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"May I ask when.oz the social.... any playing allowed" Will be just social but if all goes well will look to hold play party’s a few times a year as well as other things Molly XX | |||
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"Yes - I would be up for it! Where and when are we thinking" Need a idea off numbers before anything yet Mike and Molly XX | |||
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"Anyone else or it can’t happen Mike and Molly XX" Why? We start now and group will grow | |||
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"Is there a point.... How many couples out there want to meet a single gent? Also how many available ladies are interested? Constructive comments only please,just feel like being on here for 5 months has been a waste of time. No wonder there a so many 'bi' men on here. " For us we love the social aspects of swinging almost as much as playing. So meeting like minded people, whether single or in a couple, in a no pressure environment is fun. It great to get to know more people  xx | |||
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"Will be starting a Swindon social just need a idea of number please add your name here so I can see if it’s worth it. Molly XX" Swindon isn't a million miles from me, depending on when, I'd be interested in your social. If you've room for a single male I'd like to put my name down please. | |||
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"We have attended the Bristol social before, so would definitely be interested in a Swindon one, as long as it was only Couples and single ladies. " Based on the number of men interested you might be out of luck. | |||
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"We have attended the Bristol social before, so would definitely be interested in a Swindon one, as long as it was only Couples and single ladies. Based on the number of men interested you might be out of luck. " It's bad enough single men being barred from club nights, but wanting to exclude us from socials as well? Why not just kick us all off the site and have done with it? | |||
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"We have attended the Bristol social before, so would definitely be interested in a Swindon one, as long as it was only Couples and single ladies. Based on the number of men interested you might be out of luck. It's bad enough single men being barred from club nights, but wanting to exclude us from socials as well? Why not just kick us all off the site and have done with it?" Got to be honest, I pissed myself laughing when I saw the post. I won't say what I thought though. I've had enough holidays. | |||
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"We have attended the Bristol social before, so would definitely be interested in a Swindon one, as long as it was only Couples and single ladies. Based on the number of men interested you might be out of luck. It's bad enough single men being barred from club nights, but wanting to exclude us from socials as well? Why not just kick us all off the site and have done with it?" MrD To be honest mate I understand your frustration. However on the flip side of that why should couples have our lady halves attend only to be outnumbered by men 20:1 and not get a look in ourselves. If you were attending with your female partner wouldn't you be just as frustrated at that? And this is coming from a couple that meets single males, you only have to look at our veri's to see that | |||
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My advice/input would be to restrict single males to invite only.
Couples can request an invite for a male they vouch for + when you have an idea of ratios you can message single males offering them an invite privately.
For example, although frustrated Quietly_Kinky seems quite active and respectful in the forums. I'm not recommending him as I haven't met him, but an example of how the selection process could work.
It is a shame restrictions need to be placed on single males and I sympathise with their frustrations, but it needs to be done otherwise it turns into a sausage fest + couples stop attending, maybe even some single females, at which point the whole thing collapses + there would be no more social/club/whatever anyway | |||
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"We have attended the Bristol social before, so would definitely be interested in a Swindon one, as long as it was only Couples and single ladies. Based on the number of men interested you might be out of luck. It's bad enough single men being barred from club nights, but wanting to exclude us from socials as well? Why not just kick us all off the site and have done with it? MrD To be honest mate I understand your frustration. However on the flip side of that why should couples have our lady halves attend only to be outnumbered by men 20:1 and not get a look in ourselves. If you were attending with your female partner wouldn't you be just as frustrated at that? And this is coming from a couple that meets single males, you only have to look at our veri's to see that "I've no issue with restricting numbers, I think it's very sensible, but that's not the same thing as a blanket ban. | |||
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"We have attended the Bristol social before, so would definitely be interested in a Swindon one, as long as it was only Couples and single ladies. Based on the number of men interested you might be out of luck. It's bad enough single men being barred from club nights, but wanting to exclude us from socials as well? Why not just kick us all off the site and have done with it? MrD To be honest mate I understand your frustration. However on the flip side of that why should couples have our lady halves attend only to be outnumbered by men 20:1 and not get a look in ourselves. If you were attending with your female partner wouldn't you be just as frustrated at that? And this is coming from a couple that meets single males, you only have to look at our veri's to see that
I've no issue with restricting numbers, I think it's very sensible, but that's not the same thing as a blanket ban."Amusing when it's someone else's social they're imposing their wishes on.  | |||
