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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

While we are all not meeting I am trying to see if I can connect with someone by personality only...however, it's not going well and it seems men need something to look at

I feel the whole personality thing may prove to be bullshit haha you need the looks to draw them in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"While we are all not meeting I am trying to see if I can connect with someone by personality only...however, it's not going well and it seems men need something to look at

I feel the whole personality thing may prove to be bullshit haha you need the looks to draw them in "

You maybe just hearing from shallow men? But if being honest, think a lot of females are just as bad if not worse..

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Anyone would be lying if they said looks weren't important but, it's the personality that's needed to draw someone in. Well me at least. I connect properly with someone through their personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone would be lying if they said looks weren't important but, it's the personality that's needed to draw someone in. Well me at least. I connect properly with someone through their personality. "

Totally agree, but personality can make a person more or less attractive..

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I like your personality and your bum seperately but equally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tits or get the fuck out

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Personality what's that ??

Cracking arse btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"tits or get the fuck out"

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel the whole personality thing may prove to be bullshit haha you need the looks to draw them in

Best I pack my bags and leave now then....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s a great idea and why not? We have enough time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I look like a potato so personality is all I have

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"While we are all not meeting I am trying to see if I can connect with someone by personality only...however, it's not going well and it seems men need something to look at

I feel the whole personality thing may prove to be bullshit haha you need the looks to draw them in "

You do have the looks though. I think that yeah, looks can attract you initially but you need that personality to keep them interested. Both of which you have, you just need more confidence and faith in your own unique brand of sexy and appealing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anyone would be lying if they said looks weren't important but, it's the personality that's needed to draw someone in. Well me at least. I connect properly with someone through their personality.

Totally agree, but personality can make a person more or less attractive.. "

Definitely.

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

I tried to connect with my inner self but got my hand stuck up my bum

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"While we are all not meeting I am trying to see if I can connect with someone by personality only...however, it's not going well and it seems men need something to look at

I feel the whole personality thing may prove to be bullshit haha you need the looks to draw them in

You do have the looks though. I think that yeah, looks can attract you initially but you need that personality to keep them interested. Both of which you have, you just need more confidence and faith in your own unique brand of sexy and appealing."

It is my personality I am failing with then

I just thought I would try and see how far I can connect using just chat and faceless connection

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The thing is, a matching personality is much harder to find than someone that you find physically attractive - so it's not necessarily that men (or women for that matter) are driven by looks alone but that finding someone you "click" with is not easy.

It *is* possible though, but ultimately physical attraction will play a part in deciding if a matched personality is on platonic terms or something more

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

It's a good social experiment, When I'm looking, I use my status updates to fish and attract certain types of men by the messages I use.

Different people respond to different things, are you looking for a certain type of man or just any personality? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This would be a great experiment if you put people together blindfolded and got them chatting to see who they clicked with. Especially if you could you feel them as well to help make an image lol

Agree with above, looks play a big part in attraction but personality binds everything together and is most important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"While we are all not meeting I am trying to see if I can connect with someone by personality only...however, it's not going well and it seems men need something to look at

I feel the whole personality thing may prove to be bullshit haha you need the looks to draw them in "

What! You're beautiful and you're lovely! X

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"While we are all not meeting I am trying to see if I can connect with someone by personality only...however, it's not going well and it seems men need something to look at

I feel the whole personality thing may prove to be bullshit haha you need the looks to draw them in "
then your talking to the wrong people ..I'll happily chat with you see if we can make a faceless connection as you put it

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By *esireXposedMan
over a year ago

East sussex

I had a personality bypass - here's my theme tune - https://youtu.be/E1I4A5yazr4

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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago

Ho Chi Minge City

Personality is the most important thing, surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love is blind, all over again. But that only worked until majority saw each other!!!

There has to be a physical attraction otherwise “the friend zone” opens up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So Angel. How is this experiment of yours supposed to work?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well... I am a firm believer that looks are initally the most important part of developing anything with someone. However, i read all the time that personality is key. So, I plan to see how I connect with people with no pictures, so personality only. Also, how far I can connect with them before I have to see a face pic.

