FabSwingers.com forum: Social meet for a free night out

By *iceguy 1966 OP Man
over a year ago

in pa postcode

Met a lady tonight for a social meet. We have been chatting and camming with each other for about a month now and after multiple attempts to meet her we went out tonight. I met her in Glasgow as agreed and we went for a meal at a very nice restaurant in Glasgow, the conversation was flowing well and we were getting on very great. I was driving so she had two bottles of the finest wine that i could see on the wine list. Then as she had planned we went to the cinema and seen a film of her choice. Then it went weird. She told me that she only goes on Fab so that guys will take her out to a good place to eat with nice wine then that is as far as she is going to take it? I told her that i had booked a room in the Hilton for us but she insisted on being taken home. She did say that i was a lovely guy and that she was just on the site to be taken out as her husband does not take her anywhere nice. I feel used and abused here and can sympathise with all the single guys on here that get used in this manner. Chilled champagne in the Hilton and going to have a wank now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you did start by saying it was s social meet send now you're pissed off because she wouldn't have sex. now are you pissed off cos of no sex or cos you naively spent a fortune and got no sex?

not condoning what she did but looks like you were both leading each other on.

live and learn my friend. coffee or a drink should be enough for a social meet to decide if you both want to plc x

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By *iceguy 1966 OP Man
over a year ago

in pa postcode

"you did start by saying it was s social meet send now you're pissed off because she wouldn't have sex. now are you pissed off cos of no sex or cos you naively spent a fortune and got no sex?

not condoning what she did but looks like you were both leading each other on.

live and learn my friend. coffee or a drink should be enough for a social meet to decide if you both want to plc x"

At no time did i expect sex from her? But for her to say that she used me for a night out was out of order in my book. SHE told me the restaurant to book, SHE told me the film to book, SHE told me the hotel to book, SHE told me the flowers and champagne that she wanted to have in the room???? Yet again a single guy gets played or am i thinking way out of the normal human perception here? xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my message should have said play not plc lol

I agree you seem to have been played rather than played with. but you did say it was a social meet on your post. in my book that wouldn't involve sex. always best to clarify these things before meeting x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thinks she's led u a right merry dance here which is just wrong!

And come on for u to say that u didn't expect sex from her after booking a very expensive room with champagne and flowers - who u trying to kid?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm ashamed to be a member of the female species sometimes. A hard lesson to learn my friend but a valuable one. Most genuine Women would only expect a quick coffee or a drink for a social meet and decide after that whether they wish to play or not.

Seems to me you have been well and truly suckered by this female. Hope you realise that not all of us are greedy grasping exploitative women looking for a meal ticket, she should be ashamed of herself.

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By *iceguy 1966 OP Man
over a year ago

in pa postcode

"I thinks she's led u a right merry dance here which is just wrong!

And come on for u to say that u didn't expect sex from her after booking a very expensive room with champagne and flowers - who u trying to kid?

It was her that told me to book the room? Now i will not be so nieve, i feel like a pure dick for what has happened and yet again it has tainted what i think of this site xxxx

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By *iceguy 1966 OP Man
over a year ago

in pa postcode

"I thinks she's led u a right merry dance here which is just wrong!

And come on for u to say that u didn't expect sex from her after booking a very expensive room with champagne and flowers - who u trying to kid?

It was her that told me to book the room? Now i will not be so nieve, i feel like a pure dick for what has happened and yet again it has tainted what i think of this site xxxx"

I am also trying to kid nobody, i am up front and honest? My job states that hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what were your plans for the room if u weren't expecting sex? sleep?

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By *iceguy 1966 OP Man
over a year ago

in pa postcode

"So what were your plans for the room if u weren't expecting sex? sleep?

She asked me to book it? Why am i getting a hard time here hun? I am sitting here in a £120 room that SHE asked me to book? What was i meant to think that she wanted to play tiddly winks tonight???? xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a grip ffs! U just said u didn't expect sex! I merely asked what u expected to do in the room!

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By *iceguy 1966 OP Man
over a year ago

in pa postcode

"Get a grip ffs! U just said u didn't expect sex! I merely asked what u expected to do in the room!

Ok hun sorry i am just licking my wounds here and pouring £70 champagne over the cuts

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Live n learn, don't let it put u off, we ain't all like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what were your plans for the room if u weren't expecting sex? sleep?

I'm also confused why you would book a room for a social meet?

and its a long list of requirements. did you not question it in your mind? or would you have booked the Paris flights too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get a grip ffs! U just said u didn't expect sex! I merely asked what u expected to do in the room!

