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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Now we all know how easy it is to form an opinion of someone by seeing them around here but have you ever got talking to someone and found your first impression was wrong?

Does it make you reassess how you judge people or just stick with your gut reaction?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Stick with my gut iv spoken to people on here and sometimes got it wrong

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Meaning some who I thought were OK well weren't.

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By *nglishCharmMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Listening, don't judge by photos, chemistry is by both the eyes and the most eroganous zone the mind, so I've learnt to go with animal attraction... OP, stunning photos x

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Listening, don't judge by photos, chemistry is by both the eyes and the most eroganous zone the mind, so I've learnt to go with animal attraction... OP, stunning photos x"

Thanks

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Only once on here, so far.

She even told me that she was a nightmare, but I continued to try to form a friendship.

I should've listened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not so much here but I’ve unfollowed and even unfriended some people on Facebook over status updates they’ve had through this virus business seeing their mindset and beliefs has been offputting.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I don't really form opinons of anyone, everyone is a mixture of everything to differing degrees that can change but most people are predictable despite this.

I think this is because i have no ego and so can't even judge myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only once on here, so far.

She even told me that she was a nightmare, but I continued to try to form a friendship.

I should've listened. "

Sounds familiar but with someone from outside. Unfortunately I am an optimist. My curse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you have to remember that fabulust is a sheen that we see on people at first that sometimes dullens as quickly as it sparkled.

Equally there are some truly wonderful people on here that stay wonderful throughout.

Then there are just some for whom you hit the block button.

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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago

atlantisEVOLUTION Swingers Club. Stoke

Our version of swinging goes something like this . . .

• • • Meet you.

• • • Get to know you.

• • • See if I fancy you.

• • • See if I want to swing with you.

• • • Anything else just wouldn't be swinging!

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

It’s funny, I’ve never really considered it, I’d say no however I think and I hope some people’s opinions of myself have changed for the better when they’ve got to know me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s happened other way round someone messaged me to rant and ended up liking me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all honesty, I don’t really judge people until I get to know them.

Also, I don’t have the friendliest of faces on here I don’t think. Think I’ve got a bit of a mean face but when people start talking to me, they realise ‘hold on a minute, he’s the total opposite’.

And, without sounding like a broken record, many of my meets on here have always turned around and said ‘you know what, I didn’t realise we’d click so much, you ain’t that bad’

(Aww)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What kinda shoes you wearing rubberduck ?

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

It happens, every now and then the real person is very different to the online persona.

I am absolutely nothing like the twat online. (Better looking for starters)

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"It happens, every now and then the real person is very different to the online persona.

I am absolutely nothing like the twat online. (Better looking for starters)"

So why not be yourself on line.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Its very rare i have on here ,

I usually stick with my instinct and it serves me right

In real life i have changed my mind about people a couple of times.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"Not so much here but I’ve unfollowed and even unfriended some people on Facebook over status updates they’ve had through this virus business seeing their mindset and beliefs has been offputting. "

I know what you mean Ms Wilkes, I've had to really bite my tongue on FB in regards to the comments some family members have made.

When meeting in a club, I go initially by attraction, I usually like to have a chat first and that can sometimes put me off people. On here, the forums can be make or break for me, someone who at first comes across as sexy and nice can after many threads be revealed as anything but or vice versa.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Generally my gut instinct will steer me right, but charlatans with hidden agendas unfortunately will break through occasionally

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular


"It happens, every now and then the real person is very different to the online persona.

I am absolutely nothing like the twat online. (Better looking for starters)

So why not be yourself on line."

That would be like going out without makeup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've ever experienced this. I take people at face value, so you're alright in my book until you do or say something to make me feel otherwise.

True dickheads like to make themselves known very quickly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What kinda shoes you wearing rubberduck ?"

None. My tootsies are naked

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

We heavily rely on our gut feeling - you should never judge a book by its cover. However, the gut instinct is rarely wrong...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It happens, every now and then the real person is very different to the online persona.

I am absolutely nothing like the twat online. (Better looking for starters)"

This is what I was actually discussing with someone that made me ask this question.

I was saying my online personsa is me but just a different version, on here I'm not shy or paranoid, I'm not going to ever meet 99% of the people so it's not as important to be liked or to be embarrassed by being silly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its hard for me to get a proper impression of someone just from the forum, its talking through messages I get to know them more and get more of a flavour for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sad to say but on the rare occasions, my perception of people have changed.

I hope that people who message me know I’m quite nice and if they don’t listen to gossip , hopefully I’ll remain that way to them too

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

I find multimedia an almost impossible way to get to know the true person behind the key pad, only through meeting, time and what they do, can I truly understand them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What kinda shoes you wearing rubberduck ?

