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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it rude not to send a face pic back if you've sent one at their request?

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

I'd say yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say so

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd say yes "

I agree... Only polite even if they're not for you or you them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would say so "

I agree... Just good manners to reciprocate even if you dont float each others boats after seeing

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By *alkdirty2meCouple
over a year ago

20 miles south of Edinburgh

Never ever ever send face pics

If they won’t video chat, they’re fake or hiding something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I start chatting with someone then I'll send a face picture very early on. I'd expect them to reciprocate.

If the conversation ends at that point because there isn't mutual attraction,its easier to say.

If you chat too long then swap pics it's harder.

If someone sends me a pic and they aren't for me, I will always send mine back to be polite.

Sometimes though all of that goes out the window. I just hit block. I'm put off people for various reasons and when it happens it happens.

I'm not offended if people do that to me either. It's the nature of the beast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's polite to send one back even if they're not for you but it's the person s decision at the end of the day...

I'm not easily offended

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By *lassybutseeknaughtinessCouple
over a year ago

Coatbridge


"Never ever ever send face pics

If they won’t video chat, they’re fake or hiding something "

We wouldn't video chat early on as we don't like it, doesn't make us fake or be hiding anything. Just our preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it rude not to send a face pic back if you've sent one at their request? "

No

It is rude to think you are entitled to something just because you did it first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never ever ever send face pics

If they won’t video chat, they’re fake or hiding something "

Or they just don't want to jump through your hoops

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Is it rude not to send a face pic back if you've sent one at their request? "

If someone sends us a face pic and they are not for us then we will not send one back. We won't be meeting them so it's pointless. My pics have been stolen before so we are cautious who sees our faces. If that is seen as rude then ok. Our choice, and just reinforces that they are not for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I start chatting with someone then I'll send a face picture very early on. I'd expect them to reciprocate.

If the conversation ends at that point because there isn't mutual attraction,its easier to say.

If you chat too long then swap pics it's harder.

If someone sends me a pic and they aren't for me, I will always send mine back to be polite.

Sometimes though all of that goes out the window. I just hit block. I'm put off people for various reasons and when it happens it happens.

I'm not offended if people do that to me either. It's the nature of the beast. "

‘If you chat too long it’s harder’ - I thought we lived in a day n age where people preferred personality over looks. Therefore why is it harder?

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"If I start chatting with someone then I'll send a face picture very early on. I'd expect them to reciprocate.

If the conversation ends at that point because there isn't mutual attraction,its easier to say.

If you chat too long then swap pics it's harder.

If someone sends me a pic and they aren't for me, I will always send mine back to be polite.

Sometimes though all of that goes out the window. I just hit block. I'm put off people for various reasons and when it happens it happens.

I'm not offended if people do that to me either. It's the nature of the beast.

‘If you chat too long it’s harder’ - I thought we lived in a day n age where people preferred personality over looks. Therefore why is it harder?"

Would you fuck someone who you are not remotely attracted to or are even repulsed by? We certainly won't. Lots on here will say "oh I go by personality not looks" what is, in the main, bollocks. Most people are shallow and go for looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I start chatting with someone then I'll send a face picture very early on. I'd expect them to reciprocate.

If the conversation ends at that point because there isn't mutual attraction,its easier to say.

If you chat too long then swap pics it's harder.

If someone sends me a pic and they aren't for me, I will always send mine back to be polite.

Sometimes though all of that goes out the window. I just hit block. I'm put off people for various reasons and when it happens it happens.

I'm not offended if people do that to me either. It's the nature of the beast.

‘If you chat too long it’s harder’ - I thought we lived in a day n age where people preferred personality over looks. Therefore why is it harder?

Would you fuck someone who you are not remotely attracted to or are even repulsed by? We certainly won't. Lots on here will say "oh I go by personality not looks" what is, in the main, bollocks. Most people are shallow and go for looks. "

If the snog & kiss dont work, nothing else is going to happen.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

No.

Like someone has said, there is no obligation to send anything back.

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By *aurus1987Man
over a year ago

York

Some people cant send face pics because there scared of the reaction they'll get back, or worse, blocked, some are shy, some dont send because of there job. But, all things cosidering, yes, they should.

