FabSwingers.com forum: If u are kind...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Due to my social awkwardness I would like to ask if any woman would care to give up some of their free time and join me to someplace nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Due to my social awkwardness I would like to ask if any woman would care to give up some of their free time and join me to someplace nice"

That is nice but not many are likely to be enticed by the prospect of an awkward social meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Due to my social awkwardness I would like to ask if any woman would care to give up some of their free time and join me to someplace nice

That is nice but not many are likely to be enticed by the prospect of an awkward social meeting."

Hence the title if u Re kind. Sacrifice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why only women?

Maybe with more friends of all persuasions you may learn to overcome you social awkwardness?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*backing out of the room silently

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By *yan19Man
over a year ago

NLC

You seem like a nice guy and looks like you have the art throwing flow you and I hope some women gives you the time you deserve it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why only women?

Maybe with more friends of all persuasions you may learn to overcome you social awkwardness?"

I was thinking purely sexual reasons. I mean anyone...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You seem like a nice guy and looks like you have the art throwing flow you and I hope some women gives you the time you deserve it

Thanks buddy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intelligent, interesting, artistic...

Just get chatting in the forums. Don't put a timescale on anything or pressure on yourself.

Get to know people on here being yourself without the awkwardness of meeting face to face.

That's got to be easier and less stressful than a blind face-to-face meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Intelligent, interesting, artistic...

Just get chatting in the forums. Don't put a timescale on anything or pressure on yourself.

Get to know people on here being yourself without the awkwardness of meeting face to face.

That's got to be easier and less stressful than a blind face-to-face meeting. "

Thanks for that reply...

I think when u are out and about u get to see ppl in 3d and u find out what u have been missing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid that the sympathy / pity approach rarely works here.

Others have tried - and failed.

Similar threads have been along the lines of looking for a teacher.

Don't be in such a hurry to get a meet and / or to get verified, as you will simply come across as desperate.

Be patient OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've only been here a week. Many single guys don't get their first meet until they've been here for around 6 months.

Also, consider putting some effort into your profile. Currently it is doing you no favours.

Try searching the forums for threads asking for profile advice - there are hundreds of them.

See what advice has been given to others and see if you can apply some of that to your own profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You've only been here a week. Many single guys don't get their first meet until they've been here for around 6 months.

Also, consider putting some effort into your profile. Currently it is doing you no favours.

Try searching the forums for threads asking for profile advice - there are hundreds of them.

See what advice has been given to others and see if you can apply some of that to your own profile."

I guess feedback from ppl who view me would be nice or even questions. Did they leave because of my photo or because of my profile. 2 separate issues. Communication breakdown...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess feedback from ppl who view me would be nice or even questions. Did they leave because of my photo or because of my profile. 2 separate issues. Communication breakdown..."

In an ideal world, this would be very helpful, but you have to consider that everyone on this site is here for their own pleasure and enjoyment.

I have seen a fair few single female profiles with less text than yours and have just moved on to the next one.

Why should I bother to message them to advise them to put a little effort into their profile. Chances are i'd either get ignored or receive a load of abuse.

You also have to consider what your profile says about you without the use of any words.

If it displays a lack of effort, any visitors will be of the opinion that if you aren't prepared to put any effort into your profile, then what about when it comes down to a meet.

You don't get a second chance to make a first impression i'm afraid.

Single guys outnumber couples and females by around 100 to 1 (or more). The ladies really can be fussy, and so you really do need to stand out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I guess feedback from ppl who view me would be nice or even questions. Did they leave because of my photo or because of my profile. 2 separate issues. Communication breakdown...

In an ideal world, this would be very helpful, but you have to consider that everyone on this site is here for their own pleasure and enjoyment.

I have seen a fair few single female profiles with less text than yours and have just moved on to the next one.

Why should I bother to message them to advise them to put a little effort into their profile. Chances are i'd either get ignored or receive a load of abuse.

You also have to consider what your profile says about you without the use of any words.

If it displays a lack of effort, any visitors will be of the opinion that if you aren't prepared to put any effort into your profile, then what about when it comes down to a meet.

You don't get a second chance to make a first impression i'm afraid.

Single guys outnumber couples and females by around 100 to 1 (or more). The ladies really can be fussy, and so you really do need to stand out."

I do know the reality of this site. I'm reminded by buisnesses when looking over cv. Ppl are busy, they don't want to look at a lot of words. They tell u to keep it simple. They will ask questions if they are interested.

Bruce lee once said be like water. My character is very adaptable. I said everything in my profile that needs to be said. I give, I take. Chatting to someone about what u like is what makes a connection between ppl. For u then know if u are comfortable. Everybody pushes things onto ppl without respecting barriers. Maybe that is why sometimes CPls, woman pass by. And I also know that ppl say they are kind.why should I express myself when ppl can't even show their face. What your asking me is to be a hypocrite.

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