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"We have attended the Bristol social before, so would definitely be interested in a Swindon one, as long as it was only Couples and single ladies. Based on the number of men interested you might be out of luck. It's bad enough single men being barred from club nights, but wanting to exclude us from socials as well? Why not just kick us all off the site and have done with it? MrD To be honest mate I understand your frustration. However on the flip side of that why should couples have our lady halves attend only to be outnumbered by men 20:1 and not get a look in ourselves. If you were attending with your female partner wouldn't you be just as frustrated at that? And this is coming from a couple that meets single males, you only have to look at our veri's to see that
I've no issue with restricting numbers, I think it's very sensible, but that's not the same thing as a blanket ban."No I don't think there should be a blanket ban. There are many greedy girls around + the idea is to socialise not a play party. These things just need to be controlled as unfortunate as that is. The number of single guys (not counting couples) who complained that Remix in Swindon was rubbish because it was too full of single men just goes to show its a problem for everyone really. There are also a lot of d**kheads on fab, so having it invite allows the better guys who deserve it to have a chance. Thats how the Gloucester social is run | |||
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"We have attended the Bristol social before, so would definitely be interested in a Swindon one, as long as it was only Couples and single ladies. Based on the number of men interested you might be out of luck. It's bad enough single men being barred from club nights, but wanting to exclude us from socials as well? Why not just kick us all off the site and have done with it? MrD To be honest mate I understand your frustration. However on the flip side of that why should couples have our lady halves attend only to be outnumbered by men 20:1 and not get a look in ourselves. If you were attending with your female partner wouldn't you be just as frustrated at that? And this is coming from a couple that meets single males, you only have to look at our veri's to see that
I've no issue with restricting numbers, I think it's very sensible, but that's not the same thing as a blanket ban.
No I don't think there should be a blanket ban. There are many greedy girls around + the idea is to socialise not a play party.
These things just need to be controlled as unfortunate as that is.
The number of single guys (not counting couples) who complained that Remix in Swindon was rubbish because it was too full of single men just goes to show its a problem for everyone really.
There are also a lot of d**kheads on fab, so having it invite allows the better guys who deserve it to have a chance.
Thats how the Gloucester social is run"And how are new guys ever supposed to get started if socials become invite-only? No one wants to meet unverified single males, so there'll be no oneto invite them to socials. They only chance they'll have to "get known", to use the loathesome phrase, is to try and make a connection at a club. | |||
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"We have attended the Bristol social before, so would definitely be interested in a Swindon one, as long as it was only Couples and single ladies. Based on the number of men interested you might be out of luck. It's bad enough single men being barred from club nights, but wanting to exclude us from socials as well? Why not just kick us all off the site and have done with it? MrD To be honest mate I understand your frustration. However on the flip side of that why should couples have our lady halves attend only to be outnumbered by men 20:1 and not get a look in ourselves. If you were attending with your female partner wouldn't you be just as frustrated at that? And this is coming from a couple that meets single males, you only have to look at our veri's to see that
I've no issue with restricting numbers, I think it's very sensible, but that's not the same thing as a blanket ban.
No I don't think there should be a blanket ban. There are many greedy girls around + the idea is to socialise not a play party.
These things just need to be controlled as unfortunate as that is.
The number of single guys (not counting couples) who complained that Remix in Swindon was rubbish because it was too full of single men just goes to show its a problem for everyone really.
There are also a lot of d**kheads on fab, so having it invite allows the better guys who deserve it to have a chance.
Thats how the Gloucester social is run
And how are new guys ever supposed to get started if socials become invite-only? No one wants to meet unverified single males, so there'll be no oneto invite them to socials. They only chance they'll have to "get known", to use the loathesome phrase, is to try and make a connection at a club."If I organise a group social I'll decide on who attends and I'll try to get a good mix of people of all genders, singles and couples. My social, my rules. But when my guests start telling me who I can and can't invite...... that's properly taking the piss and they can fuck right off. I don't invite people who have an over inflated sense of their own self importance. | |||
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"We have attended the Bristol social before, so would definitely be interested in a Swindon one, as long as it was only Couples and single ladies. Based on the number of men interested you might be out of luck. It's bad enough single men being barred from club nights, but wanting to exclude us from socials as well? Why not just kick us all off the site and have done with it? MrD To be honest mate I understand your frustration. However on the flip side of that why should couples have our lady halves attend only to be outnumbered by men 20:1 and not get a look in ourselves. If you were attending with your female partner wouldn't you be just as frustrated at that? And this is coming from a couple that meets single males, you only have to look at our veri's to see that
I've no issue with restricting numbers, I think it's very sensible, but that's not the same thing as a blanket ban.
