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By *ansduo OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Just as the title suggests, what would be your best tips/advice for a first meet with a male / couple?

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By *ighlander80884Man
over a year ago

Inverness

Social only, not at your home. Just treat it as getting to know someone socially.

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By *ansduo OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Social only, not at your home. Just treat it as getting to know someone socially. "

Thanks. Makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First meet should really be a social, chat and find out about each other's likes and dislikes. Don't feel pressured into doing anything if you're not sure, that's why we all have socials, to see if we actually get on well enough to take things further later on. Just treat it as new friends getting to know each other and just be yourself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo a social a coffee you can only guage people so much through texts and calls your body naturally picks up things in company that you just can’t do over technology, we have a sixth sense we just don’t use it enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social, somewhere you can chat without being overheard

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By *exicolaMan
over a year ago

West Lothian

Smell nice

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By *ctoboyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Definitely a Social Meet first of all at a neutral venue to find out more about each other and set any ground rules should you decide to take matters further. Make sure no hidden agendas and you are comfortable in each others company before moving forward...

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Personally I find the thought of coffee dates boring. If it were me I'd find a soft play centre to infiltrate and have a wee go on the bouncy castle. You can get a far better idea of a person's character that way.

Or coffee and a bounce afterwards.

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By *otmale5Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Don’t be in a rush to meet. First social is a make or break situation. Be clean , well presented , don’t smoke with your mouth full . You’ll know in the first few minutes if you want to chat further. Get to know each other or just be polite and walk away. No harm done . Try again .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's a 1st ever meet defo a social somewhere that way you can see if there's an attraction from the off.if not no pressure and you leave the night saying will defo meet up again knowing full well your blocking them asap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys it's entirely up to you how you treat the first meet. While all the advice above is excellent advice and in most instances makes perfect sense its not always the be all and end all. Trust me.

If its 10pm at night and you fancy meeting someone because your full of the horn then go for it. Start a chat with someone or even someone you are already in contact with, invite them over , there's no hard and fast rules about 1st meets. Some of the best times I've been involved in have been spontaneous meets. Obviously it's a very good idea to have a phone chat prior to this spontaneous meet but other than that they most certainly do work .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do whatever feels right for you.

While I would agree social only is probably most sensible, I had a first meet once that was far more exciting.

Sometimes it's also OK to throw caution to the wind

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Definitely a social first with no expectations of play. We also like to set the rule that no one makes a decision on the meet but we message each other afterwards. It means you’re not being pushed to make a decision in front of people.

Of course it’s really whatever you are both comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always social meet first,you can feel you really click with someone while chatting but I can be totally different face to face.

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By *ugyukMan
over a year ago

dundee

Buy a motorcycle

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

While I would normally advise on a social meeting, sometimes you get a feeling about someone that blows that out the water.

Trust your instincts.....the good and the bad.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Agree a code word in advance so that if either of you feel uncomfortable and don’t want to play then it’s clear to your partner. You don’t want to have one half of you ‘taking one for the team’.

Agree boundaries - same room, soft play, full swap, etc. Communication is important between couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agree a code word in advance so that if either of you feel uncomfortable and don’t want to play then it’s clear to your partner. You don’t want to have one half of you ‘taking one for the team’.

Agree boundaries - same room, soft play, full swap, etc. Communication is important between couples. "

Yep, a code world like " yer havin a giraffe mate if you think I'm pumping you tonight"

Oops that's 12 words but you get my drift.

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By *arroness NikkiWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Just as the title suggests, what would be your best tips/advice for a first meet with a male / couple? "

If your a couple i can’t see any harm just meeting whenever, doesn’t have to be just social

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Do what suits you and the other profile in general ignore everyone else's view of what they believe to be correct

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By *ansduo OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Thanks guys. Plenty to chew in there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do what suits you and the other profile in general ignore everyone else's view of what they believe to be correct"

Nobody who replied in this thread believe themselves to be correct

The couple who posted asked others for advice so absolutely no reason for you to tell them to ignore any or all the advice they have received so far.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

A moto to live by," Don't be a dick!"...

Works wonders....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep expectations in check. Everyone has a disastrous meet in the memory banks ( .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Keep expectations in check. Everyone has a disastrous meet in the memory banks ( .

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No they don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Keep expectations in check. Everyone has a disastrous meet in the memory banks ( .

No they don't "

Must just be me then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Keep expectations in check. Everyone has a disastrous meet in the memory banks ( .