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By *oldswarriorMan
over a year ago

Falkirk


"Some people cant send face pics because there scared of the reaction they'll get back, or worse, blocked, some are shy, some dont send because of there job. But, all things cosidering, yes, they should."

Nope. This is just the usual excuses.

If i send a face pic to someone in a message and it it gets deleted or gets me blocked then I'm not what that person is looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I start chatting with someone then I'll send a face picture very early on. I'd expect them to reciprocate.

If the conversation ends at that point because there isn't mutual attraction,its easier to say.

If you chat too long then swap pics it's harder.

If someone sends me a pic and they aren't for me, I will always send mine back to be polite.

Sometimes though all of that goes out the window. I just hit block. I'm put off people for various reasons and when it happens it happens.

I'm not offended if people do that to me either. It's the nature of the beast.

‘If you chat too long it’s harder’ - I thought we lived in a day n age where people preferred personality over looks. Therefore why is it harder?"

Yes people can grow on you as you get to know them but three still needs to be a physical attraction.

I'd hate anyone to meet me if they liked my personality but not my face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your asked for it yes you should get 1 back.

If you just randomly send it then no.no obligation to get anything in return.

As for video chat hell no!

After 12 yrs on this site and been green tick verified does that make me a fake also?

I think not.

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By *aurus1987Man
over a year ago

York


"Some people cant send face pics because there scared of the reaction they'll get back, or worse, blocked, some are shy, some dont send because of there job. But, all things cosidering, yes, they should.

Nope. This is just the usual excuses.

If i send a face pic to someone in a message and it it gets deleted or gets me blocked then I'm not what that person is looking for.

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Just be glad you dont get blocked for having a facial disfigurement

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By *ald EagleMan
over a year ago

Alloa

If one is requested, it’s only polite to reciprocate.

If sent unsolicited, then you can’t expect to get one back.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

I've not always had a face pic returned. I just assume they're not interested. In which case, pic is removed and I move on.

....Even on face pic Friday!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it rude not to send a face pic back if you've sent one at their request? "

If it’s discussed and agreed to swap face pics and one party doesn’t reciprocate then hell yeah it’s rude.

I would block and move on.

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By *oldswarriorMan
over a year ago

Falkirk


"Some people cant send face pics because there scared of the reaction they'll get back, or worse, blocked, some are shy, some dont send because of there job. But, all things cosidering, yes, they should.

Nope. This is just the usual excuses.

If i send a face pic to someone in a message and it it gets deleted or gets me blocked then I'm not what that person is looking for.

Just be glad you dont get blocked for having a facial disfigurement"

Some people don't know how to respond when it comes to replying to someone that they have no physical attraction to.

It's easier to delete and block than to try and explain the reasons and avoid further embarrassment for both parties.

It can be a cruel world for some.

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By *enfreddyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

As long as its agreed between each other, absolutely share, even if there's no spark its only polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I join in sometimes on face pic Friday but as far as the general rule of thumb for me, I don’t send face pics and don’t expect them always happy to meet in person for a coffee and I’ll defo tell you if I’m not interested

Lots of profiles ask for a pic with first message to make it easier to filter out the people that they just aren’t interested in, don’t assume they will return one and if you still feel the need to send one then that’s on you not the other person, it’s a big bad world out there.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I've had people get very stroppy in the past when they have sent a face pic (which I didn't ask for!) & I don't send one in return. They seem to think that because they sent one they are somehow entitled to one back, sorry but no. I choose who gets to see my face on here and when, if people don't respect that then I will happily move on.

If I'm chatting to someone & I think there's potential for it to go further then I'll suggest a video call, partly to confirm that they are who they say they are, partly to see if there is any physical attraction & also partly to see if their personality is the same face to face as it is in messages (which unfortunately often isn't the case).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a difficult one. Do you send one at the start to see if its worth continuing or chat first to see if you have any connection. Tough call. It will always come down to instincts. You just need to beware of face picture collectors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its a difficult one. Do you send one at the start to see if its worth continuing or chat first to see if you have any connection. Tough call. It will always come down to instincts. You just need to beware of face picture collectors."

