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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My friend is new to the forums and just getting used to them which got me thinking about what he needs to know.

Obviously fab has set rules but what are the unwritten rules that help you make the most of the place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know "

It is! It's a revelation when you find it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't just talk to the people you fancy! And don't follow them around threads

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't just talk to the people you fancy! And don't follow them around threads "

Oh god yes! Don't comment on everything single thing they say!

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By *ee04Man
over a year ago

Essex

Be polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There used to be a sort of manual written by Ghenghis..wonder if its still somewhere out there?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Dont take it seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t forget to laugh at my jokes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Be polite "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There used to be a sort of manual written by Ghenghis..wonder if its still somewhere out there? "

I haven't seen that, maybe someone will dig it up.

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

Rem_mber that everyone can read what you've written not just the person you're responding to. Represent yourself as you want to be seen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dont take it seriously "

Definitely!

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By *oneyBear100Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick area


"There used to be a sort of manual written by Ghenghis..wonder if its still somewhere out there? "

Is Ghenghis still around? Not seen him around in ages and he was always funny.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don’t forget to laugh at my jokes "

And/or groan and shake your head

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Rem_mber that everyone can read what you've written not just the person you're responding to. Represent yourself as you want to be seen."

Especially if you're being creepy or rude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My friend is new to the forums and just getting used to them which got me thinking about what he needs to know.

Obviously fab has set rules but what are the unwritten rules that help you make the most of the place?

"

Enjoy the banter on the forums ,they are ment to be fun for everyone .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don’t forget to laugh at my jokes

And/or groan and shake your head "

Haha yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There used to be a sort of manual written by Ghenghis..wonder if its still somewhere out there?

Is Ghenghis still around? Not seen him around in ages and he was always funny."

Permanent ban I think?

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know "

Why is that?? I never check the green arrow :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My green arrow must be all over the place.

Do your own thing is what I say. But, it all depends what you’re using the forums for I suppose. In the previous years I loved getting to know everyone, loved the socials and everything that came with it.

But, now, I haven’t got much time to spend on the forums but is nice to take my mind off a busy day and see what’s weird and wonderful in the world of fab.

Unwritten rule - do your own thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont message over and over and over again. If someone wants to reply they will.. when they are ready.

Dont let rejection put you off. There are thousands out there. You cant be everyone's cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay away from queenie, shes a bully

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Believe everything!!

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Believe everything!!

Jo.Xx "

Huh?

Haha did you mean believe nothing ?

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By *uciferLingerieMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Dont message over and over and over again. If someone wants to reply they will.. when they are ready.

Dont let rejection put you off. There are thousands out there. You cant be everyone's cup of tea. "

I'm definitely not everyone's cup of tea but still nice chatting and finding new friends! Still don't know what the green arrow is for though! x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know "

I never do this, but it's seems a lot of people do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's unwritten rules? :o....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the sock fits see if you can find the other one

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Believe everything!!

Jo.Xx

Huh?

Haha did you mean believe nothing ?"

Hahaha.

It was sarcasm my love.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know

Why is that?? I never check the green arrow :/"

It's good for seeing the types of things someone posts, if they always do the same type of threads or if they are a bit of a wind up trying to get people to bite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use the search function to check if your query or discussion topic has been answered or hashed out already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Still don't know what the green arrow is for though! x"

To see last posts the person contributed to..just click and get reading it helps if you want to get to know someone a little before messaging them privately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's unwritten rules? :o.... "

You need this thread too!

I had to learn these with no help

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By *nkforthekinkMan
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know "

Haha slightly concerned I don’t. I what the green arrow is about haha

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Hit reply and quote when you're replying to people on a thread Oh, and don't be a dick!

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's unwritten rules? :o....

You need this thread too!

I had to learn these with no help "

Indeed. Tis the newbie life for me at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont take it too serious, but be careful who you trust. And beware of little kik and WhatsApp groups of people having a laugh at your expense.

Other than that, just have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know

Haha slightly concerned I don’t. I what the green arrow is about haha "

Can you see your username? It's a little green arrow pointing right next to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont take it too serious, but be careful who you trust. And beware of little kik and WhatsApp groups of people having a laugh at your expense.

Other than that, just have fun "

I didnt know they did this, might hang my boots up now because I know I would have made a fool of myself a few times

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Use the search function to check if your query or discussion topic has been answered or hashed out already. "

Yes!

Does size matter?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dont take it too serious, but be careful who you trust. And beware of little kik and WhatsApp groups of people having a laugh at your expense.

