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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been thinking that recently within the site and from talking to some people that standards are slipping on here........

What are your thoughts on what is happening on the site just now? From email to profile to the chat rooms themselves?

Personally for me i can tell you there are several things which really hack me off, to the point that i will leave here - and i know for a fact i am not the only one to feel like this.

So swingers what are your thoughts on this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

define standards???

e mails some good read and replied some bad not replied!!

chat rooms few times iv been in some people have spoke other times feels clique but suppose all newbies like that just sometimes people forget they were once new!

have noticed lots of people cant tell difference between what they want to do and what they will actually do but its like all aspects of life i suppose!!

anyway hope u sort it out xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well i said i had a few ...

1. Foremost for me - the amount of fakes on here - especially in chat. I dont mean the people who are time wasters but who are as false as the tooth fairy.

2. People who cannot read a profile - either for the time and effort you put into writing it or reading what your preferences are but expect you to put out just as you are on a swinging sex site.

NEWSFLASH: NOT EVERYONE USES THIS SITE FOR SEX!

3. The cattle market!!!! The people i spoke to about this will know exactly what i mean!!!

4. People who have to have done something bigger and better than you have - just to make you look bad.

This will do for now - i will be back with more

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"define standards???

e mails some good read and replied some bad not replied!!

chat rooms few times iv been in some people have spoke other times feels clique but suppose all newbies like that just sometimes people forget they were once new!

have noticed lots of people cant tell difference between what they want to do and what they will actually do but its like all aspects of life i suppose!!

anyway hope u sort it out xxx"

was just a general question i am asking, every person has their own standards and i was asking what they thought about the site.

I dont have anything to sort out - cos this is not that big a part of life for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well i said i had a few ...

1. Foremost for me - the amount of fakes on here - especially in chat. I dont mean the people who are time wasters but who are as false as the tooth fairy.

2. People who cannot read a profile - either for the time and effort you put into writing it or reading what your preferences are but expect you to put out just as you are on a swinging sex site.

NEWSFLASH: NOT EVERYONE USES THIS SITE FOR SEX!

3. The cattle market!!!! The people i spoke to about this will know exactly what i mean!!!

4. People who have to have done something bigger and better than you have - just to make you look bad.

This will do for now - i will be back with more"

yup u just summed it up lol!!! hang tight hunni there are some nice genuine people oot there!! xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think he was just a bit pissed off that he couldnt pull on a swingers site!! was under the impression that he would join and every woman would want him.... i was more thinkin along the lines of people bein put off their dinner with the pics lol!! xx

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By *1cebren4uWoman
over a year ago

clydebank


"i think he was just a bit pissed off that he couldnt pull on a swingers site!! was under the impression that he would join and every woman would want him.... i was more thinkin along the lines of people bein put off their dinner with the pics lol!! xx "

pmsl thats the prob he didnt have any lol too afraid of his wife finding out the decietful fucker lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have a couple of rants too....

1/ when in chat you get attacked for telling ppl (some newbies and some not so new) that u cant direct in ne room other than the directing room.

2/ even when ya try to b nice and give advice to newbies bout best way to use the site they attack u!! (i.e. that best to way to find a meet for that night is to use the 'meet today' section' and not post same msg in chat room every 5mins)

3/ the room mods try their hardest to keep up in the rooms, but they r only human. so when they arent online, and something happens only thing we have left is the 'report abuse' option. Ihave used this many times. nothing has ever came of it when its used in chat.

rant over.....

oh and for those that dont know yes this is a new pro, i left the site bcoz of the stuff that goes on but woz convinced to come back by friends)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hahahaaa!!! yeah i think it was another one of them!! thank god my bullshit detector is finely tuned!!

ach well u do get them i suppose!! xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i think he was just a bit pissed off that he couldnt pull on a swingers site!! was under the impression that he would join and every woman would want him.... i was more thinkin along the lines of people bein put off their dinner with the pics lol!! xx "

Infact here is another ......

Just cos your a female on here - does that mean you will just jump into bed with the first available man? I dont think so - cos either ....

