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By *adbury girl OP Woman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Saw this on Twitter and wondered if anyone else had faced such presumptuous health staff when attending an appointment (or any other staff)

Just had the 3 yearly smear test. The nurse said ‘Are you married?’ ‘No’. ‘You’re not sexually active then, I’ll have to use the smaller one to go in.’ ??

The first part of her statement was said as fact not question (is this the 1950’s?!) and the second part was just ...

I’ve always been relatively lucky in fact last time I happened to tell the nurse I was on fab and she was so positive about it

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I don't even think they asked me that so maybe they did assume I was. They probably should have asked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Saw this on Twitter and wondered if anyone else had faced such presumptuous health staff when attending an appointment (or any other staff)

Just had the 3 yearly smear test. The nurse said ‘Are you married?’ ‘No’. ‘You’re not sexually active then, I’ll have to use the smaller one to go in.’ ??

The first part of her statement was said as fact not question (is this the 1950’s?!) and the second part was just ...

I’ve always been relatively lucky in fact last time I happened to tell the nurse I was on fab and she was so positive about it

Very strange attitude

As you say 1950s

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By *estless nativeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

What happens if you are married, do they shout "Senga can ye get the mahoosive doofer prepped, this ones gonna be a loosey goosey"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been asked anything remotely like that when I've had a smear

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

Sadly there are still folk who’s ideas belong in Victorian times .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never heard that either, as already said doubts outdated and also wrong. I’ve a friend who’s married with the proverbial two children and has always found her smear test agony.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happens if you are married, do they shout "Senga can ye get the mahoosive doofer prepped, this ones gonna be a loosey goosey"

Aye cheers pal. Irn Bru spat up the laptop laughing at this as a Still Game sketch hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Saw this on Twitter and wondered if anyone else had faced such presumptuous health staff when attending an appointment (or any other staff)

Just had the 3 yearly smear test. The nurse said ‘Are you married?’ ‘No’. ‘You’re not sexually active then, I’ll have to use the smaller one to go in.’ ??

The first part of her statement was said as fact not question (is this the 1950’s?!) and the second part was just ...

I’ve always been relatively lucky in fact last time I happened to tell the nurse I was on fab and she was so positive about it

I think this may be one of those social media embellished stories Cadbury. You might struggle to find any woman that's had that question or response aimed at them.

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By *ub-seekerMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Think you need to take most Twitter stories with a massive pinch of salt

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

Never once been asked that... speculum is the same for us all.. twitter user looking for likes...

Wonders why young women are nervous about such things...

Oh... yeah...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been asked this. I've never understood why it would even be relevant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'd think they'd be able to tell by your ring....oh no wait a minute

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By *rimson and CloverCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

I’ve had a nurse say to me that she needed to use a smaller speculum. My friend has as well.

The story might be true.

Didn’t have the questions though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could fill a book with the stupid, disrespectful, unenlightened comments that have been made to me by some health care professionals over the years. I'm not remotely surprised!

Disclaimer: I've also got reason to be very grateful to the best of the best in the NHS for whom I have the highest respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happens if you are married, do they shout "Senga can ye get the mahoosive doofer prepped, this ones gonna be a loosey goosey"

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

Never been asked anything like it in all the years I’ve been.

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By *adbury girl OP Woman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"I could fill a book with the stupid, disrespectful, unenlightened comments that have been made to me by some health care professionals over the years. I'm not remotely surprised!

Disclaimer: I've also got reason to be very grateful to the best of the best in the NHS for whom I have the highest respect.

I remember being in labour with my 2nd child and phoned hospital asking when to come in as contractions were every 5 minutes. Her response was well you haven’t had a contraction in the 5 minutes you’ve been on the phone to me, just come in when you can’t bare the pain any longer. My ex husband made me go into the hospitals an hour and a half later and I gave birth within 25 minutes

I too have greatest respect for NHS as have nearly always had amazing service but there are those few that can spoil that reputation as with every profession I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reminds me that f the time I was in labour with my 2nd son..2 midwives talking over me laying on the bed telling her how she shouldn't even be here as it was a swapped shift and now she can't be arsed

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By *adbury girl OP Woman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Reminds me that f the time I was in labour with my 2nd son..2 midwives talking over me laying on the bed telling her how she shouldn't even be here as it was a swapped shift and now she can't be arsed

Nothing like filling you with confidence of the support you will receive

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By *awaiianguyMan
over a year ago

East Ayrshire

Last autumn buying hold ups for a friend I was asked what size my wife was. Just to push back, I almost asked what size the assistant thought I needed.

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By *adbury girl OP Woman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Last autumn buying hold ups for a friend I was asked what size my wife was. Just to push back, I almost asked what size the assistant thought I needed."

That would have been hilarious, you should have asked were hold ups better than stockings/suspenders

My friend was buying fancy shoes for his wife’s Christmas - she is a size 8/9- he was convinced the shop assistant thought they were for him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Saw this on Twitter and wondered if anyone else had faced such presumptuous health staff when attending an appointment (or any other staff)

Just had the 3 yearly smear test. The nurse said ‘Are you married?’ ‘No’. ‘You’re not sexually active then, I’ll have to use the smaller one to go in.’ ??

The first part of her statement was said as fact not question (is this the 1950’s?!) and the second part was just ...

