FabSwingers.com forum: Guys receiving message first

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is this a myth I have never had a message and doubt been viewed first on this site very strange given not much different to other sites yet for some reason this site proves to be harder to chat and I joined thinking perhaps there be more like minded

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Maybe your expectations were/are the problem.

I have talked with countless folk most of which are either from chat room or have contacted me reference something I'd say the biggest difference is its rarely about sex that is the focus.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Is this a myth I have never had a message and doubt been viewed first on this site very strange given not much different to other sites yet for some reason this site proves to be harder to chat and I joined thinking perhaps there be more like minded "
If I like the look of a guy & their profile I have no problem seeing them an email

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By *anny77Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I’ve received messages first before but not too many.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

No issues with sending a message to a male on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe your expectations were/are the problem.

I have talked with countless folk most of which are either from chat room or have contacted me reference something I'd say the biggest difference is its rarely about sex that is the focus.

This.

I'll message if someone says something funny or interesting.

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By *elsbells2011Couple
over a year ago

fife

We often send first message if see a profile we like the look of. Really puts us off when you get the random copy and paste message though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to message someone I like the look of rather than be bombarded with guys I don’t.

So I tend to wink and if they wink back then great.

But I get what Kola is saying. I can’t be arsed with all the sleaze on here...... what you wearing, what do you like...... have you had fun recently....

Like I’m gonna spill all my secrets to a stranger!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with Mr Kola

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've sent 1st messages. If something interests me.

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By *hy and innocentCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Like minded folk, yes, but that doesn't meant to say it's instashag & the ladies are desperate to drop their knickers after the 1st message.

When I had a single profile I never messaged 1st, it took me all my time to reply to the messages in my inbox, & generally I did, even if it was to say no thanks.

Innocent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently I have received a message from a couple who I had never contacted before, I was a bit shocked as it has never happened before. Especially when 9 times out of 10 I don’t receive a response to my initial messages. So it can happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like minded folk, yes, but that doesn't meant to say it's instashag & the ladies are desperate to drop their knickers after the 1st message.

When I had a single profile I never messaged 1st, it took me all my time to reply to the messages in my inbox, & generally I did, even if it was to say no thanks.

Innocent

Some Guys arent desperate too shag someone they have just messaged either.

If you're on a sex site, why would someone not ask for sex in a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like minded folk, yes, but that doesn't meant to say it's instashag & the ladies are desperate to drop their knickers after the 1st message.

When I had a single profile I never messaged 1st, it took me all my time to reply to the messages in my inbox, & generally I did, even if it was to say no thanks.

Innocent

Some Guys arent desperate too shag someone they have just messaged either.

If you're on a sex site, why would someone not ask for sex in a message.

True....but there's more than one way to skin a cat.

I've had both abrupt :

"I want to breed your cunt....I want to fuck you senseless".

..and direct but respectful: "You're an extremely attractive woman and I'd love to spend a night with you"

One got a polite reply. One got told to fuck off and blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like minded folk, yes, but that doesn't meant to say it's instashag & the ladies are desperate to drop their knickers after the 1st message.

When I had a single profile I never messaged 1st, it took me all my time to reply to the messages in my inbox, & generally I did, even if it was to say no thanks.

Innocent

Some Guys arent desperate too shag someone they have just messaged either.

If you're on a sex site, why would someone not ask for sex in a message.

True....but there's more than one way to skin a cat.

I've had both abrupt :

"I want to breed your cunt....I want to fuck you senseless".

..and direct but respectful: "You're an extremely attractive woman and I'd love to spend a night with you"

One got a polite reply. One got told to fuck off and blocked.

Did either of them get a shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like minded folk, yes, but that doesn't meant to say it's instashag & the ladies are desperate to drop their knickers after the 1st message.

When I had a single profile I never messaged 1st, it took me all my time to reply to the messages in my inbox, & generally I did, even if it was to say no thanks.

Innocent

Some Guys arent desperate too shag someone they have just messaged either.

If you're on a sex site, why would someone not ask for sex in a message.

True....but there's more than one way to skin a cat.

I've had both abrupt :

"I want to breed your cunt....I want to fuck you senseless".

..and direct but respectful: "You're an extremely attractive woman and I'd love to spend a night with you"

One got a polite reply. One got told to fuck off and blocked.

Last one sounds like an indecent proposal script. Did he offer ten Bob like I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like minded folk, yes, but that doesn't meant to say it's instashag & the ladies are desperate to drop their knickers after the 1st message.