1. they have no picture

2. they are disrespectful

3. they are boggin i mean really sometimes not even a paperbag and a well healthy fantasy would make me do that - boak boak boak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

u got it sister!!! and i feel a helluve lot better knowin it not just me it happened to!!!

i think a lot of people misunderstand what swingin is about and it leads to confusion....hence why i put a wee bit on the bottom of my profile! dont think a lot of people read it but the ones that have tend to have more chance of meetin!xxx

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By *1cebren4uWoman
over a year ago

clydebank


"u got it sister!!! and i feel a helluve lot better knowin it not just me it happened to!!!

i think a lot of people misunderstand what swingin is about and it leads to confusion....hence why i put a wee bit on the bottom of my profile! dont think a lot of people read it but the ones that have tend to have more chance of meetin!xxx"

pmsl go read mine lol ive put his email on my profile pmsl xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

will do!! xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dam rasp i fail on 2 out of the 3 lol.

those that know me, see me in the chat room on cam. i will not b addin pix to profile for a while. yes pix wud prob boost my chances of a meet if thats wot i woz here for. BUT!!!!! it aint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol!! do u think he will understand and take the hint??? fuckwits like him really do poison the site twat!!!! xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"dam rasp i fail on 2 out of the 3 lol.

those that know me, see me in the chat room on cam. i will not b addin pix to profile for a while. yes pix wud prob boost my chances of a meet if thats wot i woz here for. BUT!!!!! it aint. "

awwwwww sun break a girls heart why dont ya lol xxx

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By *1cebren4uWoman
over a year ago

clydebank


"lol!! do u think he will understand and take the hint??? fuckwits like him really do poison the site twat!!!! xxx "

i fecking hope so as i aint the only woman on here that dont want nothing to do with cheating husbands xxxxxxxxx so why he try and pick on me coz hes come to the wrong person lol xxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well on a site like this you are always going to get fakes , timewasters married men and married women at the end of the day it comes down to a contact and checking verifications we get emails galore from single men who you can tell have not read our profile correctly as and next thing you know they have a friends request there but don't have a picture themselves .

To be honest I think the site is pretty well run and for the admin to catch everyone for the amount of people useing it would be pretty hard to do

Report anyone who you get grief from to them and it will help

Zeta

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yup i have it clearly on my profile!! but still get at least 4 msgs a day from married/attached guys! and some of the excuses iv had to why they doin it is priceless!!

i have no time for cheats and liars and wont even engage in conversation with them and had my fair share of abuse but in the words of the prophet sod them all lol!! plenty of nice single guys to indulge to my whims ! xx

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By *1cebren4uWoman
over a year ago

clydebank


"Well on a site like this you are always going to get fakes , timewasters married men and married women at the end of the day it comes down to a contact and checking verifications we get emails galore from single men who you can tell have not read our profile correctly as and next thing you know they have a friends request there but don't have a picture themselves .

To be honest I think the site is pretty well run and for the admin to catch everyone for the amount of people useing it would be pretty hard to do

Report anyone who you get grief from to them and it will help

Zeta

xxxx "

i did lol zeta not had a response yet from admin xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it aint just the women on site that guys like him piss off!

genuine single guys get mistrusted bcoz of the idiots like him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well on a site like this you are always going to get fakes , timewasters married men and married women at the end of the day it comes down to a contact and checking verifications we get emails galore from single men who you can tell have not read our profile correctly as and next thing you know they have a friends request there but don't have a picture themselves .

To be honest I think the site is pretty well run and for the admin to catch everyone for the amount of people useing it would be pretty hard to do

Report anyone who you get grief from to them and it will help

Zeta

xxxx "

Sorry if this seems like an attack on admin or the site itself as it isnt. It is the actions of people on the site itself, and i know personally from speaking to several people that frequent the chat rooms that there is underlying tension. I asked the question as i was curious. And from observations from what i see online in here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

awwww rasp. ur a mini tert, come to big tert for a hug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol we not he only ones getting hacked off then to many fakes to many timewasters but for all the fakes there plenty of genuine folks on here so chin up and plod on . used to use chat room every nite but no in much now to many i ams in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you get twats everywhere.........block them.....works a treat......blocking the twats annoy them more than arguing with them.

lifes short enuff........lets shag n be happy !!!

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By *eclan_and_AimeeCouple
over a year ago

dunblane, stirling

how about then changing when you hit the report button you from you having to send an email to admin it just sends an electric shock to the user?

wouldnt that be fun??

tho i guess we would all end up abusing that!

sitting at your comp and 'bzzzzzz' every two minutes!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"awwww rasp. ur a mini tert, come to big tert for a hug "

erm am waiting where are ya? ffs u better no stand me up lmao or else! peggy!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have a couple of rants too....

1/ when in chat you get attacked for telling ppl (some newbies and some not so new) that u cant direct in ne room other than the directing room.

