FabSwingers.com forum: Not hot enough for casual sex?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can you be? I mean if you looked like Brad Pitt then a lot of women would just involuntarily grab there ankles ??

But what about the other way around? If you are bald git with a "dad bod" do you have any chance?

I'm both insecure and curious ?? I have had relationships but it took time, I've never "pulled" or "had instant chemistry" with anyone.

First of tonight's many questions ??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attraction is something no one can or has fully explained ever OP, nor should it be. It’s mysterious, unpredictable and all part of the excitement

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Attraction is something no one can or has fully explained ever OP, nor should it be. It’s mysterious, unpredictable and all part of the excitement

I was totally hoping for an easy answer ?? stupid reality, always ruining my dreams....

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Casual sex is over rated. I think it’s more worthwhile to get to know a person well, find out what makes them tick and let them find out about you, then when you do meet the sex is explosive.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Casual sex is over rated. I think it’s more worthwhile to get to know a person well, find out what makes them tick and let them find out about you, then when you do meet the sex is explosive.

Yeah but that runs the risk.of people finding out I'm basically an emotionally unstable man child who has more issues than Cosmopolitan ??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Casual sex is over rated. I think it’s more worthwhile to get to know a person well, find out what makes them tick and let them find out about you, then when you do meet the sex is explosive.

Mind if I ask, why name yourself after part an aeroplane?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rscotsdudeMan
over a year ago

angus

Not this really helps but unfortunately on fab there are shit loads of men. Therefore, no matter how good your banter is, how attractive you are, how long your knob is, there is always going to be someone better. Of course there plenty that are worse. You just have to hope the woman you are chatting to also isn't chatting to a brat pitt look alike with a massive knob and great banter! Law of averages!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not this really helps but unfortunately on fab there are shit loads of men. Therefore, no matter how good your banter is, how attractive you are, how long your knob is, there is always going to be someone better. Of course there plenty that are worse. You just have to hope the woman you are chatting to also isn't chatting to a brat pitt look alike with a massive knob and great banter! Law of averages!"

Just curious, have you encountered many well endowed Brad Pitt look alikes on here? ?? I got the feeling it was a game of averages tbh. Doesn't help I'm starting from below average mind.

I take it that the constant rejection begins to wear on sone guys hence the outbursts and juvenile/aggressive behavior?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust me I'm no model and even I've had casual sex!

I think that while looks might grab someone's attention initially, it takes personality to hold it.

Fake it til you make it when it comes to confidence.

Also remember that people's definitions of hotness will vary. So too will people's wants, needs, hopes and aspirations for any encounter.

All you can do is be yourself.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Trust me I'm no model and even I've had casual sex!

I think that while looks might grab someone's attention initially, it takes personality to hold it.

Fake it til you make it when it comes to confidence.

Also remember that people's definitions of hotness will vary. So too will people's wants, needs, hopes and aspirations for any encounter.

All you can do is be yourself. "

That's me screwed then ?? personality I have its confidence and looks I'm missing.

Btw, you are crazy hot! Don't put yourself down like that! If I lived closer I'd totally be stalking....err I mean contacting you!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Attraction is something no one can or has fully explained ever OP, nor should it be. It’s mysterious, unpredictable and all part of the excitement

Hey OP... I think Flirt69 has a good point.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder... Ever heard of that one?

I don't find Bratt Pitt in the least sexy but you're a bit of an alright...

Your bonnie lassie will come to you one day... When you're least expecting her to...

Meantime, kick back, relax and enjoy the scenery...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rscotsdudeMan
over a year ago

angus

"Trust me I'm no model and even I've had casual sex!

I think that while looks might grab someone's attention initially, it takes personality to hold it.

Fake it til you make it when it comes to confidence.

Also remember that people's definitions of hotness will vary. So too will people's wants, needs, hopes and aspirations for any encounter.