I think it's best to do it with as little faff as possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had people get very stroppy in the past when they have sent a face pic (which I didn't ask for!) & I don't send one in return. They seem to think that because they sent one they are somehow entitled to one back, sorry but no. I choose who gets to see my face on here and when, if people don't respect that then I will happily move on.

If I'm chatting to someone & I think there's potential for it to go further then I'll suggest a video call, partly to confirm that they are who they say they are, partly to see if there is any physical attraction & also partly to see if their personality is the same face to face as it is in messages (which unfortunately often isn't the case). "

I'd be very surprised to hear if many folks agree to that

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By *exicolaMan
over a year ago

West Lothian

Not rude at all.

If someone doesn't want to share their face then that's entirely up to them.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Is it rude not to send a face pic back if you've sent one at their request? "
Id never send a face pic on request.

If They ask 1st then they should send thiers 1st

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By *alkdirty2meCouple
over a year ago

20 miles south of Edinburgh


"Never ever ever send face pics

If they won’t video chat, they’re fake or hiding something

We wouldn't video chat early on as we don't like it, doesn't make us fake or be hiding anything. Just our preference."

There is no time scale on when people feel comfortable to do so, if it takes a year so be it, never send face pics

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Is it rude not to send a face pic back if you've sent one at their request? "

No ,you have the choice if you wish to send a picture or not . I get asked for a face pic all the time and tell them no .

You can also only agree to send one after they provided one first.

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By *alkdirty2meCouple
over a year ago

20 miles south of Edinburgh


"Never ever ever send face pics

If they won’t video chat, they’re fake or hiding something

Or they just don't want to jump through your hoops "

Such a childish response, if you want to send your mug shot to fuck knows who is on the end of an account, go ahead, trust us, 3 months of having to prove we were the real people who’s pictures were stolen taught a valuable lesson, we still find our faces on other sites because we after months of chatting sent out face pics

Common sense is something that is needed on sites like this

Video chat, you see them, they see you, not photos from a completely different person or from 20 years ago

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Never ever ever send face pics

If they won’t video chat, they’re fake or hiding something "

I wont video chat at any point. Not fake. Not hiding anything. Hate video chat.

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By *ering SeaMan
over a year ago

Penicuik


"Never ever ever send face pics

If they won’t video chat, they’re fake or hiding something

I wont video chat at any point. Not fake. Not hiding anything. Hate video chat.

"

Agreed, if folk insist on a video chat that’s their preference, to suggest fakery or hiding something in a blanket statement for non compliers is frankly absurd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Common sense is something that is needed on sites like this

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We can agree on that

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"I've had people get very stroppy in the past when they have sent a face pic (which I didn't ask for!) & I don't send one in return. They seem to think that because they sent one they are somehow entitled to one back, sorry but no. I choose who gets to see my face on here and when, if people don't respect that then I will happily move on.

If I'm chatting to someone & I think there's potential for it to go further then I'll suggest a video call, partly to confirm that they are who they say they are, partly to see if there is any physical attraction & also partly to see if their personality is the same face to face as it is in messages (which unfortunately often isn't the case).

I'd be very surprised to hear if many folks agree to that"

In my experience about half do

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By *irebird567Woman
over a year ago

near by

Half the time I forget to send one an they end up asking for one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if your pic broke their phone?

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

I generally don't send one unless asked or ill offer to send one on the agreement they return, usually though that's well intina converstion. They might refuse to send but accept one from me, thats fine as long as I'm aware nothing is coming back. Then its my choice.

What does pass me off though is ones that sign up for FPF then font return one...that to me isn't right.

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By *alkdirty2meCouple
over a year ago

20 miles south of Edinburgh


"Never ever ever send face pics

If they won’t video chat, they’re fake or hiding something

I wont video chat at any point. Not fake. Not hiding anything. Hate video chat.

"

That is your preference, ours is no video hello, no meet

Takes all sorts to make up this melting pot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never ever ever send face pics

If they won’t video chat, they’re fake or hiding something

I wont video chat at any point. Not fake. Not hiding anything. Hate video chat.

