FabSwingers.com forum: Sex less marrige

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What's your thoughts on this been in one for many years due to wife physically unable to have sex and on here to fill that gap but constantly judged.

Anyone in same position what's your experience of dealing with it

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

Does your wife know you are on here?

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Grab your tin bin OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're probably better going about your business quietly

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

You don't owe anyone on here an explanation. And if they don't agree with you being on here is not something you need to worry about. Everyone has their own reasons to be on this site.

Plenty people on here who have a partner at home and play away. They don't tend to tell people about it on this forum though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've said this in another thread today already and I really belive it. If things aren't OK in the bedroom and you can't talk about it, then they aren't really OK in the livingroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is complicated, we all like to think it's black and white, but it's not.

If you can look yourself in the mirror and not be disgusted with yourself then you are ok.

My advise would be to talk about it and if you can't then it's time to make think about the future.

No easy Answers.

As Billy Connolly said, " Before you judge a someone, walk a mile in their shoes. After that who cares? They're a mile away and you've got their shoes!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone in same position what's your experience of dealing with it"

I'm always judged, the person posting above and below me are also always judged, I deal with it like water on a ducks back, doesn't bother me one tiny iota.

Do what you want OP and feck everyone else's judgements. Simple.!!!

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Interested to know what condition your wife has that leaves her physically unable to have sex.

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By *uffinMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

To be honest unless you are experiencing a sexless relationship you really won't know how hard it is to join fab and look elsewhere. A lot can't be "talked about" because its too difficult to try to sort. Especially as most want the sexless relationship but a bit of sex becomes almost impossible but you don't want to damage the whole thing either.

It does take alot to even consider using fab especially when you then get judged by others.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"Life is complicated, we all like to think it's black and white, but it's not.

If you can look yourself in the mirror and not be disgusted with yourself then you are ok.

My advise would be to talk about it and if you can't then it's time to make think about the future.

No easy Answers.

As Billy Connolly said, " Before you judge a someone, walk a mile in their shoes. After that who cares? They're a mile away and you've got their shoes!""
life is black and white if you chose to see it that way adding grey areas is usually justification for doing something that you know is wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been married nearly 30 years sexless for over 15.Medical reasons.More to life and relationships than sex but I'm finding it difficult after so long without sex.Think that's partly why I'm Bi if I go with a guy it dosnt feel like I've cheated!i know I'm crazy but theres a few on here.Dying for a womans touch and smell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the OP is on Fab because he loves his wife.

OP you're business is yours.

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By *atureMale321Man
over a year ago

Moray

I've not had sex in 3 years for similar reasons as original post, always getting judged, and no disability just no interest after change of life.

For better or worse, tough choices for sure

But as they say that's life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"life is black and white if you chose to see it that way adding grey areas is usually justification for doing something that you know is wrong"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every person has an opinion on relationships, marriage and fidelity. Some will agree on those opinions some won’t. Some will offer reasons for infidelity and some will say there is no good reason. Some couples would find swinging unacceptable and others find it enriches their marriage/relationship. One thing is certain, you will never get a consensus of opinion on it.

The debate has raged forever and it probably always will, however it is interesting to note fidelity is something most desire... in their partner.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

How we address this as a couple when we are approached by married men (never married ladies) and it's probably not the right way to deal with it but that's just how we do, and that's if a man over the age of 50 is in a sexless marriage for what ever reason then if we like him and vice versa then we will play, most of the time these guys are pretty honest and open with it, our profile says no married men but it's our discretion. If a man aged between 25 and 50 approaches us then it's usually a no thanks as they are clearly just playing away..usually the younger one. Like I said that just the way we look at it. But everyone has there own opinions about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How we address this as a couple when we are approached by married men (never married ladies) and it's probably not the right way to deal with it but that's just how we do, and that's if a man over the age of 50 is in a sexless marriage for what ever reason then if we like him and vice versa then we will play, most of the time these guys are pretty honest and open with it, our profile says no married men but it's our discretion. If a man aged between 25 and 50 approaches us then it's usually a no thanks as they are clearly just playing away..usually the younger one. Like I said that just the way we look at it. But everyone has there own opinions about it "

I like your attitude towards this, I am in a sexless marriage and just wish I could meet couples just like you guys. Very sexy couple who I would love to play with, amazing pics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People judge. It’s human nature, anyone who say they don’t is lying.

Find ppl that are in the same boat or who don’t mind attached or married guys.

And steer clear of the oh so perfect judgemental individuals

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"What's your thoughts on this been in one for many years due to wife physically unable to have sex and on here to fill that gap but constantly judged.

Anyone in same position what's your experience of dealing with it"
Some will meet married/attatched some wont .

Some like to give people a hard time on here if they are playing away and feel its their right to have ago at people just for the hell of it .

