FabSwingers.com forum: 'Putting on a good show for the guys'

By *irewolff OP Man
over a year ago

Dublin

This is what I got from a female part of a couple in relation to myself and herself having fun. Not the 1st time I have heard this so not having a dig at this couple in particular.

Do I look like a performing monkey?

Are the guys need more important than my own?

The more I think about it, the more irked I am by the comment. My response to her was along the lines of I am not there to solely entertain the men and if herself and myself play, its because I want to. Not because it gets the guys off.

I wear lingerie because it makes me feel good, not just because MrD loves it.

I lost interest after this comment.

MsDub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well its a well known fact that women can't have orgasms so you may as well just entertain the guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too have been objectified in this manner and regarding “putting on a performance” back when my body was actually attractive. Sometimes I’ve enjoyed it. Sometimes I’ve taken the view you are taking now.

As you say you’re there for your own pleasure. If you were there TO perform then it’s different. But you weren’t.

Also I think it highlights the whole pornography debate and how some people require such artificial and choreographed pleasure.

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By *irewolff OP Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Dont get me wrong, MrD loves to see me with other women but if I didnt want to do it, I wouldnt. I do it because its my choice.

I get what she is saying and I suppose some of my attitude stems from being in a controlling relationship for 18yrs.

But I never want to feel like someone's possession to perform for them. Totally demeaning on so many levels.

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"This is what I got from a female part of a couple in relation to myself and herself having fun. Not the 1st time I have heard this so not having a dig at this couple in particular.

Do I look like a performing monkey?

Are the guys need more important than my own?

I wear lingerie because it makes me feel good, not just because MrD loves it.

I lost interest after this comment.

MsDub"

One of the main reasons I've not met couples til now is this prevalent attitude.

What I do is for me and the other person, I'll not be a lipstick lesbian to tittilate the guys (unless they respond in kind and get it on together too)

Also the reason I stopped meeting straight guys.

There's just a different attitude from fully bi guys and bi couples that's a refreshing change to the dated,porn driven,shite fantasies that seem to be rooted in mysoginy.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I don’t think anything could put me off more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate that attitude, had that comment a few times, especially from soft play couples. Not a dig at all, but I’m not a performer, I’m a genuinely bi woman who wants to meet and play with bi women for my needs, not so our partners can sit with their cocks in their hands watching a show.

Hate “put on a show for the lads” it would just make me feel self conscious and I wouldn’t relax enough to enjoy it x

Viv x

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By *irewolff OP Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"I don’t think anything could put me off more

D."

Me too. I was very polite about why I was interested in pursuing our chat.

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