FabSwingers.com forum: Vanilla to a Thrilla

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good morning all how are we today? I'm relatively new to the site. Had a good few conversations with some lovely people already.

I'm looking to see how I can be taken more seriously on the site though. I get the feeling cause I don't have any verifications then I'm just not serious about swinging. That couldn't be further from the truth. I've got so many things I'd love to tick off lol.

Does my profile come across OK is there anything I need to add to make me look like less of a newbie. Any help would be greatly appreciated happy fabbing folks. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good morning all how are we today? I'm relatively new to the site. Had a good few conversations with some lovely people already.

Does my profile come across OK is there anything I need to add to make me look like less of a newbie. Any help would be greatly appreciated happy fabbing folks. X

Your profile is one and a half lines so for me, it doesn't really pack a punch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NEXT ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks I have been meaning to update that. Not very good at selling myselfiif you know what I mean.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What do you mean by that? Hope your not being rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"NEXT .."

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Its not about selling yourself, its about putting the effort in to saying likes, dislikes etc. Maybe put down something you are specifically looking 'to tick off' if its that important to you. Maybe take a look at the profiles you like/have been talkong to and take some inspiration from them.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Also the name might put some people off...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks I have been meaning to update that. Not very good at selling myselfiif you know what I mean. "

I know a lot of folk say your profile is your "shop window" so it feels like you're selling yourself but just try and inject a wee bit of personality into. Doesn't need to be blowing your own trumpet...I personally find the "sexy, professional, funny, VWE" type profiles boring and predictable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also the name might put some people off..."

That could be his real name. Without the Xs obv!

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"Also the name might put some people off...

That could be his real name. Without the Xs obv!"

Very true - in that case I would question the safety of it!!

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By *atex and KinkCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"NEXT ..

Simple fact is your profile is un-inspiring in its current format and unlikely to attract any interest.

The profile is a shop window to the swinging world. Call it a CV if you like. A window into who you are, What you like, what you'd like to achieve in the swinging community.

A arrange of pictures is also help to let people see you, your style and see your personality.

After that you need to show your personality in messages and perhaps look to attending local events and clubs to be seen. Social interaction with other local swingers lets them get to know you in person.

If you do that then you will enjoy your swinging experience.

If you don't, You will be another grumpy male statistic in the fab world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"NEXT ..

Simple fact is your profile is un-inspiring in its current format and unlikely to attract any interest.

The profile is a shop window to the swinging world. Call it a CV if you like. A window into who you are, What you like, what you'd like to achieve in the swinging community.

A arrange of pictures is also help to let people see you, your style and see your personality.

If you do that then you will enjoy your swinging experience.

If you don't, You will be another grumpy male statistic in the fab world.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you so much for the feedback and totally agree on what yous have said. I'll have a wee sit down and update my profile to show a bit more of my personality.

The thing is I've known I've liked the idea of swinging for many years. But not sure what it is I like about it. If like to try most things once so I can explore what I like.

But yeah I'll be adding that into my profile, to let people know where I'm at. Regarding swingers clubs I've been counting down the days for them to open back up again. Is it not very hard for a single male to get an invite to them though?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for that much appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"NEXT ..

Simple fact is your profile is un-inspiring in its current format and unlikely to attract any interest.

The profile is a shop window to the swinging world. Call it a CV if you like. A window into who you are, What you like, what you'd like to achieve in the swinging community.

A arrange of pictures is also help to let people see you, your style and see your personality.

If you do that then you will enjoy your swinging experience.

If you don't, You will be another grumpy male statistic in the fab world.

Thanks for that it's much appreciated.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Join in the forums and try to get along to socials as it’s a great way to meet people and learn more about their fab experiences with no pressure as there is no ‘fun’ at socials.

Look at other guys profiles and see what you like and dislike about them for ideas but don’t copy and paste, personalise it to make it your own.

You have to contact the clubs to request to get in so you can do that from their websites when they open and presumably there will be new rules for the clubs so read up on them when they are active again

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Join in the forums and try to get along to socials as it’s a great way to meet people and learn more about their fab experiences with no pressure as there is no ‘fun’ at socials.

Look at other guys profiles and see what you like and dislike about them for ideas but don’t copy and paste, personalise it to make it your own.

Good luck

Thank you very much for your help, I've updated my profile to reveal a bit about my self. Might need to tweek it a bit but it's a start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Join in the forums and try to get along to socials as it’s a great way to meet people and learn more about their fab experiences with no pressure as there is no ‘fun’ at socials.

Look at other guys profiles and see what you like and dislike about them for ideas but don’t copy and paste, personalise it to make it your own.

Good luck

Thank you very much for your help, I've updated my profile to reveal a bit about my self. Might need to tweek it a bit but it's a start. "

Reads a lot better

Some folk will probably still pick holes in it but fuck 'em

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Join in the forums and try to get along to socials as it’s a great way to meet people and learn more about their fab experiences with no pressure as there is no ‘fun’ at socials.

Look at other guys profiles and see what you like and dislike about them for ideas but don’t copy and paste, personalise it to make it your own.

Good luck

Thank you very much for your help, I've updated my profile to reveal a bit about my self. Might need to tweek it a bit but it's a start.

Reads a lot better

Some folk will probably still pick holes in it but fuck 'em

Good luck."

Thanks yeah not everyone will be happy but I'll definitely be adding to it as and when I explore new boundaries.

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