Other than that, just have fun

I didnt know they did this, might hang my boots up now because I know I would have made a fool of myself a few times "

You're OK, it's only THAT pic doing the rounds

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By *artinbobMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know

It is! It's a revelation when you find it "

I only learnt this 2 days ago. Mind blowing hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There used to be a sort of manual written by Ghenghis..wonder if its still somewhere out there?

Is Ghenghis still around? Not seen him around in ages and he was always funny.

Permanent ban I think?"

Sadly he was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont take it too serious, but be careful who you trust. And beware of little kik and WhatsApp groups of people having a laugh at your expense.

Other than that, just have fun

I didnt know they did this, might hang my boots up now because I know I would have made a fool of myself a few times "

I've heard people do that but I still struggle to believe that as it's so cringey!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont take it too serious, but be careful who you trust. And beware of little kik and WhatsApp groups of people having a laugh at your expense.

Other than that, just have fun

I didnt know they did this, might hang my boots up now because I know I would have made a fool of myself a few times

You're OK, it's only THAT pic doing the rounds "

Only one person who's seen that one

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know

Why is that?? I never check the green arrow :/

It's good for seeing the types of things someone posts, if they always do the same type of threads or if they are a bit of a wind up trying to get people to bite. "

Ohhhh gosh, I didn’t even know

I will be poking a few arrows now lol

Thank you for letting me know, I’m learning it all to with your friend

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dont take it too serious, but be careful who you trust. And beware of little kik and WhatsApp groups of people having a laugh at your expense.

Other than that, just have fun

I didnt know they did this, might hang my boots up now because I know I would have made a fool of myself a few times

You're OK, it's only THAT pic doing the rounds

Only one person who's seen that one "

I deleted it after a quick peek. My eyes hurt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All women are either fake or lesbians

All men are either taken or scum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know

Why is that?? I never check the green arrow :/

It's good for seeing the types of things someone posts, if they always do the same type of threads or if they are a bit of a wind up trying to get people to bite.

Ohhhh gosh, I didn’t even know

I will be poking a few arrows now lol

Thank you for letting me know, I’m learning it all to with your friend "

Dont poke mine please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont take it too serious, but be careful who you trust. And beware of little kik and WhatsApp groups of people having a laugh at your expense.

Other than that, just have fun

I didnt know they did this, might hang my boots up now because I know I would have made a fool of myself a few times

You're OK, it's only THAT pic doing the rounds

Only one person who's seen that one

I deleted it after a quick peek. My eyes hurt "

Cheers, just put the whole forum off me

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By *uciferLingerieMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Still don't know what the green arrow is for though! x

To see last posts the person contributed to..just click and get reading it helps if you want to get to know someone a little before messaging them privately. "

Oh right! Thanks for that T!

Also a couple of my own rules are...

* Take a decline with good grace, it doesn't mean you still can't chat to and be friends with them!

* Don't be a c*nt !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All women are either fake or lesbians

All men are either taken or scum "

True that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All women are either fake or lesbians

All men are either taken or scum "

And PoF only ever speaks his honest thoughts, he never ever takes the piss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be a c**t

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dont take it too serious, but be careful who you trust. And beware of little kik and WhatsApp groups of people having a laugh at your expense.

Other than that, just have fun

I didnt know they did this, might hang my boots up now because I know I would have made a fool of myself a few times

You're OK, it's only THAT pic doing the rounds

Only one person who's seen that one

I deleted it after a quick peek. My eyes hurt

Cheers, just put the whole forum off me "

The rumour mills have started. What could it have been!?! What did he show her!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi all thanks for the advice and ruby for setting it up . I’m the friend lol . The mr . All duely noted sound bites . Easy going guy anyway .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont take it too serious, but be careful who you trust. And beware of little kik and WhatsApp groups of people having a laugh at your expense.

Other than that, just have fun

I didnt know they did this, might hang my boots up now because I know I would have made a fool of myself a few times

You're OK, it's only THAT pic doing the rounds

Only one person who's seen that one

I deleted it after a quick peek. My eyes hurt

Cheers, just put the whole forum off me

The rumour mills have started. What could it have been!?! What did he show her!?! "

Shhh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi all thanks for the advice and ruby for setting it up . I’m the friend lol . The mr . All duely noted sound bites . Easy going guy anyway . "

Hey

Welcome

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By *artinbobMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"There used to be a sort of manual written by Ghenghis..wonder if its still somewhere out there?

Is Ghenghis still around? Not seen him around in ages and he was always funny.

Permanent ban I think?

