FabSwingers.com forum: Caught the feels

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"Tell them

I agree with HRH

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"Tell them

Yep otherwise you'll never know

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Tell them

I agree with HRH"

She's a wise old bird. I'd do the same as well (poor sods).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you tell them or cut contact and walk away to save the heartache ? "

Depended on a whole load of things

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"Tell them

I agree with HRH

She's a wise old bird. I'd do the same as well (poor sods)."

Wise, but not old

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Tell them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you tell them or cut contact and walk away to save the heartache ? "
whats stopping you developing it?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Depends.....

Is he single?

How long have you known each other?

Has he expressed an interest in 'dating'?

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

I'd walk away

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk

I told him we still friends having great sex. We both know where we stand. Yes he feels the same way.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Id walk away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell them

I agree with HRH

She's a wise old bird. I'd do the same as well (poor sods)."

Who the fuck are you calling old?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends.....

Is he single?

How long have you known each other?

Has he expressed an interest in 'dating'?"

Yep

4 years

And yeah in others

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Keep it to yerself nobody is interested

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By *rincess9090Woman
over a year ago

leigh

I d tell them, but be prepared In case they walk away.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Depends.....

Is he single?

How long have you known each other?

Has he expressed an interest in 'dating'?

Yep

4 years

And yeah in others

Not surprised you have after 4 years!!

Not you? I think you should talk to him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tell them

I agree with HRH

She's a wise old bird. I'd do the same as well (poor sods).

Who the fuck are you calling old?!"

Probably the wisest youngest bird on the block

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"Tell them

I agree with HRH

She's a wise old bird. I'd do the sameas well (poor sods).

Who the fuck are you calling old?!"

I certainly didnt, christ I'm older than you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell them

I agree with HRH

She's a wise old bird. I'd do the same as well (poor sods).

Who the fuck are you calling old?!

Probably the wisest youngest bird on the block

I like you. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends.....

Is he single?

How long have you known each other?

Has he expressed an interest in 'dating'?

Yep

4 years

And yeah in others

Not surprised you have after 4 years!!

Not you? I think you should talk to him."

Complicated we socialise all the time outside of fab but yet i just feel im seen as just ....well fill i blank as you wish

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tell them

I agree with HRH

She's a wise old bird. I'd do the same as well (poor sods).

Who the fuck are you calling old?!

Probably the wisest youngest bird on the block

I like you. X"

And i proper crush on you from a far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them, it might work out and if it doesn't then at least you know. If you cut ties and walk away you might still end up with heartache thinking what if?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell them, it might work out and if it doesn't then at least you know. If you cut ties and walk away you might still end up with heartache thinking what if?

Wise words Mr Zipper

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By *rincess9090Woman
over a year ago

leigh

"Tell them, it might work out and if it doesn't then at least you know. If you cut ties and walk away you might still end up with heartache thinking what if?

Definitely agree with this, for me it’s easier to not rock the boat and forget how I feel- he’s knows though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think after 4 years they should know by now that you have some kind of feelings.

It’s not a good sign if they talk about wanting to date other women in front of you. You can tell them that you have feelings for them but be prepared for them to say they don’t feel the same.

A Male friend is like a cock in a jar, break in case of emergencies, if he hasn’t made any kind of hint or advance towards you, he may not be interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think after 4 years they should know by now that you have some kind of feelings.

It’s not a good sign if they talk about wanting to date other women in front of you. You can tell them that you have feelings for them but be prepared for them to say they don’t feel the same.

A Male friend is like a cock in a jar, break in case of emergencies, if he hasn’t made any kind of hint or advance towards you, he may not be interested. "

I think in my heart if hearts i know this

and its time to let that bird fly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think after 4 years they should know by now that you have some kind of feelings.

It’s not a good sign if they talk about wanting to date other women in front of you. You can tell them that you have feelings for them but be prepared for them to say they don’t feel the same.