I’ve always been relatively lucky in fact last time I happened to tell the nurse I was on fab and she was so positive about it

I think this may be one of those social media embellished stories Cadbury. You might struggle to find any woman that's had that question or response aimed at them.

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By *enie90Woman
over a year ago

a bottle

"Saw this on Twitter and wondered if anyone else had faced such presumptuous health staff when attending an appointment (or any other staff)

Just had the 3 yearly smear test. The nurse said ‘Are you married?’ ‘No’. ‘You’re not sexually active then, I’ll have to use the smaller one to go in.’ ??

The first part of her statement was said as fact not question (is this the 1950’s?!) and the second part was just ...

I’ve always been relatively lucky in fact last time I happened to tell the nurse I was on fab and she was so positive about it

One of the most uncomfortable things I’ve ever had, a smear test. I just got asked if I was sexually active. Was an okay experience in the end.

My best friend never even got asked anything and she’s still a virgin (so you can imagine the pain and blood). The nurse also made her feel horrible for not telling her and that she (my best friend) was at fault.. Definitely one of the worst experiences to have. Safe to say it put her off letting anything in there again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Saw this on Twitter and wondered if anyone else had faced such presumptuous health staff when attending an appointment (or any other staff)

Just had the 3 yearly smear test. The nurse said ‘Are you married?’ ‘No’. ‘You’re not sexually active then, I’ll have to use the smaller one to go in.’ ??

The first part of her statement was said as fact not question (is this the 1950’s?!) and the second part was just ...

I’ve always been relatively lucky in fact last time I happened to tell the nurse I was on fab and she was so positive about it

One of the most uncomfortable things I’ve ever had, a smear test. I just got asked if I was sexually active. Was an okay experience in the end.

I'm curious as to why she'd have a smear if she wasn't sexually active, just genuinely curious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Saw this on Twitter and wondered if anyone else had faced such presumptuous health staff when attending an appointment (or any other staff)

Just had the 3 yearly smear test. The nurse said ‘Are you married?’ ‘No’. ‘You’re not sexually active then, I’ll have to use the smaller one to go in.’ ??

The first part of her statement was said as fact not question (is this the 1950’s?!) and the second part was just ...

I’ve always been relatively lucky in fact last time I happened to tell the nurse I was on fab and she was so positive about it

One of the most uncomfortable things I’ve ever had, a smear test. I just got asked if I was sexually active. Was an okay experience in the end.

I'm curious as to why she'd have a smear if she wasn't sexually active, just genuinely curious. "
Every woman needs one sexually active or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Saw this on Twitter and wondered if anyone else had faced such presumptuous health staff when attending an appointment (or any other staff)

Just had the 3 yearly smear test. The nurse said ‘Are you married?’ ‘No’. ‘You’re not sexually active then, I’ll have to use the smaller one to go in.’ ??

The first part of her statement was said as fact not question (is this the 1950’s?!) and the second part was just ...

I’ve always been relatively lucky in fact last time I happened to tell the nurse I was on fab and she was so positive about it

One of the most uncomfortable things I’ve ever had, a smear test. I just got asked if I was sexually active. Was an okay experience in the end.

I'm curious as to why she'd have a smear if she wasn't sexually active, just genuinely curious. Every woman needs one sexually active or not "

Didnt think that was the case at all tbh

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By *enie90Woman
over a year ago

a bottle

She got an invitation at 25 and they just assumed she was sexually active. But even without being sexually active you can still get/have cervical cancer. I think you are more at risk if you are though, but don’t quote me on that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She got an invitation at 25 and they just assumed she was sexually active. But even without being sexually active you can still get/have cervical cancer. I think you are more at risk if you are though, but don’t quote me on that!"

Was my understanding too but guess there's more than hpv that can cause issues. Shame was a bit traumatic for her tho.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Saw this on Twitter and wondered if anyone else had faced such presumptuous health staff when attending an appointment (or any other staff)

Just had the 3 yearly smear test. The nurse said ‘Are you married?’ ‘No’. ‘You’re not sexually active then, I’ll have to use the smaller one to go in.’ ??

The first part of her statement was said as fact not question (is this the 1950’s?!) and the second part was just ...

I’ve always been relatively lucky in fact last time I happened to tell the nurse I was on fab and she was so positive about it

One of the most uncomfortable things I’ve ever had, a smear test. I just got asked if I was sexually active. Was an okay experience in the end.

I'm curious as to why she'd have a smear if she wasn't sexually active, just genuinely curious. "
Not all cervical cancers are from HPV if there is a strong family history of cervical cancer then there is a risk so all women should have a smear test whether sexually active or not

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By *orders CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Kelso

"Saw this on Twitter and wondered if anyone else had faced such presumptuous health staff when attending an appointment (or any other staff)

Just had the 3 yearly smear test. The nurse said ‘Are you married?’ ‘No’. ‘You’re not sexually active then, I’ll have to use the smaller one to go in.’ ??

The first part of her statement was said as fact not question (is this the 1950’s?!) and the second part was just ...

I’ve always been relatively lucky in fact last time I happened to tell the nurse I was on fab and she was so positive about it

Perhaps the previous nurse had spread the word about you being on fab and this one was being sarcastic. Yep, I doubt that too lol.

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