, If me and my partners haven't having sex for whatever reason (busy,stress etc) We find other ways of spending Time with each. My husband and my partner are big gamers so I'll spend time doing that ,or day trips etc. We share intimacy in other ways

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By *RStuart OP Man
over a year ago

West Lothian

"Truthfully, If me and my partners haven't having sex for whatever reason (busy,stress etc) We find other ways of spending Time with each. My husband and my partner are big gamers so I'll spend time doing that ,or day trips etc. We share intimacy in other ways "

That's a fair point.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

To be honest I could live without sex. I get enough comfort and affection from my dogs to keep me content.

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By *RStuart OP Man
over a year ago

West Lothian

"To be honest I could live without sex. I get enough comfort and affection from my dogs to keep me content."

I do get alot of comfort from other things too, it's just.... After a while you do wonder!

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

As human beings we seek attachments. As children we need secure attachments with the adults in our lives to promote confidence and wellbeing.

Early experiences will affect the level of attachment we need as we grow into adulthood. The isolation of lockdown will have varying effects on individuals mental health, depending on their coping strategies and their need for social interaction.

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

Mhmm, as a couple we have been struggling. I didn't realise before the Pandemic that a lot of my self worth was based on what others think of me. For me it used to be important, now not so much. We are still working through things but yeah, it's very normal to feel the way you do. It has effected us both in very different ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lockdown definitely effected how i felt re physical contact, not getting to know my newly born grandaughter and just hugging my kids left a huge impact, even now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lack of intimacy in our close relationships does have a detrimental effect on mental health. Too many confuse intimacy with sex though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lack of intimacy in our close relationships does have a detrimental effect on mental health. Too many confuse intimacy with sex though."

This, also agree with the previous mention of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs too.

The confusion between intimacy and sex seems to be more on the male side which I do believe isn’t always intentional and more tied with our natural instincts to mate.

Look at spooning for example, I met a girl from here (in a roundabout way) on Friday evening. Woke up beside her on Saturday morning and we got closer into the spoon for quite some time. Intimacy.

That was then kinda spoiled by my wully which had began to get hard and prod her bumcheeks entirely out of my control…

Intimacy into sex

Yes we can have sex without intimacy but, for me anyway, it’s shite. Both combined makes for attentive sex which, for me, isn’t shite.

Intimacy alone can help people feel safe, wanted, loved, secure etc and without that in our lives I’d say that yes, it would have a detrimental effect on our mental health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lack of intimacy in our close relationships does have a detrimental effect on mental health. Too many confuse intimacy with sex though.

This, also agree with the previous mention of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs too.

The confusion between intimacy and sex seems to be more on the male side which I do believe isn’t always intentional and more tied with our natural instincts to mate.

Look at spooning for example, I met a girl from here (in a roundabout way) on Friday evening. Woke up beside her on Saturday morning and we got closer into the spoon for quite some time. Intimacy.

That was then kinda spoiled by my wully which had began to get hard and prod her bumcheeks entirely out of my control…

Intimacy into sex

Yes we can have sex without intimacy but, for me anyway, it’s shite. Both combined makes for attentive sex which, for me, isn’t shite.

Intimacy alone can help people feel safe, wanted, loved, secure etc and without that in our lives I’d say that yes, it would have a detrimental effect on our mental health."

Aye.

I can have intimacy without sex.

Sex without intimacy just doesn't work for me though.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"Do you think a reduction in sex and physical contact with others has a negative impact on your mental health? Feeling wanted, the one to one communication, overall intimacy?"

Did you nor have a partner during lockdown?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aye.

I can have intimacy without sex.

Sex without intimacy just doesn't work for me though."

Then we are in agreement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex with intimacy is great but sometimes ye just need lustful animalistic clothes ripping sex .. for me attraction means more than intimacy .. but each to their own .. and just to clarify attractions more than just looks .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think a reduction in sex and physical contact with others has a negative impact on your mental health? Feeling wanted, the one to one communication, overall intimacy?"

Why not ? Everything else in life affects mental health nowadays. Apparently !!.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say yes it does from being previously in a vanilla marriage, I've been there done that and having sex and that sexual connection is very important to me anyway ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is always a personal balance on mental health. These are without doubt difficult times though there have been many of those in history and of course personally ... people are also very resilient, especially given the right support... be nice folks... it's easy to do and matters xxx

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