I believe that woman are pickier than men but we will see in time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So Angel. How is this experiment of yours supposed to work?"

Hmmm. Ok I’ll answer for her as I’m impatient.

1. Gentlemen. Message Angel but with no face or dick pics on your profile.

2. Exchange lots of scrumptious, meaningful and sexy- hmmm I think- messages.

3. Only after minimum 100 messages, exchange pics and see if you still find each other attractive.

I think that’s what she wants...

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"So Angel. How is this experiment of yours supposed to work?"

I think it’s that she doesn’t want face pictures. I’ve sent a dozen dick pics so I’m probably doing great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing is, a matching personality is much harder to find than someone that you find physically attractive - so it's not necessarily that men (or women for that matter) are driven by looks alone but that finding someone you "click" with is not easy.

It *is* possible though, but ultimately physical attraction will play a part in deciding if a matched personality is on platonic terms or something more "

This! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The thing is, a matching personality is much harder to find than someone that you find physically attractive - so it's not necessarily that men (or women for that matter) are driven by looks alone but that finding someone you "click" with is not easy.

It *is* possible though, but ultimately physical attraction will play a part in deciding if a matched personality is on platonic terms or something more

This! Xx"

I think you are all right. My experiment has made me realise...you need that attraction or it is immediately friend zone

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

There can be attraction through words that don’t necessarily push someone straight into the friends zone. A good exchange of personalised erotica would keep someone attracted and teased without changing things to purely platonic.

I have chats on here about all sorts of things that are not necessarily sex related. If I’m interested, then I’m engaged and can be attracted to their personality that way before we even agree to meet.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

This is pretty much the norm for me not the exception. My very best friends met through fab are almost all people that i spent months chatting with online, often with no idea what they looked like.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think many are looking to meet based on personality. Our messages gave decreased significantly since meeting is off the cards.

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

I enjoy this way round of doing things OP. In fact, I chatted for a few weeks, if not months with a guy and we developed a very good sense of one another. When our diaries meant we could finally meet, I didn't want to see his pic - it didn't actually matter. The workings of his mind, his sense of humour and attitude are what captivated me. To carry on the mystery, we turned it into a stranger meet; I donned a blindfold and we had an incredible time. Yes, I've since seen his face and we've remained good friends.

Good luck on your quest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres a programme on Netflix at the moment called Love is Blind. Its American and people basically meet, behind screens, over a number of days and chat and get to know each other, they never see each other. After a few days they've fallen in love and wanting to spend the rest of their lives together. It's a bit cheesy but fascinating.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Ultimately it is about *both* personality and physical attraction and more importantly how we each, as individuals, balance each of those things against the other.

For me personality outweighs the physical - to give an extreme example Naomi Campbell used to be considered one of the most beautiful women in the world but I personally found her quite ugly because of her (admittedly reported as I've never met her) personality.

I also find here the people I am most attracted to are those who I build a connection and chemistry with through talking over a period of time and finding their personality attracts me - yes there is a physical level attraction to, I'd be lying if I said otherwise, but it's that interaction with their personality through the medium of text that really draws me in - and I usually spend a good deal of time chatting to people and establishing that attraction before even suggesting meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ultimately it is about *both* personality and physical attraction and more importantly how we each, as individuals, balance each of those things against the other.

For me personality outweighs the physical - to give an extreme example Naomi Campbell used to be considered one of the most beautiful women in the world but I personally found her quite ugly because of her (admittedly reported as I've never met her) personality.

I also find here the people I am most attracted to are those who I build a connection and chemistry with through talking over a period of time and finding their personality attracts me - yes there is a physical level attraction to, I'd be lying if I said otherwise, but it's that interaction with their personality through the medium of text that really draws me in - and I usually spend a good deal of time chatting to people and establishing that attraction before even suggesting meeting."

I totally agree. I am drawn to original funny messaging and quirky individuals...this I get from the messaging more from the pictures. A person doesn't have to be a super model but I like clean and nice teeth.

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By *ragoniteMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

I would try and rise to the challenge but have failed on age grounds already

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