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"One of the most interesting aspects of fab is an apparent fetish of black men, or to be crude - big black Cock. I don't think this is a fetish of large cocks, more a fetish of black human beings. I've seen quite a few profiles (white couples mainly) who will only meet with black men. I've even seen this listed as a 'guilty' pleasure. How is a man of colour a guilty pleasure. Is this some neo-colonial mindset? Do old white men get off on watching their wife get pounded by a man of colour? Do they do consider it...taboo?" I'm not entirely sure to be honest...but if you're thinking is correct then what about the guys who actively promote themselves as BBCs? | |||
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"I disagree. Race relations are top of the news agenda. " I prefer to be the black sheep and do my own thing | |||
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"I disagree. Race relations are top of the news agenda. " What is wrong with people just now, it seems they cannot keep on topic or speak clearly. Your topic is either sexual fetish or racism. * has the feeling this is gonna be another one of “those” threads  | |||
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"If a fetishism is based on skin colour is there not some inherent racism in that?" Is bdsm based on abuse? | |||
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"If a fetishism is based on skin colour is there not some inherent racism in that? Is bdsm based on abuse? " I'd imagine there is some power and repression dynamics at play. It's not something I indulge in. Is it? | |||
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"If a fetishism is based on skin colour is there not some inherent racism in that? Is bdsm based on abuse? I'd imagine there is some power and repression dynamics at play. It's not something I indulge in. Is it?" There’s a huge difference... | |||
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"If a fetishism is based on skin colour is there not some inherent racism in that?" By definition, yes. Then preference will get brought up which I think is fine. People are going to be attracted to certain visual aspects. Where it gets dubious is when they start tagging generalizations with a particular race. A skin shade is an aesthetic not a determination of how someone will behave. | |||
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"One of the most interesting aspects of fab is an apparent fetish of black men, or to be crude - big black Cock. I don't think this is a fetish of large cocks, more a fetish of black human beings. I've seen quite a few profiles (white couples mainly) who will only meet with black men. I've even seen this listed as a 'guilty' pleasure. How is a man of colour a guilty pleasure. Is this some neo-colonial mindset? Do old white men get off on watching their wife get pounded by a man of colour? Do they do consider it...taboo?" There are loads of threads currently running on this and similar subjects due to the current situation. | |||
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"If a fetishism is based on skin colour is there not some inherent racism in that? Is bdsm based on abuse? I'd imagine there is some power and repression dynamics at play. It's not something I indulge in. Is it? There’s a huge difference... "Well it wasn't my topic of discussion anyway. | |||
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"If a fetishism is based on skin colour is there not some inherent racism in that? Is bdsm based on abuse? I'd imagine there is some power and repression dynamics at play. It's not something I indulge in. Is it? There’s a huge difference...
Well it wasn't my topic of discussion anyway. "You kinda missed what I meant, there’s a huge difference between any form of racism and being attracted to a physical trait such as black skin, red hair, long legs or baldness. No offence, have a feeling you still won’t see the difference. | |||
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"If a fetishism is based on skin colour is there not some inherent racism in that?" Explain that one too me please? | |||
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"If a fetishism is based on skin colour is there not some inherent racism in that? Is bdsm based on abuse? I'd imagine there is some power and repression dynamics at play. It's not something I indulge in. Is it? There’s a huge difference...
Well it wasn't my topic of discussion anyway.
You kinda missed what I meant, there’s a huge difference between any form of racism and being attracted to a physical trait such as black skin, red hair, long legs or baldness. No offence, have a feeling you still won’t see the difference. "But if something is a fetish it goes beyond simple attraction | |||
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"If a fetishism is based on skin colour is there not some inherent racism in that? Is bdsm based on abuse? I'd imagine there is some power and repression dynamics at play. It's not something I indulge in. Is it? There’s a huge difference...
Well it wasn't my topic of discussion anyway.
You kinda missed what I meant, there’s a huge difference between any form of racism and being attracted to a physical trait such as black skin, red hair, long legs or baldness. No offence, have a feeling you still won’t see the difference. "You're conflating ascetic attraction with a fetish. They're so so different. I may be attracted to pretty girls. But I may have a fetish for larger ladies. See the difference? | |||
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"I need educating. When does an attraction become a fetish? " Or a preference, is one man/woman’s fetish another man/woman’s preference? As long as it two consenting adults gofurrrit | |||
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"If a fetishism is based on skin colour is there not some inherent racism in that? Is bdsm based on abuse? I'd imagine there is some power and repression dynamics at play. It's not something I indulge in. Is it? There’s a huge difference...
Well it wasn't my topic of discussion anyway.
You kinda missed what I meant, there’s a huge difference between any form of racism and being attracted to a physical trait such as black skin, red hair, long legs or baldness. No offence, have a feeling you still won’t see the difference.
You're conflating ascetic attraction with a fetish. They're so so different.
I may be attracted to pretty girls. But I may have a fetish for larger ladies.
