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By *ippy68 OP   Man
over a year ago

Weymouth

What is it with people who invite you to message them on here and then they either can’t be asked to respond or block you? I just don’t get it at all. Some of us don’t have the six packs others have or be hung like horses but we deserve a response at least. When you Already feel lonely and like nobody cares It’s hard when someone can’t even say thanks but no thanks. Christmas can bring out the best in some people but also the worst too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it with people who invite you to message them on here and then they either can’t be asked to respond or block you? I just don’t get it at all. Some of us don’t have the six packs others have or be hung like horses but we deserve a response at least. When you Already feel lonely and like nobody cares It’s hard when someone can’t even say thanks but no thanks. Christmas can bring out the best in some people but also the worst too."

Some folks just like the attention. Please try not to take it personally. Maybe go in the cam chatrooms where theres more inclusive conversation happening?

Delete messages you’ve sent first so if they reply it’ll be a nice surprise. Good luck OP. Xxx

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By *chilleMan
over a year ago

London / Paris


"What is it with people who invite you to message them on here and then they either can’t be asked to respond or block you? I just don’t get it at all. Some of us don’t have the six packs others have or be hung like horses but we deserve a response at least. When you Already feel lonely and like nobody cares It’s hard when someone can’t even say thanks but no thanks. Christmas can bring out the best in some people but also the worst too.

Some folks just like the attention. Please try not to take it personally. Maybe go in the cam chatrooms where theres more inclusive conversation happening?

Delete messages you’ve sent first so if they reply it’ll be a nice surprise. Good luck OP. Xxx"

True

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By *ippy68 OP   Man
over a year ago

Weymouth

Thanks and merry Christmas ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you mean,"invite you to message them"?

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"What do you mean,"invite you to message them"?"

I would also like an answer to that question x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

on here men outweigh women and couples I would say as much as 30-1, I have a female fav friend and I have seen her in box, in a single 1 hour period she had over 50 messages, don’t take it personally it’s just a massive numbers game for men. Like said previously I send them delete most messages and sometimes I get a nice response in the form of a message back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you mean,"invite you to message them"?

I would also like an answer to that question x "

I think op means that sometimes profiles or status by default invite a certain demographic to message them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So do double glazing fliers,etc, popped through the letter box and as tempting as they might be,how many of us feel the need to take up the offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do double glazing fliers,etc, popped through the letter box and as tempting as they might be,how many of us feel the need to take up the offer"

I don’t think you can make the same comparison there making an unsolicited attempt at generating business, whilst a profile or status is generally an advertisement from the profile owner stating what they are looking for as someone responding to a profile or status I personally read the said profile and if I Judge that I may fit what the profile is looking for then yes I would see that as an invitation to contact the profile.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

You failed on the part the you feel you "deserve" a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do double glazing fliers,etc, popped through the letter box and as tempting as they might be,how many of us feel the need to take up the offer

I don’t think you can make the same comparison there making an unsolicited attempt at generating business, whilst a profile or status is generally an advertisement from the profile owner stating what they are looking for as someone responding to a profile or status I personally read the said profile and if I Judge that I may fit what the profile is looking for then yes I would see that as an invitation to contact the profile. "

But that doesn't mean it always deserves a response.

Some guys don't take no well.

"Why not"

"What's wrong with me"

"Fat bitch"

Etc etc,sometimes unless they are specifically what you are looking for it's best to delete and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do double glazing fliers,etc, popped through the letter box and as tempting as they might be,how many of us feel the need to take up the offer

I don’t think you can make the same comparison there making an unsolicited attempt at generating business, whilst a profile or status is generally an advertisement from the profile owner stating what they are looking for as someone responding to a profile or status I personally read the said profile and if I Judge that I may fit what the profile is looking for then yes I would see that as an invitation to contact the profile.

But that doesn't mean it always deserves a response.

Some guys don't take no well.

"Why not"

"What's wrong with me"

"Fat bitch"

Etc etc,sometimes unless they are specifically what you are looking for it's best to delete and move on"

No I get what your saying I misunderstood your point. I was viewing it from the message sender point rather than the receiving side of things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we deserve a response at least"

No, you don't. Nobody on here owes you anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't moan about it as that won't get you anywhere

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By *tongueMan
over a year ago

wrexham

Having a profile invites messages to communicate. If you do not wish certain types of contact you set profile as required.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same for forum users that are rude. Just get on with the banter of it

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I would respond to all messages. However. One, not all messages deserve a reply, given their lack of regard for my wishes or occasionally even my humanity. Two, most women on here learn that saying no, no matter how nicely, kindly, politely, or helpfully, attracts a fair bit of abuse, some of it so disgusting that it's unrepeatable. Three, some women and couples get so much mail that replying is physically impossible.

The site FAQ suggest that a delete without reply should be understood as "no thank you". If you read it that way, it'll bother you less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a couple of hrs some people could recive over 150 messages, its very hard to read let alone respond to every single message, Without it being a generic "copy & paste" response.

Its nothink personal I would say be patiant and consistent but not creepie!

Patience and respect is key.

At the end of the day where all adults, if she's read the past three messages and you still dont have a response.