2/ even when ya try to b nice and give advice to newbies bout best way to use the site they attack u!! (i.e. that best to way to find a meet for that night is to use the 'meet today' section' and not post same msg in chat room every 5mins)

3/ the room mods try their hardest to keep up in the rooms, but they r only human. so when they arent online, and something happens only thing we have left is the 'report abuse' option. Ihave used this many times. nothing has ever came of it when its used in chat.

rant over.....

oh and for those that dont know yes this is a new pro, i left the site bcoz of the stuff that goes on but woz convinced to come back by friends)"
best leave that to the mods mr sun lol no worth the hassle

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"how about then changing when you hit the report button you from you having to send an email to admin it just sends an electric shock to the user?

wouldnt that be fun??

tho i guess we would all end up abusing that!

sitting at your comp and 'bzzzzzz' every two minutes!"

pmsl the bzzzzz aint coming from your erm buzzing email -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont see it as an attack on the site or the admin. just u speaking wots on yer mind.

we all have gripes bout the place. if ppl dont like it then they can always post a reply here sayin they see the site as perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh nooooooooo not peggy lol lol lol xxx bring it on mini tert

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By *eclan_and_AimeeCouple
over a year ago

dunblane, stirling


"how about then changing when you hit the report button you from you having to send an email to admin it just sends an electric shock to the user?

wouldnt that be fun??

tho i guess we would all end up abusing that!

sitting at your comp and 'bzzzzzz' every two minutes!

pmsl the bzzzzz aint coming from your erm buzzing email - "

oh we luv our buzz rasp!!

come to the halloween do and all will be revealed! lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"how about then changing when you hit the report button you from you having to send an email to admin it just sends an electric shock to the user?

wouldnt that be fun??

tho i guess we would all end up abusing that!

sitting at your comp and 'bzzzzzz' every two minutes!

pmsl the bzzzzz aint coming from your erm buzzing email -

oh we luv our buzz rasp!!

come to the halloween do and all will be revealed! lol "

pmsl i am going will be one of only ones not dressed up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if we used that buzz option we wud shut down the national grid the amount of times id zapp ppl lol lol

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By *eclan_and_AimeeCouple
over a year ago

dunblane, stirling

you cant come to the halloween social and not dress up rasp!! its the law!!!

im dressing up as a chicken but fear i might just look like a cock!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if we used that buzz option we wud shut down the national grid the amount of times id zapp ppl lol lol "

pmsl thats just you sticking your phone on vibrate down you pants when the peggy texts come in mwahahahah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pmsl sssshhhhh mini tert lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rasp I understand it must be harder for a single lady but block and report them hun that will piss them off even more some people just want a reaction

Jim

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rasp I understand it must be harder for a single lady but block and report them hun that will piss them off even more some people just want a reaction

Jim

xxx"

well said !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how about then changing when you hit the report button you from you having to send an email to admin it just sends an electric shock to the user?

wouldnt that be fun??

tho i guess we would all end up abusing that!

sitting at your comp and 'bzzzzzz' every two minutes!

pmsl the bzzzzz aint coming from your erm buzzing email -

oh we luv our buzz rasp!!

come to the halloween do and all will be revealed! lol

pmsl i am going will be one of only ones not dressed up "

We not dressing up rasp and as for the fakers and timewasters I think its just one of those things. I would say however that we have never had any abuse from anyone (single male or cpl) we always answer e-mails saying no thanks and most reapond saying np thanks for the reply.

We have also chatted briefly with people and through one thing and another not been able to meet up - does this make us timewasters?

We enjoy the site mostly but I do have to say the constant moaning about timewasters is probably the biggest turn off on the site.

I do think new single guys honestly think all they need to do is send a few mails and ha ho there in, its so much more than that. Thats why they come and go but the good guys hang about and there are plenty of them in the chat room and around the social scene.

Any am going on a bit and forgot I only wanted to say the first drinks on me Rasp as a fellow non-dresser upper lol xxxx

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By *issCognitoWoman
over a year ago

secret location near glasgow

Trust me to join just as teh standards are slipping

I try and always be polite even if not interested and if anyone is rde I jst block them as its not even worth entering into a debate about x

Only thing I have noticed is that some people think because they r interested in you then u should feel the same lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

happy day !! sooooo not getting into it.........so smiling away ere hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's the same as usual to be honest..

lovely couples, lovely females, lovely guys....

and 'eedjits' in all categories above..

the social will be great next week and thanks in advance to DM, when we are all having a great night, we won't give the timewasting saddo's a seconds thought...

and no offence meant to timewasting saddo's, only a figure of speech..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rasp hunni....

The problems and issues you mention happen in all swinging sites, in fact id go as far as saying all adult contact sites too.

