FabSwingers.com forum: Accept me for who I am

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you try to look after your body in some way so it may be more attractive to others or do you do nothing and believe others should just accept you for who you are?

Does body shape and size make a difference to who you would want to connect with when you look at profiles?

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

50-100 push ups a day, the occasional living-room cycle, then stuff my face with loads of absolute shite. Toned chest and arms with a wee pot belly is my go-to look.

As for others - I find things I like in almost all shapes and sizes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I look is way the way I'm comfortable. Take it or leave it

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By *jezee1000Man
over a year ago

perth

Eat healthily. Walk a lot and then at night get out the chocs and crisps . No sense.

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

I'm currently working on shifting a bit of extra weight, I'm doing it for myself though, to feel more comfortable in my own skin & to be healthier, being more appealing to others certainly isn't a driving force.

As for what I look for in others, I don't have strong preferences on body types, it tends to be more about their confidence, personality and a certain glint in their eye. I generally dont find myself drawn to a very muscly 'gym' type physique, or ultra slim body, but ultimately I look at the overall combination of different aspects of the person, not just their body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Workout five times a week. Splitting weight training and cardio. Not as squishy as I once was but my stomach isn't as firm as it probably could be because I like food and drink too much.

I'm happy overall

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

I look after me for me. Nobody else. If I don't look after me and I get a little mid section it is me and me alone that needs to deal with it.

Unfortunately the media has force many to have to look and act a certain way to be accepted.

That has lead to pressures to fit in and ultimately alot of mental health issues for younger adults.

Not saying it is the only reason. But definitely a contributing factor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you try to look after your body in some way so it may be more attractive to others or do you do nothing and believe others should just accept you for who you are?

Does body shape and size make a difference to who you would want to connect with when you look at profiles?"

I look after my body through good diet and exercise because I want to be fit and healthy and keep the signs of maturity at bay a little longer, not to be attractive to others. In turn I'm not attracted to people who only judge the outside of anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm my own harshest critic when it comes to my body and how I look. Then I get trapped in a cycle of comfort eating and self loathing.

I've been single a long time and I've had my heart broken massively. I've gotten to a point of trying to convince myself that its not about me not being good enough it's more about them. Some days I do that better than others.

If I decide to go on a diet it's for me. If I decide to dress up, it's for me. And ultimately I wouldn't ever want people in my life who weren't accepting of me at my best and at my worst.

However I am always a work of varied progress!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve always been fairly comfortable I. My own skin but struggle at other times I feel fat unnatractive but I e always tried to push past it and mask my confidence for me knowing I had great boobs and using them to full advantage was my confidence weapon of choice x buying sexy underwear was very much part of feeling good the mindset that under these clothes I know I’m sexy and so many folk would love to see me in just my underwear, now having gone through surgery the coming weeks and months are going to be a big tello g for me, I want to lose weight for health reasons and now I look down I can see my stomach before all I saw was boobs, but I’ve rattled a packet of digestives two large chocolate bars and a few Kit Kat in bed since last night very much comfort eating !

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

Achh we are all bombarded with the duel devils of not having the perfect body whislt being told eating comfort food will make everything alright.

Then we wonder why our children and childrens children grow up mentally lost in what to do in a physical crisis.

Me personally, short baldy chubby grumpy happy basrsteward. Keep myslef semi fit, semi fed and semi d*unk

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I’m the biggest I’ve ever been but I don’t hate myself for it. I haven’t tried particularly hard to lose my excess weight because I’m still confident about my assets.

I do know as I am getting older that I need to become fit, for the benefit of me and for my children.

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By *night_in_rusty_armourMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

I can accept anyone for who thay are regardless of shape.

Yet I'm self conscious about my own...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very hard on myself about my weight. I find it difficult when people like my body and really like what they see.

But in saying that I'm at a stage of just saying this is who I am you can pass by me or wink and I'm going to take it as a compliment.. (Bebop)

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By *ucky24Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Do you try to look after your body in some way so it may be more attractive to others or do you do nothing and believe others should just accept you for who you are?