Move on and maybe oneday they will message back or not.

Thats just life hun

Wish you all the best

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth


"What is it with people who invite you to message them on here and then they either can’t be asked to respond or block you? I just don’t get it at all. Some of us don’t have the six packs others have or be hung like horses but we deserve a response at least. When you Already feel lonely and like nobody cares It’s hard when someone can’t even say thanks but no thanks. Christmas can bring out the best in some people but also the worst too."

Can I suggest going to organized socials...they are often free , attended by friendly folk and are a great way to avoid the trials and tribulations of fab..its far more productive than sending messages...

Good luck ...

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn

Your post is in the wrong thread, whining section is somewhere else.

I had a peek at your profile, the first thing I read........you have a 2 week load waiting! FFS!! I am surprised the women are not knocking your door down to get at it!!

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By *nkedlady2Couple
over a year ago

liverpool


"we deserve a response at least

No, you don't. Nobody on here owes you anything."

We ask for single guys to attach a face pic if they initiate a conversation. We would just delete if they dont. If they cant be bothered to read our profile we cant be bothered to respond

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By *on toneyMan
over a year ago

mancheater

i 100 percent agree there is a high and mighty attitude on fab

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"i 100 percent agree there is a high and mighty attitude on fab "

Yes there is from self entitled guys

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By *argarineCouple
over a year ago

Cradley Heath

The two week load you refer to on your status.... is it your washing?

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts


"i 100 percent agree there is a high and mighty attitude on fab

Yes there is from self entitled guys "

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts


"What is it with people who invite you to message them on here and then they either can’t be asked to respond or block you? I just don’t get it at all. Some of us don’t have the six packs others have or be hung like horses but we deserve a response at least. When you Already feel lonely and like nobody cares It’s hard when someone can’t even say thanks but no thanks. Christmas can bring out the best in some people but also the worst too."

Nobody 'deserves' anything. Self-entitlement does not lead to happiness.

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By *urvelover39Man
over a year ago

Somewhere


"What is it with people who invite you to message them on here and then they either can’t be asked to respond or block you? I just don’t get it at all. Some of us don’t have the six packs others have or be hung like horses but we deserve a response at least. When you Already feel lonely and like nobody cares It’s hard when someone can’t even say thanks but no thanks. Christmas can bring out the best in some people but also the worst too.

Nobody 'deserves' anything. Self-entitlement does not lead to happiness."

It does when i self-entitle myself too indulge in self-pullingmypud.com

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts


"What is it with people who invite you to message them on here and then they either can’t be asked to respond or block you? I just don’t get it at all. Some of us don’t have the six packs others have or be hung like horses but we deserve a response at least. When you Already feel lonely and like nobody cares It’s hard when someone can’t even say thanks but no thanks. Christmas can bring out the best in some people but also the worst too.

Nobody 'deserves' anything. Self-entitlement does not lead to happiness.

It does when i self-entitle myself too indulge in self-pullingmypud.com "

That's self indulgence

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By *urvelover39Man
over a year ago

Somewhere


"What is it with people who invite you to message them on here and then they either can’t be asked to respond or block you? I just don’t get it at all. Some of us don’t have the six packs others have or be hung like horses but we deserve a response at least. When you Already feel lonely and like nobody cares It’s hard when someone can’t even say thanks but no thanks. Christmas can bring out the best in some people but also the worst too.

Nobody 'deserves' anything. Self-entitlement does not lead to happiness.

It does when i self-entitle myself too indulge in self-pullingmypud.com

That's self indulgence "

Your right silly me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi SmartyMZarty can you tell me where the cam rooms are please

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts


"What is it with people who invite you to message them on here and then they either can’t be asked to respond or block you? I just don’t get it at all. Some of us don’t have the six packs others have or be hung like horses but we deserve a response at least. When you Already feel lonely and like nobody cares It’s hard when someone can’t even say thanks but no thanks. Christmas can bring out the best in some people but also the worst too.

Nobody 'deserves' anything. Self-entitlement does not lead to happiness.

It does when i self-entitle myself too indulge in self-pullingmypud.com

That's self indulgence

Your right silly me "

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By *ichie9648Man
over a year ago

Manchester / Leeds

Theres what about 30000 members on here at any one time........how many actually meet in a night....I would say less than a dozen. Most people (women and couples) are either really picky or just like getting lots of messages for attention !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just had a message and all it said was “Dom guy” so I replied “ tired guy”

Then they messaged again that they could fuck my wife on route to which I replied thank you very much but not for us and good luck and happy new year.

Then he blocked us.

1..... he clearly hadn’t read our profile and 2.... why the fuck should I respond to nothing messages like DOM GUY!!

We get loads of crap messages a day which I reply to politely when others just delete and I fully understand why they do delete.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We changed our profile picture one day and ended up with 200 messages. We change our status to not presently looking at meets and get 100 messages. If you don't get a response, move on, no one owes you anything and if that is the attitude you are carrying I'm not surprised your not getting more takers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi SmartyMZarty can you tell me where the cam rooms are please "

On the mobile app there should be a cam rooms button. On the desktop site click the chat button on the top tool bar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have to subscribe to do the cams ?

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