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By *ibblescholar OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow

This is an observation based on my own personal experiences of late. Im not saying this is factual. It's just an opinion.

Most people enjoy attention. And we do like to be admired. However.....

I am finding that some people who may have previously (before lockdown) found saying what they want or getting what they want are showing their true colours. They are outraged when you rebuff their advances. The tone of the message changes when you dare to speak openly. Refusing to answer personal questions.... "you must be hiding something", "good luck getting a meet". When you do not go along with what they are saying where previously you may have (to a degree). I get it, you are used to snapping your fingers and we jump. Do you feel powerless as the one thing you had over us before is worthless and not risking our lives for.

I will admit to on many occasions passifying people to continue the conversation in the hope of making a connection. But due to recent global epidemic, regardless of my "wants", the "need" to stay safe is paramount.

This has seen my tolerance for some, drop dramatically.....it has not changed me as a person but it has made me realise is that "SEX IS WONDERFUL" but if you're a C4%t then regardless of what you can do for or to me you can just bypass me please.

So my question to you. Have you seen and noticed that change? People who previously seemed like the nicest people in the world turning nasty and venomous because they have lost their Vampire like Thrawl over you.

People should be using this time to genuinely connect, to feel out people and build friendships and partnerships.

This is not the time to have a fit and be nasty... People will not forget and posibbly not forgive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the school of if I fancy someone il put the time in.if not I dont do stringing along.

I dont waste anyone time so if a no thank you comes across blunt.

I'm ok with that.

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By *ibblescholar OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"I'm in the school of if I fancy someone il put the time in.if not I dont do stringing along.

I dont waste anyone time so if a no thank you comes across blunt.

I'm ok with that."

Most definitely agree it's a two way street. I just found that when (some) people contacted myself recently the polite no thank you was not taken very well. I had one response where the person constantly messaged me saying there must be something wrong with me as I didnt want to juno them. It was horrible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well take that as a wee peek into a chicks life on fab.

Iv been called a fat cow

A posh c##"t a whore a slut all for a polite no thanks.

I 99% reply to all my messages but I do understand why most dont as it's too much hassle with the why not replies.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"This is an observation based on my own personal experiences of late. Im not saying this is factual. It's just an opinion.

Most people enjoy attention. And we do like to be admired. However.....

I am finding that some people who may have previously (before lockdown) found saying what they want or getting what they want are showing their true colours. They are outraged when you rebuff their advances. The tone of the message changes when you dare to speak openly. Refusing to answer personal questions.... "you must be hiding something", "good luck getting a meet". When you do not go along with what they are saying where previously you may have (to a degree). I get it, you are used to snapping your fingers and we jump. Do you feel powerless as the one thing you had over us before is worthless and not risking our lives for.

I will admit to on many occasions passifying people to continue the conversation in the hope of making a connection. But due to recent global epidemic, regardless of my "wants", the "need" to stay safe is paramount.

This has seen my tolerance for some, drop dramatically.....it has not changed me as a person but it has made me realise is that "SEX IS WONDERFUL" but if you're a C4%t then regardless of what you can do for or to me you can just bypass me please.

So my question to you. Have you seen and noticed that change? People who previously seemed like the nicest people in the world turning nasty and venomous because they have lost their Vampire like Thrawl over you.

People should be using this time to genuinely connect, to feel out people and build friendships and partnerships.

This is not the time to have a fit and be nasty... People will not forget and posibbly not forgive. "
Yes some might start out nice and once they are told no thanks to either meeting or perhaps meeting again the dummy gets well & truely spat out .

some are just like that and only show thier true colours when this happens.

lucky escape id say

Dont let it put you off there are a lot of lovely females on here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This unfortunately is part of what women deal with every second message. I gave up replying "sorry you're not for me". Fab has made me more blunt and alot more resilient to online abuse. The block button is there for exactly this reason.

I wouldn't say the tables have turned. I just think when you see someones true colours via message it's a lucky escape. You've swerved the drama before the meet.

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By *ibblescholar OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow

It's a shame really as I have met some wonderful people. Even when I have come off fab the truly nice ones have kept in contact.

I wasn't trying to be grumpy about it. I was getting to a point where I thought am I putting something out there that is atracting unsavouries.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"It's a shame really as I have met some wonderful people. Even when I have come off fab the truly nice ones have kept in contact.

I wasn't trying to be grumpy about it. I was getting to a point where I thought am I putting something out there that is atracting unsavouries. "
Report & Block

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By *ibblescholar OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"This unfortunately is part of what women deal with every second message. I gave up replying "sorry you're not for me". Fab has made me more blunt and alot more resilient to online abuse. The block button is there for exactly this reason.

I wouldn't say the tables have turned. I just think when you see someones true colours via message it's a lucky escape. You've swerved the drama before the meet. "

I have the upmost respect for women and do not envy the negative attention that they must receive on here. I use the block button regularly however feel guilty as I think what if they've just HD a bad dY and I'm the one getting it. ya know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly controversial but ...

I think men and women deal with rejection in different ways on Fab. Some men get nasty, slag off your appearance etc...You were a 10/10 when they thought they were in with a shout but you're down to a 3/10 and a sad old woman when you say no thanks.