No they don't "

Agreed , I've never had a bad meet. The women ive met might differ in opinion on that though lol. Hopefully not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do whatever feels right for you.

While I would agree social only is probably most sensible, I had a first meet once that was far more exciting.

Sometimes it's also OK to throw caution to the wind "

Yup I had a few first meets when I was first on here that were a bit more risky but someone always knew where I was sorry but safety first in my books and then my pal always got a text to say I’m home or I’m staying the night text you in morning

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By *urvy N TeaseCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

We done our first meets at a club. No pressure to do any thi g if you don't want to and gave us a chance to test the water.

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By *ctoboyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Clubs are great way for first meets as within them No means NO and so people tend to abide by rules for fear of being banned from club.

I should stress that NO means NO anywhere

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"Do what suits you and the other profile in general ignore everyone else's view of what they believe to be correct

Nobody who replied in this thread believe themselves to be correct

The couple who posted asked others for advice so absolutely no reason for you to tell them to ignore any or all the advice they have received so far. "
in your opinion... here's a clue I don't agree with you.

social interactions work differently with each and every person. There ain't a one size fits all method.

you should be tailoring your interactions with others to suit.

You don't like my opinion get over it and state your own.

People can take or leave anything said and don't need you changing the subject so you can appear as a white Knight.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"Guys it's entirely up to you how you treat the first meet. While all the advice above is excellent advice and in most instances makes perfect sense its not always the be all and end all. Trust me.

If its 10pm at night and you fancy meeting someone because your full of the horn then go for it. Start a chat with someone or even someone you are already in contact with, invite them over , there's no hard and fast rules about 1st meets. Some of the best times I've been involved in have been spontaneous meets. Obviously it's a very good idea to have a phone chat prior to this spontaneous meet but other than that they most certainly do work . "
pmsl you complain about my post though you simply longwinded the same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself and if everyone is comfortable then take it from there

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By *ikchattyfellahMan
over a year ago

Greenock


"Buy a motorcycle

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I don't know why but that made me laugh more than it should have!

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"Agree a code word in advance so that if either of you feel uncomfortable and don’t want to play then it’s clear to your partner. You don’t want to have one half of you ‘taking one for the team’.

Agree boundaries - same room, soft play, full swap, etc. Communication is important between couples.

Yep, a code world like " yer havin a giraffe mate if you think I'm pumping you tonight"

Oops that's 12 words but you get my drift. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys it's entirely up to you how you treat the first meet. While all the advice above is excellent advice and in most instances makes perfect sense its not always the be all and end all. Trust me.

If its 10pm at night and you fancy meeting someone because your full of the horn then go for it. Start a chat with someone or even someone you are already in contact with, invite them over , there's no hard and fast rules about 1st meets. Some of the best times I've been involved in have been spontaneous meets. Obviously it's a very good idea to have a phone chat prior to this spontaneous meet but other than that they most certainly do work . pmsl you complain about my post though you simply longwinded the same here "

Not quite the same though is it ? I never said ignore everyone's advice and do what you want , I confirmed they had already been given excellent advice and also offered an alternative to the advice already given. Neither did I profess that those giving advice think their advice is the correct thing to do or that my alternative way was the correct way either.

You stated fact that they should ignore everything that's just disrespectful to everyone else's opinion , simple.

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"Guys it's entirely up to you how you treat the first meet. While all the advice above is excellent advice and in most instances makes perfect sense its not always the be all and end all. Trust me.

If its 10pm at night and you fancy meeting someone because your full of the horn then go for it. Start a chat with someone or even someone you are already in contact with, invite them over , there's no hard and fast rules about 1st meets. Some of the best times I've been involved in have been spontaneous meets. Obviously it's a very good idea to have a phone chat prior to this spontaneous meet but other than that they most certainly do work . pmsl you complain about my post though you simply longwinded the same here

Not quite the same though is it ? I never said ignore everyone's advice and do what you want , I confirmed they had already been given excellent advice and also offered an alternative to the advice already given. Neither did I profess that those giving advice think their advice is the correct thing to do or that my alternative way was the correct way either.

You stated fact that they should ignore everything that's just disrespectful to everyone else's opinion , simple.

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I stand by the bouncy castle thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I stand by the bouncy castle thing."

If you just stand by it you'll never have any fun.

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


""I stand by the bouncy castle thing."

If you just stand by it you'll never have any fun. "

Course I will! Am watching all the Fab couples bouncing and my money says they'll forget their sports bras!

You can be Panda Lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself ,

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