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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You send someone you are really interested in a message and the next day you read... DELETED!

The first time it happens your ok but i think im at around 20 odd. What am i doing wrong?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

send me a mail n il tell ya lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

r u sending msgs to ppl that say on their profile....no single guys or single guys we will contact u, because if u r evenalthough a courtesy tnx but no tnx wouldnt go a miss, some ppl get plagued with msgs and therefore just delete them!!!!! i know it must be crap for the single guys out there but im sure u will have good luck soon xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All part and parcel of this wonderful scene, and even the people who do reply sometimes cant be bothered or don’t have the time, just take it as a no thanks and just move on, it doesn’t mean your not doing anything right it just means there’s another 1000 guys out there doing the same.

Anyway pay more attention to your inbox and forget your outbox lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get them all the time

even though i meet their criteria

smoker age range pict in profile local area etc

yet their still delated

i wonder why their on here in the 1st place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"get them all the time

even though i meet their criteria

smoker age range pict in profile local area etc

yet their still delated

i wonder why their on here in the 1st place"

Probably to have fun, but some guys think they should meet the full 3000 that might fit there criteria, never thought of that?

You like a good moan lol

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

i delete for a number of reasons ie just the wording of the message ,they dont fit my criteria ,the no pix brigade cum om msn n il show ya ehhhhh i dont think so ...

or just the ones who mail the same message ova n ova again to prpbably 3/4 of the peeps on here u can always tell a cut n paste email so bloody obvious especially when they dont keep track of who they r mailing n send u it time n time again lol

not being funny but u can just tell a nice guy from certain things in an email and by chat

id say 99% will not entertain someone if they r not in chat either

luv jacs

xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"get them all the time

even though i meet their criteria

smoker age range pict in profile local area etc

yet their still delated

i wonder why their on here in the 1st place

You like a good moan lol"

i dont just moan i talk of the truth but as i said previous the 1s that delated me is their choice

but wonder why their on the site that's all iam saying

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

unusual they r on the site to meet people but that doesnt mean they r gonna meet ever single person that mails them

luv jacs

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont just moan i talk of the truth but as i said previous the 1s that delated me is their choice

but wonder why their on the site that's all iam saying"

So you don’t understand why people are on this site because they haven’t met you, or replied to your emails.

That’s different…. Although you are verified, so we cant all be as bad as you sometimes like to make out on various threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe so jaq but i no a few don't meet just here for the chat

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

well thats peoples perogative unusual im not meeting at the moment so what u saying i shouldnt be on the site ???

luv jacs

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

did i say that jaq

i have met you

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

no but ur implying that people only on to chat shouldnt be here n u met me in a group social but why u had to metion that i dont know x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single female i understand that i attract a lot of attention but will delete messages that are clear copy and paste jobs. I also delete messages from people who don't fit my criteria or anyone who i don't feel i want to meet. If people can accept a polite thanks but no thanks then that's fine but i will not get into the whole explaining why i'm not interested which is happening more often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have read this thread a couple of times can see both sides of what people are saying. at the end of the day if people want to just chat then go ahead all they need to maybe put on their profile that they are chatting and not looking for a meet. but for single guys i do feel for you. must be difficult to try to meet others when all they do is delete. when we first started it was only single guys that we met lol i dont think there is an easy solution to this one x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well can i just say, i have only been on here for 2 months and i can honestly say i have recived 9 out of 10 replys to my e mails, i think its the way you come over on your email and if you are honest and polite most ppl respect that and reply out of courtesy, and a face pic is always nice too, i have had 4 coffee meets and 2 plays and 2 more plays orginised, and i think thats the way i come accross when i contact ppl

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Now c my point exactly Bandit here is a guy above who i met within a week of him joining this site n that was purly down to his emails to me and from chatting in the room this guy is one of this sites nicest guys n a real gent

single guys if u need advice he the one to chat too for sure xxxx

luv jacs

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well jacs all i can say is thank you for your kind words, as i said in post i am always polite and see what happens you get nice replys xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have always been polite in my mails

an in the posts

an looks like no 1 actually read it properly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well suspect i dont no what you are doing wrong coz i get replies most of the time as i said 9 out of 10 times i get a reply, do you send face pics ppl, as they like to put a face to who is contacting them, if you are that worried about it just leave the site then, cant give you any more advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sigh

read the top poster i was only letting him no hes not the only 1 who gets ignored

not all about me i have plenty of friends in my list that i have met n going 2 meet next week

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By *iz 1969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

horny im on as a bi fem looking for other bi fems but get loads of messages from single guys and couples i do try to be kind and polite and reply to them all but some i just delete when the content of the message reads i want to fuck you now ect ect ect when the message is couteous i will reply my advice is to read all the profile and be courteous to either the fem or couple that you are messaging hope you have loads of fun tc liz xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

babe,,,i wouldnt take it too seriously, we usually delete messages when we have read them as cant store them all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must be one of the 1% that do not chat, meet up & reply !