No I don't think there should be a blanket ban. There are many greedy girls around + the idea is to socialise not a play party.
These things just need to be controlled as unfortunate as that is.
The number of single guys (not counting couples) who complained that Remix in Swindon was rubbish because it was too full of single men just goes to show its a problem for everyone really.
There are also a lot of d**kheads on fab, so having it invite allows the better guys who deserve it to have a chance.
Thats how the Gloucester social is run
And how are new guys ever supposed to get started if socials become invite-only? No one wants to meet unverified single males, so there'll be no oneto invite them to socials. They only chance they'll have to "get known", to use the loathesome phrase, is to try and make a connection at a club."Yes I understand, but because there are so many d**kheads on fab (honestly you have no idea) if it was flooded with these guys, couples would stop going, then there would be no social for anyone. The idea of invite only is to try to minimise this. I did also use you as an example, to show someone who could request an invite based on forum activity (being active + respectful) rather than dependant on another couple. Maybe you could suggest a better way to make sure the single males attending are decent people + not the ones messaging couples saying they are going to slap them about, make them lick their a** when you quite clearly tell them no twice, refusing to use a condom multiple times saying they are f***ing without it but guess they will pull out "if you want" or you will do this because you will be my sub + have to do what I tell you when quite clearly told not into any sub/dom stuff, to name just a few examples. It might seem harsh, but there are reasons couples + women don't want a free for all of guys. | |||
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"We have attended the Bristol social before, so would definitely be interested in a Swindon one, as long as it was only Couples and single ladies. Based on the number of men interested you might be out of luck. It's bad enough single men being barred from club nights, but wanting to exclude us from socials as well? Why not just kick us all off the site and have done with it? MrD To be honest mate I understand your frustration. However on the flip side of that why should couples have our lady halves attend only to be outnumbered by men 20:1 and not get a look in ourselves. If you were attending with your female partner wouldn't you be just as frustrated at that? And this is coming from a couple that meets single males, you only have to look at our veri's to see that
I've no issue with restricting numbers, I think it's very sensible, but that's not the same thing as a blanket ban.
No I don't think there should be a blanket ban. There are many greedy girls around + the idea is to socialise not a play party.
These things just need to be controlled as unfortunate as that is.
The number of single guys (not counting couples) who complained that Remix in Swindon was rubbish because it was too full of single men just goes to show its a problem for everyone really.
There are also a lot of d**kheads on fab, so having it invite allows the better guys who deserve it to have a chance.
Thats how the Gloucester social is run
And how are new guys ever supposed to get started if socials become invite-only? No one wants to meet unverified single males, so there'll be no oneto invite them to socials. They only chance they'll have to "get known", to use the loathesome phrase, is to try and make a connection at a club.
Yes I understand, but because there are so many d**kheads on fab (honestly you have no idea) if it was flooded with these guys, couples would stop going, then there would be no social for anyone.
The idea of invite only is to try to minimise this. I did also use you as an example, to show someone who could request an invite based on forum activity (being active + respectful) rather than dependant on another couple.
Maybe you could suggest a better way to make sure the single males attending are decent people + not the ones messaging couples saying they are going to slap them about, make them lick their a** when you quite clearly tell them no twice, refusing to use a condom multiple times saying they are f***ing without it but guess they will pull out "if you want" or you will do this because you will be my sub + have to do what I tell you when quite clearly told not into any sub/dom stuff, to name just a few examples.
It might seem harsh, but there are reasons couples + women don't want a free for all of guys.