Sadly he was. "

Not that I want to try but how do you get a permanent ban?? I didn’t know them but I suspect you got to piss off a lot of people to get that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont take it too serious, but be careful who you trust. And beware of little kik and WhatsApp groups of people having a laugh at your expense.

Other than that, just have fun "

Completely agree about the group thing xx

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"There used to be a sort of manual written by Ghenghis..wonder if its still somewhere out there?

Is Ghenghis still around? Not seen him around in ages and he was always funny."

Nope...he hasn't been here forages

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Dick pics. The ladies love dick pics

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By *leasure4leisureMan
over a year ago

south


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know "

I have a green arrow but don’t know what they are for ?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know

Why is that?? I never check the green arrow :/"

I'm clearly stupid or tired, or both...

Green arrow??

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Just be nice - technical term = don't be a twat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All women are either fake or lesbians

All men are either taken or scum

And PoF only ever speaks his honest thoughts, he never ever takes the piss. "

I am truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all thanks for the advice and ruby for setting it up . I’m the friend lol . The mr . All duely noted sound bites . Easy going guy anyway .

Hey

Welcome "
thank u .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know

I have a green arrow but don’t know what they are for ?! "

The green arrow next to a person's name shows you the last 35 threads they posted on.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"Just be nice - technical term = don't be a twat. "

That.

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know

Why is that?? I never check the green arrow :/

It's good for seeing the types of things someone posts, if they always do the same type of threads or if they are a bit of a wind up trying to get people to bite.

Ohhhh gosh, I didn’t even know

I will be poking a few arrows now lol

Thank you for letting me know, I’m learning it all to with your friend

Dont poke mine please "

Lol

The first one I’m poking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dick pics. The ladies love dick pics "

Especially on St Patricks day... Oh that made me laugh.

Very good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know

Why is that?? I never check the green arrow :/

I'm clearly stupid or tired, or both...

Green arrow?? "

I'm clearly blind as well, because I'm not seeing a green arrow

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"All women are either fake or lesbians

All men are either taken or scum

And PoF only ever speaks his honest thoughts, he never ever takes the piss.

I am truth "

Are you taken or scum?

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know

Why is that?? I never check the green arrow :/

I'm clearly stupid or tired, or both...

Green arrow??

I'm clearly blind as well, because I'm not seeing a green arrow "

Next to the name of the poster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know

Why is that?? I never check the green arrow :/

I'm clearly stupid or tired, or both...

Green arrow??

I'm clearly blind as well, because I'm not seeing a green arrow "

IGNORE!! I've JUST spotted it!

Well bugger me I've never noticed that before lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read them for about a month before I ever posted, got the feel of things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know

I have a green arrow but don’t know what they are for ?!

The green arrow next to a person's name shows you the last 35 threads they posted on. "

Total revelation! Never knew this. Thank you

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Don't always speak your mind as you could end up on the naughty step.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All women are either fake or lesbians

All men are either taken or scum

And PoF only ever speaks his honest thoughts, he never ever takes the piss.

I am truth

Are you taken or scum?

"

Definitely scum

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By *artinbobMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know

Why is that?? I never check the green arrow :/

I'm clearly stupid or tired, or both...

Green arrow??

I'm clearly blind as well, because I'm not seeing a green arrow

IGNORE!! I've JUST spotted it!

Well bugger me I've never noticed that before lol "

Well bugger me??? That will get you attention

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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Rem_mber labnol website can be a great friend!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always check the green arrow.. Not really a rule but definitely a useful thing to know

Why is that?? I never check the green arrow :/

It's good for seeing the types of things someone posts, if they always do the same type of threads or if they are a bit of a wind up trying to get people to bite.

Ohhhh gosh, I didn’t even know

I will be poking a few arrows now lol

Thank you for letting me know, I’m learning it all to with your friend

Dont poke mine please

Lol

The first one I’m poking "

Oh dear

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

Be yourself not the person you think people want you to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t put other groups down when praising another.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"Dick pics. The ladies love dick pics

Especially on St Patricks day... Oh that made me laugh.

Very good "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol I’m from Dublin anyway so the st Patrick’s day advice is banked lol . Cheers for the comments and advice . All sound c**ts

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"Dont take it too serious, but be careful who you trust. And beware of little kik and WhatsApp groups of people having a laugh at your expense.

Other than that, just have fun

I didnt know they did this, might hang my boots up now because I know I would have made a fool of myself a few times "

Be yourself here. It's never worth short-changing of yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything written is someone’s opinion!

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