A simple no thanks is polite! If someone has taken the time to send you a message, it takes a minute to reply, courtesy costs nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my advice is......

chat in the room and get to know folks

say hi to all .....

dont hit on every couple or fem the sec they come in.....

dont expect sex within 20 mins....

be different..... stand out in someway

hundreds of single guys .....

be uber respectful to ladies..... treat them as such and not pieces of meat....

watch this everyday when lovely ladies on cam and the faceless wankers come in.

go to socials, lunches and meet folks socially..

I personally dont write to couples/fems asking for meets .....

having been part of a couple on here, its a volume game with some guys.... they hit every new couple/fem wi same mail content, read eery profile, digest information..... write message tailored around what couples/fems are looking for ( not what yu want) ....

and if they say no single guys.... ffs dont write to them .....

i watch one guy every day ....

he says hi , then yu have mail x.....

then moves to next couple and says hi, then yu have mail x and guess what.... he moves to next couple and says hi..... lol .... yu have mail x

last tip.... expect to travel to meet folks.. many guys expect the fems/couples to travel to them... one guy asked mrs view and i to drive to largs from forfar, we had to book a hotel, and he would pop roond for an hour.... 350 miles and hotel cost for us.... and he didna even have a 14inch cock lol ...........

i wish yu well..........

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By *inesawineWoman
over a year ago

fife

Sound advice View. Should be given to guys when they join lol

Mines xx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

well done view u put it clearer in ur words than anyone else xxxx

luv jacs

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like a lot of people on here I send and receive messages.

I answer ALL messages as best I can but I then delete as it clogs up message box.

Do the same with my personal e-mail account and my mobile phone. Do not like clutter.

I also read profiles from start to finish, first thingI do is check age criteria and personal preference.

If it says "NO SINGLE GUYS" or I@m outwith the age bracket I back off.

There is only one lady in here I used to speak to who I knew I was outside her age bracket but had a good laugh just talking on here. Not going to harass someone because they diss me.

If your message is deleted then then take a note of that profile and remember not to bother them again.

Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that as already mentioned, respect is a massive factor. Guys have to remember that there are literally hundreds of tossers out there who send short crude mails to these lovely ladies, or worse, a cock pic on their first message.

Its only natural that after a certain amount of time of this, the ladies will get pissed off and just start deleting. I know i would.

The best advice is to go into the chat rooms and speak to people, get to know them. And job 1 is to read their profile, if they don't want to meet or you don't fit their criteria, then respect their wishes. A lot of women and guys like these sites for the social aspect it brings and not just for the chance of a quick shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't believe someone is actually whinging on the forum that there messages are being deleted without a reply. Brilliant hahahahaha

Oh my god.......get a life if your sitting watching that, then still finding the need to tell everyone on a forum that your being ignored by the masses!

Sure it does get annoying and some couples severely lack manners on here, but at the end of the day as everyone is saying, just because you have a cock, right height, right age etc... Doesn't mean your getting laid, just for being here.

Make an effort with the messages, put something worthwhile in the subject..show an interest in who your meeting or at least supposed to want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hornyeastkilbride ..yes it is init

he ... mails you asking if you'd like to meet,

she ... replys back yes

he .. let me know were and when

she .. how about mon or tues if ok with you

and what do ya know ... nothing no mail

and thats the short versoin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

str8 single guy - go figure lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well my opinion is that its up to them if they want to reply or not.Its just one of those things some people take time to reply some dont.Just dont expect a reply every time you send someone a message.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

right steve mail m n c what hapens lol xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hornyeastkilbride ..yes it is init

he ... mails you asking if you'd like to meet,

she ... replys back yes

he .. let me know were and when

she .. how about mon or tues if ok with you

and what do ya know ... nothing no mail

and thats the short versoin

"

its not just males

its females also

had mail a few asking for a meet

got on great etc an mail with picts as well

then u ask the q

bang dose not mail back

been read an delated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

its not just males

its females also

had mail a few asking for a meet

got on great etc an mail with picts as well

then u ask the q

bang dose not mail back

been read an delated

"

That’s where your going wrong, don’t ask the question, why do you feel the need to have to? just show your interested and that’s all, and keep chatting and let nature take its course, if it happens it happens.