"I've never been to a group social where there's been a free for all of guys. If that's the case I'd suggest the organisers selection criteria is awry. By all means manage the numbers, a really good social depends on a good balanced mix of like minded people. But don't just exclude entire gender groups. If you don't like the gender mix of a social don't put your name down. Don't start telling the organisers who they can and can't invite, or "threats" like we won't come if xyz group are invited. That just makes you look like a spoilt, entitled, self absorbed cockwomble. People with that attitude find themselves uninvited from socials I help organise. | |||
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"We have attended the Bristol social before, so would definitely be interested in a Swindon one, as long as it was only Couples and single ladies. Based on the number of men interested you might be out of luck. It's bad enough single men being barred from club nights, but wanting to exclude us from socials as well? Why not just kick us all off the site and have done with it? MrD To be honest mate I understand your frustration. However on the flip side of that why should couples have our lady halves attend only to be outnumbered by men 20:1 and not get a look in ourselves. If you were attending with your female partner wouldn't you be just as frustrated at that? And this is coming from a couple that meets single males, you only have to look at our veri's to see that
I've no issue with restricting numbers, I think it's very sensible, but that's not the same thing as a blanket ban.
No I don't think there should be a blanket ban. There are many greedy girls around + the idea is to socialise not a play party.
These things just need to be controlled as unfortunate as that is.
The number of single guys (not counting couples) who complained that Remix in Swindon was rubbish because it was too full of single men just goes to show its a problem for everyone really.
There are also a lot of d**kheads on fab, so having it invite allows the better guys who deserve it to have a chance.
Thats how the Gloucester social is run
And how are new guys ever supposed to get started if socials become invite-only? No one wants to meet unverified single males, so there'll be no oneto invite them to socials. They only chance they'll have to "get known", to use the loathesome phrase, is to try and make a connection at a club.
Yes I understand, but because there are so many d**kheads on fab (honestly you have no idea) if it was flooded with these guys, couples would stop going, then there would be no social for anyone.
The idea of invite only is to try to minimise this. I did also use you as an example, to show someone who could request an invite based on forum activity (being active + respectful) rather than dependant on another couple.
Maybe you could suggest a better way to make sure the single males attending are decent people + not the ones messaging couples saying they are going to slap them about, make them lick their a** when you quite clearly tell them no twice, refusing to use a condom multiple times saying they are f***ing without it but guess they will pull out "if you want" or you will do this because you will be my sub + have to do what I tell you when quite clearly told not into any sub/dom stuff, to name just a few examples.
It might seem harsh, but there are reasons couples + women don't want a free for all of guys.
I've never been to a group social where there's been a free for all of guys.
If that's the case I'd suggest the organisers selection criteria is awry.
By all means manage the numbers, a really good social depends on a good balanced mix of like minded people.
But don't just exclude entire gender groups.
If you don't like the gender mix of a social don't put your name down.
Don't start telling the organisers who they can and can't invite, or "threats" like we won't come if xyz group are invited.
That just makes you look like a spoilt, entitled, self absorbed cockwomble.
People with that attitude find themselves uninvited from socials I help organise."I never said to exclude males? In fact I said you shouldn't exclude them + was discussing on an open forum ways that could help (like limiting males so not overrun + maybe invite only so the decent males have a chance to go instead of places taken by d***heads). I also pointed out that we meet single males, all of our veri's are from males! I never said we would refuse to attend if single males are allowed or am I telling the organisers what they can/can't do, I was trying to suggest practical ways to help make it work + try to explain to single males the other side of the coin why couples can react the way they do so they might better understand. I think you are confusing us with someone else | |||
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"We have attended the Bristol social before, so would definitely be interested in a Swindon one, as long as it was only Couples and single ladies. Based on the number of men interested you might be out of luck. It's bad enough single men being barred from club nights, but wanting to exclude us from socials as well? Why not just kick us all off the site and have done with it? MrD To be honest mate I understand your frustration. However on the flip side of that why should couples have our lady halves attend only to be outnumbered by men 20:1 and not get a look in ourselves. If you were attending with your female partner wouldn't you be just as frustrated at that? And this is coming from a couple that meets single males, you only have to look at our veri's to see that
I've no issue with restricting numbers, I think it's very sensible, but that's not the same thing as a blanket ban.
No I don't think there should be a blanket ban. There are many greedy girls around + the idea is to socialise not a play party.
These things just need to be controlled as unfortunate as that is.
The number of single guys (not counting couples) who complained that Remix in Swindon was rubbish because it was too full of single men just goes to show its a problem for everyone really.
There are also a lot of d**kheads on fab, so having it invite allows the better guys who deserve it to have a chance.
Thats how the Gloucester social is run
And how are new guys ever supposed to get started if socials become invite-only? No one wants to meet unverified single males, so there'll be no oneto invite them to socials. They only chance they'll have to "get known", to use the loathesome phrase, is to try and make a connection at a club.