That is your preference, ours is no video hello, no meet

Takes all sorts to make up this melting pot

"

Nothing wrong with having a preference,we all have them,but to say someone is fake or hiding something,just because they won't dance to your tune?

That's just wrong and shows a sense of self entitlement.

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By *rbanExplorerMan
over a year ago

East lDN

It's nice to be nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I am a munter. But often I get blocked immediately after a face pic request. I guess the person either knows me or finds me hideous!

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By *ockothenorthMan
over a year ago

Falkirk


"Is it rude not to send a face pic back if you've sent one at their request? Id never send a face pic on request.

If They ask 1st then they should send thiers 1st "

this

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

A polite no thanks, or send back a face pic would have been appropriate.

If i get asked for a face pic and they haven't attached theirs I'm not sending it. They're most likely just pic collectors and time wasters x

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

I wouldn’t send a pic because someone asked for it! With regards to video calls.... never!

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By *lfie70Man
over a year ago

lanarkshire

Yes defo..

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By *alkdirty2meCouple
over a year ago

20 miles south of Edinburgh


"Never ever ever send face pics

If they won’t video chat, they’re fake or hiding something

I wont video chat at any point. Not fake. Not hiding anything. Hate video chat.

That is your preference, ours is no video hello, no meet

Takes all sorts to make up this melting pot

Nothing wrong with having a preference,we all have them,but to say someone is fake or hiding something,just because they won't dance to your tune?

That's just wrong and shows a sense of self entitlement."

Not at all

It was advice

The written word can be taken more than one way and sadly this is exactly what has happened here

Entitlement is what people claim others are when they don’t want to admit they may have walked the entire length of the stick to get to the wrong end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never ever ever send face pics

If they won’t video chat, they’re fake or hiding something

I wont video chat at any point. Not fake. Not hiding anything. Hate video chat.

That is your preference, ours is no video hello, no meet

Takes all sorts to make up this melting pot

Nothing wrong with having a preference,we all have them,but to say someone is fake or hiding something,just because they won't dance to your tune?

That's just wrong and shows a sense of self entitlement.

Not at all

It was advice

The written word can be taken more than one way and sadly this is exactly what has happened here

Entitlement is what people claim others are when they don’t want to admit they may have walked the entire length of the stick to get to the wrong end "

So you are advising that if someone won't video chat they are fake,or hiding something?

Advising,not claiming?

Genius.

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By *oldswarriorMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Advice on fab should be taken with a couple of kilograms of salt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never ever ever send face pics

If they won’t video chat, they’re fake or hiding something "

We’ve never video chatted with anyone and don’t have anything to hide

We don’t even video chat with each other or family as we just don’t like doing it.

If we ask for face pics and someone isn’t what we are looking for we don’t send them back and just say “sorry your not our type” and we don’t expect any back if we send first and we aren’t someone’s type

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By *alkdirty2meCouple
over a year ago

20 miles south of Edinburgh


"Never ever ever send face pics

If they won’t video chat, they’re fake or hiding something

I wont video chat at any point. Not fake. Not hiding anything. Hate video chat.

That is your preference, ours is no video hello, no meet

Takes all sorts to make up this melting pot

Nothing wrong with having a preference,we all have them,but to say someone is fake or hiding something,just because they won't dance to your tune?

That's just wrong and shows a sense of self entitlement.

Not at all

It was advice

The written word can be taken more than one way and sadly this is exactly what has happened here

Entitlement is what people claim others are when they don’t want to admit they may have walked the entire length of the stick to get to the wrong end

So you are advising that if someone won't video chat they are fake,or hiding something?

Advising,not claiming?