See the difference?"I do but who’s to say an attraction is a fetish? | |||
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"I need educating. When does an attraction become a fetish? " I think the fetish defies the laws of attraction at times for some. Depending on what it is. Say for example someone has a satin fetish, they maybe drawn to someone in satin clothing they may not normally be attracted to over someone they might because of the need to fulfill the fetish. | |||
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"Love whataboutery. Makes me proud to be Scottish. " Despite my use of the phrase "what about...." (!) I wasn't throwing that statement in there to try and detract from your suggestion that there is an element of racism. It was simply an observation and a question I've asked myself when I've seen black guys refer to themselves as a BBC. I'm sure there's plenty more to them than a cock after all! | |||
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"Love whataboutery. Makes me proud to be Scottish. Despite my use of the phrase "what about...." (!) I wasn't throwing that statement in there to try and detract from your suggestion that there is an element of racism. It was simply an observation and a question I've asked myself when I've seen black guys refer to themselves as a BBC. I'm sure there's plenty more to them than a cock after all! " Have you ever come up with an answer? | |||
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"Love whataboutery. Makes me proud to be Scottish. Despite my use of the phrase "what about...." (!) I wasn't throwing that statement in there to try and detract from your suggestion that there is an element of racism. It was simply an observation and a question I've asked myself when I've seen black guys refer to themselves as a BBC. I'm sure there's plenty more to them than a cock after all! Have you ever come up with an answer?" No. Don't ask myself it that often.... usually just if I've been messaged by a guy who only appears to have a BBC on offer. | |||
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"Love whataboutery. Makes me proud to be Scottish. Despite my use of the phrase "what about...." (!) I wasn't throwing that statement in there to try and detract from your suggestion that there is an element of racism. It was simply an observation and a question I've asked myself when I've seen black guys refer to themselves as a BBC. I'm sure there's plenty more to them than a cock after all! Have you ever come up with an answer?" Shut up an fuck | |||
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"Love whataboutery. Makes me proud to be Scottish. Despite my use of the phrase "what about...." (!) I wasn't throwing that statement in there to try and detract from your suggestion that there is an element of racism. It was simply an observation and a question I've asked myself when I've seen black guys refer to themselves as a BBC. I'm sure there's plenty more to them than a cock after all! Have you ever come up with an answer? Shut up an fuck " Now, now...no need for that. She was only asking a question. | |||
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"Love whataboutery. Makes me proud to be Scottish. Despite my use of the phrase "what about...." (!) I wasn't throwing that statement in there to try and detract from your suggestion that there is an element of racism. It was simply an observation and a question I've asked myself when I've seen black guys refer to themselves as a BBC. I'm sure there's plenty more to them than a cock after all! Have you ever come up with an answer? Shut up an fuck " Stewart! | |||
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"Love whataboutery. Makes me proud to be Scottish. Despite my use of the phrase "what about...." (!) I wasn't throwing that statement in there to try and detract from your suggestion that there is an element of racism. It was simply an observation and a question I've asked myself when I've seen black guys refer to themselves as a BBC. I'm sure there's plenty more to them than a cock after all! Have you ever come up with an answer? Shut up an fuck Stewart! "  | |||
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"Love whataboutery. Makes me proud to be Scottish. Despite my use of the phrase "what about...." (!) I wasn't throwing that statement in there to try and detract from your suggestion that there is an element of racism. It was simply an observation and a question I've asked myself when I've seen black guys refer to themselves as a BBC. I'm sure there's plenty more to them than a cock after all! Have you ever come up with an answer?" And....as I'm not a black man, I doubt I could ever answer it. | |||
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"Love whataboutery. Makes me proud to be Scottish. Despite my use of the phrase "what about...." (!) I wasn't throwing that statement in there to try and detract from your suggestion that there is an element of racism. It was simply an observation and a question I've asked myself when I've seen black guys refer to themselves as a BBC. I'm sure there's plenty more to them than a cock after all! Have you ever come up with an answer? And....as I'm not a black man, I doubt I could ever answer it." I was only curious if you had any thoughts as to why | |||
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"Love whataboutery. Makes me proud to be Scottish. Despite my use of the phrase "what about...." (!) I wasn't throwing that statement in there to try and detract from your suggestion that there is an element of racism. It was simply an observation and a question I've asked myself when I've seen black guys refer to themselves as a BBC. I'm sure there's plenty more to them than a cock after all! Have you ever come up with an answer? And....as I'm not a black man, I doubt I could ever answer it. I was only curious if you had any thoughts as to why " You'll need to remain curious then. | |||
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"Love whataboutery. Makes me proud to be Scottish. Despite my use of the phrase "what about...." (!) I wasn't throwing that statement in there to try and detract from your suggestion that there is an element of racism. It was simply an observation and a question I've asked myself when I've seen black guys refer to themselves as a BBC. I'm sure there's plenty more to them than a cock after all! Have you ever come up with an answer? And....as I'm not a black man, I doubt I could ever answer it." My theory is that when people emphasise on one part of them only it's actually because they are a little self conscious. | |||