When I had a single profile I never messaged 1st, it took me all my time to reply to the messages in my inbox, & generally I did, even if it was to say no thanks.

Innocent

Some Guys arent desperate too shag someone they have just messaged either.

If you're on a sex site, why would someone not ask for sex in a message.

True....but there's more than one way to skin a cat.

I've had both abrupt :

"I want to breed your cunt....I want to fuck you senseless".

..and direct but respectful: "You're an extremely attractive woman and I'd love to spend a night with you"

One got a polite reply. One got told to fuck off and blocked.

Did either of them get a shag?"

Nah. Told them to drop you a line.

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By *hy and innocentCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Like minded folk, yes, but that doesn't meant to say it's instashag & the ladies are desperate to drop their knickers after the 1st message.

When I had a single profile I never messaged 1st, it took me all my time to reply to the messages in my inbox, & generally I did, even if it was to say no thanks.

Innocent

Some Guys arent desperate too shag someone they have just messaged either.

If you're on a sex site, why would someone not ask for sex in a message.

True....but there's more than one way to skin a cat.

I've had both abrupt :

"I want to breed your cunt....I want to fuck you senseless".

..and direct but respectful: "You're an extremely attractive woman and I'd love to spend a night with you"

One got a polite reply. One got told to fuck off and blocked.

I told someone to fuck off too ...... "how would you like to be brutally fucked by 2 well hung guys?" He then replied with Sorry.

Innocent

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By *hy and innocentCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Like minded folk, yes, but that doesn't meant to say it's instashag & the ladies are desperate to drop their knickers after the 1st message.

When I had a single profile I never messaged 1st, it took me all my time to reply to the messages in my inbox, & generally I did, even if it was to say no thanks.

Innocent

Some Guys arent desperate too shag someone they have just messaged either.

If you're on a sex site, why would someone not ask for sex in a message.

Nobody said they shouldn't. Some expect it's a given though. There are successful single guys on fab & others that moan about how bad it is. There's a reason for that.

Innocent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like minded folk, yes, but that doesn't meant to say it's instashag & the ladies are desperate to drop their knickers after the 1st message.

When I had a single profile I never messaged 1st, it took me all my time to reply to the messages in my inbox, & generally I did, even if it was to say no thanks.

Innocent

Some Guys arent desperate too shag someone they have just messaged either.

If you're on a sex site, why would someone not ask for sex in a message.

True....but there's more than one way to skin a cat.

I've had both abrupt :

"I want to breed your cunt....I want to fuck you senseless".

..and direct but respectful: "You're an extremely attractive woman and I'd love to spend a night with you"

One got a polite reply. One got told to fuck off and blocked.

Last one sounds like an indecent proposal script. Did he offer ten Bob like I did

....and a bag of chips. I like ma grub mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like minded folk, yes, but that doesn't meant to say it's instashag & the ladies are desperate to drop their knickers after the 1st message.

When I had a single profile I never messaged 1st, it took me all my time to reply to the messages in my inbox, & generally I did, even if it was to say no thanks.

Innocent

Some Guys arent desperate too shag someone they have just messaged either.

If you're on a sex site, why would someone not ask for sex in a message.

True....but there's more than one way to skin a cat.

I've had both abrupt :

"I want to breed your cunt....I want to fuck you senseless".

..and direct but respectful: "You're an extremely attractive woman and I'd love to spend a night with you"

One got a polite reply. One got told to fuck off and blocked.

Yeah, I get that, but whether you agree with what they have asked,You're both on a site for sex, therefore you are always going to be open to those "fancy a feck" questions.

Fab gives you the tools to eliminate it.

Is it wrong for someone too ask for a feck..no it's not, they are here for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like minded folk, yes, but that doesn't meant to say it's instashag & the ladies are desperate to drop their knickers after the 1st message.

When I had a single profile I never messaged 1st, it took me all my time to reply to the messages in my inbox, & generally I did, even if it was to say no thanks.

Innocent

Some Guys arent desperate too shag someone they have just messaged either.

If you're on a sex site, why would someone not ask for sex in a message.

Nobody said they shouldn't. Some expect it's a given though. There are successful single guys on fab & others that moan about how bad it is. There's a reason for that.

Innocent

This is true Innocent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like minded folk, yes, but that doesn't meant to say it's instashag & the ladies are desperate to drop their knickers after the 1st message.

When I had a single profile I never messaged 1st, it took me all my time to reply to the messages in my inbox, & generally I did, even if it was to say no thanks.