You will always have a percentage of people on the site that are idiots and as swinging is mentioned more and more on tv and othe media, more people will come onto the site and 'have a look' when they aint really got any idea what swinging is about.

So as the site becomes more popular then it follows that more people that are nieve or expect people to put out instantly etc will also grow.

I used to be quite cheeky with some of them that came in the room and didnt show any respect. Soon realised though, that made me look as bad as them. So now, i will on occasion try and point them in the right direction or just ignore them.

Many of them leave pretty soon once they realise it aint a free for all. If i see someone new that seems respectful and keen to make friends but maybe misguided on what to gwt from the site then as existing members we should all try and help them, welcome them and guide them.

Unfortunatley, people arnt checked for been rockets as they sign up!

Steve

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By *eatherWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

hi folks just thought i would add my tuppence worth

As u will probablt see i have a good friends list.pelase noteI HAVENY SHAGGED EVERY MALE ON IT

iM JUST A FRIENDLY PERSON.iM ALSO PEED OFF ON here with folks takin the huff if i dont answer theyre messages,Im no bein ignorant and a 3o yr old male comin on to you gets a bit much. But i hope evrythin gets sorted outxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Decided am climbing on my soap box too !! What gets me is the total lack of respect some folks have !! Like the message I got at silly o'clock saying "I'm available now" from some one I haven't even met for coffee who does he think he is and more importantly what does he think I am !!

Yes am a swinger but no am not a public convenience

GRRRRRRRR rant over

Kay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Yes am a swinger but no am not a public convenience

GRRRRRRRR rant over

Kay "

fantastic line Kay xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

roll on the social.....lets all be happyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

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By *eatherWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

view i couldnt agree more so nae one pull ma chain

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Steve i know this happens on all sites, and you are more than aware why i left a rival site of this, but tbh i really cant be bothered any more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have too say that most members on site have been ok, I have not been on site long, any members I have talk to have been very helpfull, we all use the site in different ways I have found what I was looking for, so site has been good for me, but always be respectful, if someone’s not doing that then that’s there way, it don’t make it right but that life we take the good with the bad. What do you do, again have to say site not that bad, but that’s me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

psml steve,

how good would it be if when setting up an account, in amongst the do you smoke, are you a couple, what are you into etc bits that you tick the box for it says 'are you a rocket'

that would be awesome xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi

I've tried admin on some genuine questions with no reply either.

1. How do you get a verification removed from someone you feel got it falsely from you ?

2. Don't you think that you should have to put a reason for blocking someone before you can so other person knows why and then if they persist there is documentation?

3. The above means a person can block you if they feel your on to them for timewasting or they are not genuine and continue wasting others times.

As admin don't reply now probably as too busy there's no come backs or feeling there's any support which will put others off when they need help.

Anyone got any ideas on these.

Genuine couple here x

4.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"Hi

I've tried admin on some genuine questions with no reply either.

1. How do you get a verification removed from someone you feel got it falsely from you ?

2. Don't you think that you should have to put a reason for blocking someone before you can so other person knows why and then if they persist there is documentation?

3. The above means a person can block you if they feel your on to them for timewasting or they are not genuine and continue wasting others times.

As admin don't reply now probably as too busy there's no come backs or feeling there's any support which will put others off when they need help.

Anyone got any ideas on these.

Genuine couple here x

4. "

1. If you feel that strongly about it, delete your profile and all verifications you've left will be removed. You can then re-verify all those who didn't falsely claim to be single (or whatever it is that someone has done to you).

2. No. It's a feature to be used by anyone for whatever reason they like. If a reason was insisted upon, people would just lie anyway ("no spark")

3. This is true, but only if you let it be. By which I mean, once you and any friends you've spoken to are aware of it...there's not much more that can be done. Leave him/her/them to their silliness and be confident that they'll get their comeuppance soon enough.

4.

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By *eclan_and_AimeeCouple
over a year ago

dunblane, stirling


"Hi

I've tried admin on some genuine questions with no reply either.

1. How do you get a verification removed from someone you feel got it falsely from you ?

2. Don't you think that you should have to put a reason for blocking someone before you can so other person knows why and then if they persist there is documentation?

3. The above means a person can block you if they feel your on to them for timewasting or they are not genuine and continue wasting others times.

As admin don't reply now probably as too busy there's no come backs or feeling there's any support which will put others off when they need help.

Anyone got any ideas on these.

Genuine couple here x

4. "

Should find all the answers you need here -

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/feedback/22036

xAx

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