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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So thinking of visiting my first club when this is all over, I'm just curious to how new single guys are made to feel?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think that will be determined by how you conduct yourself. I would go in, stay off the booze for nerves, smile and engage with people by speaking to both male and female. Get a connection with someone/couple and hopefully an invite to play may happen. If it doesn't nothing has been lost as hopefully you will have got to know a few people so the next time you go, it's not as daunting.

Good luck and enjoy.

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By *itznBobz2018Couple
over a year ago

edinburgh

Most guys are made to feel welcome. Just treat it like a night in a pub. Be polite. Chat to folk and don't go expecting anything to happen. If it does its a bonus.

Bobz

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys appreciate your feedback

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By *hy and innocentCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

As already stated by above posters, don't drink too much, if at all. Don't expect to play, if you do it's a bonus. Sometimes there are arranged drinks beforehand, that way you can potentially meet some people before you go so not totally on your own to start with.

Innocent

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

also, don't hang around the play area hoping for an invite, that looks desperate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"also, don't hang around the play area hoping for an invite, that looks desperate "

Yeah I wouldn't be doing that

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By *ornyone30Man
over a year ago

ABERDEEN

I was in cjs with a woman friend a few years ago for the first time, there was a single guy who decided to get hammered. He was swiftly kicked out. Definitely co trol any alcohol consumption.

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By *reywolf_18Man
over a year ago

ayr

It's something I've considered in the past but never done, partly because I'm well aware there will be tons of single guys there,the ratio of guys to ladies / couples will be huge. I wouldn't drink and wouldn't want to be creepy. Cjs is the only one I'm aware of that's local-ish to me so would probably try that one first. Will maybe go to one once this lockdown is over, and hopefully make a few friends, even if nothing else happens

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"It's something I've considered in the past but never done, partly because I'm well aware there will be tons of single guys there,the ratio of guys to ladies / couples will be huge. I wouldn't drink and wouldn't want to be creepy. Cjs is the only one I'm aware of that's local-ish to me so would probably try that one first. Will maybe go to one once this lockdown is over, and hopefully make a few friends, even if nothing else happens"

CJs limits single guys so the place isn't crawling with them, makes it much easier for single guys to engage with females and couples

John

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By *reywolf_18Man
over a year ago

ayr


"It's something I've considered in the past but never done, partly because I'm well aware there will be tons of single guys there,the ratio of guys to ladies / couples will be huge. I wouldn't drink and wouldn't want to be creepy. Cjs is the only one I'm aware of that's local-ish to me so would probably try that one first. Will maybe go to one once this lockdown is over, and hopefully make a few friends, even if nothing else happens

CJs limits single guys so the place isn't crawling with them, makes it much easier for single guys to engage with females and couples

John "

That sounds promising. Yeah will definitely give it a go after lockdown restrictions go away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A follow-up question I’ve always wondered about actually - is there a situation where you’d look completely out of place in a negative way based on your age?

I more mean by someone being a bit too young. I’m no spring chicken but I’m wondering whether it’s uncommon for someone who’s 27 to be showing up.

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By *hy and innocentCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"A follow-up question I’ve always wondered about actually - is there a situation where you’d look completely out of place in a negative way based on your age?

I more mean by someone being a bit too young. I’m no spring chicken but I’m wondering whether it’s uncommon for someone who’s 27 to be showing up. "

Nope. Cjs is open to everyone from 18+. There's usually a very wide & varied age range of attendees.

Innocent

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By *ookie an creamCouple
over a year ago

Fife


"A follow-up question I’ve always wondered about actually - is there a situation where you’d look completely out of place in a negative way based on your age?

I more mean by someone being a bit too young. I’m no spring chicken but I’m wondering whether it’s uncommon for someone who’s 27 to be showing up. "

No the clubs are good for all and place for you to get to know people we talk to everyone from young to old singles or couple as social side is just as important as play side.

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By *ullpa72Man
over a year ago

Isle of Arran


"It's something I've considered in the past but never done, partly because I'm well aware there will be tons of single guys there,the ratio of guys to ladies / couples will be huge. I wouldn't drink and wouldn't want to be creepy. Cjs is the only one I'm aware of that's local-ish to me so would probably try that one first. Will maybe go to one once this lockdown is over, and hopefully make a few friends, even if nothing else happens"
personally I like cj's ,you need to book and they try and keep a balance so give it a go !I think you will enjoy it .

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By *exy gentMan
over a year ago

Midlothian


"A follow-up question I’ve always wondered about actually - is there a situation where you’d look completely out of place in a negative way based on your age?

I more mean by someone being a bit too young. I’m no spring chicken but I’m wondering whether it’s uncommon for someone who’s 27 to be showing up.

No the clubs are good for all and place for you to get to know people we talk to everyone from young to old singles or couple as social side is just as important as play side."

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By *lbie6Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Read the thread im a single guy looking to go alot of good advice is cjs the best

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By *itznBobz2018Couple
over a year ago

edinburgh

Many people have an opinion on this. Cjs is a bigger club and has a better lay out has more play room. After 8 is small and is like being at a house party. We have had great nights at both

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Read the thread im a single guy looking to go alot of good advice is cjs the best"

Thanks for advice I'll be looking at it after all this rubbish is over

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