FabSwingers.com forum: Sending messages

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What are the fab ladies and couples looking for in a first message?

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By *hy and innocentCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I tend to pay attention to the profile of the person messaging, not just the message.

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By *lassybutseeknaughtinessCouple
over a year ago

Coatbridge

"What are the fab ladies and couples looking for in a first message?"

Pictures of dicks and dicks only plus asking can you meet now, oh hold on that already happens and gets guys nowhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are the fab ladies and couples looking for in a first message?"

Photograph backgrounds normally.

They are also partial to baw deep into other women, type pics.

They love that kind a thing.

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By *uburban_kinkCouple
over a year ago

Motherwell

Engagement - someone who’s actually read your profile and tailored a first message around it.

What we personally don’t like is ...

1) “Hi, how’s you?”

2) “Free to meet now?” (particularly during a pandemic)

3) Friend request along with a first message.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

As a couple, we go on the profile text and pics as well as the msg, we don't reply to one liners it just bugs the shit out of us, if the person is msging us then they have usually looked at our pics where there are face pics, so we expect a face pic with the first msg and generally being confident and able to hold a conversation.

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By *parkle13Woman
over a year ago

Dundee

pics of dics with lynx cans

Pics of dicks over a toilet we pee in it

Pics of a room that looks like.its not seen a hoover from.before lockdown..

And the all important the can we meet for a shag now ..right this minute .and deffo start a conversation with baby. Babe. doll.sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will read the profile, verifications then look at pics before we even open the message if when we do its obvious the sender hasn't read the profile or is disrespectful the message gets deleted. We try to respond politely even if just a "not for us" message.

Read profiles, engage with the person/persons as best you can

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I don’t mind what the first message says as I look at the profile to see if I am going to respond unless of course the first message is rude or offensive or looking to meet straight away.

It’s the follow up messages that need to keep my attention

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By *uburban_kinkCouple
over a year ago

Motherwell

"Pics of dicks over a toilet we pee in it "

Perfectly described. Never sure if we’re supposed to be gauging the colour of the pee to see how healthy some is

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By *arroness NikkiWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

It’s a combination of msg and how the guys profile/bio is. But nothing too direct and disrespectful.

I don’t think there is a perfect first msg, everyone is different and looking for different things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pay attention to the profile, if you are the total opposite of what they are asking for why waste the time?

Be polite and don’t be offended if you are ignored because we all have 50 other msgs and the majority of them are nonsense x

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By *ittleRed18Woman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Pay attention to the profile, if you are the total opposite of what they are asking for why waste the time?

Be polite and don’t be offended if you are ignored because we all have 50 other msgs and the majority of them are nonsense x

That's exactly it! First messages should be personalised to who you are talking to. This could be something you spotted in their bio or pics. Don't waste your time sending a message to someone who is not going to think you are a good match for them.

P.s love the username Kraken!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you! Love yours too 3

I’ve actually just updated my profile to be a bit more targeted, hopefully that cuts down on the number of msgs I get

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By *hatsmynameagainCouple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

For a first message a simple "Hey how are you" is fine as its an invite to have a conversation. We'll then look at the profile.

But if there is no conversation flow by the 2nd or 3rd message then I prob wont message back. Ive had plenty of messages that started out that way and when I message back asking how they are I get a one word answer like "Fine" or "Ok".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Picture grabs my attention right away.

If not a simple hey hows your day going is fine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Will keep all that in mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are the fab ladies and couples looking for in a first message?"

The message is not it for me. Although if I get a 'I want to smash your door in' type of message then I can guarantee I will not be responding.

The message is the hook for me to look at their profile. I look and if I see 20 different angles of a hairy cock then I am not messaging

Pubic hair makes me sick in my mouth and cocks are ugly as fuck man. Seeing 20 different angles of it really does nothing for mojo. Also girls all over a single guys profile. I'm like mate? I get it. You can bang a lass. Bring out the banners. But I am looking to find out about the guy. How does that let me know about the guy? So, the message isn't really it. It is the profile. The profile sells the man. Or couple. Or lass. So many guys do not get this and then moan their tits off when they don't get any attention

That's just my input

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