FabSwingers.com forum: Require advice

By *unJoiner OP Man
over a year ago

Central

I am now in a long term relationship with a lovely lass. I have been on fab for 10+ years. How do I introduce her to fab?

Do I delete my profile then we accidentally stumble across website. And I say oh never been on her.

Love some feedback .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes you think she would be interested in being on here?

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By *unJoiner OP Man
over a year ago

Central

"What makes you think she would be interested in being on here?"

That’s why I say how do I introduce her.

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By *ering SeaMan
over a year ago

Penicuik

"What makes you think she would be interested in being on here?

That’s why I say how do I introduce her."

She might be on here thinking how do i broach the subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest if I were in a relationship, marriage and the other partner, husband, wife didn't know I would not be on here myself as in my opinion a relationship is all a bout truth and respecting the other but its just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Subtly hint at the swinging interest and see if she is receptive to it and then take it from there . You will know by her answer lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I thought for a minute a partner of mine had been on here begins my bike it would be game over

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

Why not just be happy in your new relationship for now !

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By *ine of BootyCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/ Manchester

Can absolutely guarantee the second you tell her your on a swinging website and have been the entire time you have been together, Youl be dumped.

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By *unJoiner OP Man
over a year ago

Central

"Why not just be happy in your new relationship for now ! "

I am happy in my Relationship. Like yourself you a couple and I want to introduce her to the happy world of swinging.

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By *unJoiner OP Man
over a year ago

Central

Btw. Since being in the relationship I have not met anyone. So don’t be thinking I am a dirty scoundrel.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

If I were at the beginning of a relationship and hoped to play as a couple at some point I would have brought it up very early.

Now you have to back peddle and been seen as secretive.

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

"Why not just be happy in your new relationship for now !

I am happy in my Relationship. Like yourself you a couple and I want to introduce her to the happy world of swinging."

Maybe I didn’t word my post as I was thinking ... you are already contemplating lying, deleting your account then “accidentally” stumbling across fab ... to me that doesn’t sound like the start of a happy honest relationship .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read your first post wrong. Well I'd say if you're happy in your relationship you now delete fab but yeh also bring it up. Be honest. You might even find she's open talking about it.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

I'd go in hiding. Just in case your relationship doesn't work out (sorry, I'm a pessimist when it comes to everlasting love) you can activate your current profile again without losing your friends and veris.

Can you not just say to her you were on this site before you got together and you're wondering if it might be something she'd like to try? x

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

I'd say the fact you've been on here 10+ years is a pretty big part of your life not to have mentioned very early in your relationship, certainly if swinging is something that you are hoping to continue & get her involved in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not just be happy in your new relationship for now !

I am happy in my Relationship. Like yourself you a couple and I want to introduce her to the happy world of swinging."

Will you be able to accept if its just not something she's interested in?

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By *ilverminxWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Broach it and see what she thinks. I’m of the mind that if it’s important then you probably need to end the relationship but if you can live without it, you’d need to give it up depending on her reaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm tricky one. I’d say be open about have dabbled with the site and say what your interested in. If it’s meant to be it’s meant to be. Hopefully she will be ok with it as it’s clearly a big part of your life and that’s nothing to be ashamed of. I think people are more open minded to this lifestyle now. And you never know she might be thinking the same thing. Good luck!!!

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By *atex and KinkCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I am now in a long term relationship with a lovely lass. I have been on fab for 10+ years. How do I introduce her to fab?

Do I delete my profile then we accidentally stumble across website. And I say oh never been on her.

Love some feedback ."

By being here without her knowledge you have already unknowingly broke her trust.

Relationships a built on trust.

The moment you loose that. The house invariably falls.

I would think long and hard about what you want and whether it is obtainable here or with her.

Good luck.

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