Does body shape and size make a difference to who you would want to connect with when you look at profiles?

Couldn't agree more, the main reason has to be for your own health and wellbeing.

Also someone at the start of this thread said there is always something to find attractive in a person.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Do you try to look after your body in some way so it may be more attractive to others or do you do nothing and believe others should just accept you for who you are?

Does body shape and size make a difference to who you would want to connect with when you look at profiles?"
Im constantly on diets losing then gaining losing & gaining constantly.

I think we are all our greatest critiques when it comes to our body image,

altho my body size does not define who I am and I'm a very confident person which detracts away from how I feel some days.

One day I'm fine with my size the next I'm not its just the way it is.

Getting a nice compliment always makes you feel good so that helps a bit.

I think the 1st step to feeling good about your body is learning not to be to harsh on yourself as I've found out like most of us have that there are many who will criticize you for body shape as it is .

I'm attracted to people initially by looks & I know it might sound hypocritical but I'm not into bigger built men,my preferences are for rugby built men or average men.

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By *scobar67Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I look after myself.. Gym running and swimming... But its not to please anyone else.

I enjoy it and its also a nice stress relief

Plus there's the added bonus of lycra ladies in the gym

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God I am who I am, take it or leave it, I'm really not arsed. I'm so busy with life/family/work I dont give a

Monkey's if I eat extra cake or fit into the stereo type "beautiful & sexy" category . If you care what I look like more than I do then you've got a problem

Mrs

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to say i am who I am, but I have constantly been changing hair and body since I was a teenager, to try and fit, a perfect body profile, but recently I understand that you are who you are, just accept it,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look after my body because it makes me feel good about myself and for health reasons. I think its natural to want others to find you attractive but it certainly wouldn't ruin my day if they didn't.

I think on the whole, if you accept who you are then others will too.

As for body shape/size, I always aim to connect with those I find attractive, my standards don't drop if I am carrying a few extra pounds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Body shape is a poor second to personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've shifted just under 2st recently, really only for me I as felt very out of shape.

No great diet plan just eat less and move more but strictly no eating after 6pm though.

My job keeps me relatively fit, but can't do any other real exercise due to knee injury.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been a large guy big belly since secondary school ,loved my sports and played football, badminton,golf just loved my food more ...lost a bit but nothing to write home about and put it back on,a bit body conscious with strangers not just on here but im a happy bloke, wouldn't let it stop me doing anything if I wanted to do it.i expect the looks and comments from others and it's never phased me to much if I do lose a bit it will be to keep up with the little one lol..a nice person far outweighs the shell in my book

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I’ve recently started back at the swimming to train for a Swim22 challenge. Swim 22 miles in 12 weeks.

I did have an injury which has left me with a weakness in my leg and I can no longer walk as far as I used to. I do have lockdown weight gain so I’m hoping that having a goal will keep me focussed.

I’m always going to be curvy so people can make their own choices about who they meet.

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By *uffinMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

The problem is fab doesn't accept us for what we are, beauty is only skin deep and I've been more drawn to some with special things like eyes or smile - stuff you can do little to nothing to tailor.

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By *isbehavingWoman
over a year ago

Huntly

I think we’re our own worst critics.

I do absolutely nothing to keep fit and healthy. I eat, drink, smoke, I don’t exercise, but I laugh lots, have a fantastic life, and a great time.

The right people see past any flaws you may or may not feel you have, and enjoy you for the person you are whether that’s from a casual encounter, or a regular thing.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

I do the usual sit ups, push ups, weights and squats every night. Mainly just me and I always have since I was a teen. Profiles I don’t really care, I’ll message if there’s something of interest in there.

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By *aster C the kinksterMan
over a year ago

Darlington

I've never been bothered about how I look. Which is rediculous because, like most, I look at some amazing bodies on here and think wow.

I would hope I'm never judgmental as I do find all women amazing, it's definitely more about what's between someone's ears than it is physical appearance.

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