FabSwingers.com forum: Mortality

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I apologise now for the morose nature of this thread.

Is it just me or is this whole thing making you think more about how fragile life is?

I've always been a live in the moment kinda person, this is the first time in my life I'm actively doing things to keep myself and my loved ones alive.

Have things changed for you? Are you thinking more about death or is it something you were already conscious of? Do you think it'll change you long term? Are you scared? Is that more for yourself or for others?

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

yeah there

Big time, we're a long time dead so enjoy all life has to give and you can give to others xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Big time, we're a long time dead so enjoy all life has to give and you can give to others xx"

That's the thing, my over active mind runs to what if this is it? We never return to normal and get the chance to live life to the fullest!?! What a waste!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been fascinated with death, I'm not morbid or anything. I was brought up quite strict protestant, which I think probably has something to do with said fascination..

I don't think I have been thinking more about my own mortality though, been thinking of my immediate family and to all others who are being tragically taken from this awful pandemic.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Its Scary but I'm trying to carry on as normal and following rules etc but times are strained

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

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I believe we are eternal beings, so death don't scare me at all. But losing love ones at the min is my main concern

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's making me realise I'm simply getting older, time is running out and tomorrow isn't promised.

I spend so much time insecure about the future, and that's pointless as there may not even be a future.

Live for now, but not too recklessly.

I'm gonna be the best me I can be, I owe myself and those around me that much.

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By *ustme1820Woman
over a year ago

Southcoast Gosport

This week I’ve been organising from home my uncle’s care to move him into a hospice, now just finalised and he’s going this afternoon. I had my will rewritten two weeks ago and was due to sign it this week Compounded by the situation were all in mortality is playing a huge part in my life right now.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I've been well aware of my mortality since my teens. My terminally ill aunt lived much of her last 3 years with us. I was 17 when she died.

I try to make the most of life and would rather have experiences than things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's making me realise I'm simply getting older, time is running out and tomorrow isn't promised.

I spend so much time insecure about the future, and that's pointless as there may not even be a future.

Live for now, but not too recklessly.

I'm gonna be the best me I can be, I owe myself and those around me that much.

Doesn't do well to dwell on the past, and try not to worry about future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Big time, we're a long time dead so enjoy all life has to give and you can give to others xx

That's the thing, my over active mind runs to what if this is it? We never return to normal and get the chance to live life to the fullest!?! What a waste!

Mine is thinking that. I'm almost at resigned myself to certain things I don't want to think about but can't see being any different. Future plans will only ever be future plans if nothing actually changes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely, I worry for my family

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

T was seriously ill 3/4 years ago. Life was suddenly put into perspective then. Luckily he received amazing (& very expensive) care from our fabulous NHS in 4 hospitals & is now 3 years in remission. Every day is precious

J x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Am I scared of dying? No. I'm scared of leaving loved ones behind and not being there for them in the coming years. That worries me at times, I know how hard I found it without certain people.

I've always been quite conscious about death and how fragile life is; with the loss of people dear to me in the past year or so I'd say I've become even more aware of it. The past few weeks have made me more determined to actually live life fully and to stop overthinking and being so in my head.

I don't want to get to the point where I think "oh I should have told them I loved, I should have enjoyed my body and all it can do more". My dear friend Emma before she died spoke about all these daft plans we made when we were little and how few we realised - she won't be there for my wedding, we never went to New Orleans or spent the day buying fancy clothes and driving in a sports car.

So I think that if anything, Covid hasn't made me more afraid of dying; just more aware that I want to and need to really live life. And cherish those who I am lucky enough to have in my life because one day I'll go to message them and they won't be there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"T was seriously ill 3/4 years ago. Life was suddenly put into perspective then. Luckily he received amazing (& very expensive) care from our fabulous NHS in 4 hospitals & is now 3 years in remission. Every day is precious

J x"

I'm glad he's OK now x

That's the thing, for many of us it takes something drastic to make us think about it. I'm not sure if that's a good or a bad thing though.

I guess it could go either way, spur us on to make the most of life or terrify us into hiding away.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I am not afraid to die. I have had a great life and lots of happily memories but i would worry about what it would do to my family if i were suddenly gone.

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

The odds are stacked against me age wise and health wise but I am fighting with every bone in my body to ensure my survival. Not the easiest of tasks as I am helping my neighbours, both have cancer, and also a friend who is a 24/7 carer for her disabled sister.

When it starts to get on top of me I play my favorite Barclay James Harvest track" Life is for living,and living is free", have a glass of single malt and remember that there is always someone worse off than me.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

J x

I'm glad he's OK now x

That's the thing, for many of us it takes something drastic to make us think about it. I'm not sure if that's a good or a bad thing though.

I guess it could go either way, spur us on to make the most of life or terrify us into hiding away. "

I seem do a bit of both!! Right now I’ll admit I’m pretty scared

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The odds are stacked against me age wise and health wise but I am fighting with every bone in my body to ensure my survival. Not the easiest of tasks as I am helping my neighbours, both have cancer, and also a friend who is a 24/7 carer for her disabled sister.

I'm going to look up your song

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

I'm going to look up your song

Please do, there are few renditions on You Tube, Have been a great fan for more years than I can remember.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Given my long term mental health issues I've always been aware of and accepting of my own mortality.

Not so much of others. Suffering or death.

This is making me more fiercely protective of those I care about (much to their irritation at the moment). More appreciative of the fabric of society that sustains us all.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’m definitely not afraid of dying, can’t come soon enough for me.

I wouldn’t wish it on others of course

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"It's making me realise I'm simply getting older, time is running out and tomorrow isn't promised.

I spend so much time insecure about the future, and that's pointless as there may not even be a future.

Live for now, but not too recklessly.

I'm gonna be the best me I can be, I owe myself and those around me that much.

Exactly this

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