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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good evening

Throughout my adult life I’ve performed anal sex with a handful of women and one guy but I’ve only ever been taken the once .

It was a awful experience very painful and very messy I bleed for days afterwards.

If tried playing on my own with toys but I can only expect a couple of inches then I tense up and it starts to hurt .

I’d love to take more any suggestions please x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it hurts ... please don’t do it

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

Sounds like your rushing it, the trick is really not to tense up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

loads of lube - loads!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start small, like a bullet, with plenty of lube. Relax x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it hurts, you are not relaxing and should stop.

Plenty of lube is advisable, try experimenting with a plug first

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Really ok

That’s a shame but thanks for the advice x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I suppose it is a little rushed , but god it takes forever to even get a little inside me .

I get so far probably 2 to 3 inches and then my bottom clamps up x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do lots doesn’t help

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By *ip2Man
over a year ago

Near Maidenhead

What toys are you using?

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By *ee04Man
over a year ago

Essex

It’s the relaxing you have to get to grips with. Try a small butt plug and then leave it in there then slowly increase the size leaving it up there. This will help you relax as you go forward

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve done this with a carrot shaped toy not successfully,sorry x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I use a carrot shaped Tay tapered from finger sized to fat cock size vibrates too I can only get a quarter in x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do it then. I cant understand it

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Firstly how clean are you? Do you douche before any anal play?

Secondly are you using just fingers or trying to go with larger toys?

I'd recommend douching and having a hot bath beforehand, the key is being as relaxed as possible, and a bath can help with that.

Once you're sure you are clean and relaxed, using just your fingers, and plenty of lube, if you think you have enough lube put some more on, just gently insert a finger, concentrate on both breathing and relaxing, don't try and push it all the way in, just get used to the sensation and when you feel ready move it slowly further in, taking time to breath and relax - if it feels uncomfortable take it out or edge it back a little - continue to do that until you feel comfortable and are happy doing so, then add another finger or get a very small butt plug or anal beads and repeat the process with them - there are some very good anal starter kits on Lovehoney and they also have good advice on how to use them.

Only go larger when you are ready to, and take it slowly at each step.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP if you use reply+quote we will know who you are replying to x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the information, but must admit I’ve tried these techniques but without success.

As you say think I need to relax more and give myself lots of time , lol didn’t help when your horny as fuck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP if you use reply+quote we will know who you are replying to x"
ok sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do it then. I cant understand it"
i like the feel around my bottom

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Thanks for the information, but must admit I’ve tried these techniques but without success.

As you say think I need to relax more and give myself lots of time , lol didn’t help when your horny as fuck x"

Thing is like most things, it's not for everyone and you may not physically be built for anything more than you can take - as others have said if it's causing you pain and discomfort all the time regardless of how relaxed and slowly you take it - why persevere? Just find other ways to experience pleasure

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the information, but must admit I’ve tried these techniques but without success.

As you say think I need to relax more and give myself lots of time , lol didn’t help when your horny as fuck x

Thing is like most things, it's not for everyone and you may not physically be built for anything more than you can take - as others have said if it's causing you pain and discomfort all the time regardless of how relaxed and slowly you take it - why persevere? Just find other ways to experience pleasure "
fair comment just like the feeling around my bottom and the excitement that I’m giving myself wholly to someone.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use loads of lubricant, a condom on the dildo, and get the angle correct on entry of the dildo, to match up with the anal canal. And take it very slowly and tiny amounts each time, before you know it you will be dying for the real thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Use loads of lubricant, a condom on the dildo, and get the angle correct on entry of the dildo, to match up with the anal canal. And take it very slowly and tiny amounts each time, before you know it you will be dying for the real thing "
thanks

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By *notherGirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Somewhere

Sweetie, just play around the outside. Little buzzy toys are fun. Penetration isn’t everything.

I also found Prosecco helps relaxation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It feels nice holding a vibey against my bottom and even the first couple of inches , if I try to go further it feels like it’s pushing it back out x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Sweetie, just play around the outside. Little buzzy toys are fun. Penetration isn’t everything.

I also found Prosecco helps relaxation. "

Excellent advice

Seriously OP if you've found your comfort zone just enjoy that and perhaps if you find yourself relaxing and being used to it you can build from there in time just don't try and push it (pun intended )

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By *uddleWithCraigMan
over a year ago

Wolverhampton or Travels

I use loads of lube and there some stuff on Love Hunny which could relax your bum muscles to make it easier, but take it slowly and build it up as you feel it’s getting easier.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Breathing and relaxation are key and can be practiced alone, for as long as you want to. Breathing well will ensure your body is fully aerated, blood supply is good etc. If nothing else, you can incrementally increase your time that you last for. Be warm, so your body isn't restricted from fully relaxing.

Experiment. Lots of different positions, find what you like. Had enough? Stop.

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By *brightoneMan
over a year ago

Beverley

Maybe consider using p..pers.

They are common in the gay community and doubt if they wouldn't help a woman considering anal sex. I googled this and some interesting views worth reading.

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By *onyMad123Couple
over a year ago

nottingham/ derby

Depth isn't everything and even now, I don't like it deep deep unless in totally relaxed and that's years and years of practice, consider the lube you are using, most water based are not good for anal, as it sucks up water, a oil based is better although very careful to use compatable condoms as many oil based cause them to perish.

Everyone is built different, you may have a very tight muscle or a shorter than average internal part, just do what feels good, it take time to be totally comfy with anal, in 21 year's only the last 10 it's been a regular part of play for me (fem) and only with my partner and one other a lil bit recently, yet when roles reversed he isn't keen or comfy with more than a finger tip, which is cool as not my thing but you don't know until u try x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be careful. If it hurts don’t do it.

An ex gf tried a dildo on me once - the operation to repair the resulting anal tear was one of the most painful experiences in my life.

Put me off giving or receiving anal for life.

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By *acca2020Man
over a year ago

Failsworth / Manchester

I love anal sex.. No pain No gain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be a man and just ram it up ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good evening

Throughout my adult life I’ve performed anal sex with a handful of women and one guy but I’ve only ever been taken the once .

It was a awful experience very painful and very messy I bleed for days afterwards.

If tried playing on my own with toys but I can only expect a couple of inches then I tense up and it starts to hurt .

I’d love to take more any suggestions please x"

I’d say, you have to find someone who Is gonna be gentle , maybe they were too rough with you and you weren’t relaxed enough... needs a lot of patience I guess if u are a beginner. it helps to play with toys before hands

But if it’s too painful or uncomfortable , don’t do it and just play with urself with toys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find a smaller cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick the carrot to the floor with blutak and jump off the wardrobe pulling your knees close to your chest and shout ‘divebommazzzzz’

That should help get it in a bit better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it hurts then don’t do it lol

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Have you got piles ?

Twisted bowel ?

Scar tissue?

Maybe things aren't supposed to go up there?

Why people try to horn size 10 feet into baby bootess is beyond me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had 8 and 9 inches. Loads of lube. Fingers, then dick usually works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do it then. I cant understand it"

"The greatest danger in life is not to take the adventure"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you find a tiny butt plug and start with that and loads of lube. Stretching a little with your fingers first. Its the ring of muscle that I find causes the pain, once past it its better. Daily anal training will help xx

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