Some women, because they get so many men blowing smoke up their arse, can, on occasions believe the hype. So when a man does knock them back, it's a bit out of the blue and turns into "wtf is wrong with you then?"

Long story short, both sexes have the capacity to be utter fuds.

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By *ibblescholar OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I don't report anyone as I can block them. Just hard to tell if it's the lockdown that has changed their behaviour or were they like tthatt all along.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"This unfortunately is part of what women deal with every second message. I gave up replying "sorry you're not for me". Fab has made me more blunt and alot more resilient to online abuse. The block button is there for exactly this reason.

I wouldn't say the tables have turned. I just think when you see someones true colours via message it's a lucky escape. You've swerved the drama before the meet.

I have the upmost respect for women and do not envy the negative attention that they must receive on here. I use the block button regularly however feel guilty as I think what if they've just HD a bad dY and I'm the one getting it. ya know? "
Thats no excuse to be abusive to other members .

If thats how they react then turn off & come back when your in a better mood

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By *ibblescholar OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"Possibly controversial but ...

I think men and women deal with rejection in different ways on Fab. Some men get nasty, slag off your appearance etc...You were a 10/10 when they thought they were in with a shout but you're down to a 3/10 and a sad old woman when you say no thanks.

Some women, because they get so many men blowing smoke up their arse, can, on occasions believe the hype. So when a man does knock them back, it's a bit out of the blue and turns into "wtf is wrong with you then?"

Long story short, both sexes have the capacity to be utter fuds."

Perfectly put.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I don't report anyone as I can block them. Just hard to tell if it's the lockdown that has changed their behaviour or were they like tthatt all along. "
Not reporting is why they get away with it time and time again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This unfortunately is part of what women deal with every second message. I gave up replying "sorry you're not for me". Fab has made me more blunt and alot more resilient to online abuse. The block button is there for exactly this reason.

I wouldn't say the tables have turned. I just think when you see someones true colours via message it's a lucky escape. You've swerved the drama before the meet.

I have the upmost respect for women and do not envy the negative attention that they must receive on here. I use the block button regularly however feel guilty as I think what if they've just HD a bad dY and I'm the one getting it. ya know? "

Bad day or not. This isn't the place to give someone abuse for being truthful about them not being for you. Male or female. X

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By *ibblescholar OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"This unfortunately is part of what women deal with every second message. I gave up replying "sorry you're not for me". Fab has made me more blunt and alot more resilient to online abuse. The block button is there for exactly this reason.

I wouldn't say the tables have turned. I just think when you see someones true colours via message it's a lucky escape. You've swerved the drama before the meet.

I have the upmost respect for women and do not envy the negative attention that they must receive on here. I use the block button regularly however feel guilty as I think what if they've just HD a bad dY and I'm the one getting it. ya know?

Bad day or not. This isn't the place to give someone abuse for being truthful about them not being for you. Male or female. X"

I concur

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it's a mixed bag not necessarily different from before

My usual responses can be a polite thank you for being honest to

Your à stuck up cow/bitch to I am too fussy, âgé is just à number try me you will find I am the best you have ever had... Ha ha I chuckle water off a ducks back, who cares life is way to short I have never blocked anyone I just ignore I feel sorry for them..

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By *ibblescholar OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"I find it's a mixed bag not necessarily different from before

My usual responses can be a polite thank you for being honest to

Your à stuck up cow/bitch to I am too fussy, âgé is just à number try me you will find I am the best you have ever had... Ha ha I chuckle water off a ducks back, who cares life is way to short I have never blocked anyone I just ignore I feel sorry for them.. "

I hear the word fussy alot. I don't think I am.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Definitely feeling this today. I was called a liar, cock tease and told to go away all because I wouldn't give someone my mobile number after two messages from them?!!

I was then blocked

Just don't get some people and it really ruins Fab to the point I don't even want to read messages let alone reply

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By *ibblescholar OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"Definitely feeling this today. I was called a liar, cock tease and told to go away all because I wouldn't give someone my mobile number after two messages from them?!!

I was then blocked

Just don't get some people and it really ruins Fab to the point I don't even want to read messages let alone reply "

Totally unacceptable behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is an observation based on my own personal experiences of late. Im not saying this is factual. It's just an opinion.

Most people enjoy attention. And we do like to be admired. However.....

I am finding that some people who may have previously (before lockdown) found saying what they want or getting what they want are showing their true colours. They are outraged when you rebuff their advances. The tone of the message changes when you dare to speak openly. Refusing to answer personal questions.... "you must be hiding something", "good luck getting a meet". When you do not go along with what they are saying where previously you may have (to a degree). I get it, you are used to snapping your fingers and we jump. Do you feel powerless as the one thing you had over us before is worthless and not risking our lives for.

I will admit to on many occasions passifying people to continue the conversation in the hope of making a connection. But due to recent global epidemic, regardless of my "wants", the "need" to stay safe is paramount.

This has seen my tolerance for some, drop dramatically.....it has not changed me as a person but it has made me realise is that "SEX IS WONDERFUL" but if you're a C4%t then regardless of what you can do for or to me you can just bypass me please.