Genius. "

We have found that since being on and off the site from day 1, that the level of expertise used by the fakers/photo collectors/student organisations/etc etc

That the quickest way to ascertain that a profile is fake is to ask to chat with both parties at the same time, ie. video chat

Any one can send a random photo of two unsuspecting people from the internet and claim to be those people

It’s all about staying safe online and protecting yourself and others from the fraudsters and serial fakers

If video chatting isn’t for you then good on you, well done, but we still advise not to send face pics

If video chatting is for you then good on you, well done, but we still advise not to send face pics

Once you’ve been honest and sent yours, you have no idea of where they will next turn up

It’s all about limiting the possibility of someone else being duped

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By *alkdirty2meCouple
over a year ago

20 miles south of Edinburgh


"Advice on fab should be taken with a couple of kilograms of salt."

Wise words

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Never ever ever send face pics

If they won’t video chat, they’re fake or hiding something

I wont video chat at any point. Not fake. Not hiding anything. Hate video chat.

That is your preference, ours is no video hello, no meet

Takes all sorts to make up this melting pot

"

But my point was I dont assume profiles are fake or hiding something for not complying with your preference. As you say it takes all sorts to make up this melting pot.

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By *alkdirty2meCouple
over a year ago

20 miles south of Edinburgh

Again

We can’t stipulate this enough

Never send face pics

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/feedback/1032484

Would you send your bank details to get the Nigerian princes millions

Your face photos are worth more to scammers than any bank details

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By *alkdirty2meCouple
over a year ago

20 miles south of Edinburgh

A lot of people on this thread have said they won’t video chat but are not fake etc etc etc

And that may be the case but look at it from another point of view (not saying this applies to anyone before the witch hunt starts)

I could easily find a photo of a naked couple standing together

I could easily photo shop a piece of paper into their hands

I could easily send it to fab and get photo verified

Suddenly I’m not fake, no actual verifications from meets or cams but I’m not fake cos I’ve bypassed the amazing security system on here to prove it

Each and every profile on here has the potential to be a bot or a scammer or worse, they live to collect your data, photos, details, up address and then through that, your home address, names, social media accounts and then the being held to ransom starts and it does, just before anyone decries this as poppy cock

Do not ever send face pics

Even if you don’t like a video hello, it’s the only way to be 100% sure they are who they claim to be

On that note though, video hellos are not 100% secure either as they can be recorded, make sure it’s a fully clothed hello and if they aren’t, hang up and block - do not use your mobile number, use a third party platform like kik, if the chat turns crude and about swinging, hang up and block, do not incriminate yourself

Do not send face pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people on this thread have said they won’t video chat but are not fake etc etc etc

And that may be the case but look at it from another point of view (not saying this applies to anyone before the witch hunt starts)

I could easily find a photo of a naked couple standing together

I could easily photo shop a piece of paper into their hands

I could easily send it to fab and get photo verified

Suddenly I’m not fake, no actual verifications from meets or cams but I’m not fake cos I’ve bypassed the amazing security system on here to prove it

Each and every profile on here has the potential to be a bot or a scammer or worse, they live to collect your data, photos, details, up address and then through that, your home address, names, social media accounts and then the being held to ransom starts and it does, just before anyone decries this as poppy cock

Do not ever send face pics

Even if you don’t like a video hello, it’s the only way to be 100% sure they are who they claim to be

On that note though, video hellos are not 100% secure either as they can be recorded, make sure it’s a fully clothed hello and if they aren’t, hang up and block - do not use your mobile number, use a third party platform like kik, if the chat turns crude and about swinging, hang up and block, do not incriminate yourself

Do not send face pics "

Or people can just use their own common sense like you already suggested.

After all, if it ain't broken, why fix it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people on this thread have said they won’t video chat but are not fake etc etc etc

And that may be the case but look at it from another point of view (not saying this applies to anyone before the witch hunt starts)

I could easily find a photo of a naked couple standing together

I could easily photo shop a piece of paper into their hands

I could easily send it to fab and get photo verified

Suddenly I’m not fake, no actual verifications from meets or cams but I’m not fake cos I’ve bypassed the amazing security system on here to prove it

Each and every profile on here has the potential to be a bot or a scammer or worse, they live to collect your data, photos, details, up address and then through that, your home address, names, social media accounts and then the being held to ransom starts and it does, just before anyone decries this as poppy cock

Do not ever send face pics

Even if you don’t like a video hello, it’s the only way to be 100% sure they are who they claim to be

On that note though, video hellos are not 100% secure either as they can be recorded, make sure it’s a fully clothed hello and if they aren’t, hang up and block - do not use your mobile number, use a third party platform like kik, if the chat turns crude and about swinging, hang up and block, do not incriminate yourself

Do not send face pics

Or people can just use their own common sense like you already suggested.

