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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

The sexless marraige post !

Just curious about this as there are so many who won't meet married or attatched & I just wondered how people vet potential playmates when in a club or party enviroment !

Do you question the people there what their relationship status is or do you just play with whoever takes your fancy?

I know a few who will not meet married/ attatched but have then gone on to play with them at clubs & parties!

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

This is actually really interesting thought. I personally state I will not meet attached people amd its easy to spot or to question over messages.

I've never been to a club but I'm not sure how easy I'd find it to ask that question directly like I can over messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer attached guys. More reliable and there seems to be less confusion over what’s not on offer ie commitment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met attached guys yes.

Not my buisness as long as no drama involved im only here for the sex

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By *ibliosWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

My view: if a person can't be honest with someone they have committed to then why would I trust them to be honest with me about, well, anything?

Totally fine with ethical non-monogamy, polyamoury or open relationships but I'm not interested in anyone who feels the need to lie to get their jollies #HarshButTrue

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"This is actually really interesting thought. I personally state I will not meet attached people amd its easy to spot or to question over messages.

I've never been to a club but I'm not sure how easy I'd find it to ask that question directly like I can over messages "
Why do you think that is ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Takes it slightly off topic but when I’m reading about a sexless marriage at the moment all I can think of is the documentary on Netflix, American murder

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss


"This is actually really interesting thought. I personally state I will not meet attached people amd its easy to spot or to question over messages.

I've never been to a club but I'm not sure how easy I'd find it to ask that question directly like I can over messages Why do you think that is ? "

I'm not sure. Possibly because I'm braver behind messages. But I think it would also come down to the fact if we were getting on and chatting in a club environment I'm just not sure it would come into my head to ask if my brain is turned to other thoughts...

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"This is actually really interesting thought. I personally state I will not meet attached people amd its easy to spot or to question over messages.

I've never been to a club but I'm not sure how easy I'd find it to ask that question directly like I can over messages Why do you think that is ?

I'm not sure. Possibly because I'm braver behind messages. But I think it would also come down to the fact if we were getting on and chatting in a club environment I'm just not sure it would come into my head to ask if my brain is turned to other thoughts... "
So would you be likely to play despite your onsite rules ?

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss


"This is actually really interesting thought. I personally state I will not meet attached people amd its easy to spot or to question over messages.

I've never been to a club but I'm not sure how easy I'd find it to ask that question directly like I can over messages Why do you think that is ?

I'm not sure. Possibly because I'm braver behind messages. But I think it would also come down to the fact if we were getting on and chatting in a club environment I'm just not sure it would come into my head to ask if my brain is turned to other thoughts... So would you be likely to play despite your onsite rules ? "

Well I can't say that I definitely wouldn't, especially if I didn't ask the question.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

I like sleepovers and field trips, so married or attached is not an option.

Don't drill or continously question someone to make sure they are actually single. And it has happened once someone i met hadn't been honest.

Twice i met with a married guy (one of them was the liar) and they stormed out as soon as they were done. Might have been guilt, or mrs waiting with dinner or something. Don't care really, but they really weren't good for my ego.

So without judging, married people aren't for me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do my utmost to only meet single and eligible males when I’m also single and in the mood to mingle, only very rarely would I ever meet anyone at a party and then go on to play with them that same night, the fact I am almost teetotal minimises the risks of me falling short and having a last minute random bit of nonsense, whilst I’ll meet and flirt at a social or club I tend to wait and do my meeting at a later date when I can suss the person out. Yep I a monogamous female on a swingers site lol but Shen I’m single I like the option of meeting one or few regular fwb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the OP of the topic mentioned it's intresting to hear people's views.

I respect everyone personal choice and those who do meet married but want a sleepover I understand that but I'm my situation I can't manage that and respect there wishes and certainly wouldn't try to get them to change preferences.

In a nut she'll I'm just looking for no strings sexual fun to fill the void and that would be daytime weekday fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is something I have been wondering as We’ve yet been to a club (damn covid). How would you vet them for being cheaters or other things that are not for you. I would love to here strategies of how to do this. So far, keeping a clear head and not getting busy right away but are there other ways?

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By *otskipCouple
over a year ago

glasgow


"My view: if a person can't be honest with someone they have committed to then why would I trust them to be honest with me about, well, anything?

Totally fine with ethical non-monogamy, polyamoury or open relationships but I'm not interested in anyone who feels the need to lie to get their jollies #HarshButTrue"

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian


"My view: if a person can't be honest with someone they have committed to then why would I trust them to be honest with me about, well, anything?

Totally fine with ethical non-monogamy, polyamoury or open relationships but I'm not interested in anyone who feels the need to lie to get their jollies #HarshButTrue"

Agreed.

I don't care about the justifications y'all make to ease your conscience, if you're out there looking for casual sex with an oblivious partner, you're disrespectful and horrid. Cheaters get angry when you say that because they know it's true. I don't want anything to do with it, so I will ask outright if someone is playing away, and if yes then it will end the conversation.

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