All you can do is be yourself. "

Im know im not great in the looks department, im an acquired taste lol

If im being honest ,i know i totally rely on my personality which i think sees me ok. I do find it a struggle as everything is geared on intial attraction. Whether its normal dating sites, swapping face pics on fab ect. Showing my age but years ago people were more comfortable having a chat on phone ect which gave me more success. My banter is better than my looks....or in my mind it is haha

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rscotsdudeMan
over a year ago

angus

Also on a side note, i dont think covid has helped anyones confidence or self esteem. Lack of any social interaction brings everyones confidence down

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Attraction is something no one can or has fully explained ever OP, nor should it be. It’s mysterious, unpredictable and all part of the excitement

Hey OP... I think Flirt69 has a good point.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder... Ever heard of that one?

I don't find Bratt Pitt in the least sexy but you're a bit of an alright...

Your bonnie lassie will come to you one day... When you're least expecting her to...

Meantime, kick back, relax and enjoy the scenery..."

That's the major benefit of thid place, the scenery! I mean your mounds alone

Seriously though thanks for the advice

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also on a side note, i dont think covid has helped anyones confidence or self esteem. Lack of any social interaction brings everyones confidence down"

I've yet to see anything covid has helped ??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *cotyguyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Also on a side note, i dont think covid has helped anyones confidence or self esteem. Lack of any social interaction brings everyones confidence down

I've yet to see anything covid has helped ??"

Covid has helped bring out my inner antisocial personality. Fab meet or pj's and the TV..... Pj's everytime

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is always going to be vain and shallow guys and girls that just go for looks in a, profile. But they could be a hunk or a, model, but no personality.

Looks fade, personality and gsoh does not, spice is the virtually o life and can be a huge surprise

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here for sex.

That to me is I need instant attraction.

Shallow? I do not give a toss.

If someone fancies you they will meet you.if not move on to someone who does.

It's a sex site after all

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm here for sex.

That to me is I need instant attraction.

Shallow? I do not give a toss.

If someone fancies you they will meet you.if not move on to someone who does.

It's a sex site after all "

Why can't all women be that brutally honest? Sooo much easier to deal with ??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because some are here for relationships

Some are here to string guys along

Who knows.

But good luck in your search

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was younger I very much enjoyed the chase, spit the best looking single guy in the club and pull him, my pals were always insanely jealous of my hunting skills and yet they were all much better looking than me, thing is all

I got was the thrill of the chase nothing else tbh mostly the sex was shite or worse the conversation so didn’t even get to the sex bit just got in a taxi home ! I used to be incredibly vain but it was defo not fulfilling in any way

Now for me it’s more about the chemistry that comes from the art of conversation and I’d rather go without sex than just fuxk any random and be let unsatisfied

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Nope, get used to forums if you want chat

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm here for sex.

That to me is I need instant attraction.

Shallow? I do not give a toss.

If someone fancies you they will meet you.if not move on to someone who does.

It's a sex site after all "

And this is the example where us single girls are different because the thrill of the chase for the married woman is fine because she gets to go home to her husband who knows all the buttons to press so she does get satisfied even if it’s not from the random ! Us single ladies have to rely on BOB to finish us off and some of us can’t even manage that as Bob just gets us even more frustrated

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See I'm not into the thrill of the chase.i know what I like not here to be chased or my ego stroked.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope, get used to forums if you want chat

I have noticed chat flies far more freely on here, than either messages or cams.....

And it's also a lot less "desperate" ??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm here for sex.

That to me is I need instant attraction.

Shallow? I do not give a toss.

If someone fancies you they will meet you.if not move on to someone who does.

It's a sex site after all

Who is this BOB and how's he getting all the girls? ??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I was younger I very much enjoyed the chase, spit the best looking single guy in the club and pull him, my pals were always insanely jealous of my hunting skills and yet they were all much better looking than me, thing is all

Now for me it’s more about the chemistry that comes from the art of conversation and I’d rather go without sex than just fuxk any random and be let unsatisfied "

I am begining to see a distinct lack of pattern here....its almost as if all you ladie are different somehoe

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Nope, get used to forums if you want chat

I have noticed chat flies far more freely on here, than either messages or cams.....

And it's also a lot less "desperate" ??"

Bit more normal than a fantasy sex frenzy, yup

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *agan gentlemenMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

For myself expect nothing. And if that turns into something after then take it from there last time I was here I had quite a few couples and single ladies who started as friends then led to "invitations" when the urge struck

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *4Fun11Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

If you can’t pull in real life you’re probably highly unlikely to pull on here….

