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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

when you send a nice message to break the ice so to speak and they get deleted without reply i understand people get many messages probably all the same but a polite thanks but no thanks takes seconds to write ...bah humbug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get that a lot, but there are some who make all the effort worth it

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By *__KMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

sometimes I feel the same way. Sometimes I think I would have better luck at the bar or dating sites... Except I know that dating sites I have worse luck on than here, and I don't have the confidence to speak to women in bars.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

glad im not alone then but no doubt i'll get the... your a married man on your own here why do you think you get deleted replies soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"glad im not alone then but no doubt i'll get the... your a married man on your own here why do you think you get deleted replies soon "

Assuming that you are mailing females and couples….. They dont reply cos they simply dont have time.

Some girls will get literally hundreds of mails a week…. would you expect them to reply to them all?

Say that they did reply to them all saying 'No thanks'.

Next mail would be 'why'…. (or abuse). So, its easier for them to only reply to those messages that stick out for the right reasons.

We've had mail before along the lines of 'Hi, Hows you, I know your not looking for males but fancy a shag'. He then moaned in the forums that he wasnt getting any meets or replies to his mails. Wonder why?

If they dont reply, take it as a no, and move on

Steve

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

I would not get too hung up on people who dont reply, a simple ice-breaking message to you may be the 6th/7th ice breaking message they have received that day alone. You will almost certainly not appeal to many due to the fact you are married and tbh with some of the messages married men receive on here about playing alone/behind their partners back/cheating etc perhaps its not such a bad thing they dont reply. Concentrate on the ones that do reply and good luck x

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

always a positive..

the more successful you get, the attention & the meets comes...and the second you forget where you come from.....

you will be shot down quicker than a jet over Syria.

It is Britain and thats what we do when people achieve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We play as a cpl at the weekends and alone through the week,

We try and answer every email that we get unless its just says let's fuck now come get me, not even a hi,

A quick no thx doesn't taje long to answer someone who has made the effort.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"We play as a cpl at the weekends and alone through the week,

We try and answer every email that we get unless its just says let's fuck now come get me, not even a hi,

A quick no thx doesn't taje long to answer someone who has made the effort."

Thats the whole point 99% dont make the effort they dont read that your maybe not meeting just now or that your not looking to meet new people or that they do not fit your criteria ..im sorry but i have it clearly on my profile then im not intrested no need to go into all the details about why .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you imagine a topsy turvy world where girls had to make all the effort guys? lol

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By *iceguy 1966Man
over a year ago

in pa postcode

Well said Miss D, if somebody is not interested then they should not be obliged to reply if the person is outwith the criteria in their profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we get it a lot to and it ther loes and we do anser most of them if we can but sum times we cant do them all so kep at it as wev hav playd with s mails of her but not a lot of them just sum so keep at it xx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Can you imagine a topsy turvy world where girls had to make all the effort guys? lol"

Have you had a look at some guys profiles? one liners saying will fill in later been on the site over a year and no pix ..no verivications ..and they just dropped you an email offering you the chance of a lifetime shag with them get real ..they want something then put the effort in to make youself stand out from the masses on here who do make the effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

messages,,,,what are those???

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By *__KMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I love to make a bit of an effort with my messages, and profile... And pics. Well, not so much the pics. I'm yet to redo those. Keep meaning to.

Anyway. I love to make an effort with messages, starting with the title - I like to be different, and I know that most people get mail headed along the lines of:

Hey

How are you?

Wanna shag?

Hows tricks?

Whats up?

Meet

I like to be creative. A list of some of my original headers.

Banana Daiquari

Beachcomber Mai Tai

Pineapple Schnaps

Long Island Iced Tea

And I like to be a little bit witty in my messages too. But still, I don't get many replies... if any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you imagine a topsy turvy world where girls had to make all the effort guys? lol

Have you had a look at some guys profiles? one liners saying will fill in later been on the site over a year and no pix ..no verivications ..and they just dropped you an email offering you the chance of a lifetime shag with them get real ..they want something then put the effort in to make youself stand out from the masses on here who do make the effort "

Sorry Miss, but it works both ways. I was looking at a woman's profile, insisted guys had to have profile pic showing, and guess what? Yep, her profile pic was the black silhouette!!!

Sorry, but the saying, "so far up their own backsides" comes to mind!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you imagine a topsy turvy world where girls had to make all the effort guys? lol"

Ha ha, you can guarantee that it would be a different story then!!