Ok hun sorry i am just licking my wounds here and pouring £70 champagne over the cuts

xxxx"

an expensive lesson tho x

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By *iceguy 1966 OP Man
over a year ago

in pa postcode

"So what were your plans for the room if u weren't expecting sex? sleep?

I'm also confused why you would book a room for a social meet?

and its a long list of requirements. did you not question it in your mind? or would you have booked the Paris flights too?"

I did all that she requested? I had spoken to her for a month? As for Paris i may be feeling like an idiot right now, so please dont rub it in, i do know that i have been gullible and that i have been played and had x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking practicaly here, was the hotel needed. I mean, could you of accomodated, and the hotel was a touch, a "to impress" thing?

Even if she listed it i mean, could you of said, something practical, like you could'nt afford it but come back to mine if we get along?

Personally, i would maybe, make such lavish plans only after actually met someone at,as others have said at a simpler/casual social meet initially.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When ye taking me on a social meet.... Am starvin, thirsty and choking to see a new movie

hehehe only kidden!

I've had something like that happen to me (I was in the womans position) but the dude called it a 'date' then cracked up at the end of the night cuz I wudnt fuck him...

I wud say he led me on but, cuz he said it was a 'date' & not a 'meet' ... Just saying

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if someone told me to book a certain restaurant, a certain film, a certain hotel... I know what I would tell them.....

that being said.... there are grasping people in the scene who will empty your purse, so learn from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't matter what the guys intentions were in my opinion, whether he expected sex or not.

The lady should not be on the site if all she is doing is using guys to wine and dine. She probably suggested the room purposely to give the indication there would be more than a social meet.

Can't see why the OP is getting such a hard time myself.... She's led him a merry dance just to get a night out. Shocking

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame on you expecting sex from s sex site.

If course you have every Right to be pissed off.

The chick played you for,a night out.

We have been there

Yrs ago when we 1st joined a cpl we chatted to for months finally met up on town.

Booked the Hotel they wanted to stay in Went to dinner in the Place they had been dying up go to .Went to a nightclub the always Went to.

Yeah all every well when come the End of the night the guy fälls asleep on the Hotel bar when we get back.

Now all im saying is...

We met them off a sex site...we spöke about it before..likes/dislikes.rules ect

Of course they knew what was expected Afterwards and by the flirting going was going great but couldnt help feel took for a mug åt the end of the night.

Said it before........its a sex site people!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It amazes me the Word "social" is now getn changed to "date" more and more on. This site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've realised you fucked up and as long as you've learned from it that's the main thing.

Most of the women on here would be happy with someone who turns up on time, a bottle of Asti Spumante and a travelodge. Including me!

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By *aughty.naughty deviantsCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

"Doesn't matter what the guys intentions were in my opinion, whether he expected sex or not.

The lady should not be on the site if all she is doing is using guys to wine and dine. She probably suggested the room purposely to give the indication there would be more than a social meet.

Can't see why the OP is getting such a hard time myself.... She's led him a merry dance just to get a night out. Shocking

Steve "

Couldn't agree more, bloody shocking and gives honest women on here a bad name

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By *aughty.naughty deviantsCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

"It amazes me the Word "social" is now getn changed to "date" more and more on. This site?

Would hardly say it's more a dating site lol, it's where like minded meet for some naughty fun

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

to be fair, we have one side to the story and there will be 2, at least.

but it does go on.

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By *aughty.naughty deviantsCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

"to be fair, we have one side to the story and there will be 2, at least.

but it does go on."

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

"Couldn't agree more, bloody shocking and gives honest women on here a bad name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From some of these posts it looks like you are saying because he bought her dinner etc she has to fuck him and that is totally wrong, it was up to the woman if she didn't wanna fuck him or not, and she shudnt feel obliged to!

At the end of the day if he just wanted his hole he shuda just telt her to bolt when she suggested the meal & all the trimmings!

IMO of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She aint the only one here,i have heard this on a few occasions,....

yup he got played....simple as that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i totally agree with steve..... she let him think there may be more to follow, not nice and not a true swinger imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't matter what the guys intentions were in my opinion, whether he expected sex or not.

The lady should not be on the site if all she is doing is using guys to wine and dine. She probably suggested the room purposely to give the indication there would be more than a social meet.

Can't see why the OP is getting such a hard time myself.... She's led him a merry dance just to get a night out. Shocking

Steve "

Totally agree , infact im discusted with the replys this man is getting

Put it down to experance girls like that give the site a bad name total hoochie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It amazes me the Word "social" is now getn changed to "date" more and more on. This site?

Would hardly say it's more a dating site lol, it's where like minded meet for some naughty fun

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wanna bet?