After all, if it ain't broken, why fix it "

(Poppycock)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people on this thread have said they won’t video chat but are not fake etc etc etc

And that may be the case but look at it from another point of view (not saying this applies to anyone before the witch hunt starts)

I could easily find a photo of a naked couple standing together

I could easily photo shop a piece of paper into their hands

I could easily send it to fab and get photo verified

Suddenly I’m not fake, no actual verifications from meets or cams but I’m not fake cos I’ve bypassed the amazing security system on here to prove it

Each and every profile on here has the potential to be a bot or a scammer or worse, they live to collect your data, photos, details, up address and then through that, your home address, names, social media accounts and then the being held to ransom starts and it does, just before anyone decries this as poppy cock

Do not ever send face pics

Even if you don’t like a video hello, it’s the only way to be 100% sure they are who they claim to be

On that note though, video hellos are not 100% secure either as they can be recorded, make sure it’s a fully clothed hello and if they aren’t, hang up and block - do not use your mobile number, use a third party platform like kik, if the chat turns crude and about swinging, hang up and block, do not incriminate yourself

Do not send face pics "

But someone could screenshot your pic from the video call

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By *alkdirty2meCouple
over a year ago

20 miles south of Edinburgh

You would at least hear/see that happening

And as I said it’s not 100% but sure as shut safe than sending to any Tom dick or Harry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You would at least hear/see that happening

And as I said it’s not 100% but sure as shut safe than sending to any Tom dick or Harry "

I don't want to see all your faces being sent to me guys along with dick pics . Neither does my pal harry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You would at least hear/see that happening

And as I said it’s not 100% but sure as shut safe than sending to any Tom dick or Harry "

The people that are going to use all this technology you spoke of before for photoshopping but they couldn’t do it from a video call without you noticing?

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"A lot of people on this thread have said they won’t video chat but are not fake etc etc etc

And that may be the case but look at it from another point of view (not saying this applies to anyone before the witch hunt starts)

I could easily find a photo of a naked couple standing together

I could easily photo shop a piece of paper into their hands

I could easily send it to fab and get photo verified

Suddenly I’m not fake, no actual verifications from meets or cams but I’m not fake cos I’ve bypassed the amazing security system on here to prove it

Each and every profile on here has the potential to be a bot or a scammer or worse, they live to collect your data, photos, details, up address and then through that, your home address, names, social media accounts and then the being held to ransom starts and it does, just before anyone decries this as poppy cock

Do not ever send face pics

Even if you don’t like a video hello, it’s the only way to be 100% sure they are who they claim to be

On that note though, video hellos are not 100% secure either as they can be recorded, make sure it’s a fully clothed hello and if they aren’t, hang up and block - do not use your mobile number, use a third party platform like kik, if the chat turns crude and about swinging, hang up and block, do not incriminate yourself

Do not send face pics

But someone could screenshot your pic from the video call "

That's what i was thinking. They can take 100s of pictures of you while you're doing your video call x

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By *alkdirty2meCouple
over a year ago

20 miles south of Edinburgh

Every time a screen is shot in a video call there is a flash same as on a phone

You’ll see it

As I said, they could record it and then do it

But you’ll know what the criminals look like and have their IP address

By sending face pics, you have nothing

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Every time a screen is shot in a video call there is a flash same as on a phone

You’ll see it

As I said, they could record it and then do it

But you’ll know what the criminals look like and have their IP address

By sending face pics, you have nothing

"

So fakes could video call and if you have this criminals ip address from this call would they not have yours. Making it easier in your own words to access your social media data and more??

Yet sending a pic gives them nothing but a pic to start from and more effort to find the elusive ip address. Your reasoning seems flawed. Again tho it's your choice. As is it is others to decide on their own methods of determining authenticity.