The forums would be filled with one moan after another!!!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Can you imagine a topsy turvy world where girls had to make all the effort guys? lol

Have you had a look at some guys profiles? one liners saying will fill in later been on the site over a year and no pix ..no verivications ..and they just dropped you an email offering you the chance of a lifetime shag with them get real ..they want something then put the effort in to make youself stand out from the masses on here who do make the effort

Sorry Miss, but it works both ways. I was looking at a woman's profile, insisted guys had to have profile pic showing, and guess what? Yep, her profile pic was the black silhouette!!!

Sorry, but the saying, "so far up their own backsides" comes to mind!!!"

Yes i totaly agree but i think youl find male profiles like that well oughtweigh the females

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when you send a nice message to break the ice so to speak and they get deleted without reply i understand people get many messages probably all the same but a polite thanks but no thanks takes seconds to write ...bah humbug "
I try and reply to all my mail,and always very politely! Altho maybe one or two that haven't bothered to ryt anything just gets deleted!! They don't make the effort neither do I...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think about giving up all the time, especially when you are dealing with countless messages from men who do not bother to read the profile and expect me to spoon feed them info.

Dealing with profiles in the forums who refuse to let past disagreements go, and who exhibit no intellect themselves, and who are like broken records saying the same thing over and over again.

But the situation changes when I look at the amount of verifications I've got, and the few good ones that are written well and very appreciative.

Fab can be cool, when it works.

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By *uzy1000TV/TS
over a year ago

glasgow

it does my fucking head in wot the fuck are thay doing on this site,i feel like am messaging a fucked up retard,which i have respect for but not here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you imagine a topsy turvy world where girls had to make all the effort guys? lol"
Now that i would like to see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to reply to every single message, when guys over the age limits, smokers and married ones emailed we would say a polite no, then comes the "ok, can we be friends and chat" email, which most often turned into a "can I see your pics" email then the request to meet again.....

Instead of having to repeatedly say no, or listen to people try and meet us via the 'I am having no luck' card we have started to just delete and block the ones who clearly have not read the profile. It's nothing to do with manners on our part, profiles take two mins to read...

Not a rant against guys as we meet guys, just our opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are just fed up with FAB anyway.. time to move on and leave but we will still go to clubs..

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"Do you feel like giving up"...

I think the OP gave up!!! UNLOS

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By *exy gentMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

I've pretty much accepted, that due to my circumstances I'm not likely to get mano offers, I accept that, there's a few females and couples I chat to, you never know, something might come of it, but I enjoy the chats and always my manners

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By *allerthanaverage79Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"when you send a nice message to break the ice so to speak and they get deleted without reply i understand people get many messages probably all the same but a polite thanks but no thanks takes seconds to write ...bah humbug "

Nobody owes you a reply- keep plugging along and try to make yourself noticeable - positivity comes over way better than anything else!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meh I'm on here for the comedy on forums at this point and the odd flirt and social any more is a bonus for me

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By *ookie69Man
over a year ago

Whistle Dixie

Naw!

I’ve been here since 2007 and I’m still at the coffee meet stage.

Patience is everything

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

How on Earth did this year-old thread get resurrected?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How on Earth did this year-old thread get resurrected? "
Someone got bored n scrolled down threads lol my guess seeing if someone felt the same way

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By *inglelady2022Woman
over a year ago

inverness

Exactly,they see a pic and message without bothering to read your profile.Personally i get fed up chatting to a guy that seems decent and it turns out he's married/living with someone. Also becoming wary of being on forums as it encourages them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For some time I’ve looked to meet people socially with the intention of having a laugh and make new friends and that’s been hugely successful. At the same time I’ve hoped to meet a play mate to connect with and explore further into the lifestyle with rather than rack up one off encounters. Sadly that’s not been, and isn’t looking to be, successful at all.

Fab is a very good place to start if you are curious about dipping your toes, but you have to approach it with managed expectations. Otherwise, you will find yourself on threads like these sounding like a pure sourpuss

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By *ill dance for wineMan
over a year ago

balloch


"For some time I’ve looked to meet people socially with the intention of having a laugh and make new friends and that’s been hugely successful. At the same time I’ve hoped to meet a play mate to connect with and explore further into the lifestyle with rather than rack up one off encounters. Sadly that’s not been, and isn’t looking to be, successful at all.

Fab is a very good place to start if you are curious about dipping your toes, but you have to approach it with managed expectations. Otherwise, you will find yourself on threads like these sounding like a pure sourpuss"

I agree with this 100%, I would add that these types of post often give the impression of someone who feels a sense of entitlement, just by gracing ladies with there presence is enough to drop their knickers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always feel bad for the people who genuinely read a profile, know they meet the criteria of what someone's looking for, spend ages writing a message completely personal to them and then don't get a reply. I always try to reply to those ones, but if I've read it and not had the time to respond then I've had another 100plus messages that are a mix of long and detailed thought out ones and the quick one liners it can be really hard to either find them again or you've actually had an influx of people who send really decent messages and there just isn't enough time to respond to them. There's been plenty people on here who I've messaged with, actually really liked getting to know or even just really liked their message but haven't been able to find again and sometimes if my inbox has too many unread messages I'll just delete them all. I would say though don't give up writing those actual messages to people. The guys on here who have actually had meets are usually the ones who do actually pay attention and make an effort from what I've seen.

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By *inglelady2022Woman
over a year ago

inverness

I've made a few very good friends through Fab. What irks me is the men who quite obviously send the same message to multiple women or the ones that down right lie. As I said earlier on the forum, even posting on the forums prompt unpleasant messages. I've now taken to mainly hiding profile with the occasionally outing on a forum.

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"For some time I’ve looked to meet people socially with the intention of having a laugh and make new friends and that’s been hugely successful. At the same time I’ve hoped to meet a play mate to connect with and explore further into the lifestyle with rather than rack up one off encounters. Sadly that’s not been, and isn’t looking to be, successful at all.

Fab is a very good place to start if you are curious about dipping your toes, but you have to approach it with managed expectations. Otherwise, you will find yourself on threads like these sounding like a pure sourpuss

I agree with this 100%, I would add that these types of post often give the impression of someone who feels a sense of entitlement, just by gracing ladies with there presence is enough to drop their knickers."

It gives an air of desperation. Guaranteed these profiles message women are highly unlikely to engage. As you wonder if they are genuinely into you or just working their way through every profile hoping someone takes pity in them.

No one is here to give out pity shags

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By *ookie69Man
over a year ago

Whistle Dixie

I tend to find the women who do the most greeting are the ones to avoid.

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By *inglelady2022Woman
over a year ago

inverness

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By *inglelady2022Woman
over a year ago

inverness

Exactly! A lot of married/desperate men who spit dummy out when rejected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We joined the site 5 weeks ago and quickly chose to block single men just due to the crazy amount of messages we recieved and some before we had even created our profile.

So we decided in the last few days to accept single men again. So far we have found Dexter's rival and someone happy to dress as little red riding hood and be chased by Donald Trump through the woods (don't ask). The worst has been the abuse I have recieved from a guy wanting me to go on cam to dom and humiliate him. I refused to go on cam so I was basically told if I didn't have the confidence I shouldn't be on the site and i was the one made to feel humiliated.

Also if anyone says no then no means no. So why does that not count for messages.

So many decent and respectful men are ignored on here because of these repulsive idiots. I have never hit block so often in my life.

Anyway Fappy Habbing

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By *scobar67Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Yes

Needing to read a profile with a dozen rules... Put a special word in the subject box... Try send a decent message to someone and include pix... For them to not even read the thing.....or they reply 5 days later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes

Needing to read a profile with a dozen rules... Put a special word in the subject box... Try send a decent message to someone and include pix... For them to not even read the thing.....or they reply 5 days later "

This feels aimed lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes

.or they reply 5 days later "

Sorry buddy, I am well known for being bloody awful with my messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes

Needing to read a profile with a dozen rules... Put a special word in the subject box... Try send a decent message to someone and include pix... For them to not even read the thing.....or they reply 5 days later

This feels aimed lol "
your good at replying tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes

.or they reply 5 days later

Sorry buddy, I am well known for being bloody awful with my messages "

Never contact you in an emergency

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes

Needing to read a profile with a dozen rules... Put a special word in the subject box... Try send a decent message to someone and include pix... For them to not even read the thing.....or they reply 5 days later

This feels aimed lol your good at replying tho "

Hehe to those that are nice

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By *scobar67Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"Yes

Needing to read a profile with a dozen rules... Put a special word in the subject box... Try send a decent message to someone and include pix... For them to not even read the thing.....or they reply 5 days later

This feels aimed lol "

Not aimed at anyone lol.. Just the way things are.

And I've never msgd you so certainly not aimed at you

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By *eedsanewusernameMan
over a year ago

Mainly under the bed...


"Yes

.or they reply 5 days later

Sorry buddy, I am well known for being bloody awful with my messages "

Unless you're blessed with superfamily fibre Broadband, that is the standard time it takes carrier pigeons to get there today. Its a busy sky!

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