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how do you say NO, without offending people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

right i dont know if it just me,

but i find when you get mail for someone, and they seem nice, but not what your looking for at the time, how do you say no thanx without offending folk,

we had a couple take the right humf because we said that they were not what we were looking for at this time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yea zoe hun u get them eh lol when i say no wat im looking 4...they somwtimes mail bck saying..wat r u looking 4...fs lol soi just replye an say....no u lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

lol stunna, i know what you mean, then you keep gettin mail, sayin but you would have a good time, and how they would love to make you cum an all that pish, if i want to cum i have plenty dildo's to choose from lol, but i think if you say no once then that should be all you need to say,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok zoe let me at them who r they lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zoe-great Question-Cant wait to read some of the answers.We find also that you can meet and enjoy some folks company as well, but just dont hit it of sexually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

zoe if they persist and persist tell them if their shagging is half as bad as their attitude u aint missing out on much!!!!!!

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By *entscotscplCouple
over a year ago

falkirk ish

this is never an easy one

dont get us wrong but we aint every ones cup off tea

but its nice to be nice

we prefer being told sorry but u's aint for us etc

we always reply to people with a sorry we dont think we would click with each other

but we wish you all the best good luck etc

we meet other with a hope of maybe having some fun if we dont well so be it

and if we do its a bonus

r n l xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have been told im a bit bigger than what they would like edven though it says in my profile so why do they message

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By *lba couple1Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

cant be everyones cup of tea, but thats life, take it on the chin.

we get people saying dont think we would klick, hey thats fine, we also get people we say sorry dont think we have anything in comman , its life, just go with it, dont take offens and dont give any be polite the first time, tell them to feck off the second time

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By *cottishTweetieCouple
over a year ago

Blackwood, South Lanarkshire

We normally reply: Thanks for the offer but not what we are looking for. Have fun...

We have however had a few ask why? Some we then respond honestly too.... and never hear from again. They did ask.. LOL Dont mean that to sound nasty either as its never meant that way.

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By *egs4uWoman
over a year ago

somewhere around

I always reply thanks for the mail, but unfortunately your not what im looking for, good luck

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By *adarMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

We always reply to couples and try to be nice words like "thanks for contacting us but no thanks and good luck in your search".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Concensus here is "Thanks but no thanks best of luck"

If they continue to plague you then you threaten them with Stunna or just plain block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If individual(s) take offence at a cordial 'thanks for the offer but no thanks' or a 'not our type' etc then they create the perception of offence=their problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As one of those dreaded single male types (lol!) a simple "No thanks. All the best'' is fine. I actually appreciate people taking the effort to do so.

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By *ocky669Man
over a year ago

Northumberland

i agree at least if they get back to you to say no thanks its nicer than just being deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hey be honest...... if folks dont like honesty and throw a hissy fit just blick them and move on.........simple really....or am i just a cow lol

hehe jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never say NO .......... lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never say NO .......... lol"

pmsl slapper !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never say NO .......... lol

pmsl slapper !!"

thanks for yur kind words...... am all chuffed here lol xx

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By *ocky669Man
over a year ago

Northumberland

Jands "just a cow" I would love a cow with a sweet ass like that"profile pictures " uuummm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would deffo be polite about it,and we are, after all not everyone will click and if folks think they will they sadly mistaken.

And if they throw a wobbler then omg wide berth right decision made lol

Block block block lol

Kazz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

folk really need to get it in their heads not everyone is gonna fancy you on here?

everyone gets a knockback but if your polite enuf and say thanx but no thanx hopefully they take the hint.

auds&jas xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

like most of my mails they get delated end of they take the hint eventually

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

wejust reply thanks butno thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with garry - a can't even type the word here pmsl

tf trac is the sensible one xxxxx

A dont think I have a "type" we will never know till a chat to someone (msn or phone etc), lucky enough we can handle the 1 e-mail a week and we take it from there really.

If you reply thats cool if you dont I also think its cool - If we mail someone and they dont get back to us inside a week - we are guessing they not interested. I have a wee greet on tracy's shoulder and move on xxxxxxx

Zoe your just too nice hun - we cant please everyone (although I do try).

Be happy people xxxxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oops - Malc wrote above post xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

joking aside...

if yu have read the profile FULLY...

if yu match what the folks are looking for......

write a nice message tailored around said profiles ......

chat, get to know folks...

agree .... a very likely match ( nowt is a cert in life )......

the possibility of saying 'NO' is significantly reduced ......

as my profile says...... I dont message ...

I chat ......

meet at socials .......

and 'BULLSEYE' .........

xxxxxxx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

my usual reply if im not intrested ~~

sorry ur not my type but gd luck n i hope u find what ur looking for from this site ....

but then u get the reply why whats ur type? n then whats wrong with me ? thats when i do get tongue tied as its dificult if u dont find them attractive having to tell them thats the reason but i never do n just reply with ur just not my type lol

luv jacs

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I dont get is when people say "Oh we would love to meet you", then dont ever get back to you and still chat to you all the time in chat, whats that all about then, mind you their loss thats for sure

Kazz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there shy like me kazz lol lol lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh there no shy mr 44 jut plain rude

ach well their loss as i said already lol

Mr 44 shy awwww wee soul lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can say valetudinarian yet i struggle with this,,"NO" word,lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just a simple thanx but no thanx but if they get huffy then i cant be held responsible for my replys ooops.... view if they can type aint they ur type ? lol just joking i know how picky u are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just a simple thanx but no thanx but if they get huffy then i cant be held responsible for my replys ooops.... view if they can type aint they ur type ? lol just joking i know how picky u are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take "thanks but no thanks" as a good clear message of them or her having zero interest, i move on, if its a " way too busy at moment" i say "cheers for taking time out to reply and leave it at that,if they get back to me, cool, if not thats understood too.

People are busy with messages,just so many guys seem not to comprehend just how busy, i never close the door on any,only those who are straightforward enough to say the simple yet effective "No thanks",saves both partys time.

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By *eanneTVTV/TS
over a year ago

glasgow

I always replay saying thanks for the interest but im afraid your not what im looking for. Sadly though some people just wont take a hint and remain persistant (

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess


" ...........how do you say no thanx without offending folk,

..."

Simplistic as it may sound the only way of doing so without causing offence is to tell the truth.

A simple thanks, but no thanks, should suffice but, if it doesn't, don't get into long-winded explanations of the hows, whys, and wherefores of your reasons.

Nobody ought to be expected to explain why they don't wish to have sex with anyone. The presumption of consent is tantamount to the approval of non-consensual sex. Most people call that rape.

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