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By *0thCenturyFox OP   Woman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Help required!!!

Was on this scene for years in my youth but then moved away from it until a short time ago.

Having had a couple of meets recently, the age old question has again risen to the surface. I realise there are more rules involved to swinging than the proverbial Vicar's tea party but they seem to have changed in my absence!!

Is kissing on or not?

xxx (virtual ones don't count!!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

has to be a big yes from me.

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess

I reckon kissing is a vital part of foreplay although I recognise some couples save it as a 'between thenselves' activity - almost like the ultimate intimacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh god yes.....kissing can be a huge turn on i love it xx

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By *lirtyCouple69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"has to be a big yes from me. "

Me too, it's such a turn on. Have you had anyone tell you they don't want kissing involved??

xxx

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By *lirtyCouple69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"oh god yes.....kissing can be a huge turn on i love it xx"

That's exactly how I feel too. xxx

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By *lirtyCouple69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"I reckon kissing is a vital part of foreplay although I recognise some couples save it as a 'between thenselves' activity - almost like the ultimate intimacy."

So would you bring it up before hand, i.e. define the "rules" before you went any further? xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i cant understand how someone wouldnt want to kiss to be honest lol love it....

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By *0thCenturyFox OP   Woman
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"i cant understand how someone wouldnt want to kiss to be honest lol love it....

"

It broadsided me as well!! It was deemed to be "too intimate". Although when the comment "I wouldn't kiss a prostitute so why would I kiss you" was made I was tempted to deck the guy never mind kiss him!

I think Jim made a valid point above that some couples feel it is the ultimate intimacy but I now find myself asking some rather straight questions before I meet people!! Kinda takes the edge off the fun element. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its really a grey area innit?

as for "wouldnt kiss a prostitute", i think its more likely that a prostitute wouldnt kiss you!!!

its defo an intimacy thing for them (i kno im generalising)

if it a boundary, it must be respected, thats why defining boundaries at the start reduces the chances of pressing buttons, but also, boundaries are often streched when the atmosphere is right....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i can understand why u wanted to deck the guy...jeez what a thing to say to someone

each to their own i suppose..not sure id feel comfortable not kissing...its just a natural thing to do ..well in my opinion anyway lol

but yes it would take the fun out of the meet asking these questions hun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't meet someone who didn't like kissing. For me it adds the sensual element to something that would otherwise feel a bit clinical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"but yes it would take the fun out of the meet asking these questions hun xx"

i agree, but there has to be a balance between respect and exploration.

personally, im up for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not sure i would ask the question bout kissing to be honest lol prefer to find out at the time...but if they didnt kiss i wouldnt get as much out the met as i would if they did kiss...if that makes any sense at all lol

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not sure i would ask the question bout kissing to be honest lol prefer to find out at the time...but if they didnt kiss i wouldnt get as much out the met as i would if they did kiss...if that makes any sense at all lol

x

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makes perfect sense and i agree.

i wsnt inplying goin thru a list at the start! what a turn off, but just askin if theres anything they dont want to do.

hopefully the answers "nope"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always ask what are likes and dislikes...guess its up to the person to say lol

much prefer the answers to the likes though lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"always ask what are likes and dislikes...guess its up to the person to say lol

much prefer the answers to the likes though lol"

yeah, thats the conversation we'd all prefer!

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By *0thCenturyFox OP   Woman
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"always ask what are likes and dislikes...guess its up to the person to say lol

much prefer the answers to the likes though lol"

That's exactly what made the no kissing request so bizarre, some of their likes even opened my eyes and I'm no shrinking violet!! lol

Discussed it with hubby this morning and he did admit that he sometimes gets a tiny bit uncomfortable when I kiss other people. BUT considering what he is usually doing in the same room he realises that it's a totally irrational thought and locks it away to the back of his mind. xxx

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By *0thCenturyFox OP   Woman
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"not sure i would ask the question bout kissing to be honest lol prefer to find out at the time...but if they didnt kiss i wouldnt get as much out the met as i would if they did kiss...if that makes any sense at all lol

x

makes perfect sense and i agree.

i wsnt inplying goin thru a list at the start! what a turn off, but just askin if theres anything they dont want to do.

hopefully the answers "nope""

Been there, done that!!! One, not to be mentioned couple, turned up for a social meet with something that was about the size of an insurance questionnaire!! After I stopped laughing they ripped it up!! Turned out it was their first meet, I felt kinda guilty for a nanosecond. That was years ago and we still keep in touch, they turned out to be one of the sexiest couples I've ever had the pleasure of partying with!! xxx

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess


"I reckon kissing is a vital part of foreplay although I recognise some couples save it as a 'between thenselves' activity - almost like the ultimate intimacy.

So would you bring it up before hand, i.e. define the "rules" before you went any further? xxx"

That's a tricky one. I don't think I'd ask for a hard and fast answer about it in advance (in the way you'd want a hard and fast answer about condoms for example) but it'd become pretty obvious quite soon one way or the other.