Of course some wont like it but they don't need to bang on about it constantly people get that you ain't interested in married or attatched so just get on with your own fun and leave others to do the same !

There is a difference between giving your opinion and being darn right nasty about it !

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By *andj17Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *uffinMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It's good to know we're not alone but it is still virtually impossible for meets either due to commitments and even chatting with a lot of females or couples.

People forget that swinging and sharing is something special - equally its special that guys and females from sexless relations to take steps to come on fab.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I don’t judge people on why they are on fab.

Initially I didn’t meet married or attached then through chatting gained a better understanding of varying reasons for people being here.

I then had a social with a married guy.

He then became quite persistent in trying to meet me again to the extent he wanted to pick me up from a night out with friends as his family were away for the weekend. He just wouldn’t take no for an answer.

I know this can happen with single guys too but it’s a simpler situation if the person has no partner so I now steer clear as it’s easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've spoke to so many guys on here in similar position to OP,some say the marriage/relationship is good and they are happy apart from the no sex. In this instance I understand why they stay together.

But if relationship is totally dead in every angle then grow a pair and leave. Life most definitely goes on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've said this in another thread today already and I really belive it. If things aren't OK in the bedroom and you can't talk about it, then they aren't really OK in the livingroom "

This

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By *havennaturistsCouple
over a year ago

Banff

There are plenty of overlooked and highly sexed married women just waiting to be noticed, admired and seduced. Makes for a much more satisfying relationship for both than those based on fab, believe me! But can men be bothered to put in the effort?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not one single person walks a straight path... those who are judgemental tend to be ignorant to reason.

Those who have preference not to meet married/attached are obviously entitled as we all are to opinion.

Don’t loose sleep over anyone who judges you. They have not walked your path....

That’s my tuppence worth

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

I like your attitude towards this, I am in a sexless marriage and just wish I could meet couples just like you guys. Very sexy couple who I would love to play with, amazing pics!"

Thankyou for that, we understand there are loads of reasons why men find them selves in a sexless marriage and it can be no fault of there own, I know that if I was unable to have sex with my hubby for whatever reason but he was still very active, then I would be saying to him to go and find someone..although not sure if I would want to know when or where and evrtu detail lol..as long as he still loved me then why not x

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By *2ooMan
over a year ago

Borders

Yip I can relate to your plight but buddy it’s no easy I won’t leave my wife but I need a woman’s touch now and then we haven’t had sex for 6 years mate cause of not wanting any more kids and I’m not going for the snip yeh up until our last we used condoms she just isn’t interested

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"life is black and white if you chose to see it that way adding grey areas is usually justification for doing something that you know is wrong

What an absolute nonsense thing to think and then type on a site where every shade of relationship, sexuality and liberalism is evident. Your black and white world smells suspiciously like intolerance to me. "
lol intolerance it's you casting aspersions here so who's the intolerant one you CHOOSE to add grey areas it's that simple

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

All couples for one reason or another ,dont care who you are ,its easy to give up and just move on and do without ,but from experience ,Talk about it dont push each other ,even when we dont have sex we are still very tactile it isnt all about full on sex you can enjoy each other ,but i know its not easy if one gives up as the longer it goes on the harder to reignite the passion ,but id never go elsewhere im here for the long haul ,but thankfully we are 100% back on track ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"life is black and white if you chose to see it that way adding grey areas is usually justification for doing something that you know is wrong

What an absolute nonsense thing to think and then type on a site where every shade of relationship, sexuality and liberalism is evident. Your black and white world smells suspiciously like intolerance to me. lol intolerance it's you casting aspersions here so who's the intolerant one you CHOOSE to add grey areas it's that simple"

No disrespect intended but life isn’t black and white. And how utterly boring it would be.

Chuck the skittles in and taste the rainbow

so I’m screwed (

literally) no grey areas here

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"life is black and white if you chose to see it that way adding grey areas is usually justification for doing something that you know is wrong

What an absolute nonsense thing to think and then type on a site where every shade of relationship, sexuality and liberalism is evident. Your black and white world smells suspiciously like intolerance to me. lol intolerance it's you casting aspersions here so who's the intolerant one you CHOOSE to add grey areas it's that simple

No disrespect intended but life isn’t black and white. And how utterly boring it would be.

Chuck the skittles in and taste the rainbow

so I’m screwed (

literally) no grey areas here

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my point was the grey areas are made by us taking the married cheating thing as an example you chose to marry and enter into that contract then decide to break it.

then add gey areas by saying sexless marriage is the reason even though its covered in the contract.