I think I will stick to my own due diligence and common sense. It has served me well in life so far.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"Every time a screen is shot in a video call there is a flash same as on a phone

You’ll see it

As I said, they could record it and then do it

But you’ll know what the criminals look like and have their IP address

By sending face pics, you have nothing

"

Wouldn't count on an ip address being of much use if you wanted to hunt someone down. Most people have vpn x

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Every time a screen is shot in a video call there is a flash same as on a phone

You’ll see it

As I said, they could record it and then do it

But you’ll know what the criminals look like and have their IP address

By sending face pics, you have nothing

Wouldn't count on an ip address being of much use if you wanted to hunt someone down. Most people have vpn x"

True, images, regions or handles give you a better chance of finding someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So rude even if there is no attraction its polite to still reciprocate. And when people compliment, say they would like to keep chatting it's the hight of bad manners and a quick way for us to block people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So rude even if there is no attraction its polite to still reciprocate. And when people compliment, say they would like to keep chatting it's the hight of bad manners and a quick way for us to block people."

We’ve been on and off fab for about 8 years now. In the first couple of years we would have sent pics back even if we weren’t interested and been a bit more polite in our messages. We used to feel bad and didn’t know how to word it when telling people they weren’t our type.

Some of the messages we got back weren’t very polite sometimes.

So we toughened up a bit lol. If we aren’t interested we just say that and block. The reason we block is so we don’t have the same conversation again in 6 weeks time. We speak to a lot of people and can’t remember what everyone looks like so it saves us asking for face pics again in the future.

We also stopped feeling guilty about saying “you’re not our type” we are here for our fun, not anyone else’s and it stops people being led along and wasting each other’s time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We also stopped feeling guilty about saying “you’re not our type” we are here for our fun, not anyone else’s and it stops people being led along and wasting each other’s time.

I was like this too...more so when replying to women than men for some reason. But it doesn't help anybody in the long run so best to be up front.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure why you wouldn't just send one back if you've been chatting for a while anyways, but still wouldn't be offended by it.

I think it's worse when people put "don't message without face pic" on their profile. Chances are they are not going to reply anyways so it's easier to just avoid them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure why you wouldn't just send one back if you've been chatting for a while anyways, but still wouldn't be offended by it.

I think it's worse when people put "don't message without face pic" on their profile. Chances are they are not going to reply anyways so it's easier to just avoid them."

That just means they don't want to hear from you unless you attach the face pic

Sounds reasonable to me

Your not obliged to contact them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So rude even if there is no attraction its polite to still reciprocate. And when people compliment, say they would like to keep chatting it's the hight of bad manners and a quick way for us to block people.

We’ve been on and off fab for about 8 years now. In the first couple of years we would have sent pics back even if we weren’t interested and been a bit more polite in our messages. We used to feel bad and didn’t know how to word it when telling people they weren’t our type.

Some of the messages we got back weren’t very polite sometimes.

So we toughened up a bit lol. If we aren’t interested we just say that and block. The reason we block is so we don’t have the same conversation again in 6 weeks time. We speak to a lot of people and can’t remember what everyone looks like so it saves us asking for face pics again in the future.

We also stopped feeling guilty about saying “you’re not our type” we are here for our fun, not anyone else’s and it stops people being led along and wasting each other’s time. "

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it rude not to send a face pic back if you've sent one at their request? "
If im lucky enough to get one back then great, if i don't get one back then fine, presumably not interested which is absolutely fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never ever ever send face pics

If they won’t video chat, they’re fake or hiding something "

I don’t video chat, certainly doesn’t make me a fake or that I’m hiding something. Please don’t make assumptions based on lessons you’ve learned...

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By *outhsider69Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"Is it rude not to send a face pic back if you've sent one at their request? "

Ordinarily, but if it was your cousin or sister in law, you might want to quietly disappear

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By *utdooryoneMan
over a year ago

Over there

I err towards reciprocating a face pic.

I'm careful however, and a few messages back and forth and some gentle checking as best I can to try and verify them.

I've had a few that are just blindingly obvious fakes, one more I thought was, and a couple that started with me suspicious that ended in a good meet.

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