FabSwingers.com forum: Do you find it rude when

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

...messaging and someone reads the message then takes a while to reply?

I only ask this because if someone messages me and I want to give a proper reply I will normally take a while to reply. I’m simply not wanting to reply straight away and give a half arsed response, especially if I’m busy at the time and really a quick reply would be more of an acknowledgment of their message than a reciprocal reply.

I only thought recently people may see this as a lack of interest?

What do you all think??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Nope, I don’t find it rude at all, people reply when they can, not when I want

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i find it more rude when some one messaged me first asking how i am then immediately goes offline for the next 10 hours

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

So long as it’s not longer than 48 hours.

I mean there’s thinking of a response and then there’s taking the piss...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope, I don’t find it rude at all, people reply when they can, not when I want

D."

To be fair now I think about it, it’s often the guys who send the barrage of “???” messages however I have had a couple who sent some abuse back and called me a timewaster for not replying within about 20minutes. Well I thought fair enough guess it shows me that they’re not for me!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.... it can take ages for me to reply

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i find it more rude when some one messaged me first asking how i am then immediately goes offline for the next 10 hours

I know what you mean

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"...messaging and someone reads the message then takes a while to reply?

I only thought recently people may see this as a lack of interest?

What do you all think??"

I don’t think it’s rude at all.

I don’t usually read a message until I’ve got time to sit and reply.

It’s also different depending on whether I’m hoping to meet this person or not.

If it’s just a general chat then I wouldn’t mind when they get back to me.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So long as it’s not longer than 48 hours.

I mean there’s thinking of a response and then there’s taking the piss... "

I shall set 48 hours as the limit then

I’ll be needing an app to remind me when to reply!! I say that as if I have floods of messages haha.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Nope, I don’t find it rude at all, people reply when they can, not when I want

That’s a bit silly. 20 minutes isn’t exactly that much time.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No.... it can take ages for me to reply"

Me too! Even with friends on whatsapp I’ll reply later and give them my full attention rather than a rapid “oh wow” or “thats sad” response which can come across as indifference.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"So long as it’s not longer than 48 hours.

I mean there’s thinking of a response and then there’s taking the piss...

I shall set 48 hours as the limit then

I’ll be needing an app to remind me when to reply!! I say that as if I have floods of messages haha. "

Only teasing

but there are guys on here who message you and then dissapear (after you’ve responded) and then reply weeks or months later like nothings happened. Now THAT is taking the piss, and the only acceptable excuse is that you’ve been ki*n*pped by aliens

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You get replies? I'm doing something wrong

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t find it rude. It’s the people that can’t be bothered to make proper conversation that irritates me. I’d much rather wait for a considered response.

It annoys me when men continually message ‘???’ Or say ‘you’re clearly not interested as you haven’t replied’ (within 20 mins).

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No.... it can take ages for me to reply

Me too! Even with friends on whatsapp I’ll reply later and give them my full attention rather than a rapid “oh wow” or “thats sad” response which can come across as indifference. "

I can reply quickly, it just depends

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *imes_berksMan
over a year ago

Bracknell

I I'll reply to this topic within 48 hours

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"...

I don’t think it’s rude at all.

I don’t usually read a message until I’ve got time to sit and reply.

It’s also different depending on whether I’m hoping to meet this person or not.

If it’s just a general chat then I wouldn’t mind when they get back to me. "

I agree. It’s an interesting perspective. If it’s someone I was hoping to meet I’d definitely take my time. Especially as I write quite lengthy messages! I’m the same with reading them but sometimes if I’m excited to read the reply I’ll have to open it right there and then

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Only teasing

I have once been guilty of this a long time ago. And only once!

Don’t judge me!! It’s infuriating when that does happen. I like to talk most of the time so it’s also irksome when you’re having a proper chat and suddenly it cuts off. Like...what are your answers to my questions?? I was genuinely interested??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You get replies? I'm doing something wrong

Oh it’s a rare occasion don’t let me sound too pompous as if I’m having to turn ladies away!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No.... it can take ages for me to reply

Me too! Even with friends on whatsapp I’ll reply later and give them my full attention rather than a rapid “oh wow” or “thats sad” response which can come across as indifference.

I can reply quickly, it just depends"

Clearly! 5 minutes in this case. Could have been quicker...just saying

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I I'll reply to this topic within 48 hours

Please do! It’ll keep the thread alive

I’m actually going to be looking for your reply on Saturday!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

No. I flirt through messages, mark unread for later or delete. If I can’t respond to it there and then I will come back to it later.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

I get so excited about getting a message I reply immediately like a needy teenager

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eliWoman
over a year ago

No, I don't find it rude in the slightest. I'd much rather people replied when they have headspace and energy to do so than giving a lacklustre, uninspiring response because they feel they need to rather than they want to. We all have lives away from here.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get so excited about getting a message I reply immediately like a needy teenager

Me too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"...

I don’t think it’s rude at all.

I don’t usually read a message until I’ve got time to sit and reply.

It’s also different depending on whether I’m hoping to meet this person or not.

If it’s just a general chat then I wouldn’t mind when they get back to me.

I’m the same as you, I love having a lengthy message to read, again if I’m interested in that way in the person.

I do hate those “what are you up to messages” lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...

I don’t think it’s rude at all.

I don’t usually read a message until I’ve got time to sit and reply.

It’s also different depending on whether I’m hoping to meet this person or not.

If it’s just a general chat then I wouldn’t mind when they get back to me.

I’m the same as you, I love having a lengthy message to read, again if I’m interested in that way in the person.