Yes I understand, but because there are so many d**kheads on fab (honestly you have no idea) if it was flooded with these guys, couples would stop going, then there would be no social for anyone.
The idea of invite only is to try to minimise this. I did also use you as an example, to show someone who could request an invite based on forum activity (being active + respectful) rather than dependant on another couple.
Maybe you could suggest a better way to make sure the single males attending are decent people + not the ones messaging couples saying they are going to slap them about, make them lick their a** when you quite clearly tell them no twice, refusing to use a condom multiple times saying they are f***ing without it but guess they will pull out "if you want" or you will do this because you will be my sub + have to do what I tell you when quite clearly told not into any sub/dom stuff, to name just a few examples.
It might seem harsh, but there are reasons couples + women don't want a free for all of guys.
I've never been to a group social where there's been a free for all of guys.
If that's the case I'd suggest the organisers selection criteria is awry.
By all means manage the numbers, a really good social depends on a good balanced mix of like minded people.
But don't just exclude entire gender groups.
If you don't like the gender mix of a social don't put your name down.
Don't start telling the organisers who they can and can't invite, or "threats" like we won't come if xyz group are invited.
That just makes you look like a spoilt, entitled, self absorbed cockwomble.
People with that attitude find themselves uninvited from socials I help organise.
I never said to exclude males?
In fact I said you shouldn't exclude them + was discussing on an open forum ways that could help (like limiting males so not overrun + maybe invite only so the decent males have a chance to go instead of places taken by d***heads).
I also pointed out that we meet single males, all of our veri's are from males!
I never said we would refuse to attend if single males are allowed or am I telling the organisers what they can/can't do, I was trying to suggest practical ways to help make it work + try to explain to single males the other side of the coin why couples can react the way they do so they might better understand.
I think you are confusing us with someone else"My post wasnt a slight at you, you seem quite pleasant.
It was my thoughts on your thoughts, if that makes sense.
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"We have attended the Bristol social before, so would definitely be interested in a Swindon one, as long as it was only Couples and single ladies. Based on the number of men interested you might be out of luck. It's bad enough single men being barred from club nights, but wanting to exclude us from socials as well? Why not just kick us all off the site and have done with it? MrD To be honest mate I understand your frustration. However on the flip side of that why should couples have our lady halves attend only to be outnumbered by men 20:1 and not get a look in ourselves. If you were attending with your female partner wouldn't you be just as frustrated at that? And this is coming from a couple that meets single males, you only have to look at our veri's to see that
I've no issue with restricting numbers, I think it's very sensible, but that's not the same thing as a blanket ban.
No I don't think there should be a blanket ban. There are many greedy girls around + the idea is to socialise not a play party.
These things just need to be controlled as unfortunate as that is.
The number of single guys (not counting couples) who complained that Remix in Swindon was rubbish because it was too full of single men just goes to show its a problem for everyone really.
There are also a lot of d**kheads on fab, so having it invite allows the better guys who deserve it to have a chance.
Thats how the Gloucester social is run
And how are new guys ever supposed to get started if socials become invite-only? No one wants to meet unverified single males, so there'll be no oneto invite them to socials. They only chance they'll have to "get known", to use the loathesome phrase, is to try and make a connection at a club.
Yes I understand, but because there are so many d**kheads on fab (honestly you have no idea) if it was flooded with these guys, couples would stop going, then there would be no social for anyone.
The idea of invite only is to try to minimise this. I did also use you as an example, to show someone who could request an invite based on forum activity (being active + respectful) rather than dependant on another couple.
Maybe you could suggest a better way to make sure the single males attending are decent people + not the ones messaging couples saying they are going to slap them about, make them lick their a** when you quite clearly tell them no twice, refusing to use a condom multiple times saying they are f***ing without it but guess they will pull out "if you want" or you will do this because you will be my sub + have to do what I tell you when quite clearly told not into any sub/dom stuff, to name just a few examples.
It might seem harsh, but there are reasons couples + women don't want a free for all of guys.
I've never been to a group social where there's been a free for all of guys.
If that's the case I'd suggest the organisers selection criteria is awry.
By all means manage the numbers, a really good social depends on a good balanced mix of like minded people.
But don't just exclude entire gender groups.
If you don't like the gender mix of a social don't put your name down.
Don't start telling the organisers who they can and can't invite, or "threats" like we won't come if xyz group are invited.
