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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We often read profiles and see that they may not answer as they are inundated with messages.

We get about one message a month without messaging or winking first although we only allow messages from females and couples.

We were wondering how many messages others get, is one a month average or are we doing something wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One. It's great being hidden.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

If you included men you would get loads. Not many women message first I very very rarely do.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

I get between 4 and 5 messages a week and have messages open to all.

"I think I scare everyone!!"

Bit I am such a nice lady when you get to know me. Really I am...

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

We don't get many but we choose to keep our filters pretty tight & have single males blocked.

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get one or 2 every 6 months we asked for feedback on our profile and got told that it's cause Mrs is straight and not interested in been with women it puts couples off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Around 5 a week

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)


"One. It's great being hidden. "

Your not hidden. You are like tinkerbell fleeting about sprinkling her naughty minx pixie dust over every one...

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth


"We often read profiles and see that they may not answer as they are inundated with messages.

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From the sounds of it single females undoubtedly get a lot of messages, especially if they don't set any filters, but I do sometimes see this statement on couple or male profiles & wonder if they just say that a) as an excuse for why they don't reply to messages or b) to make themselves appear to be in demand.

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One. It's great being hidden.

Your not hidden. You are like tinkerbell fleeting about sprinkling her naughty minx pixie dust over every one... "

I LOVE this!

Thank you xx

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

It's a bit like a competition with for some folk... I gor 3 megs oh my I got ten just ten I got 30 today alone really 56 here and it's only 8am.

On top of this msgs usually have a catalyst point uploading a blurt pic a status saying how horny they are. Or how sad they are at not having there new kitchen floor laid.

I get maybe 20 msgs a month most of those are fron folks I know but don't have the means to contact me outwith here or just to say hi

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

We get about 3 a day I'd say? Maybe a few more depending on if I'm on cam or really active on the site but I never understood the "inundated with messages" thing.. I thought it was just us

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

It's a bit like a competition with for some folk... I gor 3 messages.. oh my I got ten.. just ten I got 30 yesterday alone.. really 56 here and it's only 8am.

On top of this msgs usually have a catalyst point uploading a blurt pic a status saying how horny they are. Or how sad they are at not having there new kitchen floor laid.

I get maybe 20 msgs a month most of those are fron folks I know but don't have the means to contact me outwith here or just to say hi

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By *lasgowguy1Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

What’s a message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asides from regular chat with a lovely couple we met on here, we rarely get any messages.

Doesn’t really bother us though (sometimes no messages is far better than having to delete an inbox full of dick pics).

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow


"What’s a message? "

Exactly, recently chatted to a lady who claimed to have 400 messages in her in box!!

Most them were one liners from guys with little imagination or originality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn’t really say

As it depends on a number off things

If I am on all day in the the lounge I can expect anything from 70 to 100 per day

If it’s a new pic day my messages can jump up in to the 200-300 range a day till

I get off that 12 hour hot page lol

All really depends on how active I have been on hear really

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Do people actually count their messages ? ..I know I don't but its not that many to overwhelm me so thatl do me,plus I do my own searching & messaging those I'm interested in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a bit like a competition with for some folk... I gor 3 messages.. oh my I got ten.. just ten I got 30 yesterday alone.. really 56 here and it's only 8am.

On top of this msgs usually have a catalyst point uploading a blurt pic a status saying how horny they are. Or how sad they are at not having there new kitchen floor laid.

I get maybe 20 msgs a month most of those are fron folks I know but don't have the means to contact me outwith here or just to say hi"

This..

If I can also add...

Most Bisexual women have zero interest in being the performing seal for the male partner. I'm sure Couples seeking Couples must be difficult as 4 people need to get on.

Not saying OP this is the case but many women become bi/bicurious mainly because of a male driven profile.

If a female partner can have active sex in a Couples interaction...Why not on her own or with her male partner.

Many reasons perhaps others may see it therefore limitations in messages.

I think you've posted the same before

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how active I am. I dont cam so don't get them cos of that. Or if I put a new pic up. Generally maybe about 20 to 30 a week outwith that

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

About one every 6 months...lol

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock


"One. It's great being hidden. "
Are they any point being on here if you hide your profile?

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"One. It's great being hidden. Are they any point being on here if you hide your profile?"
of course there is this poster will have many acquaintances to keep up with.

this nonsense of if your profiles hidden you should just leave is another example of teddy out the cot as I have no means of engaging with you and I want.

Just accept that user has no interest in you at that moment in time instead of feeling slighted

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By *rimson and CloverCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

We maybe get one or two a week. But I’ve recently set up a single female account as we wanted to include single males. In the past two weeks I’ve opened over two hundred messages. Was a bit inundated but it’s settling down now.

I think any new single female profile would be inundated the first few weeks before things settle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One. It's great being hidden. Are they any point being on here if you hide your profile?"

Plenty of point for the owner of the profile. Interested to know why you might think it's otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get between 4 and 5 messages a week and have messages open to all.

"I think I scare everyone!!"

Bit I am such a nice lady when you get to know me. Really I am... "

I'm a "wee" bit scared but fascinated at the same time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One. It's great being hidden. Are they any point being on here if you hide your profile?"

Email Admin and tell them to scrap the Hidden Profile function because you think it's pointless for members to be here that use it.

Come back and tell us how you get on.

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By *eraphin SeductionWoman
over a year ago

glasgow


"What’s a message?

Exactly, recently chatted to a lady who claimed to have 400 messages in her in box!!

Most them were one liners from guys with little imagination or originality."

Claim it was FACT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s a message?

Exactly, recently chatted to a lady who claimed to have 400 messages in her in box!!

Most them were one liners from guys with little imagination or originality.