I do hate those “what are you up to messages” lol"

Nice knees

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No. I often take ages, as I'll probably be distracting myself from 100 other things that ive got to do. If people expect an instant response to something, they should use a chatline

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No. I flirt through messages, mark unread for later or delete. If I can’t respond to it there and then I will come back to it later. "

Exactly!! Love the profile pic btw

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, I don't find it rude in the slightest. I'd much rather people replied when they have headspace and energy to do so than giving a lacklustre, uninspiring response because they feel they need to rather than they want to. We all have lives away from here."

This! I don’t feel like it should be an effort.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...messaging and someone reads the message then takes a while to reply?

I only thought recently people may see this as a lack of interest?

What do you all think??"
yes its damn rude many women block for this

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"...

I’m the same as you, I love having a lengthy message to read, again if I’m interested in that way in the person.

I do hate those “what are you up to messages” lol"

Lengthy messages are definitely a good thing. I like to really get to know people. I think the worst is “hey”. Unlike face to face conversing, there are no cues to pick up on and it seems like the effort is on you to check their profile and reply haha

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"...yes its damn rude many women block for this

Can’t win can we!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently fab rules state that if your not interested just done reply, and getting no reply is a sign someone isn’t interested

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If im unable to reply I will mark it as unread till ive a chance to reply properly. I dont like tsking ages to reply to a read message and absolutely hate it when its done to me.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don’t find it rude either. Sometimes I need time to think about the appropriate answer, sometimes I read a message and real life gets in the way and sometimes I’m laughing so much, I just want to enjoy the moment

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"...messaging and someone reads the message then takes a while to reply?

I only thought recently people may see this as a lack of interest?

What do you all think??"

Rude ?

In whose rule book ?

No it's NOT rude. It's immature and desperate of the sender.

Jesus ........ the women don't WORK here.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...yes its damn rude many women block for this

Can’t win can we!

"
nope chin up buttercup

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"...

I’m the same as you, I love having a lengthy message to read, again if I’m interested in that way in the person.

I do hate those “what are you up to messages” lol

Lol I most certainly do not get the “hey” and then sometimes you get a cock pic too.

Like the cock does all the talking haha

Like that will make them irresistible.

Those are the ones that gets an immediate delete.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I do the same. It doesn't bother me. I'd rather have a decent reply.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Sorry gentlemen ( snigger )

The MEN don't WORK here either

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If im unable to reply I will mark it as unread till ive a chance to reply properly. I dont like tsking ages to reply to a read message and absolutely hate it when its done to me.

Ah okay! That’s a good way to do it. I may mark messages as unread more often. Didn’t even notice you could do it until people have posted on here!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If im unable to reply I will mark it as unread till ive a chance to reply properly. I dont like tsking ages to reply to a read message and absolutely hate it when its done to me.

Ah okay! That’s a good way to do it. I may mark messages as unread more often. Didn’t even notice you could do it until people have posted on here! "

Its a good idea honestly x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really, no.

There are far more ways in which people can be rude...

Perhaps this virus may remind us all of how precious life is and how much we all can share with each other...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I don't find it rude at all

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No I don’t find it rude either. Sometimes I need time to think about the appropriate answer, sometimes I read a message and real life gets in the way and sometimes I’m laughing so much, I just want to enjoy the moment

Definitely just enjoy the moment!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"...

Rude ?

In whose rule book ?

No it's NOT rude. It's immature and desperate of the sender.

Jesus ........ the women don't WORK here."

Actually for this thread it’s the other way around from the perspective of the OP (me). The MEN don’t WORK here

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"...

Lol I most certainly do not get the “hey” and then sometimes you get a cock pic too.

Like the cock does all the talking haha

Like that will make them irresistible.

Those are the ones that gets an immediate delete."

What? Do you mean a cock shot won’t put you into a trance and have you wanting to be my sub slave??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do the same. It doesn't bother me. I'd rather have a decent reply."

Honestly this. I hate forced conversations!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry gentlemen ( snigger )

The MEN don't WORK here either"

Thank you for the amendment

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"I do the same. It doesn't bother me. I'd rather have a decent reply.

Honestly this. I hate forced conversations!"

I do mark them unread though. Even though I read and then think about it.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do mark them unread though. Even though I read and then think about it. "

Yep I am going to start doing this too! So people don’t think I’m purposefully blanking them

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Sorry gentlemen ( snigger )

The MEN don't WORK here either

Thank you for the amendment

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can take me days to reply if im interested

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really people have lives and it’s their choice

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So long as it’s not longer than 48 hours.

I mean there’s thinking of a response and then there’s taking the piss... "

What she said

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, people have stuff to do

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can take me days to reply if im interested

"
so rude

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not really people have lives and it’s their choice "

Here here

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can take me days to reply if im interested

so rude

But so worth the wait

.. If i message immediately we probably ain't ever gonna meet, even in your dreams haha

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can take me days to reply if im interested

so rude

But so worth the wait

.. If i message immediately we probably ain't ever gonna meet, even in your dreams haha

"
ive never dreamt in my life

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago

Ho Chi Minge City

"No.... it can take ages for me to reply"

It had been noted!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. You need to familiarise yourself with what the site FAQ's say about messages

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *andM25Couple
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

No not at all, ww regularly have a quick read of a message when ww get a notification but don't have time to reply because of real life, so will reply later on when we have time. What annoys me is when we do this and come back to several messages questioning why we havnt immediately responded!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never send a first message, and If I did, I would never check to see if it has been read.. I am just not that bothered...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never send a first message, and If I did, I would never check to see if it has been read.. I am just not that bothered..."
ahhhh but guys come to you for the most part many guys not all never get first messages so its a very different perspective for guys

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread