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By *essie. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

I chat to a few here, can’t recall how our conversation started. We must have gained each other’s attention somehow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to take quite a bit of time write a tailored message to everyone I decided to try and get in touch with.

But after most of the messages were deleted without even being read, I thought “fuck that”, blocked them (just so that I don’t embrace myself by trying to message them again in a few months) and now I just send cock pics.

Since then I’ve never looked back.

#madeupstory

Will

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to take quite a bit of time write a tailored message to everyone I decided to try and get in touch with.

But after most of the messages were deleted without even being read, I thought “fuck that”, blocked them (just so that I don’t embrace myself by trying to message them again in a few months) and now I just send cock pics.

Since then I’ve never looked back.

#madeupstory

Will

X

"

Embarrass. Not embrace.

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By *ire_thornMan
over a year ago

no comment

Usually if people follow directions.

But i suppose it also depends on the context of the message

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

A well written message

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By *ophleeCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

People who take some time and care over their message and have clearly read our profile and understand our dynamic, a face pix and a smile also helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to take quite a bit of time write a tailored message to everyone I decided to try and get in touch with.

But after most of the messages were deleted without even being read, I thought “fuck that”, blocked them (just so that I don’t embrace myself by trying to message them again in a few months) and now I just send cock pics.

Since then I’ve never looked back.

#madeupstory

Will

X

"

I never got your cock

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By *illiamMeetsMan
over a year ago

sunnyside


"A well written message "

But you can't see that unless headline/subject is appealing enough to open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good manners lol but seriously I do reply to all my messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's polite then I reply.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I tend to reply to most at some point if they are a bit more than *wuu2* because that's just how I am. I like ones that show they've considered me as a person, that make me laugh. Even a couple of sentences do it. I lose interest quickly though.

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By *eachyqueen2019Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

People who’ve clearly read my profile and messaged something about it, doesn’t have to be a lot just something that shows we’ve similar interests. Or even just a how are you message if they’ve attached pictures and there profile has abit about it.

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By *ickyRoosterMan
over a year ago

Uppendown

Somebody sending me one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read a profile and only send a message if its appropriate as no point hoping if your not ticking the interests. I sometimes write nice comments on photos uploaded or if they have viewed me. I then go from there but I never pester

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

More than one word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to take quite a bit of time write a tailored message to everyone I decided to try and get in touch with.

But after most of the messages were deleted without even being read, I thought “fuck that”, blocked them (just so that I don’t embrace myself by trying to message them again in a few months) and now I just send cock pics.

Since then I’ve never looked back.

#madeupstory

Will

X

I never got your cock "

Sorry. Failed!

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"People who’ve clearly read my profile and messaged something about it, doesn’t have to be a lot just something that shows we’ve similar interests. Or even just a how are you message if they’ve attached pictures and there profile has abit about it. "

This

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By *itonmyfacebookMan
over a year ago

Burton on Trent


"I chat to a few here, can’t recall how our conversation started. We must have gained each other’s attention somehow.

"

You won't chat to me because regardless of always being civil, respectful and polite I'm blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A nice hello and comment to show they have read my profile . Not a copy and paste and getting my name right helps.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

I believe I've replied to all messages, no matter how bad or rude the subject matter was within.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A funny or well articulated message , with a face photo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the pictures that determine whether I reply or not, message could be anything as long as I find them attractive.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I reply to all initial messages, unless they're abusive.

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By *il FiskMan
over a year ago

sefton

As long as its polite and not text speak, I'll at least reply

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

Receiving one in the first place

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

If it’s a straight forward - no thought given, I reply politely with ‘ no thank you’

If it’s sent with a degree of thought - I may chat

If it’s well composed, articulate and intelligent - I will definitely engage

Next step is the dreaded FP exchange which often kills it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Receiving one in the first place "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they have read my profile and write properly I will be polite.

Sometimes a message just jumps out at me and engages me more than others.

If they send a dick pic then regardless of how nice the message is, it gets deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends for me.

If I have lot of messages, which is some times the case, I often don't see a message before FB removes it.

Often ill have a message asking me why I haven't read the first message which I haven't seen.

A message with a dick pic will be deleted straight off

If a profile is full of dick pics and nothing to tell me anything about the person I'll delete the message.

If the message makes me smile ill engage.

If its blatant 'wanna fuck' message. I'll delete.

If the person has things in their profile that I am clearly not into I don't reply..

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"I chat to a few here, can’t recall how our conversation started. We must have gained each other’s attention somehow.

"

I think it was a cuppa tea and a lunchtime bonk

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

If it's polite and well considered.

Either a forum conversation I want to have, or all of - having read my profile, matching my interests, and I think has potential.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get no one message me first to think about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever I get a message from a woman on any app it gets my attention because to get a message out of the blue is rare for me.

Usually I have to write a long well writen message in the hope of getting a reply and it usually leads to nothing.

Last night I had my first proper conversation on here and I thought it went well. At the end of the conversation I wished her good night and she wished me a good time on fab.

Today I looked at her profile again and she blocked me I can't work out why she would do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to be intrigued or a beautiful female

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

If I attach a cock pic, the girls love seeing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I chat to a few here, can’t recall how our conversation started. We must have gained each other’s attention somehow.

"

A lovely pair of eyes and a smile

Oh and no fancy a fuck :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I attach a cock pic, the girls love seeing it "

They do gag for it dont they

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reply to all initial messages, unless they're abusive. "

Or a man?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s the pictures that determine whether I reply or not, message could be anything as long as I find them attractive. "

As above but we do appreciate a well written message that does not sound like its been written by a chimp!

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By *ichaelsmyMan
over a year ago

douglas

I would take the time to read and understand a profile and what the person/people were looking for and then if I felt myself a match I would write a message just for them.

I've always remained polite etc. but It never seems to work. ignored just never read at all.

makes you wonder why/what/how people even met.

I don't have clubs etc near to me

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By *lowersandcarsCouple
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"A nice hello and comment to show they have read my profile . Not a copy and paste and getting my name right helps. "

Oh yes this!!

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By *illowzWoman
over a year ago

Exeter

Text speak does my head in. Usually go by distance, a picture of some sort - doesn't have to be face as my face pics are friends only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s the pictures that determine whether I reply or not, message could be anything as long as I find them attractive.

As above but we do appreciate a well written message that does not sound like its been written by a chimp!"

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

A sense of fun.

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By *andM25Couple
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

We like people that clearly show they have looked at our profile, a little wit and can string a full sentence together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When somebody sends me one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it looks like an original message and not copy and pasted.

Key words, confidence without thinking or stating they are BDSM Masters lol

Face pics with first message and polite.

When they have read my profile and quoted bits really gets my attention x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1) if they have or send a face photo

2) if they say more than hi , hey or Wuut

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I chat to a few here, can’t recall how our conversation started. We must have gained each other’s attention somehow.

"

Something different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not too long or cringey. Something that makes me smile

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

I reply to every messege regardless

It’s just courteous

However if your a woman I doubt you would have the time to reply to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who’ve clearly read my profile and messaged something about it, doesn’t have to be a lot just something that shows we’ve similar interests. Or even just a how are you message if they’ve attached pictures and there profile has abit about it. "

How are you with pic doesn't work at most of the times

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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My first step is if I think they're attractive - I won't generally engage if I don't want to get jiggy with them (forum conversations are the main exception to this)

Next step is to read their profile - any red flags in that and it's straight to the delete pile.

Lastly it's the message itself - again, any red flags and I press the delete button.

All the above is on the rare occasions that I actually look at the messages I've received - when I'm looking for someone new to meet (which hasn't happened for quite some time) I tend to go on the hunt myself

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