FabSwingers.com forum: Pursuing fun because u know your wife is cheating

By *ideyouhard OP Man
over a year ago

Stirling

hey there guys my mate has asked me about advice .he has evidence his wife is cheating.his neighbour provided the evidence but doesn't want to be involved.does he wait until he catches her out.or does he look for harmless fun to get own back

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

why not just ask her...

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

or he consider the motive of the neighbour getting involved..

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By *ideyouhard OP Man
over a year ago

Stirling

The neighbour is a good friend and has been treated like shit so she doesn't want the same happening to her friend and the wife has denied it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of the neighbours buisness so why would he get involved with someone else's marriage?

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Stay well clear. Don't involve yourself.

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By *ideyouhard OP Man
over a year ago

Stirling

"None of the neighbours buisness so why would he get involved with someone else's marriage?

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because she has been mistreated and knows how it feels and she doesn't want the same thing to happen to him

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

And she's not trying to wedge herself in at all?

As they say two wrongs definitely don't make a right. If he wants it to stay married then he needs to talk to the wife. If not - divorce, move on and enjoy the single life

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By *ideyouhard OP Man
over a year ago

Stirling

"And she's not trying to wedge herself in at all?

As they say two wrongs definitely don't make a right. If he wants it to stay married then he needs to talk to the wife. If not - divorce, move on and enjoy the single life

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nope she is happy seeing a guy so its not like that.he is torn as he dont want to ruin the family but the fact she has other guys in hirts him and blatantly denies it

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"And she's not trying to wedge herself in at all?

As they say two wrongs definitely don't make a right. If he wants it to stay married then he needs to talk to the wife. If not - divorce, move on and enjoy the single life

nope she is happy seeing a guy so its not like that.he is torn as he dont want to ruin the family but the fact she has other guys in hirts him and blatantly denies it "

And what is going slewping around himself going to do? Soothe his ego?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hire a private investigator, my rates are good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"None of the neighbours buisness so why would he get involved with someone else's marriage?

because she has been mistreated and knows how it feels and she doesn't want the same thing to happen to him"
tough..shit happens let them work it out themselves..what if he's wrong..the wife will be gutted he believes some random over her?

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I'd be interested to know what the evidence presented was? I mean are there photos of her entwined with someone else??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"None of the neighbours buisness so why would he get involved with someone else's marriage?

because she has been mistreated and knows how it feels and she doesn't want the same thing to happen to him"

Ah the old shoulder to cry on routine

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By *ltKittyWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

He should be communicating with his wife, communication is a better way to solve or end things instead of involving others and going down the 'she did it so I can do it route' - two wrongs don't make a right.

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By *sa and HarryCouple
over a year ago

motherwell

"hey there guys my mate has asked me about advice .he has evidence his wife is cheating.his neighbour provided the evidence but doesn't want to be involved.does he wait until he catches her out.or does he look for harmless fun to get own back"
Two wrongs dont make a right

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"And she's not trying to wedge herself in at all?

As they say two wrongs definitely don't make a right. If he wants it to stay married then he needs to talk to the wife. If not - divorce, move on and enjoy the single life

nope she is happy seeing a guy so its not like that.he is torn as he dont want to ruin the family but the fact she has other guys in hirts him and blatantly denies it "
So what evidence did the neighbour give him because if it there for all to see surley she can't then deny it ?

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By *ideyouhard OP Man
over a year ago

Stirling

she has a picture of his car parked round the back.n saw him walk straight into the house via the back door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ffs that could have been anyone!!

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By *ideyouhard OP Man
over a year ago

Stirling

He has a very distinct car

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"she has a picture of his car parked round the back.n saw him walk straight into the house via the back door"
So if your mate seriously thinks his Mrs is cheating on him with this evidence why hasn't he confronted her with it?

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By *oldswarriorMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Fuck sake this is worse than puss jotter

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"she has a picture of his car parked round the back.n saw him walk straight into the house via the back door"

Has he told his wife he has picture evidence?

Best thing is to confront the wife, if he doesn’t believe her then is there much left in the marriage anyway as he is always going to be suspicious

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By *ideyouhard OP Man
over a year ago

Stirling

He hasnt confronted her qith the pic as his neighbour doesn't want drama at her door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He has a very distinct car "
mr whippy van?

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"He hasnt confronted her qith the pic as his neighbour doesn't want drama at her door "

She sort of brought the drama to her door herself by getting involved.

If she has denied it and he doesn’t want to mention the pic he either puts it from his mind and carries on or if he can’t then he will have to decide whether he wants to stay married

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

So what if he was just a platonic friend needing a chat?? I have male friends where absolutely nothing happens!

And why stir shit if shes not willing to have the drama that follows it?

It sounds more like the husband is looking for reasons or justification to be unfaithful himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what if he was just a platonic friend needing a chat?? I have male friends where absolutely nothing happens!

And why stir shit if shes not willing to have the drama that follows it?

It sounds more like the husband is looking for reasons or justification to be unfaithful himself."