A Male friend is like a cock in a jar, break in case of emergencies, if he hasn’t made any kind of hint or advance towards you, he may not be interested.

I think in my heart if hearts i know this

and its time to let that bird fly "

I could tell you about a long standing crush I had if you want, not here I’ll do my own thread not to derail this?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Depends.....

Is he single?

How long have you known each other?

Has he expressed an interest in 'dating'?

Yep

4 years

And yeah in others

Not surprised you have after 4 years!!

Not you? I think you should talk to him.

Complicated we socialise all the time outside of fab but yet i just feel im seen as just ....well fill i blank as you wish "

If you can handle that then I guess it's fine but not sure it's a healthy thing to do, assuming you're also single.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think after 4 years they should know by now that you have some kind of feelings.

It’s not a good sign if they talk about wanting to date other women in front of you. You can tell them that you have feelings for them but be prepared for them to say they don’t feel the same.

A Male friend is like a cock in a jar, break in case of emergencies, if he hasn’t made any kind of hint or advance towards you, he may not be interested.

I think in my heart if hearts i know this

and its time to let that bird fly

I could tell you about a long standing crush I had if you want, not here I’ll do my own thread not to derail this?"

Derail away or do a post whatever works for you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends.....

Is he single?

How long have you known each other?

Has he expressed an interest in 'dating'?

Yep

4 years

And yeah in others

Not surprised you have after 4 years!!

Not you? I think you should talk to him.

Complicated we socialise all the time outside of fab but yet i just feel im seen as just ....well fill i blank as you wish

If you can handle that then I guess it's fine but not sure it's a healthy thing to do, assuming you're also single."

I am single yep, but up until being a good mate and listening to him regal how he was going on a 'real date', i was happily so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends.....

Is he single?

How long have you known each other?

Has he expressed an interest in 'dating'?

Yep

4 years

And yeah in others

Not surprised you have after 4 years!!

Not you? I think you should talk to him.

Complicated we socialise all the time outside of fab but yet i just feel im seen as just ....well fill i blank as you wish

If you can handle that then I guess it's fine but not sure it's a healthy thing to do, assuming you're also single.

I am single yep, but up until being a good mate and listening to him regal how he was going on a 'real date', i was happily so "

Did you meet via Fab?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends.....

Is he single?

How long have you known each other?

Has he expressed an interest in 'dating'?

Yep

4 years

And yeah in others

Not surprised you have after 4 years!!

Not you? I think you should talk to him.

Complicated we socialise all the time outside of fab but yet i just feel im seen as just ....well fill i blank as you wish

If you can handle that then I guess it's fine but not sure it's a healthy thing to do, assuming you're also single.

I am single yep, but up until being a good mate and listening to him regal how he was going on a 'real date', i was happily so

Did you meet via Fab?"
yeah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends.....

Is he single?

How long have you known each other?

Has he expressed an interest in 'dating'?

Yep

4 years

And yeah in others

Not surprised you have after 4 years!!

Not you? I think you should talk to him.

Complicated we socialise all the time outside of fab but yet i just feel im seen as just ....well fill i blank as you wish

If you can handle that then I guess it's fine but not sure it's a healthy thing to do, assuming you're also single.

I am single yep, but up until being a good mate and listening to him regal how he was going on a 'real date', i was happily so

Did you meet via Fab? yeah"

And the original conditions were just NSA?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends.....

Is he single?

How long have you known each other?

Has he expressed an interest in 'dating'?

Yep

4 years

And yeah in others

Not surprised you have after 4 years!!

Not you? I think you should talk to him.

Complicated we socialise all the time outside of fab but yet i just feel im seen as just ....well fill i blank as you wish

If you can handle that then I guess it's fine but not sure it's a healthy thing to do, assuming you're also single.

I am single yep, but up until being a good mate and listening to him regal how he was going on a 'real date', i was happily so

Did you meet via Fab? yeah

And the original conditions were just NSA?"

It was never explicitly discussed but fab being what it is i think non exclusiveness for either of us was the order of the day

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

"Depends.....