Innocent

Some Guys arent desperate too shag someone they have just messaged either.

If you're on a sex site, why would someone not ask for sex in a message.

True....but there's more than one way to skin a cat.

I've had both abrupt :

"I want to breed your cunt....I want to fuck you senseless".

..and direct but respectful: "You're an extremely attractive woman and I'd love to spend a night with you"

One got a polite reply. One got told to fuck off and blocked.

Last one sounds like an indecent proposal script. Did he offer ten Bob like I did

....and a bag of chips. I like ma grub mind

That’s right, and I threw in a can of to sweeten the deal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like minded folk, yes, but that doesn't meant to say it's instashag & the ladies are desperate to drop their knickers after the 1st message.

When I had a single profile I never messaged 1st, it took me all my time to reply to the messages in my inbox, & generally I did, even if it was to say no thanks.

Innocent

Some Guys arent desperate too shag someone they have just messaged either.

If you're on a sex site, why would someone not ask for sex in a message.

True....but there's more than one way to skin a cat.

I've had both abrupt :

"I want to breed your cunt....I want to fuck you senseless".

..and direct but respectful: "You're an extremely attractive woman and I'd love to spend a night with you"

One got a polite reply. One got told to fuck off and blocked.

Did either of them get a shag?

Nah. Told them to drop you a line."

They must not have listened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a woman sent a woman or a couple a message asking to be fucked and she looked attractive.

Would that be the same?

Why do I think the rules would adapt accordingly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman sent a woman or a couple a message asking to be fucked and she looked attractive.

Would that be the same?

Why do I think the rules would adapt accordingly

There's a flaw there...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman sent a woman or a couple a message asking to be fucked and she looked attractive.

Would that be the same?

Why do I think the rules would adapt accordingly

There's a flaw there..."

I know...

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By *ohnywrongunMan
over a year ago

Epping

Strapon possibly?

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By *eefyBangerMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

The last time I received a message first on here she turned out to be an absolute rocket.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The last time I received a message first on here she turned out to be an absolute rocket."

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By *ering SeaMan
over a year ago

Penicuik

I get 2 types of messages on here.

1st from admin

2nd from admin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first message was from Fab when I joined..

Lovely people, really nice and made me welcomed.

I've never heard from the again.

Honestly, theres far too many fake profiles these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more than happy to send the first message. Some of the best people I've met have been those I messaged first. X

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

I often send the first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I often send the first message

Aww aye..x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id never send a 1st message asking to meet.

Id send a message about their profile or posts tho.

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By *ing_of_the_swingers400Man
over a year ago

edinbugh

"Id never send a 1st message asking to meet.

Id send a message about their profile or posts tho."

That’s the sensible thing to do! I’d never message asking to meet on the first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always get messaged first

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By *rwomble 56Man
over a year ago

Falkirk

Occasionally I have had a first message sent to me although majority of the time I send a message or wink and see what happens. I consider myself fortunate that I have had some meets and always appreciated when it does happen

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

Ayrshire, Glasgow

In about 12 years on here, I've never received a message from a lady, first.

So.......where's these supposedly liberated ladies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like minded folk, yes, but that doesn't meant to say it's instashag & the ladies are desperate to drop their knickers after the 1st message.

When I had a single profile I never messaged 1st, it took me all my time to reply to the messages in my inbox, & generally I did, even if it was to say no thanks.

Innocent

Some Guys arent desperate too shag someone they have just messaged either.

If you're on a sex site, why would someone not ask for sex in a message.

Not sure if I’m reading this in the wrong context? But... it’s a swingers site, not a sex site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and I have no issues messaging first if someone grabs my attention. Generally if they come across well on their profile. Personality can shine through with a bit of time and effort on a profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like minded folk, yes, but that doesn't meant to say it's instashag & the ladies are desperate to drop their knickers after the 1st message.

When I had a single profile I never messaged 1st, it took me all my time to reply to the messages in my inbox, & generally I did, even if it was to say no thanks.

Innocent

Some Guys arent desperate too shag someone they have just messaged either.

If you're on a sex site, why would someone not ask for sex in a message.

Not sure if I’m reading this in the wrong context? But... it’s a swingers site, not a sex site! "

Swingers are couples or singles who choose to have an open relationship, allowing their partners to have sex with other people, with their permission, of course. ... In the swinging world, couples make their own rules around what they need within relationships and marriages and vow to abide by the boundaries set forth.

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