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"From OED definition of fetish: 1 An inanimate object to which a pathological sexual attachment is formed, or by extension a person who is the object of an obsessive fixation. I think the problematic part of it is that objectification. When you have a fetish for leather, or satin, or vegetables, or whatever - that's fine because they're actually objects. Viewing a human as an object, not so clever even if that human is happy with what they get in return. It's not straightforward though. Very complicated issue." I think we have the answer here. Maybe there is intelligence to be had in these forums. | |||
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"Love whataboutery. Makes me proud to be Scottish. Despite my use of the phrase "what about...." (!) I wasn't throwing that statement in there to try and detract from your suggestion that there is an element of racism. It was simply an observation and a question I've asked myself when I've seen black guys refer to themselves as a BBC. I'm sure there's plenty more to them than a cock after all! Have you ever come up with an answer? No. Don't ask myself it that often.... usually just if I've been messaged by a guy who only appears to have a BBC on offer." To add to this. This is a site were the main commodity is sex. There is a social element to this site but it's mainly made up of single men looking to get their end away. Ladies and couples are gate keepers to the fun. So maybe the reason black men present themselves as BBC, is its the only way to get to the fun. People change to the environment. Have you ever watched cuck porn? A large majority of it involves black men. Why is that? I find it very interesting and somewhat problematic. | |||
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"Love whataboutery. Makes me proud to be Scottish. Despite my use of the phrase "what about...." (!) I wasn't throwing that statement in there to try and detract from your suggestion that there is an element of racism. It was simply an observation and a question I've asked myself when I've seen black guys refer to themselves as a BBC. I'm sure there's plenty more to them than a cock after all! Have you ever come up with an answer? No. Don't ask myself it that often.... usually just if I've been messaged by a guy who only appears to have a BBC on offer. To add to this. This is a site were the main commodity is sex. There is a social element to this site but it's mainly made up of single men looking to get their end away. Ladies and couples are gate keepers to the fun. So maybe the reason black men present themselves as BBC, is its the only way to get to the fun. People change to the environment. Have you ever watched cuck porn? A large majority of it involves black men. Why is that? I find it very interesting and somewhat problematic. " Don't watch cuck porn. | |||
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"One of the most interesting aspects of fab is an apparent fetish of black men, or to be crude - big black Cock. I don't think this is a fetish of large cocks, more a fetish of black human beings. I've seen quite a few profiles (white couples mainly) who will only meet with black men. I've even seen this listed as a 'guilty' pleasure. How is a man of colour a guilty pleasure. Is this some neo-colonial mindset? Do old white men get off on watching their wife get pounded by a man of colour? Do they do consider it...taboo?" This is something that that I have always wondered about, I been with a few couples and at the end of the night I've felt like a toy they have pull out the cupboard for some play, thankfully this as been few and far between, most I've been with seem to make me feel this way | |||
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"One of the most interesting aspects of fab is an apparent fetish of black men, or to be crude - big black Cock. I don't think this is a fetish of large cocks, more a fetish of black human beings. I've seen quite a few profiles (white couples mainly) who will only meet with black men. I've even seen this listed as a 'guilty' pleasure. How is a man of colour a guilty pleasure. Is this some neo-colonial mindset? Do old white men get off on watching their wife get pounded by a man of colour? Do they do consider it...taboo? I'm not entirely sure to be honest...but if you're thinking is correct then what about the guys who actively promote themselves as BBCs?"
The BBC is not for me, but I do have mate you like to wear it like a badge of honor, I've have debates with them about it, now know they will not change their minds as they are thinks about pussy rather than self worth
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"Is it a fetish or a preferance each case would be different though in general I'd say preferance most of the time. Is it racist hell no anyone who thinks it is needs a hard kick to the right they must be almost falling of the left wing. Are there folk take advantage of it even you gotcha and not just guys seen plenty of chocolate princess posts also. Why do folk get their knickers in a twist is it because folk have zero interest in them so they must be bigots racists or neo nazis the biggest problem lies wwith folk who cant accept they ain't all that and a bag of sugar to most." You either need to stay off the sauce when posting or stick to the Fab bar for posts like this. Lol Its to early in the morning to even try and decipher this one kola. | |||
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"Is it a fetish or a preferance each case would be different though in general I'd say preferance most of the time. Is it racist hell no anyone who thinks it is needs a hard kick to the right they must be almost falling of the left wing. Are there folk take advantage of it even you gotcha and not just guys seen plenty of chocolate princess posts also. Why do folk get their knickers in a twist is it because folk have zero interest in them so they must be bigots racists or neo nazis the biggest problem lies wwith folk who cant accept they ain't all that and a bag of sugar to most. You either need to stay off the sauce when posting or stick to the Fab bar for posts like this. Lol Its to early in the morning to even try and decipher this one kola. "yeah fab bar kiss fuck avoid or any other stroke my ego post is so my thing. Sat in blistering heat sun glare on screen lol but the main jist of what I'm saying is clear perhaps dont read while on the sauce | |||
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