I see single chicks all the time asking...when you taking me to lunch or dinner.

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By *lassic1Man
over a year ago

bellshill

Mmmmmmmm....is it just me or do I detect a "look at me" post.

Keep banging on about the cost of room ...cost of champagne...cost of etc etc.

What a catch....inbox must be really bulging by now.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

Fooking hell..... Last meet I had, I paid!!! I only attract the skint ones .

To the OP, you were truly played but I am sure you have learned your lesson.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well being a single chck and having had a few guys wine and dine me I'd like to say I think he's been well and truly played, I've had guys atranging a social meet and as far as I'm

Concerned to ne that's a quick coffee I don't want to be exposed too long to someone I'm not attracted to or the chemistry isn't there

There have been a few however then say why not get something to eat if they insist why not and again had some lovely dinners with guys I just don't find attractive once we meet, I'd never allow a guy to make me feel obliged to do anything more and never ask a guy before meeting to arrange anything like hotel rooms etc as in theory I'm not going to play on a first meet, though it has happened

I thnk a lot of guys though think that if they are a little more generous it increases their chances of getting sex at the end of the night but guys honestly don't waste your money if we like you and we clicked and the chemistry is there then it's going to happen

Don't get me wrong though personally I'm looking for fb that I can do the whole social thing with and not just about sex but I'm very much into paying my own way and sharing the expense of a night out xx

Ps op when you taking me out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fooking hell..... Last meet I had, I paid!!! I only attract the skint ones .

To the OP, you were truly played but I am sure you have learned your lesson. "

Lol I've paid at a few meets too chick more often though guys im fucking that take me out and boyfriends seems to be the tight fisted variety !!! maybe I should stick to no strings lol

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By *eatherWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

The op has been led on and dont forget peeps it was her who suggested meal drinks and the hotel too.This gives the decent women on here areally bad name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so your company was shite ,the wine you had chosen was disgusting all in all i like my men to be just that men!,and all the way through you acted like a little lost puppy (i have one at home),hence why i decided to go home to my slob of a husband ,at least i know i will get a fuck from him and not just a slevering on the cheek.

Single guys get loads of stick on site and i never have or shall belittle them (ok before you jump in and defend i said single guys not well you know who i mean) so how do we know this single guys is telling the truth and that he is not lying in a travelodge feeling sorry for himself with a bottle of bucky all because he couldnt find a fuck??

There is 3 sides to every story his hers(if she exists) and the truth.

Single fems gets stick to so dont tar all with the same brush just because of some sympathy story

To the OP genuinely sorry if your story truely is real but come to fuck ,surely the amount you spent would have got you a few hookers for the night ,at least you would have got what you set out for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't matter what the guys intentions were in my opinion, whether he expected sex or not.

The lady should not be on the site if all she is doing is using guys to wine and dine. She probably suggested the room purposely to give the indication there would be more than a social meet.

Can't see why the OP is getting such a hard time myself.... She's led him a merry dance just to get a night out. Shocking

Steve "

I agree, sometimes it's not clear when meeting others what to expect, we have been there where the meet was not how it was told to us, so not just single guys.

I would email her(cause I couldn't help myself), then block, then report.

She should be ashamed, even in a dating site I wouldn't stipulate all this

Mrs B x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure this story rings a bell from the same poster in chat a few months ago.... U wuda thought he'd learn his lesson from then lol

or perhaps it's just fabricated to get a bulging inbox of gold diggers lol

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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

appalling behaviour in my opinion , if you are gonna meet socially then a social meeting it is , venue to be arranged by both parties.

I feel the suggestion of the hotel room was the hint that there would be more and can understand if the op had the impression that there might be sex involved.

I am with Laine on this one , sometimes I feel disgusted by fellow women using a man in such a way , its a swinging site and sometimes sex is on the cards but it should never be hinted at it should be spoken about before hand as to wether its gonna happen . I for one say if its just gonna be a social meet as i wouldnt want someone thinking i am leading them on in such a disgusting manner as the woman in question did to the op .

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

"Doesn't matter what the guys intentions were in my opinion, whether he expected sex or not.

The lady should not be on the site if all she is doing is using guys to wine and dine. She probably suggested the room purposely to give the indication there would be more than a social meet.

Can't see why the OP is getting such a hard time myself.... She's led him a merry dance just to get a night out. Shocking

Steve "

I was just about to write all that so thanks, you saved me typing

Now obviously this is only one side of the story, but I can't understand why the man is getting a hard time if the woman is on this site to get free meals/drinks and lifts and not on here for swinging.

If the story is true then I think it is a scam and should be reported to be on the safe side instead of bringing it onto the forums about a specific member.

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