Is he single?

How long have you known each other?

Has he expressed an interest in 'dating'?

Yep

4 years

And yeah in others

Not surprised you have after 4 years!!

Not you? I think you should talk to him.

Complicated we socialise all the time outside of fab but yet i just feel im seen as just ....well fill i blank as you wish

If you can handle that then I guess it's fine but not sure it's a healthy thing to do, assuming you're also single.

I am single yep, but up until being a good mate and listening to him regal how he was going on a 'real date', i was happily so "

Oh dear, one of those! Cut all ties instantly, or tell him your feelings. The outcome will probably be the same and I think in your heart of hearts you already know this.

Would you be happy washing his dirty underwear though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends.....

Is he single?

How long have you known each other?

Has he expressed an interest in 'dating'?

Yep

4 years

And yeah in others

Not surprised you have after 4 years!!

Not you? I think you should talk to him.

Complicated we socialise all the time outside of fab but yet i just feel im seen as just ....well fill i blank as you wish

If you can handle that then I guess it's fine but not sure it's a healthy thing to do, assuming you're also single.

I am single yep, but up until being a good mate and listening to him regal how he was going on a 'real date', i was happily so

Did you meet via Fab? yeah

And the original conditions were just NSA?

It was never explicitly discussed but fab being what it is i think non exclusiveness for either of us was the order of the day "

So what are the chances that he is simply operating under the same assumptions as when you started seeing each other? And hasn’t really thought about any other type of arrangement with you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vic and I met on Fab, we have all the feels but we still love swinging! If anything it's made swinging better!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends.....

Is he single?

How long have you known each other?

Has he expressed an interest in 'dating'?

Yep

4 years

And yeah in others

Not surprised you have after 4 years!!

Not you? I think you should talk to him.

Complicated we socialise all the time outside of fab but yet i just feel im seen as just ....well fill i blank as you wish

If you can handle that then I guess it's fine but not sure it's a healthy thing to do, assuming you're also single.

I am single yep, but up until being a good mate and listening to him regal how he was going on a 'real date', i was happily so

Did you meet via Fab? yeah

And the original conditions were just NSA?

It was never explicitly discussed but fab being what it is i think non exclusiveness for either of us was the order of the day

So what are the chances that he is simply operating under the same assumptions as when you started seeing each other? And hasn’t really thought about any other type of arrangement with you?"

Massive generalisation but hes a man !

And openly talks to me about dating other ladies, like asked for advice. I might just be really stupid but i kinda think that means im friendzoned unless cock needs a service

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends.....

Is he single?

How long have you known each other?

Has he expressed an interest in 'dating'?

Yep

4 years

And yeah in others

Not surprised you have after 4 years!!

Not you? I think you should talk to him.

Complicated we socialise all the time outside of fab but yet i just feel im seen as just ....well fill i blank as you wish

If you can handle that then I guess it's fine but not sure it's a healthy thing to do, assuming you're also single.

I am single yep, but up until being a good mate and listening to him regal how he was going on a 'real date', i was happily so

Did you meet via Fab? yeah

And the original conditions were just NSA?

It was never explicitly discussed but fab being what it is i think non exclusiveness for either of us was the order of the day

So what are the chances that he is simply operating under the same assumptions as when you started seeing each other? And hasn’t really thought about any other type of arrangement with you?

Massive generalisation but hes a man !

And openly talks to me about dating other ladies, like asked for advice. I might just be really stupid but i kinda think that means im friendzoned unless cock needs a service

Fair enough. You could ask him if he would consider dating you. His answer would then determine your course of action quite clearly I would imagine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best to speak to him about it, don’t presume anything and be honest. It might not go the way you want (it would be lovely it it did ??) but at least you know.

If it’s been four years, his asking you for dating advice and the original arrangement was NSA, then it seems like he doesn’t want to change the arrangements he has with you. Men caught feelings too, and its usually obvious xxx

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