That just makes you look like a spoilt, entitled, self absorbed cockwomble.
People with that attitude find themselves uninvited from socials I help organise.
I never said to exclude males?
In fact I said you shouldn't exclude them + was discussing on an open forum ways that could help (like limiting males so not overrun + maybe invite only so the decent males have a chance to go instead of places taken by d***heads).
I also pointed out that we meet single males, all of our veri's are from males!
I never said we would refuse to attend if single males are allowed or am I telling the organisers what they can/can't do, I was trying to suggest practical ways to help make it work + try to explain to single males the other side of the coin why couples can react the way they do so they might better understand.
I think you are confusing us with someone else
My post wasnt a slight at you, you seem quite pleasant.
It was my thoughts on your thoughts, if that makes sense.
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"We have attended the Bristol social before, so would definitely be interested in a Swindon one, as long as it was only Couples and single ladies. Based on the number of men interested you might be out of luck. It's bad enough single men being barred from club nights, but wanting to exclude us from socials as well? Why not just kick us all off the site and have done with it? MrD To be honest mate I understand your frustration. However on the flip side of that why should couples have our lady halves attend only to be outnumbered by men 20:1 and not get a look in ourselves. If you were attending with your female partner wouldn't you be just as frustrated at that? And this is coming from a couple that meets single males, you only have to look at our veri's to see that
I've no issue with restricting numbers, I think it's very sensible, but that's not the same thing as a blanket ban.
No I don't think there should be a blanket ban. There are many greedy girls around + the idea is to socialise not a play party.
These things just need to be controlled as unfortunate as that is.
The number of single guys (not counting couples) who complained that Remix in Swindon was rubbish because it was too full of single men just goes to show its a problem for everyone really.
There are also a lot of d**kheads on fab, so having it invite allows the better guys who deserve it to have a chance.
Thats how the Gloucester social is run
And how are new guys ever supposed to get started if socials become invite-only? No one wants to meet unverified single males, so there'll be no oneto invite them to socials. They only chance they'll have to "get known", to use the loathesome phrase, is to try and make a connection at a club.
Yes I understand, but because there are so many d**kheads on fab (honestly you have no idea) if it was flooded with these guys, couples would stop going, then there would be no social for anyone.
The idea of invite only is to try to minimise this. I did also use you as an example, to show someone who could request an invite based on forum activity (being active + respectful) rather than dependant on another couple.
Maybe you could suggest a better way to make sure the single males attending are decent people + not the ones messaging couples saying they are going to slap them about, make them lick their a** when you quite clearly tell them no twice, refusing to use a condom multiple times saying they are f***ing without it but guess they will pull out "if you want" or you will do this because you will be my sub + have to do what I tell you when quite clearly told not into any sub/dom stuff, to name just a few examples.
It might seem harsh, but there are reasons couples + women don't want a free for all of guys.
I've never been to a group social where there's been a free for all of guys.
If that's the case I'd suggest the organisers selection criteria is awry.
By all means manage the numbers, a really good social depends on a good balanced mix of like minded people.
But don't just exclude entire gender groups.
If you don't like the gender mix of a social don't put your name down.
Don't start telling the organisers who they can and can't invite, or "threats" like we won't come if xyz group are invited.
That just makes you look like a spoilt, entitled, self absorbed cockwomble.
People with that attitude find themselves uninvited from socials I help organise.
I never said to exclude males?
In fact I said you shouldn't exclude them + was discussing on an open forum ways that could help (like limiting males so not overrun + maybe invite only so the decent males have a chance to go instead of places taken by d***heads).
I also pointed out that we meet single males, all of our veri's are from males!
I never said we would refuse to attend if single males are allowed or am I telling the organisers what they can/can't do, I was trying to suggest practical ways to help make it work + try to explain to single males the other side of the coin why couples can react the way they do so they might better understand.
I think you are confusing us with someone else
My post wasnt a slight at you, you seem quite pleasant.
It was my thoughts on your thoughts, if that makes sense.