Through experience far too many single men always ask to meet in the first contact or within a few emails or a chat, some even think that after chatting that people cannot change there mind, so they get branded time wasters, part of the reason a lot of couples we know now steer clear of single men, because they expect to much with no effort, and think that if they do use little effort with no success that they have had their time wasted.

Funnily enough, if being honest it’s the ones that are happy to chat (to both of us) without asking to meet and without any expectations that we normally end up meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the point is we had been getting on ok

after a few weeks of chatting not days

its why I ask the q

I am not here 2 chat I want 2 meet

I just feel sometimes Iam wasting my time with those are just wanting 2 chat

if they want 2 chat (thats fine) they should say it on there profile

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

unusual most women i know including myself will not meet without chatting first...

emails r just a lazy way out as far as im conserned n tells u nothing about the person at all if u just took sometime to cum into the chat room n chat to the people u want to meet it does give u a little bit of an idea of what a person is like ....

then aks for a social meet c how that goes then ask for the fun meet ......

luv jacs

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you read the post

i don't think u did read the post properly

i have been chatting with them for weeks

an om msn

iam here 2 meet people not 2 chat but of course I get 2 no them first not just a few seconds

as people point out their getting it wrong

they should have it on their profile if they dont want to meet people its easy as that

i have met several already an which i will be meeting again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hum if emails are lazy way

then how u do get 2 no them

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

u came along to the social meet few weeks back n no one knew who u were if ud been in the chat room it would have been easier for u and the others to

associate with u if they knew who u were.........

so why not try n chat it the room if u really wanna get to know people ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

already said the reason why i don't go in 2 chat rooms

ther is no decent convo going an when u try 2 start 1 or join in all you get is ignored so no thanks

I prefer the forums as we can learn more

an I did new a few who were going to that meet but they didn't show. only new of 1 n spoken with her

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

what would u say is a decent convo ?

nothing more to b said then hun as everytime someone suggests something to u u just keep cumming back with negative replys ......

But think of this for a mo why r all the people with verivications of meets all in the chat room do u think ????

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By *areassetsukMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

i will admit is it soul destroying when you know you are decent, whoever it is, when mail gets deleted without a no thanks,even though you read the profile and tick al the boxes they ask for. but it is the stuff they dont mention, 1 or other person doesnt fancy you from the pic, or they judge from what you put in the email forgetting all the stuff you didnt havent put in either!.... also regarding chat rooms, yes when ppl are talkngi about silly stuff and nothing to dowith swinging, you wonder what it is all about, but fancy a fuck and wanna watch me jack off , doesnt really work for most ppl (well not me anyway)but if you saw someones profile, see them in a chat room, perhaps you can ask a bit more about them at least. personally i prefer having fun than chatting about it lol, but goig to the social was helpful as a few of the ppl were in the chat room, so it was good to pur profile names to the ppl i saw , and even the one i didnt have time to talk too in person. maybe we should have a glasgow social night out,where i work then you can meet everyone

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Danny mail reganding a meet at the venue u work at hun so we can discuss it further xxxx

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By *areassetsukMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

what can be worse, is that your message has been read, and you dont even get a reply lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what can be worse, is that your message has been read, and you dont even get a reply lol"

exactly it was

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

god i know its annoying but just say thier loss n move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just as well Robert the Bruce didnt have your attitude or we'd have lost our national identity !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

guys stop being so disheartened, there are lots of single blokes on here who have lots of meets, they build up a good rapour with the ppl they want to meet then when that couple or single fem/bloke is looking for someone their name is the first that springs to mind......this is supposed to be fun and not to be taken too seriously. good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think people need to stop taking it to heart if people dont return a message...yeah its annoying...but hey move on! plenty more fish in the sea and all that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont normally post but all I can say is - everyone on here makes a choice, that choice is theirs and if they decide to delete, reply, don't reply etc etc we should respect that and move on. If cpls on the site dont meet but chat than again their choice.

Seems to be people are very quick to brand people time wasters just because they wont meet YOU NOW, (YOU being cpl, single etc).

In the year we have been swinging we have learned a lot mostly being dont take things personally and shit happens xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

should have said - Malc was doin the posting lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone knows tis site is top heavy with single guys, but every one of you guys have something to offer its just a case of selling yourself. Make an effort with your profiles, put bit of thought into it and try and stamp your personality. Also post some pics, oh and not just cock pics again make an effort and show some imagination rather than just a cock pic with an unkept room in background, you know the ones with mug of tea and half eaten slice of toast on coffee table and your dirty washing thrown in corner. Show youve made a bit of an effort and you may just reep the rewards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The words 'sheer laziness' spring to mind on a regular basis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

am just cunfuddled no

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