I'd like to think the trick from the point of view of the one who didn't want kissing would be to be subtle about it. Something like gently turning her head away or directing his lips elsewhere.

A few years back I wrote a 'things to consider when planning a threesome' for a couple I knew were keen to experiment. I told them all the sensible stuff about condoms, choosing whether to play on the floor or in their marital bed etc but didn't mention kissing and the feedback was that all went well expect the lady of the couple didn't want her partner kissing the extra woman. Everything else was acceptable but not kissing.

Each to their own, eh?

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By *ubgla KhanMan
over a year ago

Scotland and on my travels

God YES to kissing!

Cant take away such an essential and sensual part of life and enjoyment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"God YES to kissing!

Cant take away such an essential and sensual part of life and enjoyment!"

no kisses no legover simple but i suppose for couples its understandable!!

had one meet who didnt kiss and tbh i felt a bit degraded as i felt like an unpaid prostitute!

so note to all potential meets lol!! xx

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By *ubgla KhanMan
over a year ago

Scotland and on my travels

Whoever that meet was is a bit of a twat to be honset!!!

How could he not kiss?

I could pardon someone for fating in the bed, but not kissing? - it would be sling yer hook time! LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

love a good snog

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

huggz n kisses pleazeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.. a definate requirement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whoever that meet was is a bit of a twat to be honset!!!

How could he not kiss?

I could pardon someone for fating in the bed, but not kissing? - it would be sling yer hook time! LOL "

my point exactly!! i asked if i had bad breath somethin in my teeth etc said no just didnt like kissin swingin partners needless to say it was a never again!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can not have sex without kissing, schimples lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find the no kissing a strange one but each to their own........you can kiss, lick, suck anywhere else but just not my mouth.

Personally i love a good kiss it gets everything going in my eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love kissing, totally and utterly would kiss for hours. :P Ruby xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No Kissing?? sorry does not compute lol

Each to their own obviously but I really wouldn't know what to do if I couldn't kiss on a meet , I dare say I wouldn't meet anyone who doesn't kiss ..and on that note here's a virtual one for you all mwuahhhhhhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing or anything??? The rules are your own and to each their own I would deffo prefer kissing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

kissing is a must mwwwwwwwwwwwwah

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By *lirtyCouple69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"kissing is a must mwwwwwwwwwwwwah"

I'm with you on this one! xxx

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By *ubgla KhanMan
over a year ago

Scotland and on my travels


"Whoever that meet was is a bit of a twat to be honset!!!

How could he not kiss?

I could pardon someone for fating in the bed, but not kissing? - it would be sling yer hook time! LOL

my point exactly!! i asked if i had bad breath somethin in my teeth etc said no just didnt like kissin swingin partners needless to say it was a never again!!! "

So thats No, Nay, Never!

No, Nay, Never, No more!

Will I kiss a wild Rover,

No Never, No more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

kissing is bliss when your intimate nearly up there wi sex lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kiss, kiss, kiss, kiss, kiss.....

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"kissing is bliss when your intimate nearly up there wi sex lol "

lol for a second I thought this said "when you are an inmate" lol

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By *cottishcoupleCouple
over a year ago

near irvine, ayrshire

kissing a def must its the start off the fun mmmmmmmmmm and also depends where u are kissing

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To kiss is bliss !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

chris hear i love kissing 3rd best thing to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i love kissing!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All this no kissing harks back to prostitution. Prostitutes sold their bodies and kept their kisses as the one intimacy left to them with their partners. So I'm sorry but if someone refused to kiss me I'd feel as used as a prostitute and would say so... then be off like a shot. No need to take offence to this, it's only my personal opinion.

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By *uvhandleMan
over a year ago

Huntly

kissing, licking,nudging with my nose......its all good!!!

but kissing mouth to mouth isn't it part of sex???

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By *issCognitoWoman
over a year ago

secret location near glasgow

Poeple watching too much Pretty Woman x

I would never have sex with anyone I didnt wanna kiss..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would never have sex with anyone I didnt wanna kiss.. "

im a major kisser too. i heard im awesome at it.

Anyone for xmas smoochies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not the kiss itself thats intimate, its the feeling and emotion thats behind it that defines the intimacy!

Steve xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

kissing is a must for us xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the moment b4 a 1st kiss,,,,,

cant beat it mmmmmmm

auds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have i said i actualy have a black belt in kissing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No kissing" is usually a couple thing, and as always it's their choice, but personally I'd find it too clinical and "no kissing" would be a no no for me.

If it was a single stating it then I'm afraid I'd find that very weird! Kissing is a major if not essential part of foreplay, imho, really gets you going!! lolol

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By *inner-EllaWoman
over a year ago

tayside

My kisses have a habit of capturing peoples attentions lol once kissed by me and it's never forgotten...been told my kisses are soo good they can't wait for the rest

I'll take a compliment when i get one (which isn't very often)

When I was actually meeting for about 2 yrs kissing was in....didn't actually meet anyone who didn't kiss :S would be a bit weird if there wasn't, isn't kissing part of the foreplay and teasing???

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