Well unless you have a vagina and are still breathing.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For myself expect nothing. And if that turns into something after then take it from there last time I was here I had quite a few couples and single ladies who started as friends then led to "invitations" when the urge struck "

That's the plan I'm goimg to try. Might work, might not but better than nothing and less boring ??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you can’t pull in real life you’re probably highly unlikely to pull on here….

Well unless you have a vagina and are still breathing.

Thanks for the honesty

I really do appreciate it.

Well I am srill breathing and I do have a vagina.... It does still count if it's my grannies and in a jar of formaldehyde right?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I'm here for sex.

That to me is I need instant attraction.

Shallow? I do not give a toss.

If someone fancies you they will meet you.if not move on to someone who does.

It's a sex site after all

Who is this BOB and how's he getting all the girls? ??"

I’m here.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm here for sex.

That to me is I need instant attraction.

Shallow? I do not give a toss.

If someone fancies you they will meet you.if not move on to someone who does.

It's a sex site after all

Who is this BOB and how's he getting all the girls? ??

I’m here.

Damm! ??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm here for sex.

That to me is I need instant attraction.

Shallow? I do not give a toss.

If someone fancies you they will meet you.if not move on to someone who does.

It's a sex site after all

Who is this BOB and how's he getting all the girls? ??

I’m here.

Hahahaha

it’s your wit and charm that has all the women at your beck and call cough cough “bullshit”

Although Bob these days is being put aside to make way for MOB

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm here for sex.

That to me is I need instant attraction.

Shallow? I do not give a toss.

If someone fancies you they will meet you.if not move on to someone who does.

It's a sex site after all

Who is this BOB and how's he getting all the girls? ??

I’m here.

Hahahaha

it’s your wit and charm that has all the women at your beck and call cough cough “bullshit”

Although Bob these days is being put aside to make way for MOB

Dammit! Now there is a Bob and Mob!!!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I'm here for sex.

That to me is I need instant attraction.

Shallow? I do not give a toss.

If someone fancies you they will meet you.if not move on to someone who does.

It's a sex site after all

Who is this BOB and how's he getting all the girls? ??

I’m here.

Hahahaha

it’s your wit and charm that has all the women at your beck and call cough cough “bullshit”

Although Bob these days is being put aside to make way for MOB

And MOB s_ands for More of Bob right?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *edLionScotMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Although Bob these days is being put aside to make way for MOB

BOB = Battery Operated Boyfriend?

MOB?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *agan gentlemenMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Machine operated??

Ie a sybian

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *edLionScotMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Machine operated??

Ie a sybian

Motorbike operated! ??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Machine operated??

Ie a sybian

Motorbike operated! ??"

Mobile operated?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *othardandfreeMan
over a year ago

"Machine operated??

Ie a sybian

Motorbike operated! ??

Mobile operated?"

Monkey operated???

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was me thinking this thread was gonna be about the weather lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *agan gentlemenMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Machine operated??

Ie a sybian

Motorbike operated! ??

Mobile operated?

Monkey operated???

Monkey rocker

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although Bob these days is being put aside to make way for MOB

BOB = Battery Operated Boyfriend?

MOB?

Mains operated lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Although Bob these days is being put aside to make way for MOB

BOB = Battery Operated Boyfriend?

MOB?

Mains operated lol "

Damm that's heavy duty ??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *utdooryoneMan
over a year ago

Over there

"Casual sex is over rated. I think it’s more worthwhile to get to know a person well, find out what makes them tick and let them find out about you, then when you do meet the sex is explosive.

This sums it up for me.

I'm also putting in the effort on my appearance - I'm back out running again, trying to keep that wild lockdown mullet trimmed, trying to get a tan etc.

Not only do I look better, it's good for my confidence.

One day I might be back to meets, and while I'm not exactly 6-pack and a Coulthard chin, I'm good enough and hoping for some flirting.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Trust me I'm no model and even I've had casual sex!

I think that while looks might grab someone's attention initially, it takes personality to hold it.

Fake it til you make it when it comes to confidence.

