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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Question for the ladies....

When you are meeting someone off the site for the very first time, regardless how long you have been talking to them, or how many veri's they have.......

Would you invite them into your home without meeting in a public place for a coffee and a natter first? And would you think it extremely suspicous if your meet refused to meet in a public place?

Guys please note.....we are all on here to play safe, a public meet first is a must, and saves any embarrassment if you find you really don't want to get nekki with them!

The build up of foreplay, using words and non sexual actions is a far bigger turn on than you would imagine.....the thrill of the chase. I am so not into just bumping bones straight away, the whole body is an erogenous zone! Work it baby....lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male here so can't really answer directly but I don't think it's suspicious if someone doesn't want a public meet, some people just get off on the idea of jumping straight into bed with strangers. Not for the rest of us, but each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i just couldn't do it in my own home, it would freak me out! this is where I live with my kids ffs!

We all love strangey sex, it's the bees knees, but there has to be a bit of a build up. Smouldering looks over a steamy cup of un cafe! lol....promise in the air of more to come. Or, god, he is so not for me, quick cuppa and I'll catch you soon! Easy peasy, no hard feelings, no feeling threatened, no embarrassment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go for the social meet first and don't invite back to my home. I go to their home once I know and trust them, or an hotel. Also I pay for my room so even at the last minute if things are not going right ..... I can keep the room and ask him to go.

I know of two friends who have had a guy turn up 'on the off chance' because he knew where they lived. Not on if you have a family.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"Question for the ladies....

When you are meeting someone off the site for the very first time, regardless how long you have been talking to them, or how many veri's they have.......

Would you invite them into your home without meeting in a public place for a coffee and a natter first? And would you think it extremely suspicous if your meet refused to meet in a public place?

Guys please note.....we are all on here to play safe, a public meet first is a must, and saves any embarrassment if you find you really don't want to get nekki with them!

The build up of foreplay, using words and non sexual actions is a far bigger turn on than you would imagine.....the thrill of the chase. I am so not into just bumping bones straight away, the whole body is an erogenous zone! Work it baby....lol "
not sure if this is a dig at someone or a real honest to god question why assume all men want to jump straight into bed most men would also like to find out if there is chemistry there first also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would never meet any guy for fun without a wee social drink first...it's no big deal if we dont have sparks and easy enought say se ya then, and yeah would be a bit sus if he didnae wanna meet in a public place....

1st rule is safety!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

its happened a few times to me Kola, and yes it was today most recently. Cancelled at last minute coz he would feel awkward if he bumped into someone he knew!! Wtf? I'm not Shrek and he obviously has something to hide!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

but was all for coming to bang me at mine, coz he desperately wants to meet me! i'm no ones dirty secret, if you can't be seen in public with someone, then you shouldn't be playing!

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

quite right too stick to your guns and remember not all men are aholes .............just 90% lol keep smiling and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

done social meets b4 and alsm just had the guy come to mine.i chat to a guy alot before i have him at my house.feel comfortable at mine than in another house i dont know?as for the social meets as a married woman id be scared incase a family member or friend saw me havn a drink with some guy without jas? Less they know the better.x auds x

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Question for the ladies....

When you are meeting someone off the site for the very first time, regardless how long you have been talking to them, or how many veri's they have.......

Would you invite them into your home without meeting in a public place for a coffee and a natter first? And would you think it extremely suspicous if your meet refused to meet in a public place?

Guys please note.....we are all on here to play safe, a public meet first is a must, and saves any embarrassment if you find you really don't want to get nekki with them!

The build up of foreplay, using words and non sexual actions is a far bigger turn on than you would imagine.....the thrill of the chase. I am so not into just bumping bones straight away, the whole body is an erogenous zone! Work it baby....lol "

I always have a good chat with someone here then do the social meet and on the odd occation if the connection is right then gone str8 for a meet ...would i find it suspicious if someone didnt want to do the social meet first ..no i wouldnt some just like discretion and maybe fear being seen in public with someone of the oposit sex especially if they are married of attatched ...for others they dont care who might see them even tho they are married or attatched ...id say make up your own mind how you want your meets to go and stick to it good luck xxx

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By *eatherWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

social meet first get to know the person and they get to know you see how u get onoccasionally the first meet has went further but as a very rare occasion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met a few ladies at their home and also mine for the first meet doesn't always mean your going to have fun but to be honest can't talk for all men....

But I suppose it's different for ladies safety and that

Best to chat on phone then go for coffee etc etc then maybe go somewhere after if you get on with the person and they get on with you happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never done a meet from my family home. Stick to your guns girl!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i just couldn't do it in my own home, it would freak me out! this is where I live with my kids ffs!

We all love strangey sex, it's the bees knees, but there has to be a bit of a build up. Smouldering looks over a steamy cup of un cafe! lol....promise in the air of more to come. Or, god, he is so not for me, quick cuppa and I'll catch you soon! Easy peasy, no hard feelings, no feeling threatened, no embarrassment!"

Im confused...not hard to manage that mind you lol ...you just couldnt in your place but you have a party invite posted?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I've done (and will continue to do) both...

If and when I do meet at home or theirs first time it's made clear from the start that meeting is not a guarantee or expectation of anything happening.

And I have no problem with telling someone they're not for me (or hearing ot from them) regardless of where I meet them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sassy, I've had many parties at my home, and I have no problem having "friends" back to mine, after the initial first meet. But having been caught out by a few serious weirdos on here, I like to be able to suss someone out in a neutral safe place first. Obviously, this doesn't guarantee that they are or are not Jack the Ripper, but at least if alarm bells ring, I can walk away, safe that he doesn't know where I live.

As for the parties....mostly my guests are recommended by others or people I have already met. Rarely do complete strangers attend xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sassy, I've had many parties at my home, and I have no problem having "friends" back to mine, after the initial first meet. But having been caught out by a few serious weirdos on here, I like to be able to suss someone out in a neutral safe place first. Obviously, this doesn't guarantee that they are or are not Jack the Ripper, but at least if alarm bells ring, I can walk away, safe that he doesn't know where I live.

As for the parties....mostly my guests are recommended by others or people I have already met. Rarely do complete strangers attend xx"

Ok got you now, I thought you meant you couldnt have a fab type meet in your home

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