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"We will be quite blunt, we are happy to attend a social but not a meat market, for us the definition of swinging is fast becoming lost, swinging aka partner/wife swapping..... the emphasis is on on the swapping for all of you single guys with a god given sense of entitlement, you are in and fast overwhelming our realms and domains, if you have no partner to swap if very difficult in our opinion to call yourself swingers ...... more like promiscuous or something of that ilk, now I know you won’t like our reasoning or the way we say it but sometimes it needs to be said, Fabs as Mel’s and AFF is fast becoming ruined, I’ve never seen so many Bi or gay guys upset because they can’t get into the pants of someone’s wife ...... one here of which will never attend a social or stay in a club full of guys..... in case you hadn’t realised it puts us in a very vulnerable and uncomfortable position, add to that bravado, alcohol and general stupidity ........ well I think you get our drift by now x" OK. | |||
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"We will be quite blunt, we are happy to attend a social but not a meat market, for us the definition of swinging is fast becoming lost, swinging aka partner/wife swapping..... the emphasis is on on the swapping for all of you single guys with a god given sense of entitlement, you are in and fast overwhelming our realms and domains, if you have no partner to swap if very difficult in our opinion to call yourself swingers ...... more like promiscuous or something of that ilk, now I know you won’t like our reasoning or the way we say it but sometimes it needs to be said, Fabs as Mel’s and AFF is fast becoming ruined, I’ve never seen so many Bi or gay guys upset because they can’t get into the pants of someone’s wife ...... one here of which will never attend a social or stay in a club full of guys..... in case you hadn’t realised it puts us in a very vulnerable and uncomfortable position, add to that bravado, alcohol and general stupidity ........ well I think you get our drift by now x" You are entitled to think what you want, go where you want and do what you want. As long as you're not trying to tell the organisers of this social who they can and can't invite. You don't like the guestlist, don't come. In any case, despite how much you despise singletons, 1) this is a social. 2) many of us couples are looking for singletons. 3) if you don't like how socials are organised regarding guestlists, organise your own. Not really very social are you... M | |||
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"We are very sociable actually, but then that’s the key, social not pork sword fight ! It’s not for us at all, it’s our bodies and more so our relationship, we can afford to be choosy and happy and to that end we will x" This thread is about a social event. There shouldn't be a pork sword fight.
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"We are very sociable actually, but then that’s the key, social not pork sword fight ! It’s not for us at all, it’s our bodies and more so our relationship, we can afford to be choosy and happy and to that end we will x" You keep rattling on like this is some sort of free for all sex fest. It's not. It's a group social. Most likely in a public place where the vanilla populace meander freely. Every group social I've been to there's been a great mix of the genders, couples, singletons of both sex. All getting along famously without a mere hint of a pork sword fight. If that's what you're hung up on, maybe you've got the wrong end of the stick about what a group social entails. Hope that's helped. | |||
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"We would be interested in coming if it was just for couples. Let us know. K&W" Sounds like a great idea OP but it would be a shame if single guys weren't included. The Gloucester Social includes single men and it works very well. | |||
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"Still in planning but keep a eye out for news soon
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"Still in planning but keep a eye out for news soon
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I'm not sure what assistance I'm able to provide but if there's anything you need doing, I'm happy to help if I can."If you're going we might just put our names down too. Would be nice to see you again. M | |||
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I'm not sure what assistance I'm able to provide but if there's anything you need doing, I'm happy to help if I can.
If you're going we might just put our names down too.
Would be nice to see you again.
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"Hi is this still in the planning ?? Single female. Bit of a social virgin but definitely interested in attending pls x Vee x " Group socials are great fun... I've never been to one I didn't enjoy. | |||
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"Hi is this still in the planning ?? Single female. Bit of a social virgin but definitely interested in attending pls x Vee x Group socials are great fun... I've never been to one I didn't enjoy." Do you attend alot?? As a social.virgin I'm sure I'll be a bit nervous but looking forward to attending. Time will tell!! | |||
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"Hi is this still in the planning ?? Single female. Bit of a social virgin but definitely interested in attending pls x Vee x Group socials are great fun... I've never been to one I didn't enjoy. Do you attend alot?? As a social.virgin I'm sure I'll be a bit nervous but looking forward to attending. Time will tell!! " Secret Tea Party. Heathrow. Manchester Lounge. Lick and Bicker. Bank. Everyone's nervous at their first social. You could always ask someone to walk you in if it's more comfortable for you. | |||
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"Will be starting a Swindon social just need a idea of number please add your name here so I can see if it’s worth it. Molly XX" Did this social happen? | |||
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"Hi m&m It would be great to have a social in Swindon. I don't often go onto forums and just came across this. There's a lot of people around here so... K&S X" Marmite.... definately love it! | |||
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