Also remember that people's definitions of hotness will vary. So too will people's wants, needs, hopes and aspirations for any encounter.

All you can do is be yourself. "

I think that while looks might grab someone's attention initially, it takes personality to hold it - Definitely this!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See I'm not into the thrill of the chase.i know what I like not here to be chased or my ego stroked."

As a single girl here I'm with you.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Casual sex is over rated. I think it’s more worthwhile to get to know a person well, find out what makes them tick and let them find out about you, then when you do meet the sex is explosive.

Agree. Ive never had a one night stand as it just doesnt do anything for me .. sex is so much better when i know at least a bit about what works for them / us.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lot of bullshitters in this post

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lot of bullshitters in this post

Lolol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same just even trying to chat is hard when u look like me ??????

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *4Fun11Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I'm the same just even trying to chat is hard when u look like me ??????"

Was that an emoji there?

Fab doesn’t recognise your phones emoji’s and you end up with question marks.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *cottishMrsWoman
over a year ago

Wishaw

"There is always going to be vain and shallow guys and girls that just go for looks in a, profile. But they could be a hunk or a, model, but no personality.

Looks fade, personality and gsoh does not, spice is the virtually o life and can be a huge surprise "

I don't think it's fair to suggest someone is vain and shallow because physical attraction is important. For me, physical attraction is what grasps my attention, personality is what keeps it.

The way I look at it is I'm here for fun and excitement, not dating. If I were dating someone, I could afford them the time to get to know their personality and see how amazing they are, but this isn't dating, this is sex. I don't want to sleep with someone I'm not attracted to, I don't think that makes me vain or shallow. I think it shows that, just because I'm a swinger, doesn't mean I'll sleep with any Tom, Dick or Harry.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Lot of bullshitters in this post

Want to be a bit more specific about who you are directing this towards? Pretty sweeping and damning.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

I read the thread title and initially thought it was going to be about the warm weather!

I think everyone has different ideas of what is 'hot' so on that basis no one isn't hot enough. It all comes down to individual preferences. I'm well aware that I'm probably not everyone's cup of tea & not everyone will be mine. I really don't think it is shallow to want to be attracted to someone you are going to be intimate with though.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it was laughing face emoji lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

"I read the thread title and initially thought it was going to be about the warm weather!

Exactly this. It’s not always the best looking people that you click with either. No idea where the chemistry comes from but if it’s there you can have fun and in some cases long lasting friendships too.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *implyJayGeeMan
over a year ago

Garthamlock

"Can you be? I mean if you looked like Brad Pitt then a lot of women would just involuntarily grab there ankles ??

But what about the other way around? If you are bald git with a "dad bod" do you have any chance?

I'm both insecure and curious ?? I have had relationships but it took time, I've never "pulled" or "had instant chemistry" with anyone.

First of tonight's many questions ??"

I’m in the dad bod / hair category… Have done alright when out and about (pre covid) but have became massively scunnered with the hoops needing jumped through on here. The real ones will find me, I’ve nothing to hide.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

"There is always going to be vain and shallow guys and girls that just go for looks in a, profile. But they could be a hunk or a, model, but no personality.

Looks fade, personality and gsoh does not, spice is the virtually o life and can be a huge surprise "

I really dislike these types of replies. Why is it vain or shallow to want to have sex with someone you are attracted to? It doesn’t matter if the bloke has the best personality in the world if I don’t fancy him I am not getting physical with him. One persons hot is another persons not so I’m sure there is someone for everyone on here.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely get offers from ladies or couples. Hell even my wife doesn’t want sex with me!

I don’t think I’m hideously ugly. But maybe I am

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *cottishMrsWoman
over a year ago

Wishaw

"There is always going to be vain and shallow guys and girls that just go for looks in a, profile. But they could be a hunk or a, model, but no personality.

Looks fade, personality and gsoh does not, spice is the virtually o life and can be a huge surprise

Yes! Thank you. I hate when the shallow card is played. No, it's not shallow, it's attraction xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is somewhere I come onto once in a while, if you aren’t confident this isn’t the place for you. Misconception that you will find something. No chance now it seems like there are 20men to 1woman don’t forget it’s a swingers site. Don’t get down if you fail on here

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread