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A Quest for a submissive female

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I appreciate that there are a number of posts with guys looking for sub fems but this is perhaps a little different, or it may not be, depends whether i get any responses i guess.

So, I'm looking for either a sub, or someone who has an interest in such things that wants to explore.

By sub, I'm not just looking for someone who likes rough sex, but sub in the true meaning, although the rough element may play a part, depends whether you behave as there will be an element of punishment should it be required.

It will involve control, the extent of which to be agreed by the fem i.e. from just controlled in a sexual environment, to control outside of it.

Various elements of sex to be explored that are not exactly vanilla.

Ideally local to me, so cheshire/staffordshire, however this isn't essential, as id be looking for someone to travel with me on occasion, most often to London, however, there may be an element of travel further afield dependent on how it develops.

So, if this interests anyone, send me a message and lets discuss and see where it goes. No expectations from my end as this is not necessarily for everyone, and as much as the fem is to be submissive, in reality its the fem who is in control.

Lets push some boundaries.

C

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Neglected to point out, that, if someone was to travel with me, it will of course be paid for by me

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

On this site you hear the phrase 'dim doms' a lot. Not that I'm saying you are. However, what people forget about is the 'silly subs'. Women who have heard about being a sub, read 50 Shades and think the answer to their problems lies in submitting to another man.

By offering to pay for trips, possibly abroad, you've just tapped into the Christian Grey element of 'silly subs'.

I truly hope you find what you are looking for. A true Dom/sub relationship is a beauty to behold. Just rare to find.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You know what I hadn't thought of that. Hmm this maybe difficult, well let's hope I can spot fakers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said Redangel.

I openly admit that I am maybe what you refer to as a silly sub.

Yes im that naive had no idea it existed until those books, however I know those books are pure fiction maybe elements are true but not knowing anything about it I cant comment.

I admit I am now curious and feel im missing something everything is just so boring and its like going through the motions and I am thinking of exploring this a little.

Good luck to you Sir and I hope you find a genuine lady.

xx

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

i the female, (very submissive) have thought about this for a while. we are still learning at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is certainly generating some interesting messages, keep them coming

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend


"Well said Redangel.

I openly admit that I am maybe what you refer to as a silly sub.

Yes im that naive had no idea it existed until those books, however I know those books are pure fiction maybe elements are true but not knowing anything about it I cant comment.

I admit I am now curious and feel im missing something everything is just so boring and its like going through the motions and I am thinking of exploring this a little.

Good luck to you Sir and I hope you find a genuine lady.

xx "

Curiosity is a great thing. Something we lose as adults. And exploring it does not make you a silly sub.

That you know the books to be pure fiction is a start! You know you aren't going to find your millionaire boyfriend with a damaged childhood and rescue him.

It is a fun thing to explore. Just do it safely, and don't go in with the I have no boundaries", because there are some Doms out there, that are not just dim, they are dangerous.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Agree with all of that red. There has to be a high degree if trust with these things, then it can be a lot of fun.

Trust and respect is paramount

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with both of you, trust would have to be a major part especially with some of the things that I imagine happen and yes it Is only imagination. However,id like to explore this.

Boundaries!! I have come on here with a philosophy that im willing to have a go and try most things I wont know what I like or enjoy until I try but if I say no I expect that to be respected. Please if that is wrong then I welcome your advice.

I do think though and please excuse me if im wrong that those books and others like it have fantasised that lifestyle and maybe created excuse my wording 'wannabe Doms' which is making it harder for people like yourself Sir. and also possibly for genuine subs.

I am however enjoying this discussion and learning things which I will follow up on and remember.

This may sound a stupid question as you both seem to be part of that lifestyle and know what you are talking about but is it popular here as I imagined it to be more usa than uk?

I hope I havent spoken out of turn and havent caused any offence.

Xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Pm me angel

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

There is a huge scene here in the UK. The munch/social side of the fetish scene is huge, much bigger than the swinging scene. There are sites similar to this one aimed at the kink scene, and a huge amount of markets and workshops.

Willing to try anything in the right hands can be a fantastic thing. I was lucky in that the first Dom I was with, was an amazing guy, and I have a lot to thank him for. I too had no boundaries, and he tested them, and listened to what I wanted, and in some part ignored them, and carried on. I know I can be sexually submissive to a person, but I can not be controlled in a lifestyle way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you for that information Redangel. I was unaware of that. So do you think it would be good for me to look and explore that although I have no idea what you mean by munch!!!

If it would be possible and you are willing could you possibly message me with some information that you refer to as this is something that I genuinely want to explore. I dont know how I would be or if I could but its something id like to try but as you say it has to be with someone who is willing to respect me and I trust and genuine. I only hope I may be as lucky as you in my exploring. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But caller surely this is just a way if taking a mistress and making sure she behaves?? I've known a few guys who think they are a Dominant but in reality they are a bully and mis use their power.. It us not something to me taken lightly in the aspect you want and u certainly agree with Red here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bullies/those who misuse their 'power' as you put it, are not dominant, they are simply oppressive.

A dom/sub relationship is not something to be taken lightly at all, hence my comment re: trust and respect being paramount.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was simply pointing it out Caller as Angel is contemplating this scene.. And there are so many Charlaton types out there especially married men who use it as a way of getting a mistress.. No questions asked by their sub.. They do exist. As you ask for a submissive on a deeper level and lifestyle level than a bit of spanking and tying up.. It is something not to be taken lightly... I certainly couldn't have a D/s lifestyle commitment with a Dom already committed to someone else.. But that's my personal view

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