Claim it was FACT "

Why not just delete them then if there's no interest instead of keeping them in your inbox?

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By *cott23Man
over a year ago

north ayrshire

Only ever from gay guys even though my profile states that's not what I'm looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv got most filters on so not as many as those bragging they have to mass delete

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

actually worth reading and replying to?? about five

r&s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

0

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Iv got most filters on so not as many as those bragging they have to mass delete "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Iv got most filters on so not as many as those bragging they have to mass delete "

I sent you a message in 2008..haven't heard anything since. I didn't want too send another incase ya thought I was too pushy. X

Regardless of the amount of messages it only takes that 1 that makes the difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One. It's great being hidden. Are they any point being on here if you hide your profile?of course there is this poster will have many acquaintances to keep up with.

this nonsense of if your profiles hidden you should just leave is another example of teddy out the cot as I have no means of engaging with you and I want.

Just accept that user has no interest in you at that moment in time instead of feeling slighted"

This!!

I've been here for more years than I care to count. I'll do what I like with my profile and when.

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By *estless nativeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

If I remove all the fab straight guys offering to suck my boaby, then 2 or 3 per week.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss


"One. It's great being hidden. Are they any point being on here if you hide your profile?"

Why delete an entire profile with verifications and and username people know you by when you just want a break?

I regularly hide my profile when I want a couple of weeks away or just want to chat to people I'm already in contact with. Don't see how it impacts anyone else in a negative way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a few - mainly saying no thanks or you’re not my type

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)


"I get between 4 and 5 messages a week and have messages open to all.

"I think I scare everyone!!"

Bit I am such a nice lady when you get to know me. Really I am...

I'm a "wee" bit scared but fascinated at the same time... "

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some nice messages yesterday and today from being in the forums much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its just random messages then not many , if it's messages in general through people I chat to privately then loads every week .

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss


"If its just random messages then not many , if it's messages in general through people I chat to privately then loads every week . "

Stop pretending you have friends - you'll give yourself a bad name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Females making initial contact with me i get no msgs , me making contact with them prob lucky if i get 1 reply in 30 msgs , others msgn maybe 2/3 per week

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By *rocMan
over a year ago

llandudno junction

I get one when I renew my membership lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If its just random messages then not many , if it's messages in general through people I chat to privately then loads every week . "

You sending them to yourself

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

It’s quality, not quantity that matters. Out of 50 messages only a handful will continue a conversation.

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By *auradCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Number of messages has certainly dropped in the last few months but the recurring theme is that a substantial proportion of them obviously haven’t read our profile.

Very few messages are from people that we would be remotely interested in.

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By *artforpussyMan
over a year ago

Paisley


"I get one when I renew my membership lol"

You lucky lucky bastard !! ????

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By *uriouscayotesCouple
over a year ago

Falkirk

None. Not even when we renew the silver membership

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get approx 10 from the Ma every day. She's 82 and by Jesus she loves her phone.

Messages covering topics like "Don't forget to phone your Auntie she's getting her new false teeth today" or "Give me a call will you I can't find the TV remote control"

So 10 daily x 7 days...equals 70. The answer to your question OP is 70

I don't count msgs OP sorry. Neither do I send cold call ones. Works for me....x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If its just random messages then not many , if it's messages in general through people I chat to privately then loads every week . "

I can totally understand that hence you're popularity on the forum.

Good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If its just random messages then not many , if it's messages in general through people I chat to privately then loads every week .

Stop pretending you have friends - you'll give yourself a bad name "

To late , I already have a bad name .

But I like the saying

" when your good , your good

But when your bad , your even better "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If its just random messages then not many , if it's messages in general through people I chat to privately then loads every week .

I can totally understand that hence you're popularity on the forum.

Good point "

Cheers

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By *reeMan
over a year ago

Paisley


"What’s a message? "

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It depends on who I'm talking to on a regular basis. I didn't get (m)any random messages.

Mandy

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By *ets go again!Man
over a year ago

paisley

A big 0

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get quite a few but my filters open to single guys so I think that’s why! The ratios of men to women aren’t even so that’ll be why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We often read profiles and see that they may not answer as they are inundated with messages.

We get about one message a month without messaging or winking first although we only allow messages from females and couples.

We were wondering how many messages others get, is one a month average or are we doing something wrong?"

Around zero, give or take

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends if I get a reply.

I'm not everyone's cup of darjeeling. Be nice to have a banter sometimes though

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By *implyJayGeeMan
over a year ago

Garthamlock

Probably going on an average, roughly once a week.

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

Most of the week we get none then at the weekend the usual none again not meeting just now so no loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s rare I receive from a lady or a couple without initially sending.

It has happened, but mostly on occasion of a forum post or status update.

The rejection replies I get are in good humour and I address them with the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None. Not even in reply to messages I send out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely any from people who are not friends. Though if I did want the attention I'd change my profile text, upload photos for everyone to see, not use the filters, go on cam, then yeah too many messages that I wouldn't want to reply to. It's easy to get loads of messages if you want to and it's just as easy to get less messages if you want to.

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

If I am in the chat room on cam, posting in the forums or uplao a pic usually 30 to 40 most just one liners. Otherwise maybe 3 or 4 a day

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By *immypage66Man
over a year ago

perth

Never get a message rarely even get a reply from anyone either?x

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By *imeforfun_86Man
over a year ago

London

One maybe two per week. Not a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One or two week, anymore than that and I'm rushed off my feet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile hid so none but when it's open we get around 3 a day, if we add a new pic then maybe upto 20 a day for a few days.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

It varies a lot depending on how active I am on the site/forums and whether I upload new pics etc. Generally too many though and very seldom any that are of interest.

I keep my filters pretty tight to try to limit the number of messages , unfortunately they don't always work though.

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