Well said, none of neighbour's business and it could be totally innocent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why not get him to set up a honey trap, find a nice guy out of town, and plan a set up, see if she flirts and gets persuaded or if she stops it before it starts and says im sorry, im married

happy to do this for your buddy, as I am not far away but also not local,

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

"she has a picture of his car parked round the back.n saw him walk straight into the house via the back door"

Is that some kind of metaphor?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Option 3 he speaks to her

The other 2 options are just game playing, the relationship doesn't sound all that healthy anyway without throwing crap like that on top of matters

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By *rgoodnbadMan
over a year ago

greenock

How different would the responses be if the guy was under suspicion?

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By *otmale5Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Simple. Confront her with the evidence. It might not be what he wants to hear but it needs to be done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neighbour should mind her own business

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"He hasnt confronted her qith the pic as his neighbour doesn't want drama at her door "
Jesus my neighbours would have a field day with the amount of men at my door ( deliveries)

Jesus what a load of nonsense if there is no hard evidence then tell your mate to have a word with the neighbour.

Strange why its so bad for her to be carrying on tho yet suggesting he gets in on the act by doing the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree that he really needs to have an honest sit down chat with his wife and to consider the motives of the other person.

Cheating on her- 2 wrongs do not make a right but maybe they consider opening up their marriage

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By *uriousscot1TV/TS
over a year ago

Glasgow

I don't buy any of this story at all. Op is at the fantasy land stuff. There is a story section for this type of stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the wife is on here... just a thought

No one truly knows what goes on behind closed doors in anyone’s home or relationship apart from those behind that door... don’t get involved and the neighbour who took it upon herself to take a photograph, there’s a personal gain somewhere.

If the wife is looking elsewhere, he should be asking himself why... which ultimately leads to some hard truths... seems if he’s looking to get back by doing as she’s doing, the relationship is in a dire place...

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"How different would the responses be if the guy was under suspicion?

Actually mine would be exactly the same - and have been the same when speaking to others on here and people I know off here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been the messenger with friends before good friends and they confronted partners and decided to stay with them and guess who ended up being the bad guy

that would be me now I just stay out it

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"does he look for harmless fun to get own back"

I don't think it would be harmless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hire a private investigator, my rates are good

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve been the messenger with friends before good friends and they confronted partners and decided to stay with them and guess who ended up being the bad guy

that would be me now I just stay out it "

This!

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By *uboCouple
over a year ago

East kilbride

Maybe you should ask your wife yourself OP.

Just saying

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By *ald EagleMan
over a year ago

Alloa

Install covert cameras and see what footage is found.

That will confirm or disprove the allegation.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Be sweetness and light till she goes out then burn her clothes on the front lawn before texting to say to pick them up when she shows up if she raises her hands get her done with assault and tell everyone what a bad bastard she is alternatively simpler and do nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why not just ask her..."
this or go to said house and wait see if she turns up

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By *ob 678Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Why not set up dictaphones in the house . Hide them well so their not found. The range of the dictaphones would be enough to hear what’s going on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or he could just talk to his wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why not just ask her...this or go to said house and wait see if she turns up"

That would

Be too easy for some lol ... hence the reason I split up and booted my best friend up and down the street .... happy days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

THIS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can’t do that to the lawn ffs

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By *ideyouhard OP Man
over a year ago

Stirling

Well its came to light that she was cheating behind his back again after finding messages between the 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this guy married to the lassie on the other thread??? Also if not I think you might be a jinx...

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By *ideyouhard OP Man
over a year ago

Stirling

"Is this guy married to the lassie on the other thread??? Also if not I think you might be a jinx...

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nope 2 separate couples n dont see how im the jinx lol .one marriage is fucked up and the other wants to try out her fantasies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this guy married to the lassie on the other thread??? Also if not I think you might be a jinx...

nope 2 separate couples n dont see how im the jinx lol .one marriage is fucked up and the other wants to try out her fantasies"

Yeah but maybe your the common factor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this guy married to the lassie on the other thread??? Also if not I think you might be a jinx...

nope 2 separate couples n dont see how im the jinx lol .one marriage is fucked up and the other wants to try out her fantasies

Yeah but maybe your the common factor

I think there is a link to the Kids TV thread.. Jackanory

OP it's probably in you're best interest not to get involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this guy married to the lassie on the other thread??? Also if not I think you might be a jinx...

nope 2 separate couples n dont see how im the jinx lol .one marriage is fucked up and the other wants to try out her fantasies

Yeah but maybe your the common factor

I think there is a link to the Kids TV thread.. Jackanory

OP it's probably in you're best interest not to get involved.

There’s that too lol

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By *ideyouhard OP Man
over a year ago

Stirling

Was only looking for advice to pass on to them that was all.ive got enough problems finding women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was only looking for advice to pass on to them that was all.ive got enough problems finding women "

Maybe just be a sympathetic ear, sometimes when you advise you end up getting the blame

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By *ideyouhard OP Man
over a year ago

Stirling

Thats all I will b is an ear to listen or shoulder to cry on.i need to focus on my own fun times

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