So my question to you. Have you seen and noticed that change? People who previously seemed like the nicest people in the world turning nasty and venomous because they have lost their Vampire like Thrawl over you.

People should be using this time to genuinely connect, to feel out people and build friendships and partnerships.

This is not the time to have a fit and be nasty... People will not forget and posibbly not forgive. "

Hi. I am not sure of the point of the thread. Are you saying that people took your knockbacks more graciously before lockdown, but less so since?

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By *ibblescholar OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"This is an observation based on my own personal experiences of late. Im not saying this is factual. It's just an opinion.

Most people enjoy attention. And we do like to be admired. However.....

I am finding that some people who may have previously (before lockdown) found saying what they want or getting what they want are showing their true colours. They are outraged when you rebuff their advances. The tone of the message changes when you dare to speak openly. Refusing to answer personal questions.... "you must be hiding something", "good luck getting a meet". When you do not go along with what they are saying where previously you may have (to a degree). I get it, you are used to snapping your fingers and we jump. Do you feel powerless as the one thing you had over us before is worthless and not risking our lives for.

I will admit to on many occasions passifying people to continue the conversation in the hope of making a connection. But due to recent global epidemic, regardless of my "wants", the "need" to stay safe is paramount.

This has seen my tolerance for some, drop dramatically.....it has not changed me as a person but it has made me realise is that "SEX IS WONDERFUL" but if you're a C4%t then regardless of what you can do for or to me you can just bypass me please.

So my question to you. Have you seen and noticed that change? People who previously seemed like the nicest people in the world turning nasty and venomous because they have lost their Vampire like Thrawl over you.

People should be using this time to genuinely connect, to feel out people and build friendships and partnerships.

This is not the time to have a fit and be nasty... People will not forget and posibbly not forgive.

Hi. I am not sure of the point of the thread. Are you saying that people took your knockbacks more graciously before lockdown, but less so since? "

I wouldn't say that's the crux of it all. I have found tthat some people latterly have been forceful in the way they interact with me. Conversations that would normally flow freely and have a nice feel to them now seem to have a more "End Game" kinda feel bout it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of curiosity, is it women or men you are chatting with?

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By *ibblescholar OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"Out of curiosity, is it women or men you are chatting with?"

I get messages from both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of curiosity, is it women or men you are chatting with?

I get messages from both. "

And both are keen to seal the deal quickly?

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By *ibblescholar OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"Out of curiosity, is it women or men you are chatting with?

I get messages from both.

And both are keen to seal the deal quickly?"

There has been a definite increase from both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of curiosity, is it women or men you are chatting with?

I get messages from both.

And both are keen to seal the deal quickly?

There has been a definite increase from both.

"

So, a load of fab women are becoming as thirsty as a load of fab guys?

That's new news

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By *ibblescholar OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"Out of curiosity, is it women or men you are chatting with?

I get messages from both.

And both are keen to seal the deal quickly?

There has been a definite increase from both.

So, a load of fab women are becoming as thirsty as a load of fab guys?

That's new news"

Sounds great on paper.

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By *ucky24Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

OP I believe that extreme situations bring up the best or the worst in people.

We are living in exceptional times and some people are behaving admirably some not so and some behaving really terribly. That is unfortunately human nature.

I have been away from home for 3 months now and it is very hard but I realise it isn't anyone's fault and there are plenty people in the same boat and others far worse off than me.

Watched a clip on the news about young carers and some of the stories were heart wrenching but also uplifting. One in particular struck me and if I every feel sorry for myself I'll remember his story.

Actually I have found that I have had loads more conversations with women on here post covid lock down as maybe people are more relaxed because there isn't the pressure of meeting. Maybe it is because people have more time and are spending it online chatting to a wider number of people.

Who knows.

What I do know is those that feel entitled will always think of themselves and nothing of others.

So maybe in these strange times they feel more entitled?

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By *ibblescholar OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"

So maybe in these strange times they feel more entitled?"

You may be have something here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it's a mixed bag not necessarily different from before

My usual responses can be a polite thank you for being honest to

Your à stuck up cow/bitch to I am too fussy, âgé is just à number try me you will find I am the best you have ever had... Ha ha I chuckle water off a ducks back, who cares life is way to short I have never blocked anyone I just ignore I feel sorry for them..

I hear the word fussy alot. I don't think I am.

"

Me too and I am not fussy, just have what I like and there is nothing wrong in that it's only fussy in their eyes if what we like dosen't match them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't report anyone as I can block them. Just hard to tell if it's the lockdown that has changed their behaviour or were they like tthatt all along. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possibly controversial but ...

I think men and women deal with rejection in different ways on Fab. Some men get nasty, slag off your appearance etc...You were a 10/10 when they thought they were in with a shout but you're down to a 3/10 and a sad old woman when you say no thanks.

Some women, because they get so many men blowing smoke up their arse, can, on occasions believe the hype. So when a man does knock them back, it's a bit out of the blue and turns into "wtf is wrong with you then?"

Long story short, both sexes have the capacity to be utter fuds."

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