None. My tootsies are naked "

Blank canvas... I like it

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’ve an excellent BS radar which very rarely leaves me. I always stand by my gut. If you’re on my block list then it’s for good reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my experience people can come across as nice, genuine people. However, get them off fab or sending PM messages they are often very very different with the forum mask off.

My gut instinct on people is usually right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happens, every now and then the real person is very different to the online persona.

"

I'm quite wary of guys that claim that

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I’ve an excellent BS radar which very rarely leaves me. I always stand by my gut. If you’re on my block list then it’s for good reason"

Why did you block me?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"I’ve an excellent BS radar which very rarely leaves me. I always stand by my gut. If you’re on my block list then it’s for good reason

Why did you block me?"

If I blocked you we couldn’t arrange our weekly meet then could we

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happens, every now and then the real person is very different to the online persona.

I'm quite wary of guys that claim that "

My nob isn’t actually blue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happens, every now and then the real person is very different to the online persona.

I'm quite wary of guys that claim that

My nob isn’t actually blue."

Dammit, it wouldnt shine out through my belly skin as you were inside me?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I’ve an excellent BS radar which very rarely leaves me. I always stand by my gut. If you’re on my block list then it’s for good reason

Why did you block me?

If I blocked you we couldn’t arrange our weekly meet then could we "

Cruel Unblock me.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"I’ve an excellent BS radar which very rarely leaves me. I always stand by my gut. If you’re on my block list then it’s for good reason

Why did you block me?

If I blocked you we couldn’t arrange our weekly meet then could we

Cruel Unblock me."

You need to kiss the tip first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happens, every now and then the real person is very different to the online persona.

I'm quite wary of guys that claim that

My nob isn’t actually blue.

Dammit, it wouldnt shine out through my belly skin as you were inside me? "

Don’t despair...

It’d still be a highlight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happens, every now and then the real person is very different to the online persona.

I'm quite wary of guys that claim that

My nob isn’t actually blue.

Dammit, it wouldnt shine out through my belly skin as you were inside me?

Don’t despair...

It’d still be a highlight "

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I’ve an excellent BS radar which very rarely leaves me. I always stand by my gut. If you’re on my block list then it’s for good reason

Why did you block me?

If I blocked you we couldn’t arrange our weekly meet then could we

Cruel Unblock me.

You need to kiss the tip first "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people I thought would be quite nice, turn out to not be

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I go with my gut instinct and my tolerance level gauge. Both are fairly accurate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From my experience people can come across as nice, genuine people. However, get them off fab or sending PM messages they are often very very different with the forum mask off.

My gut instinct on people is usually right

"

This is so right too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I trust my gut instinct and usually it’s right. Except for men I’m interested in sexually. Then it just poofs out of existence. Then I trust AngelEyes as I’ve chatted to some real tosspots on here who were great to begin with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as real life

.. Takes me ages to drop my walls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go with my gut instinct and my tolerance level gauge. Both are fairly accurate "

My tolerance button is almost zero.. 3 messages and I'm out haha

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I always go on my gut instincts, and they have never let me down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is one lady who I think is up her own arse but I'd like to be proven wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm. well you know how with Covid they say to act as though everyone you come into contact with is infected, so as to keep a safe distance and follow procedures to keep yourself safe.

Yeah that's pretty much how I see people, a dangerous infectious virus that will create devastation and destruction, some won't mean to, they just don't realise whilst others will take great pleasure in it.

Some I get a good vibe from without meeting, generally those that open up and have their vulnerability on show. But once I meet people in the flesh I'll know.

My gut is rarely wrong.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s a few, some have been exactly as expected but there are a few who are diamonds. Without blowing my own trumpet I’ve had it said to me that I’ve been not what they expected (in a good way)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have stopped expecting anything based on a profile. I think that how we judge and show ourselves on a profile is very different to the person we end up talking with. Plus no one should judge a book by its cover!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I trust my gut reaction, im always spot on. Even on here with face pics I can tell when I say no thankyou who will reply aggressively back x

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"I always go on my gut instincts, and they have never let me down.

"
this

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

We always meet for a drink and chat initially.

Never played on first meets except swingers holidays.

Worse thing that can happen is a night chatting in the pub.

Only had a few where we can't wait to leave.

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By *iercedlotsCouple
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is one lady who I think is up her own arse but I'd like to be proven wrong."

You're right. I totally am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is one lady who I think is up her own arse but I'd like to be proven wrong.

You're right. I totally am."

Ha it's not you

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