No qualms with the multitude of diversity and folk can do as they please.

usually when there's grey areas added it's because they know they are in the wrong so seek justification for what they believe to be wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its nobodies business why your on here, we all have reasons if anyone has a problem they should move on, not everyone is lucky enough to have a partner who likes this lifestyle and will have fun with them on here,

have fun ignore the haters most arent like that and on here, just have a good time I say

gill

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By *sa and HarryCouple
over a year ago

motherwell

"Does your wife know you are on here? "

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By *sa and HarryCouple
over a year ago

motherwell

"Interested to know what condition your wife has that leaves her physically unable to have sex."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"life is black and white if you chose to see it that way adding grey areas is usually justification for doing something that you know is wrong

What an absolute nonsense thing to think and then type on a site where every shade of relationship, sexuality and liberalism is evident. Your black and white world smells suspiciously like intolerance to me. lol intolerance it's you casting aspersions here so who's the intolerant one you CHOOSE to add grey areas it's that simple

No disrespect intended but life isn’t black and white. And how utterly boring it would be.

Chuck the skittles in and taste the rainbow

so I’m screwed (

literally) no grey areas here

my point was the grey areas are made by us taking the married cheating thing as an example you chose to marry and enter into that contract then decide to break it.

then add gey areas by saying sexless marriage is the reason even though its covered in the contract.

No qualms with the multitude of diversity and folk can do as they please.

usually when there's grey areas added it's because they know they are in the wrong so seek justification for what they believe to be wrong"

I don’t think it’s quite as simple as that for some...

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By *ndyman76Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

So, when your wife who you have loved for 20 years decides that she no longer wants physical contact, what can you do? Ive tried a non physical relationship for the last 3 years, but it cant go on. We have seperated, i do feel a liberation but also a huge sadness ive lost my soul mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, when your wife who you have loved for 20 years decides that she no longer wants physical contact, what can you do? Ive tried a non physical relationship for the last 3 years, but it cant go on. We have seperated, i do feel a liberation but also a huge sadness ive lost my soul mate."
That's sad mate I know a bit of what you're going through!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

[So, when your wife who you have loved for 20 years decides that she no longer wants physical contact, what can you do? Ive tried a non physical relationship for the last 3 years, but it cant go on. We have seperated, i do feel a liberation but also a huge sadness ive lost my soul mate.That's sad mate I know a bit of what you're going through!

][it something I fear longterm if I can't get my sexual pleasure somewhere I start to resent my wife and that's the last thing I want as like you say she's a soul mate ]

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"[So, when your wife who you have loved for 20 years decides that she no longer wants physical contact, what can you do? Ive tried a non physical relationship for the last 3 years, but it cant go on. We have seperated, i do feel a liberation but also a huge sadness ive lost my soul mate.

That's sad mate I know a bit of what you're going through!

]

[it something I fear longterm if I can't get my sexual pleasure somewhere I start to resent my wife and that's the last thing I want as like you say she's a soul mate ]"

Have you spoken to your wife about the fact that for you sexual pleasure is incredibly important? That you don't see yourself with anyone but her, but you also feel you need something as you've been struggling the past few years and don't want to 'cheat'. Its an incredibly hard conversation to have but some people manage to have open talks about it and give permission etc. She may even like the idea of it?

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I was the one in my marriage who didn’t enjoy sex and felt I could live my life without it.

I told my ex to find sex elsewhere and he would say but I want it with you.

After being separated a long time I then had a friend who introduced me to great sex and by that I mean where I enjoyed it due to the fact I liked who I was with. I didn’t like my ex and that’s why I didn’t enjoy sex. I think as someone said if it’s not good in the bedroom it probably isn’t good in the living room and rather than wasting time worrying about cheating why not have the conversation which I know won’t be easy but it could lead to you enjoying life more.

For those that stay married because of children - how would your children feel if you got caught cheating.

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By *un4us2getherCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Interested to know what condition your wife has that leaves her physically unable to have sex.

Dont think thats anyones business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interested to know what condition your wife has that leaves her physically unable to have sex.

Dont think thats anyones business."
Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its nobodies business why your on here, we all have reasons if anyone has a problem they should move on, not everyone is lucky enough to have a partner who likes this lifestyle and will have fun with them on here,

have fun ignore the haters most arent like that and on here, just have a good time I say

gill

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I do agree Gill xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interested to know what condition your wife has that leaves her physically unable to have sex.

Dont think thats anyones business."

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By *osie888TV/TS
over a year ago

Holytown

Can relate sex life been hit miss for a while . Does she know u on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

[Interested to know what condition your wife has that leaves her physically unable to have sex.

Dont think thats anyones business.

I would disagree. If you are looking for an opinion then it would be better if you gave someone all the facts. If you aren’t prepared to share them then it’s probs best not to ask what people think I'm more than happy to explain situation and answer any questions that potential meets might have ]

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By *osie888TV/TS
over a year ago

Holytown

Agree one hundred %

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By *osie888TV/TS
over a year ago

Holytown

Agree one hundred %

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