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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to appear not boring but not so blatantly obvious that all you want is a fuck. Is it simply just persevere and hope for the best? Any advice would be welcome

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

wear a funny hat?

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By *artyanna16200TV/TS
over a year ago

leeds

When your eye is suposed to be on the bird keep away from sniffing the spaniels bottom

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By *alhamCoupleCouple
over a year ago

London


"Just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to appear not boring but not so blatantly obvious that all you want is a fuck. Is it simply just persevere and hope for the best? Any advice would be welcome "

Being yourself is not boring, being comfortable with you who you are is attractive. And there is nothing wrong in being on here for just a fuck. It is a swingers website. You can be just about a fuck but be respectful about it.

The hope is that the Scene will be opening up (by June?) and you will be able to attend socials and other events. And hopefully get verifications.

In the meantime you can work on your profile. I like your pictures. You could think about your text more: what you want (couples, single woman, bi couples, etc) but also what you have to offer (for example, can you travel? If so, how far are you prepared to travel?

Good luck.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Just be yourself and try to reflect your personality on your profile as well as outlining what you can offer and what you are looking for.

Joining in on the forums can be fun & helps people get to know you a bit, but only a relatively small percentage of site members actually use the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Putting complaining statuses on doesn't help. If your not happy about someone or something just ignore and move on.

Give it time, don't be desperate, don't put women on a pedestal and you should be fine.

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By *ornyfuckers66Couple
over a year ago

fife

It’s hard enough for couples to get meets You might be better on a dating site

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice offered. It wasn't meant to be taken as a complaint that I'm having no luck. All new to me and just wanted opinions on what other people tend to look for when looking at someone's profile. So I appreciate the comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile looks fine.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've been seen, by me, but I'm to old (goes to get the knitting needles out)

Good luck OP

MRS

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By *eestar38Couple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Profile looks OK to me.

Honest and straight to the point of what your looking for.

Can take time to get into the swing of things on here and doesn't happen over night.

Maybe join in the group chat that way you can get talking to some regulars.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks as I say I'm not desperate by any means and if it was just a fuck I was after then I wouldn't be on here. Far easier getting that from elsewhere. I'm on this to meet someone who wants similar thrills if you like. But the advice is helpful and I will crack on and see what happens.

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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago

South Fife

Probably better just being yourself. Trying to put stuff on your profile that are other people's ideas will come across as a bit fake. Write your profile from the heart and the right person/people will find you.

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By *cottishMrsWoman
over a year ago

Wishaw

As others have said, it's much more attractive to just be you. I've always been known to reply to a cheesy joke or terrible chat up line lol. Always makes me laugh, but in like a stupid kinda way lol xx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Probably better just being yourself. Trying to put stuff on your profile that are other people's ideas will come across as a bit fake. Write your profile from the heart and the right person/people will find you."
This ^^^

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to appear not boring but not so blatantly obvious that all you want is a fuck. Is it simply just persevere and hope for the best? Any advice would be welcome "

If you want to be seen then don't hide your profile. Simple.

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By *cottishMrsWoman
over a year ago

Wishaw


"Just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to appear not boring but not so blatantly obvious that all you want is a fuck. Is it simply just persevere and hope for the best? Any advice would be welcome

If you want to be seen then don't hide your profile. Simple."

I did wonder at that! Tried to get on for a nosey, and it's hidden lol. No way for anyone to message him, if they wanted to xx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to appear not boring but not so blatantly obvious that all you want is a fuck. Is it simply just persevere and hope for the best? Any advice would be welcome

If you want to be seen then don't hide your profile. Simple.

I did wonder at that! Tried to get on for a nosey, and it's hidden lol. No way for anyone to message him, if they wanted to xx"
You can still message a hidden profile

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to appear not boring but not so blatantly obvious that all you want is a fuck. Is it simply just persevere and hope for the best? Any advice would be welcome "

Can’t comment on your profile as it’s hidden but mine, while short on text, has worked pretty well for me. (Hastens to add I’m not suggesting it’s perfect or a template but it does reflect me to some degree.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said just be yourself, join in the forums, If that doesn't work, just send out random dick pics, it may not get you anywhere, but it will certainly get you noticed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm borrowing this bit of wisdom from the lovely princess peach in the lounge. It absolutely says it perfectly...

"Too many dudes have joined the site thinking it's dial-a-gash. Sending shit messages to profiles they ain't even read clogging up inboxes. I state on my profile I rarely read messages, that I don't wanna meet and there's every chance I won't want to meet off here again. I've still got 172 unread messages in there off people trying to seduce me with things like "hey babe"

Maybe you aren't one of these men and I'm sorry if that little nugget of advice seems harsh or unfair. I know not all men are like that.

Yesterday I had a prime example of someone not even bothering to read my profile. And he even said it in his message. I'm sorry if you lack the effort to read something you most definitely lack the effort it would take to satisfy me.

Sadly our inboxes are full of nonsense like that and therfore you have to stand out to been seen amoungst it.

I know it seems unfair that women seem to hold the power, I'm nothing special, I certainly don't have an over inflated ego. We should make an effort too. In reality though the numbers just go against you.

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By *incsladyandscotsmanCouple
over a year ago

North fife

Was going to answer, however your profile is hidden op. Therefore, our advice is to unhide it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself...if thet don't take to you who cares.I found in the past camming and the forums were a good way of projecting your personality and to get across what your about.

Don't try to hard.

Be yourself.

Avoid asking for meets.

Play the long game.

Listen.

Do socials when we can.

Be light hearted and have a laugh and flirt.Before you know it she'll be putty in your hands and you'll be riding a majestic crest of a wave.

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield


"wear a funny hat?"

Doesn't work...

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By *lair101TV/TS
over a year ago

Aberdeen, westhill


"Thanks for the advice offered. It wasn't meant to be taken as a complaint that I'm having no luck. All new to me and just wanted opinions on what other people tend to look for when looking at someone's profile. So I appreciate the comments "

You have a face pic , so, you are miles ahead of most lol

Agree with others... Polish profile, be yourself, be patient, be polite.

X

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By *lair101TV/TS
over a year ago

Aberdeen, westhill


"I'm borrowing this bit of wisdom from the lovely princess peach in the lounge. It absolutely says it perfectly...

"Too many dudes have joined the site thinking it's dial-a-gash. Sending shit messages to profiles they ain't even read clogging up inboxes. I state on my profile I rarely read messages, that I don't wanna meet and there's every chance I won't want to meet off here again. I've still got 172 unread messages in there off people trying to seduce me with things like "hey babe"

Maybe you aren't one of these men and I'm sorry if that little nugget of advice seems harsh or unfair. I know not all men are like that.

Yesterday I had a prime example of someone not even bothering to read my profile. And he even said it in his message. I'm sorry if you lack the effort to read something you most definitely lack the effort it would take to satisfy me.

Sadly our inboxes are full of nonsense like that and therfore you have to stand out to been seen amoungst it.

I know it seems unfair that women seem to hold the power, I'm nothing special, I certainly don't have an over inflated ego. We should make an effort too. In reality though the numbers just go against you. "

This is correct. Always read profiles before messaging and don't say 'how ru?'... My inbox is full of this kind of boring stuff.

Other yawn inducing messages include : wot u wearing? Wot u up 2? Ur hot. Aaaand... X

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